How To Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back From Another Guy?

Most dumpees, unfortunately, eventually see their ex dating another guy.

It’s just the way people are these days. They don’t sit around and wait for their ex to get over them.

That would be a waste of time.

They have Tinder and various dating apps at their fingertips so it’s almost too easy for them to seek out their next prey.

So what dumpers do is they quickly forget their loyal ex-partner’s feelings and get involved with the first person they set their eyes on.

Most do so without remorse—and others, actually feel guilty for making a bad decision.

But either way, guilt doesn’t necessarily make them come back when they cheat, monkey-branch, or leave for someone else.

In most cases, it only encourages them to reach out and seek forgiveness during their darkest hour.

In breakup terms, we call this breadcrumbing.

So if you’re thinking of buying some crazy “get your ex-girlfriend back from another guy technique,” know that there is no effective system that could work for you.

It doesn’t exist.

And if it did, mankind would definitely know about it by now.

Take it from a random person on the internet. I have nothing to lose by telling you the truth.

People with low moral values will gladly hog your money if you allow them to persuade you to act on your weaknesses.

Whether they offer an honest or dishonest approach doesn’t make a difference. It won’t change your ex-girlfriend’s mind no matter what they claim the success rate of the program is.

And the reason for that is simpler than you may think.

Your ex-girlfriend is currently with another guy and she doesn’t want to come back because she had predeterminately decided to do be with him.

Period.

If you’re thinking, “How to get your ex-girlfriend back from another guy,” this article will provide you with the most genuine advice.

And it will barely have anything to do with your ex.

How to get your ex-girlfriend back from another guy?

First of all, relationships and breakups aren’t competitions. They aren’t about being better than the previous or the next guy—and they certainly aren’t about exploiting people’s weak points.

We all have good and bad traits and we needn’t point out people’s bad ones to make ourselves appear better.

If we do, our actions say a lot about our personality.

For starters, they make us look weak and insecure about our capabilities.

And secondly, they make us appear sly and manipulative and tell the world that we’re willing to fight dirty to achieve recognition, value, or money.

So if you’re trying to get your ex-girlfriend back from another guy, the very first thing you need to change is your mindset.

You need to forget about jealousy tricks and various “text your ex-back programs” as they typically do more harm than good.

They push an unreceptive dumper who is in the relief/elation phase of the breakup closer to her new guy.

And if you insist afterward, you directly approve of their relationship and empower both of them.

That’s why you need to comprehend that you can’t make a person who doesn’t feel anything toward you to suddenly crave your love and intimacy.

That person has lost her feelings for you ages ago, so get the “I must do something to get my ex back” out of your head.

Stop thinking about it. It’s not doing you any good.

If your ex wanted to talk to you or get back together with you out of love and respect for you, you can be certain that your ex would express herself.

She’d leave the guy she’s with and rush back into your arms like there’s no tomorrow.

But since she isn’t doing that, it’s safe to assume that she doesn’t regret leaving you.

Actions don’t lie.

Your ex has no reason to pretend that she’s not over you.

You have no enemies or competition

As we just discussed, there is no real competition in life.

Discovering people’s weaknesses, inadequacies, and lackings is completely unnecessary.

It’s unnecessary when your ex leaves you for someone else and it’s unnecessary when you’re trying to run a business.

Although studying your competitors may give you an idea about what you can do to be more like them, it doesn’t give you an advantage over them.

As a person who’s trying to succeed in life, you don’t need to play the copycat and be more like someone else.

You needn’t pretend to be someone you’re not. This would be a waste of time and effort.

Not only is pretending untrue to your character and personal values, but it’s also emotionally draining.

This is especially true if you’re plotting against them.

So instead of thinking about what you can do to be more like your competition, think about what you can do to be truer to yourself.

Use your imagination and think deeply about bettering yourself or your business— and “your competition” will soon fade in comparison.

It will cease to exist in your world because your attention will be on delivering the best product, service, or personality trait.

It’s so simple, yet so many people choose to fight their rivals. They battle them head-on and use brute force and manipulation tactics to overcome their “enemy.”

But little do they know that by battling their competition, they aren’t overcoming it. They’re limiting themselves and their expectations on their levels.

That’s what makes them always one step behind.

And when they finally realize that they can’t beat them, their envy soon turns into spite and hate.

So try not to go down this route and instead think about how you can serve the people in this world without hurting yourself and others.

Don’t fight for a lost cause

Your time to shine and prove your worth was when you were with your ex.

So now that it’s over and your ex is with another guy, she isn’t open to your changes and improvements.

Although your ex certainly notices your new looks and a healthier mindset, she isn’t comprehending you emotionally.

Your ex, just like most dumpers is stuck in the past around the time when you were not self-aware of your actions.

She’s still thinking about what you can’t do and won’t do, rather than what you will do now that you’re prepared to jump through hoops.

So if you’re trying to get her back from another guy, you need to stop right now.

I don’t know your ex personally, but I can tell you that she won’t budge an inch for as long as her relationship is working and she wants to stay with her new guy.

This is no rocket science.

Your ex is selfishly looking after herself right now. And as straightforward as this may sound, she has every right to do so.

You, on the other hand, don’t have the right to reason with her.

You can’t go against her new boyfriend even if your ex promised you the world and you’ve improved yourself immensely since the breakup.

If you respect your ex-girlfriend, ex-wife, or ex-fiancé, as well as yourself, you mustn’t oppose her decision.

She’s thought long and hard before she left you, so she has to think long and hard before she comes back.

There is no other way unless something bad happens to your ex and she impulsively comes crying back to you.

Here’s a picture explaining how to get your ex back from her new boyfriend.

How to get your ex back when she has moved on and hates you?

If it seems impossible to get your ex back, it’s because it probably is.

When your ex hates your guts and can’t stand your presence, you really have no choice but to distance yourself from her.

You need to stay far away from the person you’re interested in because she has moved on and now demands space from you.

If you don’t give her what she needs to live her life in peace, chances are that she will make your life very miserable.

She’ll most likely react impulsively to your selfish demands and give you the kind of treatment you wouldn’t expect from your worst enemy.

So instead of asking yourself how to get your ex-girlfriend back when she’s moved on with someone else, ask yourself what you can do so that you don’t make things worse.

After some thinking, you’ll probably realize that the best way for you to give your ex what she wants is to allow her to do whatever she pleases—with whomever she pleases.

It’s the only treatment for an angry ex-girlfriend who hates you and has moved on with someone else.

How to get her back if she doesn’t want you in her life at all?

A lot of dumpers unleash their fury on their dumpee and shut him or her out of their lives.

They do this because they hold their unexpressed emotions inside them for so long that when the breakup occurs, they lose their emotional self-control.

As a result, they feel like the victims and treat their dumpees as if they never mattered.

And this is what dumpees can’t comprehend.

They ask themselves things such as:

• how could she leave so quickly?
• did our relationship mean nothing to her?
• did she ever even love me?

What they usually don’t realize though is that their ex had detached from them long ago and that she tagged along until she realized that it’s not going to work.

It’s truly unfortunate, but most people can’t control their repelling post-breakup emotions.

They never wanted to nor had to develop emotional maturity, so they’re always acting on instinct.

This is essentially the reason why they let their ex-partners go cold turkey.

Things not to do when she’s with her new boyfriend

When it comes to making your ex want you back, try to understand that getting your ex back depends more on what you shouldn’t do, rather than on what you should.

This is especially true if your girlfriend just broke up with you and you’re still picking up the remaining pieces of your self-esteem.

Just think about it for a minute. If your enthusiasm was all it took for your ex to come back, she’d likely be back already.

She would have realized your amazing traits by now and asked for your forgiveness.

But unfortunately, breakups don’t usually work that way. As a matter of fact, they rarely do.

Very seldom is the dumpee’s eagerness to be in a relationship good enough for the dumper to take pity on his or her ex.

More often than not, it only makes the dumper feel guilty for hurting the dumpee.

The phrase, “It takes two to tango,” therefore, couldn’t be more true.

You can’t be a part of a duo as an individual. It requires a mutual agreement from two parties.

That’s why all you can do when your ex is in a rebound relationship is to leave her alone.

You can and must let her go through the 6 stages of a rebound relationship for the dumper and allow her new relationship to progress without any interruptions.

You must do this no matter how insignificant the reasons behind the breakup seemed to you.

If you don’t, you could make the problems bigger than they actually were when your ex left you.

By asking for explanations and closure, you could basically smother your ex and push her so far away that you’ll never hear from her again.

You could even make her resent you for life.

So don’t do anything you wouldn’t want an ex from years ago to do to you.

If you wouldn’t want someone to meddle with your relationship, it’s highly likely that your ex doesn’t want you to meddle with hers.

Here are a few things you mustn’t do when your ex is with her new boyfriend and appears happy in her new relationship.

If you’re still not convinced and think that you can reason with your ex, read the article about 7 dumpees breaking no contact.

You’ll learn that contacting your ex and throwing yourself at her mercy will make your life a hell on Earth.

Are you still thinking of doing something to get your ex-girlfriend back from another guy? If so, what will you do? Comment down below.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.