If you miss your ex and you’re thinking to yourself, “When do girls start to miss you after a breakup,” I may have some good or perhaps not so good news for you.
It really depends on whether you’re looking for hope or just some information.
The truth is that girls start to miss you and think about you when you stop missing them obsessively.
When you no longer empower them and emotionally depend on them for your happiness is when dumpers often miss their relationship with you and the security they had with you.
They basically miss you when you let go of your expectations of them and stop desperately chasing after them.
Sometimes they even come back when you’ve moved on by yourself or with someone else.
That’s because women dumpers can’t miss you if they know you want them more than you need your physiological needs. It simply kills all remaining attraction and helps them detach from you.
It’s truly unfortunate, but that’s just the way attraction works in the breakup world—and there’s nothing you can do to change that.
Today, we’ll talk about the time when girls start to miss you after a breakup and the reasons why they come back.
When do girls start to miss you after a breakup?
Female dumpers usually check up on you by sending you breadcrumbs—and disappear shortly after you’ve responded.
It’s something they frequently do to alleviate guilt and to reinforce their breakup decision.
And although girls usually don’t miss you right after the breakup, this doesn’t mean that they can’t ever miss you in the future.
Not only do you get to disconnect from your ex and focus on your own life, but your actions and inactions can cause your ex to reappear and crave that special place in your heart again.
Thanks to the power of no contact and the silence that it provides, your ex can basically want that which she can no longer have.
This includes intimacy, love, comfort, care, security, validation, and commitment—as these are the feelings only you can provide.
There is no second you, so theoretically, you’re the only person who can forgive, validate, and empower your ex when she needs it in a moment of weakness.
Here’s when girls start to miss you after the breakup.
Girls start to miss you in a moment of weakness
In order for your ex to require your emotional support and come running back, something bad has to injure your ex first. Something awful like another breakup, depression, or anything that forces your ex to self-reflect.
It really sucks that people have to hit a rough patch for them to think inwardly, but most people just don’t learn unless they’re forced to.
They need to experience a lot of pain and realize they’ve made a mistake the hard way.
And the same goes for your ex.
She probably needs to learn a thing or two by failing miserably first, so give your ex enough time to explore her world.
As much as it hurts, allow her to date others and do whatever her heart desires.
It’s her wish as a free person, after all.
But when she appears out of nowhere and says she misses you, you better be careful about the motives behind your ex’s actions.
The question is, does she truly miss you as a person because she’s made a mistake? Or does your ex expect you to soothe her anxiety and use you once again?
You need to understand that you’re more valuable to your ex than you may think you are.
Only you have the power to take your ex’s pain away almost instantaneously.
And your ex is well aware of that.
She knows that contacting you and getting back together with you is the quickest fix to her distressed emotional state.
As a matter of fact, your ex knows that you don’t even have to try hard to give your ex the empowerment that she’s after.
All you have to do is become your ex’s crutch so that she can rely on you for emotional support, safety, and validation.
How long before she misses me during no contact?
If you want your ex to see you as an emotionally strong person, always take care of your emotional well-being so that you appear strong and independent.
This means you must avoid begging and pleading at all costs as it’s the worst form of disrespect both to yourself as well as to your ex.
Begging, crying, and threatening shows you’re incapable of taking care of yourself, and can coincidentally make your ex feel incredibly guilty for hurting you.
It can make your ex upset, bothered, and even angry at you for not leaving her alone after the breakup.
That’s because she’s emotionally exhausted and just wants you to find someone other than her to annoy.
You need to realize that when you demand love from your ex by force, you send a very insecure, emotionally dependent message to your ex.
You tell her that you can’t be her confident partner who can provide for himself as well as for her family.
And that’s just not the kind of codependency girls find attractive.
You want to convey to your ex that you’re doing great on your own and that you’ll be fine with or without her.
So start by following the rules of no contact immediately—if you haven’t already.
When you do, it will probably take you up to 6 months to hear from your ex—which is just enough to find happiness on your own again.
And remember to go no contact even if you don’t want your ex back and just want her to contact you for ego purposes.
No contact really is the solution to most post-breakup troubles.
What if she doesn’t contact me during no contact?
If your ex doesn’t contact you during no contact, she’s probably happy with the way things are.
Her silence means she’s enjoying her life and might be dating someone else (which is expected of a dumper).
As a dumpee, you need to understand that your ex will eventually start dating someone new even if she says she won’t.
The point of the breakup is for you and your ex to find a more compatible person after all.
So don’t be scared your ex will find someone else during no contact. She most likely will at some point because you know how it is with Tinder and dating apps these days.
From my understanding, girls generally don’t have a problem finding someone to date.
All they need to do is create a dating profile and they get hundreds of guys to choose from.
And even if your ex doesn’t try her luck online, she’ll probably find someone new because she’ll have had enough time and opportunities to explore her world.
So don’t blame yourself if your ex doesn’t contact you during no contact. She’s probably just too busy with herself and others that she hasn’t found a reason to contact you yet.
She doesn’t feel guilty, scared, anxious, bored, and she certainly doesn’t miss you as her partner yet.
So don’t try to force your ex to process the breakup and her thoughts about you faster than she naturally can. It won’t happen even if you perform black magic on her.
Instead, wait for her to reach out on her own terms and you’ll maximize your chances of friendship and reconciliation.
How do I make my ex miss me?
You now know that you can’t make your ex miss you before she becomes receptive to you.
You also know that you can’t make her converse with you through the means of force.
So what can you do to make her miss you faster?
Well, you can’t do anything directly with your ex that suddenly makes your ex have the “what have I done” feeling.
And neither does anything that demands her attention.
Nothing works until your ex’s mentality of you changes completely on her own.
For some dumpees, it will and for others it won’t. It really depends on your ex’s surroundings and her personality and thinking patterns.
My ex is too stubborn to contact me
If your ex is open to change and isn’t a stubborn, impulsive person, your ex might eventually let go of your mistakes and converse with you normally.
But if she doesn’t, your ex doesn’t have it in her to forgive and think rationally.
Not everybody has the capacity to change their opinion of others when they are continuously reinforcing their beliefs in a negative way.
And this is what most dumpees don’t understand.
They think that just because they used to know the dumper at her best that they understand her at her worst too.
But this just isn’t the case.
Our romantic partner at his or her best is the person we fall in love with. He or she is the personality we end up admiring and emotionally connecting to.
And if everything works as it should, our partner coincidentally reciprocates our love and gives us a sense of belonging.
As for the person at his or her worst, he or she is the person we preferably don’t want to deal with. We tend to get annoyed, angry, sad, miserable, vengeful, and disrespectful when our partner doesn’t act in consonance with our beliefs.
It happens in every relationship to every person with emotions.
But if your ex specifically made you feel these emotions and didn’t care about hurting you, then you really need to think twice about whether you really want someone like her in your life.
She won’t miss you before she misses her old self
Instead of wondering, “When do girls start to miss you after a breakup,” think about what has to happen to her before she gets to miss you.
What kind of incident has to take place for your ex to start thinking about you in a better light.
Does she have to get in a rebound relationship or date a bunch of men in order for her to realize your worth and let go of her victim mentality?
You know that she won’t just wake up one day and feel nostalgic about you.
Well, theoretically, she could if she dreams about you and starts feeling guilty for hurting you.
Dreams can have that effect on people.
But the odds that she’ll message you only to alleviate her guilt are way higher than they are for her to reconcile with you.
Especially if the breakup is still fresh
So there you have it.
Girls start to miss you after the breakup when you’ve detached from them and let them roam freely for as long as they want to.
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