Don’t Miss The Signs Your Ex Still Loves You!

Sometimes, soon or not so soon after the breakup we see signs our exes still have romantic feelings for us. Although it doesn’t always happen right away, it can happen to you at some point in the future.

In this article, I’d like to inform you about the signs that your ex still has feelings for you.

Don’t Miss The Signs Your Ex Still Loves You!

Emotions of love can be tricky and some people do a better job at hiding them than others. Luckily, with a little bit of awareness, you can discern the signs your ex still loves you.

The reason these signs are so difficult to interpret ourselves is that we love our exes like crazy, and we rely too much on what we are feeling. We are so caught up thinking about what he or she is feeling towards us, we become absolutely obsessed with our exes.

Soon, we mistake this ex-addiction with being in love with them and we often create a one-sided, unrequited love. If you are having difficulties reading the signs that your ex still loves you, ask your friends for an honest, unbiased opinion. They will be able to tell you what they see from an unattached perspective.

The truth is that what you are feeling, your ex likely isn’t. This is because almost all exes feel suffocated prior to leaving the relationship and must go through the 5 stages of a breakup for the dumper for them to cool off and feel pulled toward you again.

Space and distance make hearts grow fonder.

Obvious signs your ex loves you and misses you

You may see obvious signs your ex misses you when you follow the indefinite no-contact rule. If you don’t give your former partner the space to miss you, it’s possible you won’t ever see these signs as your presence would only further suffocate your ex.

This is true whether your ex is a he or a she as the breakup dynamics are the same regardless of gender.

The most obvious sign a person likes you, misses, and loves you is when they give you their attention. It doesn’t get more apparent than that. If your ex showers you with attention every day from morning to evening, his or her actions speak loud and clear.

This person likes talking to you, enjoys your company, and coincidentally, feels good when talking to you.

Another great sign your ex likes you is when he or she flirts with you and wants to have sex with you. Flirting is truly one of the best ways to build up attraction toward anyone, not just an ex.

And if your ex openly flirts with you, plays with words, calls you cute names, and even says he misses you, it doesn’t get much better than that.

The best way to take advantage of this sign is to play along and see where it leads. The love hormone—oxytocin is not only released during sex or when snuggling, but also when flirting. It’s truly a fantastic way to “make your ex love you again” when the opportunity presents itself.

It’s extremely obvious your ex has feelings for you when he contacts you first. This means he’s been thinking about you and wants to gain something from you by sending you an early-morning message, or perhaps evening goodnight wishes.

By saying he wants to gain something, I’m not referring to him asking you for a favor or his cd player. I’m referring to emotional fulfillment—happiness. One of the best ways to tell no-contact is working is when your ex becomes reliant on you for his happiness.

It’s no different when it comes to signs that he still loves you. Everybody wants to be around people that make them happy—and your ex is no exception. If he is happy around you now, he will want to be around you even more in the future.

By observing people’s actions, you can always see what a person thinks about you. People aren’t experts at hiding emotions. We are so emotionally driven, that we always express what we feel in the moment. You can tell how much someone values you by observing that person’s actions.

In your head, try to judge people’s respect for you in the next scenarios (1-being the lowest, 5-the most).

• your boss pays you minimum wage
• you accidentally bump into someone and he shouts at you
• your friend said he would call you two weeks ago
• your ex initiates contact twice a day

Other less surefire signs your ex loves you

Some of the early signs of wanting to get back together are stalking online or offline, sending you love quotes, talking to your family about your good times, asking your friends what you’re up to, drunk dialing, trash-talking your new partner, refusing to give you your stuff back, asking you about your new life and if you’re seeing someone new.

The reason why these signs are still important signs is that they show your ex still cares. They may not be as direct as you want them to be, but they are still signs nonetheless.

Your ex is experiencing both positive (talking about good times) and negative (jealousy because of your new partner) feelings toward you. This proves your ex still cares about you, otherwise, he or she wouldn’t be spending time thinking and talking about you.

How to tell if your ex only likes you as a friend?

We discussed different ways to tell that your ex still loves you, such as giving you his attention. Now, how can we tell if our exes only want us around as a friend? This is slightly trickier to figure out because we often have high expectations of our exes and we wish to be at the top of the ladder.

A big sign your ex likes you only as a friend is when she puts you in the dreadful friend zone and makes sure you stay there. This is apparent when your ex stops replying to your messages, doesn’t initiate first very often—or at all, and only messages you when she actually needs something from you—a favor. This could be a request to:

• take her dog out
• go shopping with her
• fix her computer
• ask you for advice
• do something you were previously good at

Receiving the signs that your ex likes you only as a friend can hurt the dumpee.

Dumpers interested only in friendship will avoid flirting, end conversations abruptly, use dumpees, talk to them about their dating lives, and do the things that friends do.

Sneaky signs your ex still loves you and wants you back

Sometimes exes will talk to their friends and tell them they want you back. The word will somehow come around back to you and you will find yourself in a perplexing situation.

Since you’re likely in no-contact, you will wonder whether you should reach out to your ex, tell her that you feel the same way, and get back together as quickly as possible.

In this case, your ex is thinking about getting back with you, and that’s great news! This doesn’t, however, mean you should reach out to her and ask to get back together. It’s her turn to act and give her power of significance back to you and say she’s sorry.

There are many things you need to be aware of before you accept this person back into your life. If you accept her back in a heartbeat, it’s very likely she will leave again just as fast.

Another subtle sign she wants you back is when your ex is sad and miserable without you and keeps saying how depressed she is. There is clearly a reason for her mental deterioration, and she could be looking for a quick remedy to her problem.

She will probably not mention the things that are troubling her, so she might confess that she hasn’t been happy since the breakup. She could take a more passive/indirect approach and turn words around, leaving you uncertain.

People hate admitting they’ve made mistakes—especially when it comes to GIGS situations. They will instead give you signs they missed you and give you subtle clues that they want you back.

Oftentimes, a subtle sign means your ex is in the early stages of wanting to get back together. She is entertaining the idea of rekindling the broken relationship to suit her needs. Her needs are of emotional nature—something exes and other romantic partners can fulfill.

You can wait patiently until your ex admits to making a mistake. You must wait for her anxiety and other negative emotions to build up high enough for her to crack. There is no need to jump the gun at the very first sign you see because you could end up shooting yourself in the foot. If it’s too early, you will get rejected and could experience the breakup symptoms and anxiety all over again.

People are creatures of emotions which means your ex could be feeling down one day, send you a message that she misses you (which is what people do when they are sad), and then go out to party with her friends and have the time of her life.

Because you saw her message two hours late, you quickly profess your feelings to her. What you don’t know is that she’s happier than ever at that moment in the club and she will not feel the same way toward you anymore. She will likely think to herself “I’m okay and happy now and disregard your message.”

How to know if your ex wants you back for real?

As I mentioned earlier, exes always come back for themselves. They come back for them to gain something from you. I wish there was a less selfish way to put it. Unfortunately, that’s the real reason exes come back.

So if you consider that dumpers want you because they are unhappy with their life for whatever reason, you can easily tell they want you back.

Here are a few reasons why an ex would come back:

• his rebound relationship doesn’t work out
• he is sad and depressed nobody wants to date him
• none of the girls he dated are good enough
• deterioration in his or his family’s physical or mental health
• death of a family member
• losing a job
• getting in an accident
• losing friends
• dropping out of school
• drugs
• financial crisis

There are many negative reasons why an ex would succumb to anxiety and ask for forgiveness. If you know your ex has recently experienced one of the following tragedies above or something similar and is messaging you often, you can rest assured he wants you back—or at least your comfort.

A depressed person will often express his regrets and ask you for forgiveness. If he does that, he’s only a step away from taking it further. The real question is; do you want to mend his broken heart when he crushed yours? Karma always strikes unexpectedly.

Signs your ex doesn’t love you

The signs of indifference with your ex can be recognized in minutes, if not seconds. These signs are the polar opposites from the signs of love and affection. This means that when you talk to your ex, he asks for space and distance from you.

He is cold, rude, impatient, and downright ruthless. If your ex tells you he hates you, this is an obvious sign he doesn’t want you around at the moment.

Despite love and hatred being similar love emotions, they are still far from each other when it comes to respect and kindness. So when someone tells you, “look, he still cares because he’s angry,” I want you to think twice before you feel the butterflies in your stomach.

I’m not sure where this idiom originates from as it’s truly unhealthy for your mental state. If your ex tells you to jump off a bridge, I don’t think you have a reason to be happy about his words.

He feels suffocated and needs air to breathe. In other words, he doesn’t want you around. The message couldn’t be any clearer. If you push your luck when your ex is feeling angry, you could end up getting blocked.

Many breakups turn out this way, so don’t fret! You must start following the indefinite no contact rule so that your ex can process the breakup on his own terms. Eventually, he will calm down and hopefully stop feeling angry toward you.

I know my ex-girlfriend still loves me

There are times when exes say they still love us but need time away from us. Most of the time they say this just to soften the blow—which gives you false hope. They will say things like, “Maybe we will end up together in the future.”

If you’ve been reading this blog and learning about post-breakup behavior, you will know this is a white lie. Your ex is telling you what she feels at the moment. The true meaning, unfortunately, is concealed, and it’s up to you to dig deeper.

If you think your ex loves you but is afraid to tell you so, then a little bit of time apart should help her confess. Real love can only be strengthened with a bit of physical distance.

Your ex would run in one direction for a little while until separation anxiety kicks in. Soon, she would no longer be able to stay away from you and bounce back harder than ever, like a rubber band.

I see signs my ex still loves me. What do I do?

If you’re absolutely sure that your ex loves you and wants to spend time with you, you have nothing to worry about. She is likely giving you the obvious signs mentioned in the first chapter, and it’s only a matter of time before she comes back and asks you to be exclusive again.

Wait for her to lead you back into the relationship by following her steps. There’s no need to abuse the push-pull technique. Instead, simply mimic her efforts.

My ex still has feelings for me but I don’t

If the time away from your ex has made you realize that you don’t want to rekindle the relationship, but your ex does, then you might want to be honest with your ex.

Tell him or her that you only wish to be friends and show signs of moving on. And if your ex still loves you and wants to get back together after that, say you need some space and allow your ex to move on with someone else.

Do you see any signs your ex still loves you? Please leave a comment.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.