“How to make my ex love me again” is a question every dumpee first asks him/herself after the breakup. There are many, many things you can do after the
The first thing you must do when your ex breaks up with you
Following these first few steps paves the foundation of getting your ex back.
This article is about making your ex love you again.
Make him love you again
There are no secret formulas or magic potions to get your ex to love you again. You cannot “make” someone love you by force. Love is not a choice. It’s instinctual and requires little to no thought. Love is an emotional state and this is something you must be aware of.
Making someone love you again is no easy task, as your ex’s defenses are up, ready to knock you down whenever you approach him. Giving him the gift of missing you is what’s going to allow your ex to revisit the idea of getting back with you. This is why it’s so important to allow him to come to you and message or call you first.
The easiest way to make your ex fall in love with you again is to fall in love with yourself. Self-love and confidence are incredibly attractive traits which could help you bring your ex back into your life. Your ex doesn’t want someone who is dependent on him. He wants a strong, self-sustained person who is happy on her own. That’s how you managed to attract him in the first place, remember? You certainly didn’t beg him to be with you. Instead, start doing the things that you love and take your ex off the pedestal. You are the only person who truly matters and will be there for you until the end. Only when you are completely healed and happy on your own, is when you are in a position to attract your ex back into your life.
After you have fallen in love with yourself and improved your shortcomings, is when you will get to decide whether you want your ex back. If you still want him, not need him — you can then start taking the appropriate steps of reconciliation. Only when you are happy on your own and live the life you want, should you ask yourself how to get your ex to love you again.
So, how can you make your ex love you again after he clearly wants nothing to do with you anymore? The simplest way is to incite envy. People want what they can’t have. And you being happy is what your ex secretly doesn’t want. By showing your ex that you are thriving more than ever since the breakup, he will not understand why and how. For this to work, you must genuinely be content with your life and feel complete without your ex in it.
The real question is, how do you convey this message of happiness? The easiest and most effective way is to tell your mutual friends about everything you’ve been up to and just how much fun you’ve been having. Don’t ask them to tell your ex, of course. Your ex will ask your friends or they will tell him themselves. Another way is to publish your new life online on social media in a non-bragging way. Post a picture of some of the new people you’ve been hanging out with and make sure a member of the opposite gender is on it. People are envious and jealous creatures by nature, and your ex will definitely get affected by it.
Making people fall back in love with you, really has nothing to do with convincing them directly. Doing so would only push them further away, solidifying their decision of breaking up with you. Most of the time, your partner will think he has figured you out completely by the time he breaks up with you. This is where you need to shake up his perception of you by implementing new activities. Your ex will notice that he is no longer your top priority, so make sure he gets that message loud and clear. There is nothing more attractive than not being attracted to a person anymore. He will once again want what he can’t have, which makes you wanted again.
Here’s an example of the previous statement. If I tell you, you can have all my red candy, but you can’t have any of the blue ones, you are naturally going to want my blue candy as it portrays higher value. In your situation, you are the high value, and your ex can’t have you.
By becoming unobtainable, happy and secure, your ex will notice you and want you more than ever before. He wants what’s rare, hard to obtain, unique, positive and what makes him and others happy.
How to make him love you again when he hates you
If you’ve done any begging and pleading in hopes of getting back together with your ex, it’s very likely you got pushed away. Perhaps your ex blocked you and wants nothing to do with you anymore. This is not uncommon. The truth is, just because your ex wants nothing to do with you now and told you to hit the road, doesn’t mean he will always feel that way. Even if by some chance his opinion doesn’t change, you can’t control and manipulate him into thinking otherwise. Pity him for being weak and stuck in a very destructive mindset, and wish him good luck.
Love and hatred are both very powerful emotions that go hand in hand with each other. The truth of the matter is that as long as your ex hates you and expresses anger towards you, he still feels something. When he becomes indifferent is the time when getting back together becomes slightly more challenging.
More often than not, exes return to our lives in some way or another. That’s when you can make him fall in love with you again, by highlighting your amazing qualities and the new and improved version of yourself.