What Does It Mean When You Dream About Your Ex-boyfriend With His New Girlfriend?

If you’re trying to figure out what it means when you dream about your ex-boyfriend with his new girlfriend, the most probable explanation is that your brain is trying to send you a signal.

It’s telling you that it’s concerned, anxious, unhappy, or threatened and that it can’t handle seeing your ex happy with someone else.

At least not yet because the breakup has caused you a lot of emotional pain that you haven’t been able to deal with yet.

And that’s exactly why your brain made you dream about your ex with his new girlfriend. It wanted you to know that you haven’t processed the breakup or come to terms with your ex’s new relationship yet and that you need to make some more emotional progress before you can fully let go and move on.

If you’re the dumper, it’s possible that your ex’s new girlfriend hurt your ego and made you compare yourself to her. But if you’re the dumpee, then you probably hoped your ex would return to you, so your brain showed you that which you fear the most – your ex dating someone else.

Whatever you do, don’t get upset because of this.

Dreaming about an ex-boyfriend is completely normal as it happens to most of us — even to those who are over their ex and happy with someone else.

But ex-dreams that involve kissing your ex, getting back together with your ex, and seeing your ex getting married are a bit more complicated than that.

They tend to occur when you really want something (get back with your ex or feel validated by your ex) or when you fear something (your ex being happy while you’re miserable). Either way, these dreams prove that your ex still controls how you feel and that you’re not emotionally independent just yet.

You still desire your ex or started to desire him again if something recently changed the way you think and feel.

The reason behind your ex-dreams really depends on how long it’s been since the breakup, what your expectations of your ex are, and how happy you are in general.

If you just got dumped and wish to get back together with your ex, your dreams obviously indicate that you’re broken-hearted and lack control over your thoughts and emotions. You need your ex to validate you, help you accept yourself, and allow you to move forward.

But if you’re not happy for some other reason (not necessarily because of the breakup), you crave the times when you felt understood, happy, and at peace.

Things were different back then, so you’re thinking about the past and dreaming about the people that were in it to escape reality.

This post is dedicated to everyone who’s wondering what it means when you dream about your ex-boyfriend with his new girlfriend.

What does it mean when you dream about your ex-boyfriend with his new girlfriend?

When an ex-boyfriend you have no feelings for appears in your dreams, it usually doesn’t mean anything. Most dreams are extremely random and show very little correlation with the real world.

Only dreams that are created by strong unprocessed emotions such as anger, fear, regret, guilt, sorrow, depression, etc have an explanation behind their existence.

They tell us that something bothers us, threatens us, and affects our well-being, so they make us fixate on our problems.

You see, dreams are like thoughts. When something bad happens to us, we have a hard time not thinking about the issues at hand. We feel that if we don’t find the solution to our problems that we won’t be happy.

This is why we obsess about our issues until we fix them or get used to them.

Usually, thoughts have a therapeutic effect on us as they provide us with closure and acceptance. They convince us that the problem isn’t that bad and that it’s not worth worrying about.

As for dreams, they do the same thing. They force us to relive the experiences that bother us and tell us we need a solution right away. The only problem is that they oftentimes make us feel worse as a result. Especially if we’ve been avoiding our problems.

Luckily, though, most dreams are unrelated to the way we feel inside. They’re completely random and don’t mean that certain events are going to happen or that people feel a certain way about us.

Dreams are just dreams and don’t always have a meaning.

But every now and then, they do have a meaning. A genuine worry slips into our mind at night and tells us to resolve the issue before it snowballs into a bigger issue and gets out of hand. Such dreams are warnings that we’ve been neglecting the issue (or ourselves) and that we should fix that which hinders our growth and happiness.

If we don’t fix it, chances are that we’re going to continue to suffer for quite some time.

So what does it mean when you dream about your ex-boyfriend with another girlfriend?

The dream could of course be random, but if it’s a highly emotional dream or a recurring dream, the meaning behind it likely has something to do with your attachment, happiness, and expectations.

You need to figure out what it is you lack so that you can obtain it and be at peace with yourself.

What to do when you dream about your ex with his new girlfriend?

If the breakup is fresh and you’re in a lot of pain, the first thing you should consider getting is therapy. Talking about your issues will help you reduce the anxiety that enters your system and make you feel lighter.

If therapy isn’t available to you or is unaffordable, however, then you should talk to your friends and family. Tell them you’re struggling emotionally and that you’ll be forever grateful if they could listen to you and let you vent for a week or two.

People close to you should be eager to help you. If they don’t want to because they’ve got better things to do, then perhaps it’s time to forget about them and find people who will.

You meet the best, most caring, and loyal friends when you’re in a pinch. But it’s also true that you lose friends (or people you thought were your friends) when you need their help—and they make excuses not to make time for you.

Everything in this world happens for a reason. If someone considers you a burden when you’re struggling, that person is unempathetic and doesn’t care about you.

He or she cares about you or pretends to care about you only when he or she is lonely and can benefit from you.

The point is, you should seek help if you’re going through a breakup and keep dreaming about your ex-boyfriend. The right kind of people will make time for you, talk to you about your issues, and by doing so, help ease your emotional burden.

However, if you’re not struggling to cope with anxiety and still dream about your ex-boyfriend with his new girlfriend, then you probably have nothing to worry about.

An infrequent dream about an ex who was a part of your life for some time is completely normal.

It just means that your ex popped up in your mind, that you’ve thought of your ex recently, or that you’re going through a challenging moment and remembered the past.

The best way to deal with dreams about an ex when you’re over your ex is to not think about them at all. Instead of looking for their meaning, acknowledge them as regular dreams that occur once in a while for no reason.

Doing so will let you accept the dreams whereas thinking about them and searching for their meaning could trigger strong emotions and make you think and dream about your ex even more.

With that said, here are some things to do when you dream about your ex-boyfriend with his new girlfriend.

You’ll soon stop caring about ex-dreams

If you follow the tips in the previous chapter, you’ll soon get your ex out of your subconscious mind and think, worry, or obsess about things that are more important than your ex.

Right now, you probably feel that your ex is important because you still remember things vividly.

You remember he used to be a big part of your life, so you feel emotions and cravings for the past. But if you focus on yourself and people you like, you’re going to emotionally distance yourself from your ex and forget about your ex.

You just won’t care about the people your ex dates and what he does in his free time. As long as you’re happy, you’ll move on with your life and mind your own business.

So become happy (if you’re unhappy) and get what you need to be emotionally free from your ex. When you do that, dreams about seeing your ex with other people will disappear and more pleasant dreams will appear.

This doesn’t mean that you’ll stop dreaming about your ex altogether. All it means is that you’ll have fewer ex-dreams and experience them less emotionally. And that’s good because dreams about your ex and his new girlfriend won’t bother you anymore. They’ll be just normal dreams that won’t make a difference in your life.

So if you want your ex out of your head, don’t try to frantically get him out of there. Try to accept your dreams instead and you’ll soon stop having them because you won’t get upset and give them an emotional reason to exist.

I hope you learned what it means when you dream about your ex-boyfriend with his new girlfriend. If you did, comment below the post. I’m curious to see what you think. And if you have any questions or would like to share your own story, feel free to post that as well.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Learn more about me or get in touch today.