The rules of no contact are very straightforward, yet so many people refuse to follow them down to the T. Some dumpees instead choose to implement their own versions of no contact and in doing so, prolong the grieving stage.
Although 90% of dumpees will hear from their exes again, this doesn’t mean you should completely prioritize your ex.
Your life is yours to take care of so make the rules of no contact about you first and your ex second.
If you don’t, you could end up really disappointed if your ex never comes back.
Or even if your ex comes back and all you did in no contact was think and cry about your ex, then you would still be pretty desperate and emotionally dependent on your ex. This would occur due to a lack of self-love.
You can avoid this unnecessary ex-partner reverence by improving your emotional and mental well-being. Once you’ve achieved great results, you will no longer fear your ex like the devil. Your ex will have become an equal instead.
But for that to happen, you must move on first.
Without further delay, let’s discuss the rules of no contact.
Rules of no contact
The rules of no contact apply to all broken-hearted dumpees who want to get over their exes, get their exes back or to those who want both.
The rules of no contact apply to those who:
- got abandoned
- got cheated on and left for someone else
- cheated themselves and got abandoned
- were left and their exes went back to their exes
- were in a long-distance relationship
- neglected and took their dumpers for granted
- were asked to change a million times
- were in a toxic relationship
- are getting ignored and avoided by the dumpers
- got blocked
- were needy pre-breakup or post-breakup
- were told they are the worst or the best
- got angry on the day of the breakup and after
- did something despicable
- begged harder than a beggar
- were given any of the generic breakup excuses
- are miserable and encountered life problems, such as drugs and addictions
- are teenagers
- used the no contact rule before
- don’t want their exes back and “have nothing to lose”
- just want their “friend” back
- work together
- have kids
- think their exes have/will move on without them
- have unfinished business, such as finances and mortgage
- are depressed or pregnant
- are getting divorced
There are probably many more cases where the rules of no contact apply, but the point is that the indefinite no contact rule is the solution to most situations.
This is because after the breakup—especially if it was your fault, your ex needs time – a lot of time. Reasoning with your ex is therefore not an option, hence why “winning” him or her over won’t work.
Moreover, if you try to speed up the 5 stages of a breakup for the dumper, the breakup would only blow up in your face, causing even more damage to the already broken relationship.
Insecure behavior would force your ex to think less of you, which would push him or her away. It would also worsen your post-breakup persona as well as your mental health.
That’s why chasing after the dumper is never an option. Once the dumpee gets broken up with, his or her final exam has ended and the result is the breakup.
There is no immediate retake of this exam as your ex first needs to reject you. And only once he or she has personally experienced failure, will your ex be willing to give your failure another chance.
Basic rules of no contact
The basic rules of no contact consist of self-imposed restrictions which you must never, ever break. If you happen to break the rules of no contact, you could experience setbacks which regularly naturally occur during the 3 stages of no contact when you’re healing.
These deliberate setbacks can be prevented as long as you diligently follow and respect the rules of no contact.
Nothing matters more than your recovery after the breakup so it might be best you start looking for a way to prioritize yourself over your ex and instead give yourself the love you so badly deserve.
Luckily, the basic rules of no contact are here for you to help you retain your self-esteem, confidence and at the same time, help you improve your health.
Here are the 6 basic rules of no contact.
To prevent slip-ups, such as pushing your ex away and ruining your chances, you must go no contact immediately after the breakup. No buts, ifs, whys, and hows.
These 6 basic, yet prominent rules of no contact will portray high self-esteem and confidence and either cultivate your desired results or help you move on with dignity.
If you don’t ever get back together with your ex, you will be so thankful you went no contact and saved face. Trust me about this and believe in the healing power of no contact.
Intermediate rules of no contact
The intermediate rules of no contact are all about giving your ex everything he or she has asked for.
Since a breakup demands a physical and emotional separation, stepping back and letting your ex have it his or her way is essential. By no means should you bargain with the dumper when the deal is final.
Unfortunately, breakups are always final the moment dumpers make a decision so there’s no fighting their decision.
Out of respect as well as self-respect, allow your ex to experience relief, elation and eventually nostalgia so distance yourself from him or her. Give your ex more space than possible and sit tight.
You can wait for your ex by remembering the 4 intermediate rules of no contact.
These 4 rules of no contact are more of a guideline and something you need to remember after the breakup. They work like a rubber band as they hook around your ex and stretch and stretch until the rubber band stretches as far as it can before it comes shooting back at the speed of light.
Push-pull technique
Intermediate rules of no contact are a variation of a push-pull technique, with the only difference that they aren’t meant to manipulate and abuse the person who cares for you.
Since dumpers don’t care enough (if any at all), the push-pull technique is absolutely necessary to reel the dumper back in. It works one day at a time at a very slow pace.
Nobody knows how fast it will work with your particular case because it isn’t even about you. It’s about the dumper’s mental and emotional state which you have absolutely no control over.
Intermediate rules of no contact have a second part. They are about repairing your post-breakup persona. Any begging, apologizing, promising, incessant messaging, calling and even some pre-breakup flaws are slowly being forgotten over time.
Please note that this will not happen during the 30-day no contact rule because that rule is not an effective rule. It’s not even a rule, but rather a hoax.
Rewriting the negative memories
Forgetting a few bad memories will happen over many, many months. If I had to guess I’d say it starts at about a year, 2, 3 or more after the breakup—depending on each person, of course.
Our brains continuously rewrite old memories. Every time we remember a scene from the past, we change a thing or two about it and store new information in our long-term memory. As we keep rewriting history over the course of many years, we eventually change most things about our pasts.
Since dumpers don’t think about dumpees too often, they slowly let go of some of the negative associations with the dumpees and mainly remember the worst ones – the ones they often reinforce with their thoughts and emotions.
Dumpees, on the other hand, continuously drown themselves in sorrow and nostalgia and therefore regularly reinforce their adoration and reverence for the dumpers. Only when they learn to control their emotions can they finally stop putting their dumpers on a pedestal. That’s when they start seeing their dumpers for who they truly are.
Fortunately, the rules of no contact help the dumpees let go of that which no longer serves them and reinvigorate them with new hope.
Advanced rules of no contact
The most important and the most neglected rules of no contact are the ones that are about the dumpees and their health.
I know dumpees initially start following the indefinite no contact rule with the intention to get their dumpers back. I think that’s completely fine as long as they make sure they are moving on as well.
Taking the appropriate actions, such as reducing the amount of time spent at home is crucial for the dumpees’ recovery. It’s difficult to take the first steps toward recovery, but the reward is so gratifying once the detoxing process begins.
As long as dumpees stay away from their exes as if they don’t exist anymore, they are healing. If they don’t, they keep their dumpers on the pedestals and delay their pain.
Here are the advanced rules of no contact every dumpee should follow.
These advanced rules of no contact seem simple, but so many dumpees don’t follow them very diligently. They often think that following the no contact rule is just about leaving their exes alone and completely neglect their own healing.
No contact is about the dumpee first, secondly about the dumpee and thirdly – about the dumpee. And if the dumper comes back as a result of NC, then that’s a bonus and a decision to consider.
The rules of no contact work in your favor!
No contact has certain rules or restrictions for a reason. These rules will either help you move on from your ex or help you get rid of neediness and bring your ex back.
No matter what the final result is with your ex, you will win one way or another. It’s impossible not to as long as you are determined to pull through your breakup.
If your ex doesn’t come back, you will be surprised when you find someone better than your ex. You will never in a million years dream of getting back together with him or her.
There are some people who don’t get over their exes for years. The reason why it takes some longer than 8-10 months on average is because they don’t follow the strict rules of no contact mentioned in this article.
Instead of healing, they keep contacting their exes and reopening their wounds.
Some dumpees have the “I will fight for my ex’s love and if it kills me” mentality. This is absurd and complete self-torture.
Not only do those dumpees’ exes absolutely destroy their ego, but they ruin their health too. That’s why dedicating your life to getting your ex back is a waste of a perfectly good heartbroken life.
If you think it’s your responsibility to fight for lost love, you’re mistaken. Your job is to heal and your ex’s job is to contact you and express the desire to want more.
What happens if you break the rules of no contact?
Breaking the rules of no contact is not a good idea. Every time you reach out “in your moment of weakness,” you push your ex further away. Basically, you prolong the time it would take you to get over your ex. You do this by intentionally hurting yourself, as well as by giving your ex the remaining source of power.
Not only do you empower your ex and make him or her feel good, but you also ruin your image in your ex’s eyes.
Since your ex broke up with you, your post-breakup persona is already inadequate and lacking in many ways for your ex. You needn’t make it worse by contacting your ex which screams “I know you broke up with me, but it’s fine if you treat me badly.”
This is unacceptable, and most people will take advantage of it. They will treat you the way you let yourself be treated and make you feel worthless.
Don’t let your ex treat you like a second-class citizen or you will have a hard time regaining value.
The fact that your ex isn’t talking to you tells you everything you need to know. Your ex is not valuing you high enough to talk to you. It may or may not have anything to do with you and it really doesn’t matter.
Since your ex is grave silent, you need to be quiet as well. Remember that your ex is dead to you for as long as he or she acts disinterested and annoyed toward you. So gather up your courage and start following the many rules of no contact right after the breakup. Thes rules can only do you well.
Can the rules work the second time?
If you break the rules of no contact once or twice, your ex may recover from your mistakes. But just because you might get another chance in the future, you shouldn’t rely on breaking the rules too often. At some point, you won’t get away with it anymore so it might be in your best interest that you get it right from the start.
No contact works five times on some dumpers and not even once on others. So no matter what happened to you and what brought upon the breakup, you won’t get anywhere if your ex doesn’t reach out first.
Your ex has to want to talk to you or you will never be able to start a new relationship with him or her.
And this is what the rules of no contact are all about. By following the NC rule, you wait for your ex to get rid of post-breakup emotions and develop an attraction for you. It may not be a love-like attraction, but the curiosity and the eagerness to talk to you are good enough for starters.
Your ex may move on, but so will you!
You have to remember that you are following the rules of no contact because your ex has moved on and not because he or she still loves you. In some rare cases, exes come running back within days or weeks. In cases like that, we can call that love or a lack of emotional independence.
But most of the time, exes move on way before the actual breakup so worrying that your ex will move on is crying over spilled milk.
Moving on has happened already so you probably don’t mean as much as you should to your ex anymore. Because you’re no longer #1, it leaves you with no choice but to move on.
You likely have the what if questions and concerns about your previous relationship. You probably think, “If I haven’t said this or if I didn’t do that, my ex would still be with me.“
Although your last action may have pushed your ex over the edge, it was not the main reason for the breakup. Everything else prior to the breakup led to the separation and your last mistake was just the last push.
Due to your ex’s mentality, the relationship couldn’t survive its downfall, so it broke apart.
You need to understand what went wrong and accept the end of the relationship.
Your life is yours to live!
The most important person in the world is not your ex. It’s you! So no matter how your breakup story unfolds, make sure you prepare for the worst.
Follow the rules of no contact and mix them with Dale Carnegie’s principles, mentioned in the self-help book – How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.
You loved yourself more before you met your ex, but you probably lost yourself somewhere in the relationship. You may have underinvested in your ex’s life or perhaps the opposite – overinvested and made your ex take you for granted.
It goes without saying that your breakup happened for a reason as it was caused due to a lack of self-awareness on somebody’s end. And since it’s impossible to have a functional relationship with one person doing all the work, the breakup is out of your power to control.
You can control your own words and actions, but you can’t force someone to change his or her opinion of you. Not unless that person wants to change his or her thoughts about you.
But for thoughts to get to the cortex, emotions have to first override your ex’s logical thinking and make him or her act emotionally – instinctually. This usually occurs when something bad happens. ?
Did you enjoy reading about the rules of no contact? I’d like to hear your opinion on this matter so please comment below.
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Hi Zan,
Yesterday, I was broken up with by my boyfriend of almost 4 years whom I live with. He broke up through text after staying at his parents for a week to think things through, since he was apparently beginning to think that he was entering a depression. During the week I have done minimal contact and only texted him twice, which gave me a lot of time to think about our relationsship. I realize that we are both to blame for the relationsship taking a bad turn. However, I also realized that I want to work on it and get my boyfriend back. I have not contacted him in almost 24 hours now, bu how do I do no contact when we live together in a rented apartment and need to figure out the logistic? Should I simply do it over text to respect his wish since he wrote that due to his mental state, he can’t talk to me right now?
I hope that you can give me some fast advice, since I don’t want to ruin the chances of getting him back someday.
Hi Danish Girl.
Say hi to him only when you run into him or when you need to talk about the logistics. Don’t text him or call him when you’re apart. He said he can’t talk to you, so give him the space he needs. In the meantime, figure out what went wrong and start working on yourself.
Best,
Zan
Hey Zan!!
Great content!! Just one question with social media and regaining power after being dumped (I begged, pleaded and other mistakes).
Is it the same muting them as unfollowing? My ex unfollowed me but I just muted her and havent interact with any of her activity. What do you think?
Thanks,
Chris
Hi Chris.
If you have the option to mute, do that. But if you can’t help checking up on her, unfollowing will do the job too!
Kind regards,
Zan
Nope, you are definitely not just naive, I had a very similar reaction to the no contact rules and the way they were laid out here. It is all very easy to digest and very well written. Hmmm 🤔 maybe we’re both just naive Lolol.
Hi, I just wanted to tell you your articles have helped me put things into perspective with my break up. I left a few times and had gone back each time he reached out to me, which was a poor choice on my part as he was still seeing his ex the duration of our relationship. Too many twists and turns to list but a friendship of over ten years gone because of a 6 month relationship. Maybe it wasn’t the friendship I thought it was, who knows. But I have realized trying to understand why an ex did or said things they knew were untrue is a practice in futility. It’s important to understand that even if we were to be given an answer as to why there would still be no comfort derived from it simply because it’s not the why that’s hurting us, it’s the fact that they did these things or said those lies to us at all. Once we accept these two fundamental bottom lines: The why is because they are not a true partner. Sugarcoat it however you want, that’s what it comes down to. That’s the first one. The second follows relatively; if they were a real partner none of these betrayals would have ever happened. Period. Maybe that’s obvious to everyone else but unfortunately those were two things I wish I’d realized much sooner instead of making excuses for him. And the no contact rule, the way it’s presented here is why it finally clicked with me. I don’t know why. Maybe I’m simply naive. Who knows.
Hi zan,
I got dumped during the lockdown a month ago and immediately went no contact. (Was a 2.5 year relationship). In a moment of weakness last week I broke no contact after day 32. And the wounds reopened and I begged. I apologised with an email the day letter and said I won’t bother her anymore which she responded politely too. It’s been hard to concentrate since then. Do you think any chance of reconciliation is possible or should I just abandon hope and move on
I told my ex goodbye and we should go our separate ways, because i don’t want him to end up hating talking to me with the current conversation dynamic that we have. I can foresee that it will lead to us breaking up again. He didnt say we should continue trying but only said that i can still look for him if i want to. I havent spoken to him since and its been more than a month. we did NC before about 30 days then he reached out first but things went up and down and hence the goodbye. Do i attempt to reach out Or shall i wait for him to reach out instead, if he ever?
Hi, I’ve just broken up with my ex. It hurts and I came across your article. It helps a lot and I’ve taken some notes and will start right from now.
But I do have a question. My ex speaks Russian and I’m learning Russian. However, I didn’t start learning Russian because of her. I started years ago. Should I stop doing it for now or is it okay to carry on? Thank you.
Hi Zan,
I’m glad I found this article. If only I read this before I chose to go no contact.
My ex broke up with me about 2 months ago and wanted to stay friends. I had a hard time wrapping my head around that idea of staying friends, but I wanted to keep him close anyways, so I still agreed. We’ve been texting and hanging out a couple of times since but I noticed it didn’t do me any good. I recently decided to block him on FB and Snapchat, but I still kept him on my Instagram and then eventually deactivated my Insta account. He has no way of contacting me except for texting as I never blocked his number. About one day after I cut him off from all social media, he texted me after ignoring my last text a few days ago and asked me what I was up to. I didn’t reply because I don’t know what his intention was. But how do I find out if I don’t text back? I also hate being ignored if I do text back.
The question is when should I figure out when to reach back out to my ex again? Should I reply if he texts me again asking what I’m up to or how I’m doing? Or should I only reach out on my own terms after I sort out my feelings? Did I mess up by not go into NC immediately after breakup?
I have too many questions but I don’t know where to turn to…
Just now discovering this sight. My gf broke things off with me at least 6 months ago. There were periods of no contact but nothing as formalized as you’ve described here. Basically I completely failed NC. Now my ex and I are in a murky friends relationship although she insists she’s no longer interested. I’d love a future where we are together, yet I realize the damage that my insecurities and my groveling are doing to me. I’m done feeling terrible and am committed to bettering myself and healing. I assume it’s to late to do NC. What should I do now?
I blocked my ex boyfriend on Snapchat and Fb and thought I that I should still keep him on Instagram. But I had a change of heart and deactivated my insta account. The only way for him to reach out to me was through text messages because I never blocked his number. About one day after I cut all communication, he texted me after ignoring me a few days and asked what I was up to.
The question is when should I figure out that it’s worth the effort to break NC? When do I know it’s time to reach back out to my ex? Should he send something like a paragraph for me to text back to him, if at all? And should I unblock him on social media even though I haven’t blocked his number?
The way you write you articles is just perfectly good! the world would not be the same without you Zan!! forever grateful 🤍
Thank you, Linda!
Regarding the list of who should be following no contact rules, I don’t totally agree that dumpees who were dumped because of their own addictions or drug problems should “wait on their ex” to contact them. If you’re an addict who wouldn’t address the addiction, and were subsequently dumped as a result, your ex will not come back unless they know you’re truly sober and in recovery, if at all. That would be the dumpee’s responsibility to communicate. Dumpers who left an addict are not going to check periodically to see if their addict got sober and is healthy enough to be in a relationship. That would be the one exception to the list above; unless you’re a dumpee who has found recovery following being dumped over your addiction, then yes, no contact applies to you.
I totally agree with you! I recently dumped my boyfriend because of his addiction and his social anxiety. It was a very tough decision and I loved him very much, but I was slowly starting to lose myself because I was so focused on him that I started getting anxiety myself. It’s so hard to find solid and comforting advice online for us “dumpers” who genuinely left because the relationship was getting too stressful. I actually do want to get back together with him in the future, but I want to make sure that we’re both in the right state of mind to make the relationship work. I was starting to be his crutch and that he unintentionally took it for granted. My hope is that this breakup will jolt him into wanting to get better, not just for our sake, but also for his.
It’s been 3 months since I broke up with my boyfriend and I’ve been going no contact since day 1 of our break up. 2 weeks after that I got a call from a no caller ID in the middle of the night. This never happens before. So I answered it saying “hello” but the caller was silence for few seconds and hung up the phone. My gut feeling telling me it was him. But again it could be wrong, it could be right. Last month he called me but I was in the kitchen and left my phone in my room. When I checked my phone, there was a missed call from him but again I didn’t do anything and stick to no contact. Until last week I updated my LinkedIn profile and checked my connection. He is still being one of my connection (he added me when we were still in a relationship). I don’t know why tbh but I clicked his name and saw his profile. The moment it directs me to his LinkedIn, I felt full of regret so then I closed his profile immediately. I know he got a notification telling him I saw his profile and 2 days later I got the same notification saying he looked at my profile as well. Does that mean I broke the no contact rule?
Thanks!
PW
Hi Zan,
It’s been 3 months since I broke up with my ex boyfriend. I go no contact since day one and never reach out to him till now. But then 2 weeks after our break up, I got a call from no caller ID in the middle of the night. I answered it, saying “hello” but there was no answer for few seconds then the caller hung up the phone. My gut feeling told me it was him. It could be wrong, it could be right as well. Then he called me last month but I was in the kitchen and I left my phone in my room. When I checked my phone I got a missed call from him but I didn’t respond to it. I keep doing no contact. Last week I updated my LinkedIn profile and checked my connection. He is still being one of my connection (he added me when we were still in a relationship) and I don’t know why tbh I clicked his name and saw his profile. I have no intention to stalk him but yeah I know he got a notification telling him I saw his LinkedIn. Two days later I got a notification that he also looked at my profile. Does that mean I broke the no contact?
Thank you.
Putri
My ex and I broke up because of distance. He was moving away for school and decided it would be best for us to not stay together. I believe it was due to his trust issues from past relationships, but also because he does not want to end up hurting me by potentially doing something bad, as he has claimed before.
I have been trying to figure out the no contact rules and how they may apply to situations where he contacts me first via text or social media platform. Do I respond? or should I try to not respond at all?
We wanted to stay friends regardless of the breakup, but I want to be more than just friends. I am trying to accept the idea of being just friends again though. How would I proceed with him contacting me?
My boyfriend broke up with me 1 month ago, he told me “i love you” the previous night before breaking up with me the next day and said that he has no more feeling for me and he wants to stay friend with me.
It’s been 1 month that we are doing the NC rule. Sometimes i’m fine but sometimes i am in pain, i want him back.
What should i do?
i was in a long distance relationship since 1 year with him.
Help me! Thank you
Thank you for all those articles its really helping me.
My girlfriend broke up with me and we’re now in no contact.What should i do if the dumper reach out to me but just to ask random questions (like how are you, how was your day)?
Hi Jack.
If talking to your ex hurts you, you shouldn’t communicate with your ex. You should instead ask for space and prioritize yourself.
Best regards,
Zan
You’re the best. One of the best sites I’ve read in a while. Me and my ex girlfriend broke up earlier this year.
We went no contact then she reached out to apologize and after we chatted from time to time.
I was in her city recently and asked her to meet up(now reading this was a big mistake).
We laughed and had a good time and had a conversation after on what to do.
She has been really cold and I told her we could do counseling and she agreed but hasn’t put forth much effort at all.
We finished our conversation and had a 1 hour conversation and it was a good one until she disappeared and I haven’t heard from her in weeks.
Radio silence and I’m scratching my head because it was a great conversation and even her admitting some faults. But she still plays the victim and we’ve tried everything mentality.
My heart is torn and I’m tired of putting in all the effort while she goes hot and cold.
I’m going no contact and won’t make those mistakes again.
Hi Justin.
Thanks for commenting.
It was too early for your ex to talk about relationship issues.
She got cold feet due to her weakened mentality. And because her mindset wasn’t good enough, you shouldn’t have expected her to want to work on the broken relationship.
Now that she’s run away again, stay in NC. It’s your best and only option.
Kind regards,
Zan
Hi Zan,
When you say weakened, are you saying this was to due to what I did by talking about the relationship stuff too early. I guess I was naive in thinking that 6 months of barely any contact it would be no issue talking about the relationship.
So just clarifying if you mean’t I weakened it by something I did or was it just because?
Thanks
Hi Justin.
You just can’t talk about the breakup with an ex when she hasn’t processed what’s happened yet.
By “weakened,” I mean that she broke up with you due to her negative thinking patterns—so you can’t reason with her at this time.
Kind regards,
Zan
I’ve been no contact since mid February when she dumped me to ‘not date anyone’ and then tweeted about her new Tinder profile a week or so later. A week or so ago I bought some instagram followers with my friend when we were doing an experiment to see if it would lead to more real followers for a new business we are starting. Anyway, I’ve been checking social media of hers left often but I still look and this week she commented on her tinder ‘imagine buying instagram followers in 2019’ . I imagine it was about me, but maybe I’m mind reading. (She wanted to be an influencer and now I have 1k more ‘followers’ than her now)
No I’m wondering if I created a setback accidentally because I’ve reduced my value in her eyes? I don’t even want her back at this point I just want an apology from her for leaving
Hi there.
It’s not a big setback per se. It might have just annoyed her a bit.
Your value, in my opinion, is exactly as it was when she left.
Also, if you’re hoping to get an apology, it might be best to let go of hope and do your best to move on without it.
Best regards,
Zan
I blocked my ex on Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp, WeChat and her phone number.
It’s impossible for her to reach out and even if I unblock her she will not know it.
Did I fucked up? Is it possible to recover from this place?
Hi STA.
I wouldn’t suggest you keep her blocked. At the very least, open a way or two for her to contact you in case she has a change of heart.
Best,
Zan
Hello Zan,
But even if I do unblock her (let’s say her phone number), she have no way to know I did it.
And I can’t unblock her on Instagram or other things, because it hurts me to see her pictures.
And wouldn’t it make me look weak if she see that I unblocked her?
Regards
Hi STA.
This depends on how long she’s been blocked for. Perhaps it does make you look indecisive, but you won’t be contacting her anyway.
I’d unblock her so that she can message you when she’s ready.
Kind regards,
Zan
My exboyfriend maybe tried to have a video call with me though i was not able to answer the call. It has been 3 months of NC. I replied the next day asking him about the call but my messages was just ‘seen’. Did I do something wrong and broke no contact? I read a previous article that we should not ignore an ex. Did I interpret it differently?
Hi Jes.
You didn’t do anything wrong.
Your ex wanted to talk to you at that particular moment. Perhaps it was to take care of some unfinished business, and when you couldn’t pick up, he may he found another way to take care of it.
Don’t look into it. Stay in no contact!
Kind regards,
Zan