16 thoughts on “How Long Do Rebound Relationships Last?”

  1. Hi. Great article, and the best I’ve seen so far. Such an insightful breakdown, and so thoroughly written. I really appreciate it, every other article I’ve read falls short of writing a well-thought-out and experienced analysis.

  2. You link to an article you wrote a year before this where you are like: hurr durr, dumpers dumb, they don’t learn, make the same mistakes in the new relationship, doomed to fail, yadda yadda. Here you say their new relationship is more likely to succeed, than fail (60%). How is this? Not only in this topic (rebound), but in the entire breakup topic you changed in 2020 to be more pessimistic in regards to reconciliation. What happened? I thought you had years of experience before writing the 2019 articles too. Or were you just a newbie back then? It’s so confusing.

    1. Hi Andreas.

      The articles I write today are a lot more realistic than the articles I wrote years ago. Back then, I listened to people who know no more than me at the time. You can find those people all over the internet these days.
      That’s why I’d like to think that my knowledge in this field has increased over the years.

      And yes, I’ve noticed that the tone in which I write is more pessimistic, but it’s the hard truth.

      I hope you’re happy with this answer.

      Kind regards,
      Zan

      1. There is something incredibly comforting in your pessimistic / realistic answers. It has the ring of truth and that is kinder in the long run.

        1. I’m glad you find the tone comforting, Kathy.

          I think dumpees who just got broken up with find it a bit too hard to read at first. But fortunately, many of them return after a few weeks once they’re no longer in denial.

          Kind regards,
          Zan

  3. So me and my ex was doing just fine. He loved me so much. Well we loved each other. We now have a baby, and was discussing our future about getting marry and get our life back together. So I had to enter a program and I was away just an month, but we still talked on the phone and made each other happy. By the he’s also in a program but not the one I was in. So it’s been a month I haven’t seen him. But we still spoke and wrote letters. Everything was fine. Than one day he told me that he met this girl and how pretty she was and how much money she had. Literally a week they’ve been talking and start liking each other without my knowledge of it. So the next thing lend to another and he moves in with her and tells me he’s not in love with me anymore and he loves her now. Left me out with a broken heart. How can leave a three-year relationship and has a baby with and fall in love with someone else that fast, he just met two weeks ago? Do you think that relationship would last long? And if that’s a rebound relationship?

  4. Hi Zan, i need your insight in my case please. My ex cheated on me like 2yrs ago when we were in an LDR. I went home 6mos ago and went home for good only this Feb. We spent time together but we really did not talked about it because we both thought we were okay, i thought i really forgave her. Although i gave her another chance she really did not win my trust back. I was cheated in my previous relationship. My ex before my recent ex used me and it really broke me. I suffered anxiety and depression and insecurities though i have moved on from my previous ex trust has always been an issue and i carried it into my next relationship (with my recent ex). She knew all of it by the way. And then she cheated and so my depression and anxiety were triggered. It was 3yrs of relationship and i really became so verbally abusive to her because i cant control myself and just yesterday i read from an article about Anxiety After An Affair and it was really spot on. It perfectly described how i feel in the entirety of the relationship. Plus i did not feel any security from my ex ever since the cheating happened. I had a lot of insecurities, my anxiety and depression got really into me and i cant really control myself throwing shit words on her but only those times that we’re away from each other. I am so good to her and her family when I spent the quarantine in their house. That was my true self. She said i was very abusive and disrespectful and she’s so done. But i never showed anything disrespectful to her evertytime we’re together. I cant blame her because she doesnt understand my case and what i feel. Now she’s in rebound i think but im in NC for a month already. I begged and plead and shit all those post- breakup mistakes. I explained about my anxiety but she chose to understand about it when in fact she’s the one who triggered it. What should i do? Im so determined to heal myself from this anxiety because i dont recognize myself anymore. I really lost myself in the relationship.

  5. I’ve been in what could be termed a ‘rebound relationship’ for a year-and-a-half, and my experience has been very positive. Both of us had exited long-term relationships with narcissistic, cheating dumpers when we met through an online dating site. We discussed our bad experiences at the outset, took the new relationship slowly, and become very close over time. All situations are different, obviously, but in our case the new relationship — and our commonality as dumpees — helped us greatly in getting past our previous painful experiences. So I don’t think rebound relationships are uniformly unwise; it depends on the people and situations involved.

    1. Hi PJ.

      I’m glad you rebound’s working out. You’ve managed to bond with your partner through the negative expeiences and as a result, turned your rebound into a meaningful relationship.

      Thanks for sharing.

      Best regards,
      Zan

  6. Both my ex’s relationships after me lasted about eight months each. My ex is clearly depressed now (and even told me she doesn’t care about anything anymore) because I think this last one dumped her! My question is, is my ex depressed because she finally got dumped by someone or has a string of more failed relationships under her belt.
    I can’t or don’t want to believe she’s mourning the loss of this relationship when she barely mourned our four year one!! I also want to add that she was talking and visiting me throughout both her rebounds but has gone dead silent on me this last week. I am in NC but respond when she reaches out.
    Perplexed. Maybe karma creeped up on her.

    1. Hi Cecily.

      Your ex has invested in the new relationship, so she’s probably unhappy/depressed that her relationship has ended. She’s most likely not grieving your relationship because she’s gotten over it a long time ago.

      Stay strong, Cecily!

      Best regards,
      Zan

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