Every time your ex sees an update from you on social media, your ex immediately thinks about the “bad times” when the relationship wasn’t working out.
Your ex doesn’t just think about the times from months or years ago when you argued with your ex or when you didn’t live up to his or her expectations. He or she doesn’t need to travel back in time to pick and choose the very worst moments.
Your ex has a way more reliable way of feeding his or her resentment toward you. And that’s by reminding himself or herself of the last few weeks prior to the breakup when his or her repulsive emotions reached their peak.
So even if your pictures or posts on social media appear innocent and non-bragging, your ex might still not like them. That’s because your presence is continuously reminding your ex how he or she felt toward the end of your relationship.
And that’s part of the reason why an ex can block you seemingly out of nowhere even if you don’t do anything threatening to abuse your “friendship.”
Sometimes it’s way less about you and your actions and more about what’s going on with your ex. And that’s what dumpees often find difficult to comprehend. They think it’s “me, me, me, me” when it’s really “them, them, them, them.”
So if you’re in pain or anxious because your ex blocked you on social media—such as Facebook, Instagram, and WhatsApp, this article will provide you with some insight.
My ex blocked me on Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp, everywhere…
Due to your ex’s resentment toward you, your posts on social media quickly took your ex back to the boiling point and brought out the worst emotions imaginable. Anger, annoyance, hatred, irritation, repugnance, and impatience are just a few to name.
Since these emotions are all emotions of strength, they indicate that your ex had used them out of self–defense. Your ex essentially relied on these primitive emotions for self-empowerment so that he or she could fight against injustice that was done to him or her.
If your ex was generally a “nice” person, your ex probably first tried to bring his or her temper under control and fight his or her outbursts. But since he or she likely didn’t do anything special to soothe such intense feelings of bitterness, your ex soon lost control and acted on impulse.
Instead of unleashing his or her fury on you, your ex suddenly blocked you and kept you out of sight. In doing so, your ex thought that he or she could finally stop feeling angry by avoiding reminders of you and coincidentally—start feeling happier without you in his or her life.
Similarly to how you would delete and block a person that threatens your health and safety, so would your ex.
He or she, just like everyone else is still a human being with emotions—capable of liking and disliking, loving or hating, blocking and unblocking. Just because your ex was in a relationship with you, doesn’t mean that your ex can’t block you once he or she is no longer with you.
He or she shouldn’t but can do so nonetheless.
Why did my ex block me on social media?
If your ex broke up with you recently, then you are likely still recovering from the breakup by trying to build up your self-esteem. You’re probably going out more and showcasing change and improvements, hoping your ex will take notice.
Since you still desire your ex’s attention, you are probably posting pictures on various social media platforms and making sure that your ex sees them.
You just want to show your ex how far you’ve come since the breakup.
But one day, something unpredictable happens and your ex randomly blocks you on Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp, and other social platforms and leaves you perplexed.
Your ex’s immature behavior completely catches you off guard, so you shortly begin to wonder, “Why did my ex randomly block me? Did I do something to anger my ex? Is my ex trying to bring out a reaction out of me?“
You probably can’t fathom why your ex of all people would block you on social media when you used to have a special place in his or her heart.
His or her behavior is probably so new to you, you’re desperately trying to make sense of your unfortunate situation.
If you are, you first need to collect your thoughts and observe your ex’s actions from a third person’s point of view. When you do, you will be able to understand why your ex blocked you and see your ex for who he or she truly is.
But until you detach enough and see your ex from a better perspective, I may be able to address some of your concerns.
Did my ex ever love me?
There’s a good explanation why your ex blocked you on Instagram, Facebook, and other social media platforms. Moreover, there’s also a good reason why your ex is acting so rampant post-breakup as if you did something horrible to him or her.
But before we get to that, you must first accept that the way your ex had felt about you while he or she was in a relationship with you is all in the past.
The “I love yous,” the plans for marriage and children, and the dreams about retirement are all a matter of the past now. These are the things that no longer exist as your ex is no longer your partner.
However, before you call your ex a liar, you need to know that when your ex said all the nice things and promises to you, he or she meant every single word. Your ex was in love with you after all and saw a future with you.
But now that your relationship has ended, you mustn’t hold your ex responsible for promising you the world. People are emotional creatures after all and we make decisions based on what we feel.
And what we think and feel, unfortunately, can change very quickly. This is especially true if we aren’t completely happy with ourselves or with our partner.
That’s why you shouldn’t doubt whether your ex ever loved you as your ex’s words were likely genuine at the time.
As long as you weren’t just a rebound, that is.
What does it mean when your ex blocks you?
When your ex blocks you on social media, he or she obviously no longer loves you. Your ex instead feels repelled by you and quite frankly—doesn’t want to see you, hear you, and even think about you.
Your ex has an identity of his or her own—which means that your ex has the right to ignore and block you on Instagram and Facebook, and even start dating right away. He or she owes you absolutely nothing as an ex-partner.
Giving you closure, on the other hand, would be beneficial to your recovery. But then again, a lot of dumpers don’t even provide that.
They are just so furious that caring about their dumpees’ well-being is not possible. They feel emotionally drained—which tells them that they are the victims.
So now that your ex blocked you for no apparent reason, you might wonder what that means for you as an ex-partner.
If you do, here’s what it means when your ex blocks you on social media.
When your ex deletes you from social media and blocks you, try not to panic and initiate contact because of hurt ego and self-esteem.
If you do, your ex won’t be merciful and pity you. If anything, you will only make things worse and get more hurt in the process.
That’s why you should accept the situation for what it is and stop yourself from delaying your post-breakup recovery.
Your ex blocked you out of anger, annoyance, and frustration
When your ex blocks you out of nowhere, your ex does so because he or she feels annoyed with you. It’s got nothing to do with the nature of your posts, but everything with the fact that you’re there—posting. Or it might even be just because you’re still friends and he or she sees you on his or her friends’ list.
Your ex doesn’t have any expectations of you anymore and just wants silence from you to focus on himself or herself.
So when you post on social media or somehow remind your ex of your existence, you inadvertently obstruct your ex’s happiness and make him or her furious. This is especially true if your ex is the impulsive type.
That’s why it’s often only a matter of time before a spiteful ex will either unfollow you or block you. You really can’t control your ex’s emotions when you’re just minding your own business and keeping your distance.
So if your ex randomly blocked you on Facebook, Instagram or on social media, remember that it’s not your fault. Your ex has lost the patience to control his or her temper and acted on instinct.
Your ex merely did what he or she thought would relieve his or her anger. And unfortunately, pushing you out of his or her life seemed like the best solution.
My ex didn’t block me everywhere/completely
When your ex blocks you on Instagram but doesn’t block you on Facebook, for example, this is what I call a partial block.
It means that you’ve somehow pushed your ex into blocking you. Whether it happened because you begged and pleaded or for no apparent reason doesn’t matter. What does matter is that your ex’s mindset had forced your ex into blocking you—limiting the platforms for you to communicate through.
This doesn’t mean that you should contact your ex first and use your last available channel of communication to annoy your ex further.
It merely means that your ex had left one last social platform open for emergency purposes—and expects you to respect that.
If you don’t, your ex will swiftly block you on the remaining social platform as well. And the sad part is that he or she won’t feel bad about it.
Not as long as you don’t respect your ex’s need for space.
My ex deleted our pictures on social media
When your ex blocks you online, deletes your pictures on social media, and starts avoiding you like the plague, it’s a clear sign of an angry ex.
Your ex is likely in the relief stage of a breakup and is desperately trying to move on from you and his or her past. And since your ex has the victim’s mentality, looking at your pictures only makes him or her feel angrier.
That’s why deleting your pictures off Facebook, Instagram and everywhere else seems like the best solution to avoid bad reminders.
So if you’re wondering why your ex deleted your pictures off social media, think about your ex’s emotional state. Remember that he or she didn’t delete them out of happiness and nostalgia, but rather out of frustration, annoyance, and spitefulness.
Is blocking someone immature?
Blocking someone you don’t like is incredibly immature. It’s equivalent to a temper tantrum—much like that of a child.
So just how children get cranky when they don’t get their candy, blocking is the adult’s version of that.
It essentially showcases an inability to deal with an unpleasant situation—which makes blocking and ignoring the same as running away from the problem.
Anyone who consistently avoids their problems does so because he or she never learned how to deal with them. And that person will continue avoiding predicaments until he or she matures.
Some people eventually mature when they get older—while others unfortunately never do. It really depends on what’s going on in a person’s mind and the circumstances he or she is surrounded by.
So if you’re ever thinking of blocking a person, remember that it’s incredibly immature. That’s why you should resolve your interpersonal issues quickly and efficiently before they get ugly.
The only time when you should consider blocking an ex or anyone for that matter is when you become afraid for your safety.
Is my ex immature?
Your ex knows that blocking you is immature, but your ex doesn’t care much. To your ex, you are just a stranger who was once in a romantic relationship with him or her.
Not only that. A stranger would probably get better treatment. Your ex instead sees you as someone who’s hurt him or her badly. So the only way for your ex to regain control of the situation is to block you.
That’s why we could say that your ex is immature or not mature enough to work through his or her personal issues.
My ex blocked me randomly in no contact
As you already know, dumpers can be incredibly impulsive and unpredictable. They can say and do the most unforgiving things you can possibly imagine.
Blocking, unfortunately, is one of them.
When your ex blocks you randomly – seemingly for no reason, you shouldn’t worry about whether you’ve done something to offend your ex.
Not as long as you’re diligently following the rules of no contact and doing your best not to break them.
Instead of panicking, think about what could have happened in your ex’s life that made him or her block you.
If you can’t think of any, here are a few things that could have triggered your ex’s hatred toward you:
- remembering “your” unfair treatment
- seeing no value in you
- meeting someone else
- getting angry that you aren’t chasing
- trying to elicit a response out of you (rare)
- detaching further and no longer caring about you
- you dating someone else
- accumulated hatred
These are just a few events that could have caused your ex to block you out of the blue.
Whether it happened on Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp or Twitter, your ex doesn’t want to be reminded of you right now. And that’s’ why you now need to resort to plan B.
What to do when your ex blocks you?
We have previously discussed the actions you can take when your ex blocks you and discovered that you can’t force your ex to unblock you.
You can’t cry and beg your ex to unblock you or do anything that your boyfriend or girlfriend wouldn’t find attractive.
That’s why you must instead count on one of the most reliable traits a person can have – confidence.
You must show your ex that you will be okay on your own and avoid seeking validation by staying away from your ex.
You might not like staying quiet because getting blocked is highly disrespectful, but it doesn’t leave you with any other options.
Complaining to your ex how he or she has no manners is only going to make your ex want to speak to you even less. And that’s why the cure to getting unblocked by your ex is so very simple—yet so hard to do.
All you need to do to get your ex to unblock you is to let him or her win. So allow your ex to have it his or her way while you work on the things that matter to you.
Here’s what you must not do when your ex deletes you from social media and blocks you.
The time will most likely come when your ex will no longer feel threatened or annoyed by you—and that’s when your ex will unblock you.
But until that happens, you must respect your ex’s decision.
My ex unblocked me. Do I message him/her?
When your ex blocks you or unblocks you, it’s very important for you not to act rashly and contact your ex.
You must remember that your ex has so much power post-breakup that messaging him or her won’t help your case at all.
If anything, it will only push your ex further away and cause long-term damage. And the reason for that is very simple.
The moment your ex unblocks you, he or she is far from ready to talk so the only thing that’s changed is his or her hatred toward you.
And that’s a good start because it means that your ex has processed some of his or her repulsive emotions.
In other words, 50% of work is done. As for the other 50%, it consists of your ex’s interest in you.
Since your ex has no business with you, forcing your ex into wanting to speak to you won’t happen. That’s why you must wait even longer for something or someone to change your ex’s emotional state.
So when your ex is finally forced to soul-search and do some introspect, he or she will likely change his or her thoughts and feelings about you.
But for that to happen, life must teach your ex a lesson.
Did your ex block you on Instagram, Facebook, or on various social media platforms? Let me know how that went for you by commenting below.
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Ok here’s one for you… she dumped me, and later blocked me out of the blue on social media, but a mutual friend tells me our pictures are still up on her instagram.. so clearly it wasn’t because she wants to forget me… and no, I did nothing to make her hate me, she simply got bored of me and dumped me.. told me so much.
A little bit of a different situation for me. I unfriended my cheating ex-wife on FB, I unfollowed her on Instagram. I didn’t block her in either. She still follows my IG account. I notice that she views any stories that I post. Why? I don’t want her back. She is with her affair partner still, so why does she still view my stuff?
My ex left me a couple months ago because she kept telling me a little problem that was bothering her and I didn’t fix it. It had to do with family and me not trying to get closer to her family my family or friends because of personal problems I had growing up it made me scared to do it. So I made excuses for almost 4 years. She got tired of it and left me. We saw each other for a few months afterwards and she needed space but I didn’t give her space because I thought it meant I would lose her forever. We were still seeing each like we were dating. Until I ruined it by going off on her and she told me she couldn’t move forward if we are still in each other’s life and no longer wanted to see me. Of course I pursued harder it I overwhelmed her and pushed her away even more. I took her word and finally gave her space. She recently just blocked me out of the blue after I promised I wouldn’t contact her and gave her my word and have been holding my word. Why? I understood my faults and fixed my problems I was dealing with but she doesn’t want to risk wasting anymore time of me saying I’ll do something and I don’t. Is all hope lost?
Going onto 5 months all through the months contact has happened when he contacted me i was accused of spying stalking getting friends to stalk & spy which wasn’t true he unblocked me on instragram then unblocked me it happened again recently friends apparently told him i was asking about him which is a lie he jumps down my throat sends a very firey message he blocke on all social media i told him why would i have tje need to spy i am dating he was like oh good for you oh & so am i & then blocked me by phone is there a chance he will unblock me?
my ex broke up with me last march, he blocked me everywhere without me even knowing and i founded out he had me block last december, and until march i begged for him to come back. 2 weeks ago i found out he unblocked me on instagram but blocked me on everywhere else. is this a good sign? i sent him a text 3 days ago and he immediately seen my dm and accepts it but not replying. i miss him so much and i feel like sending him that but i feel like its wrong since hes the one who broke up with me.
Hi Atiya.
You’ve got to stop messaging your ex and let him come to you. It’s the only way to regain the post-breakup power.
Best,
Zan
There is a guy I fell in love with. I’m in an unhappy marriage and we talked about me leaving it. Right as I was about to do so he found another relationship. We stayed in touch. He ended up quarantined with her and I with my spouse. My spouse and I both want a divorce but decided not to do so during quarantine. This man and I continued to message each other, him maintaining friend vibes and me going overboard (but he sometimes responded to that with little winks or references to liking it). His girlfriend discovered a sexy text from me, which he never responded to, and she moved out. He was pissed. I went too much into GNAT mode trying to get him to choose to be with me since he wasn’t in that anymore. He reasonably wanted to get her back. So he did that. I made the mistake of continuing to text him sexy things because he seemed to like it. Then he blocked me. I am madly in love with him, like want his babies ASAP in love. I want a way to get him back. I can’t post thirst traps because my coworkers are all on my social media. I want to wait a few months and reach out on an alternative contact method. But from what I’m reading that’s a bad idea. There is no one like him in the world.
Thanks for this article, I now understand why I’m blocked everywhere, even of it is immature. I hurt him badly, handled the break up terribly and have caused him tons of pain, hurt and confusion which I never meant to do. He’s blocked me because seeing things online or seeing me on WhatsApp will be to hurtful and remind him of our lost future together so I’m going to let him be and respect his decision and concentrate on healing me cause even though I was the one who ended it I’m still in agony and distressed about the loss of my future with him.
Greg
I’m curious on what to do. My ex blocked me on Facebook and Instagram and Facebook messenger and probably her phone to. She blocked me on those platforms the day she left, which was a month ago. She left while I was at work and I never saw it coming. Basically I went to work, I got a good morning handsome text from her and then came home to an empty house and was ghosted by her her dad mom and sister on all platforms too. I did no pleading or begging at all I went straight into no contact. I messaged her parents to ask that they could have my garage door opener and house key returned along with items that were mine that she took which included some family heirlooms but haven’t heard anything. So how do I get unblocked from that? I started no contact with my ex the day she left. Please advise thank you.
My ex started dating someone else very soon after we broke up and I blocked him on social to protect myself. Then he blocked me back, then unblocked me as we tried to stay friends. Then out of nowhere blocked me again, and after being friendly for a good month(about three since we broke up) he blocked me on text/phone after telling me he missed me (he’s been quarantined with this new girl) and the next day i sent a few friendly texts and got no reply, called and left a message because it was school related, no reply. Finally three days later with no explanation for the silence I get a message congratulating me about something, I responded with an emoji. Two days later I sent a message about school related things and realized I was blocked because my imessage never went through and he was online via whatsapp.
I just don’t understand the back and forth. He’s in a new relationship… I just want to be friends! I didn’t even say I miss you back. I’m hurt by this back and forth. He’s said in the past he can’t be friends with an ex…has mentioned i’m his “weakness” but also sees value in our bond and friendship…but also seemingly resents me if he’s blocked me out of nowhere.
Confused and missing this person but realizing this is very toxic behavior, if i’m hurt by this i’m also not over it either. It seems like he’s sending a clear message he wants nothing to do with me. Help, would love some insight. I feel bad talking to my friends or family about it because they don’t approve of him either or our friendship given his history of manipulative behavior.
Hi Juliet
I can understand your pain, I’m still working on moving on myself.
In order to heal yourself and to be friends at some point in the future you need to go No Contact. He needs to realise what life is like without you, that the new woman is not as great as you, that he needs to work harder on himself and the relationship.
This won’t happen when you are being friendly!
Stop all contact, no friendly messages, no phone calls, no social media. Nothing whatsoever!
Depending on his personality this will take many months.
Be strong, he will see what he’s lost but only if you don’t contact him.
In the meantime read all the helpful articles on here.
Best wishes
Gigi
Hi Zan
Another great article, I also love the infographics!
A point from a different perspective.
After a slow fade over several months and no replies to 2 or 3 nice but not needy messages on WhatsApp over the space of 3 weeks, I deleted his contact details from my phone after 8 weeks of silence from him. This included Christmas, New Year and my birthday! This was purely to get closure for myself and to move on.
However I noticed that we could still see each other “online” on WhatsApp (major security fail I think, any stranger who has your number can see if you are online). I therefore blocked him on WhatsApp. I don’t think this is immature. It’s easier to move on and forget him and removes the temptation to check up on him. It also removes a possible fix for him when he sees that I’m online. He is ALWAYS online
Thank you so much for writing this article. This helped me a lot. Thank to your article I know now what I have to do and I will do the exact opposite. This is what we call Toxic Masculinity. Inner strength doesn’t come from hating someone. It comes from forgiving yourself and overcoming your own insecurities instead of blaming it on other people. I accept what Happened and walk with my head up knowing that I am a better man than I was yesterday. So thank you for showing me the right way.
Hi Allen.
Thank you very much for your comforting words.
I appreciate them very much. 😊
Kind regards,
Zan
Hi zan
Thank you so much for all the content in this blog. I’ve learned so much from it, my ex blocked after 1 month of no contact, I never begged or anything like it to have her back. Our breakup wasn’t the best and she played the victim, blaming pretty much everything on me and she didn’t acknowledge any of her mistakes.
Anyway as I said, she blocked me after a month of full no contact (we work together and we don’t even have eye contact anymore) even though I let her know that I wasn’t angry or anything, I asked once (the last message I sent) if she wanted some gifts I brought her from abroad (she knew about them, because she asked for them) to which she never replied.
I was told that she was crying lately ( I cannot assure it’s because of me or us) and that she dumped her rebound (an ex boyfriend from years ago). All I can think of is the day she blocked me on WhatsApp, I updated my status (which I never do) but I didn’t post anything mean or resentful or about somebody else, I just posted something along the lines of “you might forget the sound of a voice, but you should not forget the things you laughed about” yeah those are parte of the lyrics to a song I like (and I never mentioned to her)
She might have been stalking me on WhatsApp, who knows.
Anyway I hope you can help me getting a bit of clarity into why my ex blocked me after a month of no contact, no begging, and no bragging on social media. I just don’t use social media much, so I kept quite.
Many thanks,
Tom
What if I, as the dumpee, am the one who unfollowed my ex on Insta and removed him from my list of followers? It’s not blocking — but it does mean that he can’t see my stories or posts anymore now because my account is private. We’re still in the same friend group at school and the breakup was months ago and I’ve been solidly no-contact since the day of the breakup, so I didn’t do it out of malice or anger — I really just did it because I didn’t think it’s his business anymore to know where I’m going or who I’m hanging out with or what I’m up to, and I’d rather maintain some privacy about that. I also removed his friends who are solely his friends and not mutual friends from my follower list and my Facebook friends because we were only ever connected through my ex. Is that really so immature? It’s not personal! It’s not because I hate him! I just think my life is my life, and he forfeited the right to know about everything that’s going on in it since he broke up with me. And it helps me with my own peace of mind to not have to think “I wonder what my ex would think about this” when I post something.
What if I took her for granted she broke up with me. Then I said some crazy things about hacking into her account and figured she was talking to another guy before breaking up? So I told her I feel like Im cheating on her flirting with another girl. So many stupid things I said. I still love her. She blocked me on facebook and instagram but not whatapp.
This is correct. This is exactly why I blocked a girl I loved (and still do). It isn’t about hurting her. It’s just about realising that she can’t be mine, that she wouldn’t have dated someone else had she valued our relationship and recognizing that she isn’t good for me. I also now understand why another ex blocked me all of a sudden even though I hadn’t done anything preceding to that. She just wanted to protect herself from thoughts of me that caused her pain.
Exactly, Arvi.
Your ex perceived you as a threat to her emotional well-being so she blocked you out of self-protection.
Best regards,
Zan
My ex blocked me her friend blocked me as well, bt before she did she toll me she will always love me. I messaged her and broke ‘no contact’ after 30 days.Had hoped time would win her back but I guess not now. I will miss her forever, she was truly the love of my life.
Hi Savoi.
Don’t be deceived by the 30 day NC.
It’s not enough time to win her back.
She actually has to win YOU back and not vice Versa. It’s the only way.
Best,
Zan
my ex after she learnt my feelings she blocked me 108days ago and i was heartbroken to make things worse i lost my dad & sister in an accident and my situation went to more worse. I tried texting her in another account & i got blocked thrice again is there a chance to reconsile with her
my ex after she learnt my feelings she blocked me 108days ago and i was heartbroken to make things worse i lost my dad & sister in an accident and my situation went to more worse. I tried texting her in another account & i got blocked immediately after that & i have taken up no contact now & focusing on my life i do miss her a lot & love her this breakup & losing my family membered reallly is giving me an hard tym what should i do now to get her back
Hi Vinay.
Focus inwardly and keep healing!
Seek professional help if you need to and rely on your friends.
It will get better. It always does!
Kind regards,
Zan
What about if she did not block/remove me from any social media, and proceeds to like every single post and views all my stories post breakup onwards?
Hi Cliff.
Then perhaps she’s trying to show you that she isn’t holding a grudge against you. She might be that mature.
Don’t think too much about it.
Kind regards,
Zan
After reading this article I realized that I would not want such a immature person in my life. Thanks for enlightening me.
Thanks for the comment, Gary!
My ex and I are still friends in our social media accounts, but we don’t talk anymore. He would sometimes view my stories, or react to some.
Hi Jes.
This way both of you can heal and move on properly.
Stay strong!
Zan
I used to wonder before why he wouldn’t talk to me and since he said we can still be friends. It used to hurt me. But now, I am just so thankful. Somehow I am thankul for how he acted. Because not talking to him had actually helped me to lose hope that we can still get back together. And it’s okay. 🙂
Hi Jes.
You’ve come a long way as no hope is the best feeling after the breakup.
I’m happy about your recovery.
Best,
Zan