My Ex Has A New Girlfriend, Does He Miss Me?

When your ex breaks up with you and gets a new girlfriend, it’s almost impossible for your ex to miss you and think about getting back with you. Your ex is just too occupied with his new girlfriend.

He’s infatuated with the girl (in a love stage) and can’t crave an ex from the past when he’s detached and eager to focus on the present.

Your ex can miss you only if he still has feelings for you or if something goes horribly wrong in his new relationship or private life. That’s when he could remember the good times, become nostalgic about them, and miss you even though he’s still with someone new.

But if your ex’s relationship just started and they’re still getting to know each other, the odds of something going wrong and missing you are low. Your ex and his new girlfriend are in love and wear rose-tinted glasses, which is why they don’t focus on each other’s flaws and weaknesses.

They focus only on the good qualities and positive habits because those are the things that make them feel loved and certain that the relationship has a future.

So if your ex has a new girlfriend and you’re wondering whether your ex misses you, it pains me to tell you that he doesn’t miss you. At least not yet because your ex is keen on getting to know his new girlfriend and living in the present moment.

He’ll most likely continue doing that for as long as his relationship is new and stress-free.

The topic of this post is “My ex has a new girlfriend, does he miss me?” We’ll talk about why your ex doesn’t miss you right now and what your ex needs to miss you, crave you, and redevelop feelings for you.

My ex has a new girlfriend, does he miss me

I’m sure you remember how exciting it feels when someone you like takes a romantic interest in you and gives you love and attention. It feels as if you’re the luckiest person on the planet and that you can do and achieve anything.

And that’s exactly how your ex feels right now. He’s on top of the world because for the first time in a long time, he feels understood, accepted, reciprocated, and cared for. He doesn’t just think that his new girlfriend is a good match for him, but feels that way too.

Your ex is empowered with love hormones – the emotions people feel when they fall in love. These emotions blind your ex and cause him to think only about himself and the person making him feel elated.

So as long as your ex’s relationship is new and exciting, don’t expect your ex to miss you and desire you as much as you desire him. It won’t happen. Your ex has to first give his new partner a try and get through the infatuation phase.

When he gets through it, that’s when the fairy tale will come to an end—and they’ll be forced to face reality and deal with the struggles that come with it. They’ll put their personality, relationships skills, and overall maturity to the test and see if they’re compatible long-term.

Of course, there’s always a chance that your ex and his new girlfriend will break up after a month or two before things get serious, but don’t pin your hopes on in. That tends to happen to couples who are incompatible, underdeveloped, or emotionally incapable of connecting with each other.

Such couples aren’t ready to date anyone (not just each other) and need to focus on processing their pasts and improving themselves before they can have a successful relationship with someone new.

Whether your ex misses you when he has a girlfriend, therefore, really depends on how ready and willing he is to be with this new person. If he’s rebounding with her because you broke up with him, he most likely misses you a lot because she serves as a distraction.

She’s someone he hangs out with because she mends his wounds.

But if your ex was the one who broke up with you, then it’s unlikely that his new girlfriend is a rebound because your ex detached from you a long time ago. He lost his feelings and moved forward with his life because that’s what he’s been dreaming of doing for quite some time.

In that case, you should keep your distance and let your ex be. You mustn’t get involved in his new relationship or you’ll make things worse and get hurt.

Here are 5 reasons why your ex can’t miss you when he has a new girlfriend.

Will my ex miss me if he has a new girlfriend?

I know you want your ex to miss you. You probably want him to miss you even more because he has a new girlfriend he’s close to, but try to overcome your fears and assess the situation. It’s hard, but try to relax for a minute (or longer) and think rationally. What you want is for your ex to miss you even though he’s planning a future with his new partner.

He has a connection with this woman and wants to make something out of it. He’s into her. And you want him to just stop what he’s doing and focus on you.

That, unfortunately, won’t happen when you want it to. It especially won’t happen if you’re making post-breakup mistakes such as and begging and pleading and preventing your ex from living his life.

You must understand that your ex won’t miss you if you present yourself as a clingy, desperate ex-girlfriend who won’t let go. Desperation just won’t attract your ex. It will repulse him and consequently, push him closer to his new girlfriend.

So as difficult as this breakup has been for you, let your ex focus on his new relationship and the benefits he can gain from it. Let him be happy with her because the less you stand in his way, the fewer negative emotions he’ll associate with you, and the less you’ll push him away and embarrass yourself.

When you give him the freedom he fancies, he’ll be satisfied. But so will you because you’ll detach from him and realize it’s a waste of time to chase after someone who’s dating someone else. You’ll have better things to obsess about.

Anyway, here are some things you shouldn’t do when your ex starts dating someone new:

• cry, beg, threaten
• stay in touch with your ex
• contact his new girlfriend
• tell your friends to convince your ex to come back
• guilt trip your ex
• tag your ex on social media
• or annoy your ex in any way, shape, or form

If you want your ex to view you as the person you were throughout the relationship, you must preserve your worth and show your ex that you have the strength to move on.

That could one day be the incentive for returning to you when your ex encounter issues bigger than he can handle.

How to make your ex miss you when he has a new girlfriend?

First of all, you can’t make your ex miss you by force. Your ex’s feelings for you have nothing to do with what you do and. They have everything to do with what his new relationship is like and how you carry yourself after the breakup.

By “carry yourself,” I don’t mean that you need to communicate with your ex or entertain your ex when he reaches out to you. That’s not going to increase your worth and make you look desirable in your ex’s eyes.

What will make you desirable, however, is staying as far away from your ex as possible. And that’s because space will portray high self-esteem, self-control, maturity, and most of all, an ability to create your own happiness and well-being.

It will show your ex that you don’t need anyone but yourself. And that’s enough to pique your ex’s interest when sh*t hits the fan.

So really, all you have to do is be on your best behavior and wait for something to destroy your ex’s relationship. Of course, don’t just sit tight and do nothing, but do take your focus off your ex and put it on yourself.

Doing so will give your ex the time to explore his relationship and encounter issues.

Issues like:

• arguments
• gender differences
• communication difficulties
• trust issues
• different expectations and plans for the future
• addictions
• sex issues
• controlling, clingy, or needy behavior
• misperceptions
• different approaches to money
• stressors
• depression
• pressure from responsibilities
• and taking the relationship for granted

A lot can go wrong when new couples sail through the infatuation phase and show their true nature. That’s why you must step back and give your ex enough space and time to fight his own battles.

The more issues your ex encounters and the more they affect him emotionally, the less likely it is that your ex’s relationship will develop into something strong and long-lasting.

So don’t try to prove that you’re better than his new girlfriend and let the silence do the talking instead. Let it show your ex that you’re a strong person who can handle the breakup confidently and maturely.

That will leave a good impression on your ex whereas begging or reasoning with your ex will smother your ex and decrease your worth.

Remember that if your relationship with your ex was good for the most part that your ex might realize your worth when he gets submerged in problems and needs someone better to rely on.

He might start to desire your affection and get attached to you again.

But if the relationship wasn’t very good and his new relationship is decent or just so-so, then it’s unlikely that your ex will choose you. He won’t have a reason to because people don’t leave relationships to go back to an ex who’s worse or similar to their current partner.

They leave them only when their new partner is much worse, if they’re still attached to their ex, or if they get dumped and need a shoulder to lean on.

Bear that in mind so that so you don’t keep wondering if your ex misses you when he has a girlfriend and appears happy in his new relationship.

Your ex will miss parts of you/the relationship when his relationship ages

Your ex’s new relationship will eventually get old. And when it does, your ex will become vulnerable to stress and anxiety and miss certain parts of the past. It might take your ex a while, but if you were a nice person (better or more memorable than your ex’s new partner in some ways), your ex will compare those parts to the new girlfriend and miss them.

He’ll think about them and may even reach out to you to indulge in nostalgia.

It’s important that you know how to react to your ex’s reach out so you don’t get hopeful and think that your ex has come back for you. Although that could be the case, it’s much more likely that your ex will contact you just to see how you feel about him and find out what you’ve been up to.

Once he’s found out though, your ex will probably disappear for a while. He won’t have a reason to keep chatting because he’ll have a girlfriend to do that with.

So to avoid getting breadcrumbed by your ex and lead on, keep in mind that your ex won’t miss you as much as you may think he will. He’ll miss you (and I mean really miss you) only if his relationship is struggling or if he has issues that his new girlfriend can’t or won’t help him with.

That’s when your ex-boyfriend might leave his new relationship or cheat on his girlfriend with you. But if that happens, your boyfriend will create a lot of new problems. Problems only dumpees who take their exes back have to deal with.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Learn more about me or get in touch today.