He Blocked Me, Will He Come Back?

If your ex blocked you, you’re probably looking for hope that he’ll come back. You want to know that the relationship isn’t over yet or forever and that he’ll regret breaking up with you and blocking you.

Deep inside, you know that blocking is disrespectful and that your ex is angry and/or disgusted by you, but that doesn’t stop you from feeling anxious and hopeful. The breakup has taken you by surprise, so you can’t help but feel powerless. You probably want your ex back more now that your ex has blocked you because your ex has affected the way you see yourself and what you want out of life.

He made you think that you’re not worthy of his time and recognition and that you need to earn his trust back. The truth though, is that it’s the other way around. Your ex needs to earn your trust back for hurting you. He has to change a lot about himself, starting with his grudge, anger, respect, trust, and perhaps even fears.

If your ex blocked you because you wouldn’t leave him alone after the breakup, he probably did it because he felt uncomfortable with you. He felt that you needed him to survive the breakup and/or that blocking you would help him cut off the past and focus on the future.

It’s difficult to say if he’ll ever come back after he’s blocked you because blocking and unblocking don’t decide whether your ex will return. The things that truly matter are the mistakes you make after the breakup and your ex-boyfriend’s ability to process negative emotions, perceptions, fears, and problems.

Besides, even if your ex unblocks you today, it’s unlikely that he’ll get back with you right away. Most dumpers unblock when they realize they went too far with the blocking and that their ex deserves more respect than they’ve given their ex.

They tend to come back much later after they’ve lived their life independently of their ex for a while and hit a snag that helps them realize what they had was good and that they were foolish for thinking they could be happier without their ex.

So if your ex blocked you and you’re wondering if he’ll come back, bear in mind that it could take your ex quite some time to unblock you. Some dumpers unblock days after blocking whereas most dumpers unblock weeks or months later. Only the most bitter dumpers leave their exes blocked for years.

But those dumpers normally feel very bitter and aren’t capable of letting go of the past. Usually, it’s because their exes annoy them a lot or take revenge on them. They do something that makes it unsafe, unhealthy, or unwise for them to reach out and have normal conversations.

Of course, there exist dumpers who simply cut off their dumpees for practically little to no reason, but you don’t want those dumpers in your life, anyway. If they cut you off just because they’re no longer with you, it may be best for you to forget about them and move on.

You can’t change people’s mentalities and behavior through sheer will. Only they can do that if they really want to.

This article will discuss if he’ll come back after blocking.

Why did he block me after the breakup?

If your ex blocked you, his actions shocked you and hurt you. They probably made you think that the blocking complicated the reconciliation process and that your ex is in no rush to get back to you.

That may, unfortunately, be true because when an ex blocks you your ex certainly doesn’t show that he or she loves you. Sure, some people in relationships block each other during arguments, but they don’t do that out of love. They do it because they can’t handle each other’s differences and the way they make each other feel.

Normally, they block each other for a day or two and then go back to their usual selves until the situation repeats itself.

In breakups (not temporary fakeups), however, blocking usually lasts much longer. Dumpers feel so bitter and tired of their ex-partner that they can’t overcome negative emotions in a matter of days. That’s because they’re not just feeling exhausted from the end of the relationship but also relieved from finally ending the commitment with their partner.

They’re dealing with two emotions that appear to be conflicting at first (relief and exhaustion), but dumpers only deal with one emotion at a time. They either feel relieved when their ex leaves them alone or they feel smothered and exhausted when their ex contacts them and disrupts their relief, peace, and independence.

If your ex blocked you, it’s evident that your ex feels some unwanted emotion even if you didn’t say or do anything wrong. You don’t need to annoy your ex directly by begging and pleading to make your ex want to block you.

Sometimes the thought of you reaching out, posting something on social media, and showing your ex that you’re still around can cause the dumper to feel extremely uncomfortable and make him push you out of his life.

So don’t assume it’s just your behavior that can get you blocked by your ex. It’s also your ex’s perception of you that can do that. And your ex’s perception may not have anything to do with what you’re doing today. Your ex’s perception is a part of your ex’s belief system, maturity, and ways of understanding things for which you can’t take responsibility.

If you do, you’ll blame yourself for no reason and make healing much more difficult for yourself.

The picture below illustrates why people block others.

Will he ever come back if he blocked me?

Obviously, before a guy can come back, he has to unblock you. He has to understand that blocking you was unnecessary as you never threatened him or his loved ones. You were just being yourself and that was too much for him to handle.

So to unblock you, he’s going to have to do his own things for a while. He’s going to have to enjoy life without you and forget about the issues between you two. When he does finally forget, he’ll likely unblock you and leave it at that. He probably won’t have a reason to speak with you just yet.

However, when he becomes curious about you or needs something from you, he could finally reach out and try to get it from you. Most guys reach out because of guilt, shame, worry, anxiety, fear, curiosity, and boredom. Sometimes they want help with something and they don’t necessarily express that.

Talking with their ex alone is oftentimes enough for them to appease guilt and find out how their ex is doing.

Whether your ex will ever come back after blocking you depends on so many things, starting with whether the guy is mature and capable of forgiving you and letting go of the past. If he tends to hold grudges and blame people for his lack of respect and love, the guy may never see you in a better light.

He may continue seeing himself as a victim and refusing to grow in ways that he needs to.

Always remember that a guy who resents you/thinks poorly of you needs to undergo a personal transformation. And he can undergo it if something unpleasant and painful happens to him that motivates or forces him to make some changes.

The sad thing is that people don’t grow without a reason to grow. They either consciously decide to change their thoughts and behavior or they feel forced to do that. The latter tends to have quicker and better results as ultimatums and strong emotions incentivize people the most.

So if you’re hoping for your ex to come back after blocking you, figure out how likely it is that your ex will realize his mistakes or fail in some painful way because he isn’t prepared for life without you. These are the two most important things that determine your ex’s return.

You’ll never be 100% certain that your ex will unblock you as people can be unpredictable, but you can probably make an accurate assumption.

Will blocking him get him back?

Some dumpees think they should block their ex back and show strength, but there’s no point in doing that. Blocking your ex won’t hurt your ex’s ego and make your ex want you back. That’s because your ex won’t care or even know that he’s blocked. He might find out about it one day when/if he unblocks you, but other than that, it won’t trigger your ex’s old feelings for you.

All it will do is make you stoop to your ex’s level and show that you’re not the breakup.

Instead of blocking your ex, delete your ex’s number and unfollow your ex on social media. That way, you won’t see what your ex is doing and accidentally message or call your ex. You’ll just focus on yourself and gradually stop obsessing over your ex.

I know that right now you feel like responding to your ex’s blocking in some way, but not responding is even better. It tells your ex that you’ve got your life under control and that you won’t pester your ex about the blocking.

So if your ex blocked you and you’re wondering whether he will come back, try not to worry about that at this moment. It will likely take him some time to unblock you and find a reason to converse with you. But when he finally processes the breakup and finds that reason, rest assured that he’ll contact you.

That’s when you’ll have to decide if your ex’s reach-out was a breadcrumb or a way for him to get back into a relationship with you.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Learn more about me or get in touch today.