Has An Ex Ever Come Back After Marrying Someone Else?

Some people ask me if an ex has ever come back after marrying someone else. They want to know if married exes come back and if their ex will divorce their partner and return to them afterward.

If you’re one of those people and you badly want your married ex to come back to you, you need to know that some exes indeed come back after marrying someone else. They have a change of heart.

But it usually takes them so long that their hopeful exes lose feelings for them and fall in love with someone else.

They completely forget about their dumpers because they get tired of waiting for a married ex who’s unavailable to them. They just want to move on and be happy now and not in 5 years.

And that’s how it should be. Waiting for a married ex to come back is not just unhealthy but also a complete waste of time. It’s the worst thing you can do to yourself if you’re grieving because it makes you obsessed with your ex, keeps you in the past, and prevents you from enjoying your life.

Although your ex could come back if something goes badly wrong in the relationship, it will take your ex and his or her husband or wife a long time for things to go wrong. They’ll have to disagree, argue, or take each other for granted before they neglect each other’s love and break up.

So don’t think that exes come back quickly after getting married. Those who get married usually work on their marriage and at least try to make things work. They don’t give up after a few months. Not very often.

Some newlyweds refuse to divorce even though they have issues and are miserable. They believe that divorce isn’t an option and that they must persevere. Such couples often prolong the divorce and stay unhappy in their marriage longer than they should.

This means that you could wait a very long time for your ex to divorce. You could wait so long that you completely detach from your ex and find happiness without your ex.

One thing you should keep in mind is that even if your ex divorces, there’s no guarantee that your ex will come back to you. He or she could move forward rather than backward and date someone new. Someone your ex has never met before and knows nothing about.

In this post, we’ll talk about if an ex has ever come back after marrying someone else. We’ll discuss what types of exes come back after the breakup and what you need to do to be happy and maximize the chances of allowing your ex to come back.

Has an ex ever come back after marrying someone else?

If you’re wondering if exes ever come back after marrying someone else, the quick answer is yes. People sometimes break up with their long-term partner, jump into a rebound relationship with someone new and marry that person after a few months.

Such exes have the highest chances of coming back because they get married on impulse – on a high. They don’t understand that they won’t always feel so lovey-dovey and that life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows.

After a while, their love hormones are biologically designed to decrease. And that’s when they’re forced to face reality and turn back to their usual selves.

If they’re developed as people and know how to handle differences and arguments, they usually make their relationship stronger. But if they fall short in the personal growth department and react to stressors and disagreements impulsively, they tend to make their partner feel worse and gradually lose love and attraction.

This means that some things are out of your control. You can’t control how developed your ex and his or her partner are as people and you can’t control how eager they are to work on themselves and their marriage. They are the only ones who know how ready they are for a serious commitment and how likely it is that they’ll succeed.

For your ex to come back after marrying someone else, your ex essentially needs to:

1. Neglect personal development and marriage and argue with his or her significant other.
2. View you in a positive light and crave your attention after his or her failure.

Now, you can’t do much about the way your ex’s relationship works, but you can do a lot about making sure your ex respects you and sees you as a reliable dating candidate. You can do that by leaving your ex alone and proving you respect yourself.

Will my ex’s marriage fail?

If you think about it, more than 50% of marriages fail these days. People just don’t have the patience, strength, and willpower to stay committed anymore. They tend to give up when things get hard or when they neglect their relationship and fall out of love.

There’s just so much that can go wrong in a marriage.

Couples can:

• argue and bicker
• disagree and refuse to listen to each other
• fail to meet each other’s expectations
• forget to water the relationship
• get GIGS: the grass is greener syndrome and take each other for granted
• become depressed
• let themselves go
• talk to other people and focus on their marriage’s bad points

My intention isn’t to scare anyone who’s happily married as I know some of you reading this are anxious and have trust issues. All I want is to encourage you to be self-aware so you know what’s happening to you and your relationship. If you’re aware of what can go wrong, you can work on it and hopefully encourage your partner to do the same.

Your married ex, however, may not be so mindful of these relationship killers. He or she could just put his or her trust in the universe and think that it will be if it’s meant to be.

The truth is that it indeed will be if it’s meant to be, but this doesn’t mean that your ex is supposed to be happy without putting in any work. The universe doesn’t reward laziness.

It rewards those who work on improving themselves and growing with their partner.

This means that most if not all the success in your ex’s marriage is dependent on your ex’s and his or her partner’s personal growth and the willingness to keep growing and working together in the future.

It’d be impossible for me to answer if your ex’s marriage will be successful for many years to come, but if anyone knows your ex, it’s you. You know what your ex is like as a person and how eager he or she is to outgrow his or her old self.

So for now, ask yourself the following questions:

• Is my ex a mature and healthy person?
• Is he or she committed to self-development?
• Does my ex have what it takes to stay loyal?
• Does my ex have sufficient self-control, relationship skills, and moral values
• How does my ex handle arguments, disagreements, and temptations?
• How does my ex respond to suffocation, guilt, regret, and criticism?
• What are my ex’s thinking and behavioral patterns like? Are they accepted and respected by our society?

Then, there’s also your ex’s partner. Your ex’s spouse also comes with vices and shortcomings, which means that he or he will also have certain fears, expectations, doubts, and issues that he or she neglected or couldn’t fix yet.

So know that their relationship won’t be as magical as you may think. It will likely start strongly because they’ll be infatuated with each other, but they won’t stay that elated forever.

Eventually, they’ll stop feeling that excited and start facing certain issues and challenges that they previously swept under the rug.

What can I do to make my ex come back after the divorce?

You should know that your ex likely won’t divorce his or her spouse just to get back with you. Your ex will first divorce and then figure out what to do depending on how you portray yourself and how your ex perceives you.

How your ex perceives you will likely depend on your ex’s emotional state. If your ex gets hurt and needs someone to talk to and bond with, your ex could confide in you and develop feelings for you again. But if your ex doesn’t get hurt, then your ex could just move on and date someone.

Keep that in mind so you keep your expectations low.

Anyway, the thing that you have control over is how you portray yourself, so focus on that for now. Protect your image because what you do after the breakup to show you’re self-sufficient and ready to enjoy your life could leave a good impression on your ex whereas begging with your ex and making breakup mistakes could make your ex resent you.

So first things first, stay away from your ex. Don’t call or text your ex and do your best to respect your ex’s new relationship. You may not want your ex to be happy without you, but if you want your ex to think fondly of you now and especially in the future (after they separate or divorce), you have to be strong and show it doesn’t bother you.

You have to act cool and give your ex’s relationship room to grow.

If you show that you’re upset and try to get between your ex and his or her partner, you’ll just appear demanding and push them towards each other. That’s why you must give them space and focus on yourself.

You must:

• refuse friendship and stop talking to your ex (do no contact)
• avoid breakup mistakes
• improve your flaws
• grow as a person
• get closure
• get over the breakup
• find your peace and happiness
• and eventually date other people

As we’ve discussed earlier, waiting for your ex who may or may not divorce is a waste of time. You probably disagree, but there are many better-suited people for you out there that will make you feel better than your ex. You just don’t know that they exist because you’re heartbroken and fixated on your ex.

So don’t limit yourself to one person. Keep an eye open for other people who are ready for a relationship and willing to give you much more than your married ex can.

I know it’s hard to stop thinking about your ex, but the only reason you’re thinking about your ex is that you’re hurt and see your ex as your savior. You’ve put your ex high up on a pedestal and therefore need to distance yourself from your ex so you can heal and fall in love with yourself again.

To recap, here’s what your ex needs to come back after marrying someone else.

How long will it take my ex to come back?

Some people divorce their partners after 20 years and go back to their ex while some stay happily or unhappily married. It’s impossible to speculate if and when your ex will come back because we don’t know what your ex’s relationship is like. We don’t know if they argue a lot or if they have what it takes to meet each other halfway and work on the relationship.

If they got married within a year or so after breaking up with you, all we know is that they rushed things and appear to be happy together.

Mind you that almost all couples are happy for a few months after meeting each other. Their happiness is also extended by another month or so if they get married and do things that bring them closer. But once they go through those bonding stages, they stop riding the highs of a new relationship and become their usual selves.

That’s when they show what they’re made of and how compatible they are with each other long-term.

So if you want your married ex to come back, know that it won’t happen when you want it to. It might not happen at all because your ex will have to fail badly in his or her marriage and then come back to you for comfort and safety.

The only way your ex would come back is if you exude desirable traits such as confidence and self-esteem and show your ex that you don’t need him or her. That could show that you respect your ex’s relationship and that you’ve got better things and people to focus on.

Some people say that exes come back when you moved on, but I think that they come back when you’ve found happiness and they haven’t. That’s when they contact you and see if you’re still available and interested in them.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.