When your ex dumps you unexpectedly, you need to understand that your ex didn’t dump you out of nowhere for no reason. It’s much more likely that your ex just didn’t tell you about the things that bothered him because your ex didn’t know how to communicate properly.
Your ex just expected you to know what he thinks and feels, so he bottled up all the negative thoughts and feelings and refused to communicate. By doing so, your ex took his hands off the wheel and focused on everything that was making him unhappy.
As a result of negligence, your ex created feelings of resentment and lost feelings for you. And that’s when he realized that you’re not on the same page anymore and that it’s better to break up and spend some time apart.
You see, breaking up with you wasn’t what your ex initially hoped for. But it soon became the only thing that would free your ex and make him feel in control of his life again. There was just too much negativity such as anger and contempt in the air for your ex to think rationally and stay in love with you.
That’s why your ex did what most dumpers do. Your ex continued to focus on your negative qualities and the negative aspects of the relationship and let the relationship go in whichever direction it wanted to go.
Naturally, the relationship went south. It couldn’t go any other way because relationships take two to tango.
I’d like to point out that your ex didn’t maintain his relationship, nor did he give you a chance to talk to him and look for a viable solution. He just ignored the problem and let it snowball into a bigger problem.
All in all, you were both responsible for taking care of the relationship. Your ex was responsible for sharing his difficulties with you and you were responsible for handling them maturely.
But because you were never told about them, the relationship fell apart before you even got the chance to talk about them. This means that your ex wasn’t a very good communicator. Instead of expressing himself, he just kept things inside him and pondered about them for so long that he reached a boiling point, exploded, and made you feel responsible for the breakup.
Unfortunately, this happens to many couples.
The emotionally stronger person with more power in a relationship tends to start feeling victimized – underappreciated or misunderstood, so he leaves because his partner can’t fulfill his unexpressed desires and needs (expectations).
Relationships that are so imbalanced are doomed to fail from the beginning. Couples just can’t find a healthy solution before their relationship breaks apart at the core. Only couples who understand the dynamics of a healthy relationship and communicate with each other grow stronger with time.
So if you’re dealing with being dumped unexpectedly, whatever you do, don’t blame yourself. The breakup may have hit you by surprise and hurt you badly, but it doesn’t mean that you’re to be blamed for it.
You’re likely much less responsible for the breakup than your ex is because your ex decided to hold self-destructive emotions to himself and refused to communicate before unhappiness turned into resentment.
The subject of today’s post is dealing with being dumped unexpectedly. I hope you find some solace in this post if your ex left you out of the blue.
Although this article is written for women, bear in mind that the same information and advice applies to men.
Dealing with being dumped unexpectedly
The best way to deal with being dumped unexpectedly is to remind yourself that your ex withheld a lot of things from you. Not only did he refuse to communicate about the things that bothered him, but he also hid his unhealthy emotions and allowed them to develop into resentment and a need for space.
Had he taken care of himself emotionally and understood how important it is not to feel victimized in a relationship, he could have kept his emotions under control and prevented them from ruining his love for you.
But because he left his thoughts to wander freely and emotions to boil without regulation, he gradually grew his unhealthy emotions and became distant. That was when he realized that space eases his anger and frustration and makes him happier than he’s been in a long time.
If you want to get back with your ex after getting dumped unexpectedly, you need to know that your ex has to go through the stages of a dumper first. He has to experience a life without you, cool off, let go of his anger/resentment, and find a reason to love you and stay in love with you.
If he just comes back without addressing his issues and improving himself, chances are that your relationship will meet the same fate. It will break because of underdeveloped thinking patterns, communication, and perceptions.
So whether you want your ex back or not, don’t try to rush your ex by doing something to change his mind about you. If you do that, you won’t encourage your ex to get back with you, but push him further away and make him crave space even more.
The only way your ex could desire you and choose to be with you is if you give your ex space and let him live freely. That could allow your ex to stop resenting you/thinking poorly of you and inspire him to deal with his own issues.
If your ex’s personal issues are bigger than the issues he faced with you, he’ll likely return to you when he realizes that he was also responsible for the breakup. But if his issues aren’t very big and he finds his happiness on his own or with someone else, then he likely won’t be back soon.
He’ll probably focus on himself and date other people for a while.
Of course, that’s not to say that he won’t ever come back. He certainly could, but it would likely take him a long time before he gets hurt, reflects, and realizes he’s made a big mistake.
With that said, let’s now talk about how to deal with being dumped unexpectedly.
How to deal with being dumped unexpectedly?
If your ex dumped you suddenly without a warning and you’re now grieving over the loss of your relationship, don’t do what your broken heart tells you to do. Don’t beg and plead with your ex because that will make you look weak and miserable.
It will also ruin your ex’s already poor image of you and make reconciliation much harder in the process.
If you still love your ex and think your ex deserves another chance, you must act as if the breakup doesn’t affect you. It’s the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do, but you have to be strong and exude confidence and high self-esteem.
The better you portray yourself and the stronger you appear, the higher the chances that your ex will see you as an equal and return to you when something unpredictable and painful happens to your ex.
The good thing about all of this is that you probably won’t care about your ex much longer. If you focus on yourself and handle the breakup properly (with confidence and strength), you’ll get over the breakup and no longer depend on your ex for emotional health and well-being.
You’ll find your own happiness and fall in love with yourself.
To reach this point of detachment, you’ll, of course, have to focus on losing hope and getting over your ex. You’ll have to stop analyzing your ex’s social media and figure out how to live a more productive and happier life.
If there are things about you that need improving, this is obviously a good time to do some soul-searching and make some changes. You’ll likely never get your self-esteem destroyed like this again (which is an opportunity to grow), so make use of your breakup and develop yourself in every way possible.
Make some new friends, become physically healthier/fitter, learn more about yourself and relationships, and live with purpose.
Your ex will never come back if he sees that you’re miserable and pining over him like an obsessed person. He won’t have anything to gain from you if you desire him so badly, so he’ll keep moving on and get together with someone who can contribute to his life.
The key to dealing with an unexpected breakup is to respond confidently to it. “Confidently”, doesn’t mean that you don’t get unaffected and hurt, but that you remain in control of the things you say and do because of the pain your ex has caused you.
Some dumpees get so hurt that they cry, beg, threaten, cry, and take revenge. Such dumpees don’t heal from the heartbreak, nor attract their ex back. They achieve the opposite as they give their ex more of that which their ex doesn’t want and repulse their ex.
This is why they hurt themselves in the process and push their ex miles away.
So if you want your ex to like you and have respect for you, there are certain things you mustn’t do. You mustn’t show your desperate side and prove that you need your ex to function properly. The only way you’ll impress your ex and gain his respect is if you deal with your unexpected breakup maturely, confidently, and swiftly by accepting it on the spot and walking away.
It’s what your ex needs and must get in order to let go of unhealthy associations and think more fondly of you.
Here are 8 things to do if you’re dealing with being dumped unexpectedly.
Get busy and focus on yourself
Unexpected breakups are hard at first, but they get easier with time. How difficult they are depends on your self-esteem and how attached you were to your ex. If you didn’t have many friends, hobbies, and activities to keep you busy and your life revolved around your ex, you’re most likely going to suffer terribly. You’ll experience painful withdrawals and take a very long time to get over your ex.
But if your self-esteem is decent and/or you’ve been broken up with before, you’ll get over your romantic rejection much quicker. It will probably take you 8 months or so to get over your ex because that’s how long it usually takes people who follow the rules of no contact to get their ex out of their system.
Nobody can say when you’ll get over your ex because that depends on your coping mechanism and the things you do to keep yourself busy. So whatever you do, don’t plan to be over your ex by a certain date. People who set their expectations too high and gamble with their emotional health often suffer more because of it.
It’s best to be realistic, patient, and take it one day at a time. Deal with the breakup pain as it comes and stay optimistic that you’ll get over your ex and find love and happiness again.
There are 5 stages of a breakup for the dumpee and 3 stages of no contact you’ll go through if you decide to start no contact. My advice is to learn more about these stages, so you know what to expect on your journey to recovery.
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I had a unique situation (I think). I’m a female, 62. He is a male, 59. He was a handyman that came onto me royally. Sent me unusually sexual pictures of himself, even two weeks before he dumped me. I began to see that he was an exhibitionist. He was a textbook case. Anyway, I’m married and my husband has dementia. He had been divorced 3x already and living at his exes house allegedly with no sex. He had no intention of marrying again, and I had no intention of divorcing my husband. He lived in a state where I keep an empty home. We texted for four months very sexually. He was apparently an expert on this. It was my first time and mostly to satisfy his need for this. His ex repeatedly kicked him out of her home. If fact, he was living in a tent by daughter’s residence for a bit. I felt sorry for him. I had tenants in my home at that moment. I went to the house upon tenants leaving. We had sex. I could tell he was very hungry for it and either had not had sex in a while or was not being satisfied sexually by someone. I went back home. More texting. I came back again…Same thing, but he was giving me a negative vibe. I ignored it. Went home. More texting, but amount back decreasing. He said he loved me. Was going down again. He said he would have to go to a friends for 3 days during that time (a week). I was ok with it but a bit disappointed he could not put that off til when I was gone. Did I mention, he asked to move into my empty home and I said ok. He was uncomfortable with the security cameras inside my home that were turned off. I said unplug them if they bother you, he did not. The texting back went to almost nothing. He began removing the xo at the end of his brief texts. I got pissed and texted some things such as he was like a prostitute (dated older rich women in the past), his exes were average, he wanted to be with younger women not older women, etc…. Well I was going back again and he said he would be very busy. Then he said just 3 of 10 days busy. I was texting him a lot…bad time in my life. No response really to say. I decided not to text him for a day. Next day said, I’m here, everything is still the same, nothing changed. To which he replied, it was not the same, he was seeing someone. He was thinking about us…and the situation and he is getting older needs to settle with someone and he cannot wait for me. I don’t think he had anyone. I think he was pissed by what I had texted. I said well I guess you will be out of the home before I come down then…to which he did not reply, but moved out in two days of that week. He was pissed and made angry faces into the security cameras that I told him I would turn on as he was moving his stuff out. I apologized profusely and begged and pleaded for him to return. He only responded once with a Good Morning. He needed some ego stroking and that is why I did that. I would like to continue the relationship, but not sure if I can stand his drama. I have a lot going on now. He has not read all of my texts or has with read receipt off at times. I am going to give him more space now and see if he comes back. What are your thoughts…It is three weeks since sudden breakup.
Hi Carol.
I think this person was with you just to fulfill his sexual needs. He hadn’t been with anyone for a while prior to seeing you, so he used you for his selfish gain. The moment he met someone new, he pursued her and neglected his relationship with you. This whole thing didn’t last long, right? If it lasted less than half a year, there was no love. It was lust that quickly dissipated.
I know you’re attached to him, but you should be glad he’s gone. He can’t contribute to your life in ways you want him to. Everything he did was for him. He even moved into your place because he had no place to live. I bet he found another woman to move in with and bother.
Stay away from him. No more begging him and hurting yourself. Always remember that guys who come on strong are there for themselves, not you. Especically if they lose interest quickly.
Kind regards,
Zan
I initially turned him down and then he told me he was just going to return to the woman he was seeing for three years prior to me then. He had previously told me she had broken up with him so how could he easily return. I did see him immediately after having sex with him in her driveway. This was just a chance I ran across this…he immediately texted me and said she had called for him to check out her roof…he wanted to remain her friend (she gave him her credit card) and said I could not change that. He said they had no sex anymore. I would not have had sex with him if I knew he was having sex with someone else or even just a close relationship. It is like rape by deception or it is rape by deception. I could not give accurate consent without knowing some of these facts…That’s a crime. I told him this and that is probably why his texts stopped. I scared him. Ugh. You know I thought he was cute but when I look at his pics…he is not really. Even sexually, he was like a flash in the pan. He had a rehearsed show he put on that no one in the entire world could possibly repeat over and over. It’s sad. I feel sorry for him and would like to help him but I think this all came from his upbringing where he had to survive on his own. Relationships mean money to him. At 59, not sure this can be unraveled in his persona. Ugh.
Hi Carol.
Let him take care of his issues on his own. As his ex, you’re not responsible for fixing him. He needs to find the will to do it. Sadly, I don’t see that happening anytime soon. he’s got other people he’s interested in who validate him and kill his urge to self-invest.
Take some time to yourself and you’ll get through this, Carol.
Best regards,
Zan
Thank you Zan. I am trying. The ridiculous part is I am 62. You would think at this age, I would know better. I told him at the end via text that true love is penniless and more satisfying than a relationship based on money. I suggested he try that. I agree with you that he won’t try that cause he still has an audience of lonely older rich women that will pay for his services. At 59, time is running out for him and I would coextensive to see him now with a sick older woman. I guess I’ll see the story on 20:20 or dateline at some point….lol
Hi Carol.
If he continues down this path, he’ll keep getting negative results. He needs to change his approach if he wants to find true love, and keep it.
Best wishes,
Zan
i spend 2 months of xmas at my ex with her family. she seemed off for a while already. and i kept asking her if there was something wrong. or if she still loved me. and she would keep telling me she loved me and wanted me so i would just write her behaviour down to her depression and support her and i was there for her when she completely crashed on new years eve (realization of the next year made her crash and make her feel like a failure) and i did nothing but be there for her and support her. a full month of her sleeping 16-20hrs a day (chronic fatigue syndrom) and me spending all that time alone in her house (LDR) without any real love from her and me just giving her mine. when i had to go back home she hugged me and pleaded for me to come back to her as she kissed me intensely. i now know not even a day later she started talking to another guy and she has dumped me a month after leaving her , even tho we talked every day and she kept telling me she loved me and wanted a future with me. only to tell me she needed time and space to work on herself (while spending it with this new guy) and i panicked and did everything i shouldnt have done post breakup.
im now blocked on everything by her and she is spending time with her new love interest.
if she had fading feelings i could’ve understood but the not mentioning any problems and she kept telling me she loved me. made this such a deeply traumatizing experience for me. not sure how to move past it.
Hi Cd.
She wanted to feel better by talking to this guy and getting to know him. New love interests feel empowering and can be deceiving, but this feeling doesn’t last long. Soon, she’ll face old issues again. She needs to find a solution to her problems.
I know you feel traumatized after everything you’ve done, but now it’s time to give her space. You weren’t the issue. It was her choosing immoral paths to fulfill herself emotionally.
Sincerely,
Zan
I was dumped almost 7 months ago and the first few weeks I tried to convince her back and failed. She wanted nothing to do with me except when she got rushed to the hospital about 3 weeks after dumping me, she had a coworker call me from her phone to tell me and I rushed to be at her side. I thought this would be the moment she came back to her senses and saw how much I loved her, but she only used me because I lived closer to her than her mother and she needed someone to hold her hand until her mother got there. That same night she even told me that this changed nothing about our relationship. A week after that, she told me she was moving to be closer to her mother. It was at that point I went no contact and did not reach out to her again. Another month or two later, she was gone. While she did move closer to her mom, she also ended up moving very close to the guy who is now her boyfriend (coincidence???). I am pretty certain that this guy was the real reason she moved and was why she dumped me. She held on to me to be her emotional crutch to get over the relationship and to find a replacement for me. She only made it public about 2 months ago, but when I found out I became obsessed and was gathering all the information I could. I did discover he had contact with her as he liked her profile pic she made soon after dumping me.
After 7 months I still miss her terribly and she probably doesn’t even have a thought about me. I’m sure she is probably posting constantly on FaceBook about all the things she is doing with her new bf. Her life just continued to move right along and probably got better with her new bf and my life has become completely derailed. I can’t get over the fact of how selfish she became, how quickly and easily she moved on. I been sitting here for months mourning our relationship and wishing she would come back. I see all these people find new relationships so easily and I cannot get one person to pay attention to me. I feel like I must be the most hideous man on the planet. Since the breakup, I have been working on myself and trying to fix my flaws, but I don’t even know why she dumped me as she never told me and when I asked a few times, she avoided answering the question.
All no contact has done for me is push her to another man who she probably thinks is worlds better than I ever was. It hurts so much knowing she moved on with her life and with someone else. Watch and see, she is going to end up marrying him quickly. She took my life from me and gave it to this guy. I know life isn’t fair, but for her to continue to have happiness and a life with someone else while doing most of the wrong to me and our relationship is way beyond unfair.
Hi Ed.
You can’t put yourself in more situations where she can use you for her own convenience. From now on, stay away from her and don’t do any more favors. You’re not partners anymore and must act like exes. No contact hasn’t pushed her to another man. Your ex is doing what she wants to do. Your lack of presence doesn’t influence her to move on. She’s already done that.
Focus on loving yourself, Ed and you’ll see she did you a favor.
Best,
Zan
Hi zan,
I was dumped about 14 months ago, and it was an abusive BPD relationship. I still cannot get over the situation, not particular my ex as I dont miss him anymore. But it is like caring a heavy burden from this failed relationship all the time. It triggers all my trauma from a lonely childhood. Someday I feel good, but most of the times I feel a deep sadness and weakness. Im in therapy from the first days of breakup, reading a lot about bpd relationships that ends abruptly, but I still struggling to gain back my power. this process mostly affects on my self perception. I see myself as a week person who cannot deal with a rejection after a long time. I hope you write something on why we still cannot get over a failed relationship after a long time.
you helped me a lot, Zan. Always grateful. Thanks.
My situation was different but I understand how you feel. I was ruthlessly dumped and monkey branched in the most cruel manner imaginable after 7 years and wanting marriage. I am 61, it about killed me.
My point is, seeing a therapist is good but make sure you’re seeing one that does more than just talk. Mine has been using a technique called EMDR and it really works. It’s allowed me to bury the overwhelming pain of her vicious breakup. When someone a week earlier tells you they can’t imagine life without you and then a week later shreds your heart like used paper and you learn they have been cheating and planning to move in together for months it’s hurts and it’s been a hellava burden to carrying
I might also suggest you try dating a little. There are many fine men out there who are not abusive and want to be faithful partners. I stood by her through breast cancer and my reward? Another man sleeps in my bed.
So find someone who wants to be with you because of who you are. I also listen to a song every day that helps me. Always Be Humble and Kind by Tim McGraw. I know it sounds silly but I am determined to be everything my ex wasn’t and remember, living well is the best revenge.
Best wishes,
Thanks DT for checking and sharing your experience. This documentation of healing processes will benefit many people who are struggling now. Hopefully through the process, we become greater than our suffering.
Hi Molly.
Some breakups take a long time to get over. Especially relationships where there was substance abuse, violence, or a lot of arguing.
Try to keep yourself busy, Molly. It’s the best cure for getting over any kind of breakup.
I’ll try to dedicate an article about why we can’t get over a failed relationship or squeeze it in another one.
Thanks for reading,
Zan
Thanks zan! Your articles have helped me more than words can possibly describe, thank you.
Last weekend, I watched the new series of “scenes from a marriage”. It was tough, I cried a lot, but also helped me have a better insight into these trauma-bonded relationships.
Best wishes to you,
Hi Molly.
Thanks for reading the blog. If romantic/sad movies and series hurt you, watch something more cheerful. But I don’t think they affect you in a bad way, so they should be okay.
I wish you a fast recovery!
Zan
While I can understand that no contact is a grand gesture. It’s almost impossible to do if you have kids or a business you shared with an ex. So how does one deal with that?
Hi Mark.
I wrote an article about doing No Contact Rule With Kids Involved. That post should explain how to do limited no contact.
Best regards,
Zan
Sadly, I still miss her deeply. Can never go back, never, but…
It’s okay to miss your ex, DT.
But you have to be strong and convince yourself that your ex doesn’t deserve you. She treated you with no respect at all.
Best,
Zan
I dunno, I was brutal in my emails. They say go silent, I didn’t. I called both her and that slimeball guy out. I did a lot of research and know a lot more than they think. She wanted to visit a daughter so dummy (me) bought her a airline ticket. Didn’t know he lived in the same city but had gotten a local number until after so I paid for her to spend a weekend with him. He’s as big a scumbag as her. I think they are getting married after less than 2 months. It’s unreal the stupidity of both of their decision making. She can crawl all she wants, I would never take her back. She did it once, she would do it again and I don’t like used merchandise.
Hi DT.
Your ex has no shame. She used your money to see a guy she was cheating on you with. Karma will get her. Maybe not right away, but if this is the way she is, it will eventually catch up to her.
Hang in there,
Zan
What astounds me the most is how I lived with someone 7 years and never really knew who and what they are.
I have learned lately living well is the best revenge..
Hi DT.
We get to meet our partner’s darkest colors when she no longer wants to be with us. That’s when we see how she treats people she feels angry with and repulsed by.
Livin well is the best revenge, so get over her and enjoy your life.
Kind regards,
Zan
I tell you, the cruelty of being ruthlessly monkey branched about killed me. I don’t pine for her anymore, I struggle knowing someone I thought loved me was so deceptive, so cruel and utterly without empathy. It will haunt me forever.
Hi DT.
Trust me that you’ll get over it. It will take time, but you’ll forgive her for betraying you and thank her for showing you she wasn’t the right person for you.
Stay strong!
Zan
I got a business offer tonight to die for. Her loss. It could have been all hers. I will emerge stronger and better. I post here to help others. Stand fast, the future can be brighter.
Her choice is now my gain. I am a deeply loving and caring man, I will find a partner that shares that but much more carefully.
Hi DT.
Congrats on getting that business offer. I hope it goes well for you and whomever you will share it with in the future. Also, thanks for helping others. It’s very helpful!
Kind regards,
Zan
What do we do to deserve you, Zan?
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It’s like you were part of my break up the way you explained it to them. My ex just expected you to know what he thinks and feels, so he bottled up all the negative thoughts and feelings and refused to communicate.
And he didn’t even give you a chance to talk to him and look for a viable solution as, as a result, happened what you said, “the relationship fell apart before you even got the chance to talk about them.”
I’m so happy that I found you and I will say this for life
Sending a lot of love,
Linda
You’re a good person, Linda.
You can do much better than a cheater and a liar. I hope you realize that.
Best regards,
Zan
Not all women are like that. Some men are too. They just want to keep trading up. I went back to school and now make more than he does. I lost weight, bought a high performance sports car, and moved into an expensive area of town. He can have all the nail techs and cashiers he wants now — can’t wait to see him turn into “the old man at the club” lol.
Living well is the best revenge!
Good for you! The best revenge
That’s true, Claire.
I just hope that you can forgive him for your own good and not care about who he dates.
Best regards,
Zan
Yeah, I begged the second night. It was horrible, the satanic demon I didn’t know. Don’t lower yourself. I disband I looked weak.
Being monkey branched is a destroyer of souls. I have been pretty ruthless in any communication because anyone who did the underhanded crap she pulled doesn’t deserve respect and I never want her back. Cheating, lying, moving in a new LTR partner the same day I moved out.
So don’t blame yourself. I had no clue she was capable of this. A week earlier we had made love and she told me she couldn’t imagine life without me. A week later I learned she planned this all along and he moved in and slept in my bed a week later.
She said she tried to communicate. Uhhh, no. Otherwise I would not have been clueless. I realize now how I contributed to the demise (workaholic, home body) but dang. I’m still a mess.
Let them go.
Sorry, DT. That’s absolutely horrible. That’s the sign of very emotionally immature person. My wife, who left without even a conversation about there being a problem with the marriage, two weeks after our fifth anniversary, and moved in with a new guy a few months later, was the same (I assume he was in the picture far earlier than that). If I showed you the anniversary card she gave me you you wouldn’t believe that she was unhappy or planning to run off. Our sex life was great. We had a really fun Friday night, and after an argument on Saturday she was gone. Damaged people damage others. They leave destruction in their wake. As you correctly say, let them go.
Wow, that’s a amazing story. Same here, week before was amazing. Week later, satanic demon and it was done. He moved in the day after I left. Crazy. I asked him in a email if it bothers him we made love a week earlier, he never replied but she probably lied and he thinks I was lying. I had no reason to lie. She’s trash and he got seconds. Yuk!
The same thing happened here and based on what I hear from others, it seems like a common trend. Most women are like that, unfortunately. Don’t blame yourself for one second. I did that in the beginning at first as well but soon realized that ultimately, who she really is, is an ungrateful wh*re that belongs nowhere but the street trash. She monkey branched to someone of even lower value than her. An ex that she cheated on 30 years ago. That clueless loser took her back like a desperate puppy. I wish them both everything they deserve. As for myself, I am in the best shape ever, dating a model 20 years younger. Never look back. Your future is much brighter than it might feel like when the breakup first occurs. 🖕all cheaters.
This was a ex of 40 years ago who cheated on her. I believe they were married then. She monkey branched me for him and was ruthless about it. It’s been ugly, I had been living with her for 7 years, took her through cancer, put new carpet. This jerk rubbed my face in it. I am there with you. 🖕cheaters.
With their history and personalities, don’t be surprised if she comes crawling back to you in few months