Why Did My Ex Block Me All Of A Sudden?

If your relationship ended and you’re trying to figure out why your ex blocked you, the simplest explanation is that your ex doesn’t want to talk to you and get any reminders of you.

Your ex wants to be left alone and self-prioritize after the breakup and leave the past behind.

This is true regardless of who left who and where your ex blocked you as blocking a person whether it’s an ex, a friend, or any human being shows that a person feels overwhelmed with unwanted emotions and that he or she wants to stop feeling those emotions.

Blocking is a desperate attempt for peace and quiet.

Some people think that exes block each other to bring a reaction out of each other, but that is very rarely the case. Exes tend not to care about each other that much which is why they often make a last-ditch effort to move on and focus on themselves.

It may not be something you want to hear if you’re still hoping to get another chance with your ex, but it’s the truth and it’s better that you hear it now than later. You don’t want to develop an obsessive attachment to your ex just to later find out that your ex has already moved on.

That would put set you back emotionally and also waste your precious time.

So if you’re still thinking to yourself, “Why did my ex block me,” remember that exes block each other for two reasons.

Either because they feel smothered or because they want to stop hurting.

Couples, on the other hand, block for slightly different reasons. They resort to blocking when they’re displeased with each other’s behavior and when they want more power and control in the relationship.

Such couples block each other to hurt each other and to gain control by force.

In this topic, we’ll try to answer two questions.

1) Why did my ex block me?

2)How to respond to blocking?

Those who block after the breakup either have too much or too little control over their exes. It all depends on whether they’re dumpees or dumpers.

If they’re dumpers, they have too much control because they feel:

• anger
• annoyance
• repulsion
• frustration
• and bad reminders from negative experiences/associations

If they’re dumpees, on the other hand, they lack control because they feel:

• abandoned
• separation anxiety
• nostalgic
• and a desire to protect themselves from getting hurt again

If your ex is the dumper, the reason why your ex blocked you is that the thought of you triggered unwanted emotions in your ex.

It brought out the negative, self-empowering emotions your ex has attached to your persona and made your ex want to avoid you.

Avoiding and running away from the self-created discomfort essentially does two things. It allows your ex to feel stress-free and gives him or her a chance to start afresh.

If your ex is the dumpee, however, then your ex probably blocked you out of self-protection. Your ex must be tired of hurting and wants to focus on himself or herself from now on.

Your dumpee ex will most likely need some time to forget about you. Not messaging, calling, or seeing your social media posts will help your ex regain independence quicker.

Why did my ex block me all of a sudden?

If your ex blocked you months after the breakup out of the blue just when things were starting to look better, something may have happened to your ex.

Something that affected your ex emotionally and changed your ex’s mind about you.

Here are a few possibilities.

1)Your ex met someone new

One possible explanation why you got blocked is that your ex met someone new or went back to an ex—and doesn’t want you to find out. Maybe your ex doesn’t want you to get hurt and do something to meddle with your ex’s new relationship.

Or perhaps your ex’s new partner requested that you get blocked and stay away from their relationship. It’s impossible to speculate.

One thing is for certain. Your ex or your ex’s girlfriend or boyfriend blocked you to avoid discomfort, drama, and awkwardness.

2)Your ex regained his or her strength

Many times, when couples go separate ways, they resent each other for the way they treated each other during or after the relationship. It could be that your ex blocked you all of a sudden because your ex got out of the depression stage of a breakup for the dumpee and recovered to the point where your ex is angrier than he or she is sad.

Anger means power and so does blocking.

3)Your ex got tired of waiting

Iit’s possible that your ex blocked your email, phone number, social media, or other forms of communication to climb out of depression and get rid of any remaining false hope that he or she may still have for reconciliation.

You have to understand that dumpees are full of false hope. The more they talk to their dumpers, stalk them on social media, and think about them, the more they long their ex’s affection and the more hopeful they feel.

So if you’re asking yourself, “Why did my ex block me,” consider it a possibility that your ex got tired of waiting for you and decided to force-stop his or her self-undulged feelings of nostalgia and false hope.

4)Your ex wants to forget about you and the pain you’ve caused

Blocking you on social media may not instantaneously solve all your ex’s problems, but it does provide some relief from anxiety, fears, and worries for your ex. And that’s because it gives your dumpee ex some of his or her lost power back and partially enables your ex to close one of the most difficult chapters of his or her life.

5)Your ex doesn’t want any reminders of you anymore

Since your ex blocked you, it’s obvious that your ex wants to stop receiving and seeing updates on your life. Seeing your happy, relieved, sad, or depressing posts does nothing good for your ex.

It just confuses your ex and hinders your ex’s healing/moving on process.

6Your posts anger your ex

After the breakup, your ex associates all the bad feelings and experiences with your persona. Your ex remembers the good times, but also the bad ones. We could say that the bad ones stand out the most because they gave your ex power and caused the separation.

Anyway, when you post something that reminds your ex of you and the unhappy/unsuccessful past, your ex immediately feels the emotions you’d made your ex feel in the past.

He or she basically relives the past and feels victimized as a result.

This is why staying friends with an ex after the breakup is often very difficult. No matter how hard you try to be better than the person you were throughout the relationship, dumpers make sure to remind you why you got dumped in the first place.

They may not tell you that directly, but they nonetheless treat you as the person you were ages ago and prevent you from regaining your worth in their eyes.

What to do when your ex blocks you on social media?

If your ex blocked you and the blocking hurt you, you probably want to know why your ex did that. You’re thinking to yourself, “I didn’t know my ex was capable of blocking me and hurting me this much. I’m seeing a different side to me ex.”

If this is what you’re thinking, I can tell you that you’re not wrong. Your ex is definitely acting differently from what you’re used to, but there’s a reason for this behavior. That reason is that you never had an opportunity to see your ex’s dark side.

You only saw your ex’s good side and not the side that shows itself when your ex is furious and fed up with you.

It may be difficult for you to accept that your ex’s bad characteristics are a part of your ex, but, unfortunately, they are because actions don’t lie. People show us who they are not when they need us but when they don’t need us.

They especially show us if they value our health and well-being when we’re dependent on them and not when they’re dependent on us.

So if you haven’t already acknowledged your ex for his or her post-breakup behavior, now is a good time to do that. Give it some serious thought.

You’ll probably realize that your ex was capable of much worse than you initially thought.

You just didn’t know your ex’s true colors because you never backed your ex against a corner and forced him or her to react on impulse.

Now that your ex has blocked you, there are a few things you need to keep in mind. Firstly, reaching out to your ex to find out why you got blocked isn’t something you should do because it’s too early for you to push your ex for an answer.

If you demand an answer ahead of time (before you and your ex are ready for a serious conversation), you’ll most likely just smother your ex and make your ex even more frustrated with you.

You’ll bring an even worse reaction out of your ex and cause your ex to ignore you or block you again. So don’t do it. Don’t confront your ex about blocking you.

The last person you should ask for an explanation is your ex.

Your ex may hold the answers you deeply desire, but if you got blocked and ask your ex for a reasonable explanation, the truth or your ex’s inconsiderate actions are only going to hurt you.

They will reopen your breakup wound and make you desperate for attention again. Consider this a warning.

Instead of causing a tantrum about getting blocked, accept that it’s okay to lack control of your ex’s actions because your ex has a mind of his or her own. Your ex can do what he or she wants.

But so can you! So redirect your thoughts and get over the fact that you got blocked.

Do so by memorizing what you mustn’t do when your ex blocks you.

Now that you know what not to do when your ex blocks you, let’s talk about what you should do.

First of all, you should understand that your ex’s blocking has very little to do with you. Even if you did something to get blocked, it was still your ex who initiated the blocking.

Your ex was the one wh couldn’t control his or her emotions and blocked you. So keep that in mind.

Here’s what to do when your ex blocks you on Facebook, Instagram, or anywhere that requires signal.

My experience when my ex blocked me on social media

When my ex left me, he gave me the all-inclusive dumpee experience. Not only did he block me on social media, but he also ghosted me, monkey-branched, and went back to his ex.

He made me feel completely worthless. So much so that he destroyed my confidence and trust in men and stopped me from being able to eat and sleep.

I became a hot mess.

But despite all the the anger, depression, and nostalgia boiling inside me, I knew that contacting my ex through his friends and family would be suicidal.

It would destroy my remaining self-respect and as a result, make me feel even ore desperate for attention.

Even though I had thousands of questions for my ex, I still valued my pride, dignity and self-respect above my ex. The realization that I had to be strong kept me from reaching out.

Sometimes I thought that I at least deserved some kind of explanation for getting ghosted and blocked, but on the other hand, I also knew that I shouldn’t drill my ex for answers.

The rational side of the brain told me that it wasn’t my ex that I needed to feel better. It was the happiness that my ex took away from me by hurting me.

That’s why it didn’t take me long to stat following the indefinite no contact rule. I didn’t know what it was at the time, but it seemed that ceasing all contact with my ex was the most logical thing to do.

There were days when I felt angry and days when I felt, sad, depressed, nostalgic, and hopeless. My emotions and well-being varied each day.

But luckily, I promised myself not to reach out and embarrass myself, so I diligently stayed in indefinite no contact even during my worst days. I just couldn’t empower my ex and appear needy.

It would make me look and feel weak.

That’s why I focused on sports, fitness, crafts, and arts and made some new friends at work.

The more I focused on the things that made me happy, the more the black cloud over my head disappeared. It didn’t take long before the cloud was gone and the sun began to shine.

If there’s something breakups taught me, it’s that they hurt so much because we lack control over them. They are completely in our exes’ control—and knowing that torments us.

But when we start to regain our self-esteem, self-love, and independence—our exes quickly lose their power. Their absence no longer affects us because deep inside, we realize that we’re better off on our own or with someone who appreciates us.

It’s sad that we don’t always get to say goodbye and get closure from our exes, but sometimes, that’s the way relationships unfold. Some dumpers aren’t emotionally ready for a difficult confrontation, so they chose not to deal with us and run away.

In such cases, it’s best that we get closure on our own. No one says we need our exes to move on with our lives.

That may indeed help us and make us feel better, but it’s also very important that we try to get over the breakup without our ex’s help.

We need to develop the strength to be self-sufficient and better equiped for our next relationship whether it’s with our ex or someone new.

So if your ex just blocked you and you don’t know how to get unblocked, focus on yourself. Enjoy the hobbies and activities that make you happy and believe me that a few months from now, you’ll be glad that your ex blocked you and left you alone to heal.

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Angelie

I’m Angelie, a writer and a designer at Magnet of Success. Whether I’m writing compelling content or designing engaging pictures, I create content that resonates with our visitors and aids them on their self-improvement journey. I enjoy writing about relationship dynamics and the difficulties couples may face.