Ah, the sweet joy of karma. Nothing feels more harmonious, looks more appealing, or tastes sweeter than our good friend, karma. Karma allows us to indirectly get back at the person who hurt us and helps us feel even. It’s not something that makes our life better in the long term, per se, but it definitely helps us cope with the betrayal, abandonment, or loss.
In breakups, karmic justice punishes the person who took us or his or her ability to move on and live happily without us for granted. It does so without our presence, and often without our and our ex’s awareness. It simply strikes the dumper out of the blue and causes him or her to acknowledge his or her mean, rude, cold, or selfish behavior.
Karma isn’t something that undeveloped, pain-causing people can escape. Most dumpers get a fair share of their karma relatively soon. Usually, it happens when they take their maturity, relationship skills, and unresolved problems into their next relationship and try to achieve better results. That’s when they experience similar issues and hurt or anger their partner.
Their lack of self-awareness and growth causes problems in the relationship and makes them and their partner unhappy.
Don’t think that someone who made the same errors over and over again will be any different in the new relationship. He or she may try to be nice for a while, but eventually, the man or woman will stop pretending to be someone he or she is not. That’s when the unmasking begins. You can expect your ex to struggle to keep the bond strong and meaningful.
It’s not unusual to want karma to get your ex. Your ex likely blindsided you and dumped you when you needed him or her the most. Maybe your ex cheated with your friend or someone he or she told you not to worry about, and then monkey-branched. I don’t know what your ex did to hurt you, but if he or she promised you the world and left you afterward, your ex probably told you what you wanted to hear and made you envision a future together.
He or she gave you false hope and broke the oath when it was no longer convenient for him or her. That’s not a relationship built on trust and commitment, but an opportunistic, emotion-driven situationship. It’s something selfish people start to benefit only themselves.
It’s okay to be angry with your ex. Your ex introduced you to pain you didn’t know existed and made you feel unwanted and worthless. If your ex cared and was mature and strong enough to deal with problems, your ex would have found a way to work through them rather than looking for an easy way out. Your ex would have done everything in his or her power to stay connected and value you as a person and a partner.
Since your ex didn’t hold up his or her part of the deal, it’s clear that your ex wasn’t the person you thought or hoped he/she was. Your ex probably runs away from problems when things get tough and blames others for it. There’s no way to work with someone like that because he or she is only thinking about himself or herself.
You have to accept the breakup, figure out what went wrong, and wait for karma to get your ex. And karma will definitely get your ex. It may not happen today or tomorrow, but if you suffered a lot because of your ex’s words and actions, another person will too. And he or she may not be as lenient as you. That person may take his or her anger out on your ex and show your ex that decisions, especially bad ones, have consequences.
At the moment, you’re probably furious with your ex. You want your ex to feel how you feel and regret causing you pain. You don’t want to be the only one hurting and picking up the pieces.
That’s understandable. The breakup affected your self-esteem and hurt you in ways no words can describe. There’s no escaping the pain you feel, so you want your ex to feel it too. That would make things more fair, more even.
You’re likely in the anger stage of a breakup. In this stage, you’re so angry that you demand immediate punishment for the person who abandoned, mistreated, humiliated, or deceived you, and knocked you down to the ground. You probably think to yourself, “I’ve suffered for days/weeks because of you. Now it’s your time to suffer and get a taste of your own medicine.”
It’s not unreasonable to want someone we trusted and invested in to feel pain. We’re not bad people for wanting the person who dumped us to be as miserable as we are. The dumper’s misery would confirm that things haven’t been easy for him/her either, and that we don’t have to think we’re the only ones losing out.
But instead, we usually see the opposite. We see the dumper posting happy pictures on social media and meeting new people – people who could potentially replace us. The last thing we want to see is the dumper doing great without us because that would further damage our fragile ego and self-esteem.
If you want your ex to suffer for leaving and hurting you, you must understand that your ex’s suffering won’t fix what your ex has broken. It might put a bandage on your wounds, but it won’t heal them completely and help you develop yourself into a stronger, wiser, and more successful person.
If you react to pain by doing something hurtful back, yes, you’ll probably hurt your ex, but you’ll also ruin your own karma. That means you’ll show what kind of person you are and fail to grow from the breakup. Growth occurs when you make mature but difficult decisions.
Such decisions preserve your morals and keep your conscience clear.
But if you’re wondering, “Will karma get my ex for treating me badly,” rest assured that it will. The only problem is that it won’t happen when and how you want it to. It will likely happen when you’re mainly or fully over your ex and don’t care about the things your ex said and did to hurt you.
Karma will get your ex when your ex faces difficult situations and reacts negatively to them (similarly to how your ex reacted to you). That’s when karma will catch up to your ex and deliver a powerful blow.
This post is for people who want karma to hit their ex and validate their feelings.
I want karma to get my ex so badly
I understand how you feel because I went through a painful rejection myself. If karma were tangible and I could buy it, I’d have sold everything I owned and rushed to the first shop to get as much of it as I could afford. I’d have gotten back at my ex for treating me worse than a stranger.
I honestly believed that as long as my ex-partner was having a great time without me, I’d never be content on my own. I thought that my ex didn’t have the right to be happy while I was miserable, so I wanted to take matters of justice into my own hands and do something to make her regret hurting me. It’s not that she didn’t have the right to be happy, but that she should have shown some concern, instead of going out every night and partying.
She obviously felt relieved and wanted to take her life in a new direction. I took that to heart. I didn’t understand how someone I cared about didn’t care about me. It wasn’t until later that I realized her happiness had nothing to do with me. It had everything to do with her delaying the breakup.
As I yearned for revenge and justice for her bad post-breakup treatment, my heart raced and my mind became blurry. I came up with 100 different ways for my ex to get hit by karma and pay for her wrongdoings.
I’m not ashamed to admit that I imagined many bad things happening to my ex and even pictured her running back to me, admitting she’d made a huge mistake. I felt completely abandoned, so I wanted her to show she still cared. Because she didn’t show it, I felt hurt and angry and tempted to make her pay.
Fortunately, I eventually realized what my crazy obsession with revenge and karmic justice was doing to me. I realized that it was giving my ex even more importance and that I was becoming even more obsessed with my ex.
That’s when I reluctantly took a step back and asked myself, “Why would my ex’s unhappiness bring me joy?” It would certainly make me feel better in the moment, but not in the long run. It would just make me into a vengeful person who hurts others to get a kick out of them.
And that would make me no better than my ex. It’d make me impulsive and vengeful, so I chose not to take revenge. I knew that I shouldn’t be the person to punish my ex because there are plenty of more impulsive people out there who’d do the dirty job for me.
They would teach my ex valuable lessons, whereas I would just look petty and give my ex another reason to stay away from me. Once I realized that, I gave up on getting involved with my ex and let karma punish my ex.
Plotting revenge on an ex
Had I decided to take matters of karmic justice into my own hands and do something despicable, like post my ex’s pictures online or harass her new boyfriend, I’d end up being the bad guy. My vengeful actions would show my ex that she’s gotten under my skin and that I lack emotional self-control and self-respect.
Not only would my ex tell her people what a bad person I am, but all my bad actions would sooner or later come flying back at me. My family and friends would find out about my revenge, my mutual friends would side with my ex, and I’d feel horrible and blame myself even more.
That’s why, if you’re plotting revenge on your ex, I strongly encourage you not to ruin your karma. It’s okay and normal to wish for bad things to happen to your ex. Wishing karma to hit your ex helps you cope with your ex’s unfair decisions and actions.
But don’t act on those wishes, or you’re going to regret it big time. Ask anyone who did something nasty to the dumper. He or she will tell you that revenge is for the weak-minded and that strong and mature people walk away with dignity and pride.
If you’ve already done something bad, however, and your ex hasn’t blocked you yet, then at the very least, apologize to your ex. Say that emotions got the best of you and that you’ll be leaving him or her alone and focusing on yourself from now on. That won’t instantly make things better, but it will show that you’ve taken accountability and allow you to forgive yourself.
Is revenge sweet? Yes, it is. It’s the sweetest candy the world has to offer. But is it short-lived? Absolutely!
I’m sure you can think of many ways to bring your ex to his or her knees and make your ex regret ever crossing paths with you. You could do something nasty and get your revenge today—probably even this very moment, from the comfort of your own home. You have the power to make your ex’s life hell if you wish to.
But before you do that, know that your bad actions will definitely affect you and your good karma.
Provided you care about your image, you’ll without a doubt regret taking revenge and wish you’d just left your ex alone. Revenge isn’t just about teaching your ex a lesson to be more thoughtful in the next relationship. It’s very personal, as its goal is to destroy your ex’s life and force your ex to struggle emotionally.
You, therefore, need to control yourself even if your ex cheated on you and monkey-branched to someone else. I know it’s hard, but your ex’s behavior mustn’t force you to abandon your morals and do something that will make your ex regret meeting you. What your ex does or did doesn’t define you. It shouldn’t, unless you give your ex the power to control you.
In that case, you’re in a lot of trouble because your ex and other people will easily manipulate you. They’ll control your thoughts and feelings, and ultimately, your actions and reactions.
Remember that your loved ones expect you to respect your ex’s decision and yourself. They want you to be the bigger person and avoid starting a war with your ex. By acting on impulse, you won’t prove that you’re mature and in control. On the contrary, you’ll prove that you lack control and that you’re vengeful and a danger to yourself and others.
Your friends and family will probably find out what you did—and something tells me that you’ll care about that once you’ve gotten over the breakup and collected your thoughts. You’ll wish you could forget ever taking revenge on someone who no longer mattered and didn’t deserve you.
So instead of completely ruining your image of who you are and wish to become in the future, don’t go down the revenge path. There are many more suitable ways to vent your frustrations and become a person of high value.
A great way to start detaching and transforming your life for the better is to comment on this article or join the Magnet of Success Discord community.
There are a million things you can do to turn your attention away from unwanted thoughts and feel better. I urge you to focus on improving yourself rather than destroying your ex and your image.
When you’ve cooled off and begun thinking rationally again, the work you’ve done on yourself will decide whether you’ve grown, regressed, or remained the same. You’ll look back and realize where you went wrong and what you did well. Don’t ruin your karma for a quick boost of ego. It’s not worth it.
Keep in mind that karma always strikes— whether it’s due to something you’ve done or because your ex treated you badly. The undeniable truth is that it hits when people least expect it.
Sometimes, all it takes is enough time to pass for bad karma to accumulate. Once it does, it hits hard and unexpectedly, and that’s usually when people finally learn their lessons.
Well, at least those who reflect on their behavior. Those who play the blame game don’t learn a thing. They make the same mistakes in the future and think the world is against them.
How does karma work?
People who are hurt by the dumper they trusted often demand immediate punishment. They want karma to strike their ex the very moment they feel the pain. If it were possible, dumpees would immediately pick up the phone and call the God of punishments to make misery rain down on their ex.
In doing so, they would get even and bask in their ability to manipulate their ex’s life and feelings. This is what most dumpees want. They want to know that they can influence their ex even after the breakup. They especially want to see that they can take happiness away from their ex and feel strong and in control.
It’s the dumpees’ belief that by causing harm, their exes will quickly regret their actions and feel remorse. But, unfortunately, karma doesn’t work that way. The dumpee isn’t the bringer of justice. He or she lost the ability to teach the dumper a lesson a long time ago.
The only thing that can teach the dumper a valuable lesson is life itself. Life can help your ex ignore the need to work on himself or herself and encourage your ex to get involved with someone who doesn’t tolerate unhealthy/disrespectful behavior.
When your ex meets that person and hurts him or her, karma will punish your ex for thinking he or she can get away with anything, including disrespect and pain.
I’ve spent countless hours searching for the best explanation of karma and trying to understand how it works. Finally, I believe I’ve found it in Earl Nightingale’s words. In his book Lead the Field, I’ve come across the most reasonable and realistic definition of karma I could find.
Earl Nightingale describes karma as a boomerang. All actions—good or bad, in one form or another come back to us.
He says, “Every time a person does something dishonest, he is in effect tossing a boomerang. How far out it will travel, no one knows. How great or how small a circle it will traverse, only time will tell. But it will, eventually it must, finally come swift and unseen around behind that person and deliver its never-failing and painful blow to the back of his neck.”
If a person thinks positively and does positive things, he or she gets positive results. And if a person thinks negatively and does negative things, he or she yields negative results. That’s why you can be certain that karma will hit your ex for doing bad things to you.
I don’t know when or how, but it will happen. I’ve seen it happen every time an undeveloped ex ignores the need to self-invest and moves on quickly. Moving on doesn’t guarantee happiness. The only thing that makes the dumper avoid similar problems and another breakup is self-reflection and self-development.
And people who selfishly and disrespectfully cause pain to others tend not to reflect and grow. They remain as they are because they’re convinced they have the right to hurt people.
Hit and run
People don’t usually hurt someone only once. Sure, some convicts learn their lessons and become better people, but your ex is no convict. Your ex got away without paying the price for his or her misdemeanour. Therefore, your ex will have to pay the price eventually.
Your ex will either have to think about his or her behavior, feel guilty about it, and grow through regret, or continue to self-victimize and encounter the same issues in the future. At some point, your ex will face the consequences of his or her actions and inactions and meet karma head-on.
It probably won’t be pretty.
You may think that your ex will never get hit by karma, but karma doesn’t strike now that you’re hurt the most. Your feelings don’t matter to karma. It takes its time, often longer than dumpees would like. For some dumpers, karma strikes within weeks or months. These dumpers often date other people and fail miserably.
Other dumpers go about their lives for much longer—sometimes a year, two, or more. Whether they suffer immensely depends on whether they put themselves in difficult situations.
Remember that your ex thinks of himself or herself as a victim, which means that your ex cannot and will not change at all.
If convicts take years of confinement to change their belief system (or don’t change it at all), don’t think that your ex will do it in a short amount of time. If your ex ever changes, it will happen when your ex’s expectations fail to manifest and hurt your ex to the point of reflection.
It’s preposterous to think the dumper will sit down and try to grow from this experience. Your ex is focused on self-distraction and moving on. He or she has neither the time nor the patience for personal development. Your ex isn’t ready for that and won’t be ready at least until karma hits hard.
Moreover, it takes three times that long to make it a permanent part of our lives. So theoretically speaking, the amount of time it takes to correct bad karma depends on how much your ex has sinned and learned from those sins.
I can’t say how long it will take your ex to correct his or her bad karma because I don’t know your ex personally. I don’t know what your ex has done and what he or she is doing right now. But I can say that if your ex is focusing on enjoying himself or herself, your ex won’t improve his or her behavior and karma anytime soon.
Your ex will just carry certain behavioral patterns into the next relationship and act similarly as before.
As you sow, so shall you reap
You reap what you sow. It doesn’t get any simpler than that.
If your ex thinks, feels, speaks, acts, and reacts in a certain way, you can expect the same from this person in the future. You can expect your ex not to change these things because your ex lacks the will or need to change them.
He or she is focusing on moving on instead.
One does not change his or her beliefs simply by moving on. As you know, people are creatures of habit. We’re controlled by our thoughts and patterns. That’s what makes us us.
We can control negative thoughts and emotions if we choose to do so, but oftentimes we don’t. Not when we’ve developed ourselves into reactive, finger-pointing individuals.
Biologically, we are wired to think, talk, and act in a way that is the most comfortable for us. And what makes it the most comfortable are the patterns we subconsciously form with our thoughts—and further reinforce with our emotions.
Once we’ve created certain thoughts and empowered them with emotions, we make them into a permanent belief, and later, a pattern.
So remember, your ex isn’t sitting at home crying and trying to improve his or her behaviors and patterns. Your ex is too busy doing the things he or she loves the most. This includes self-distraction and focusing on external happiness. That’s your ex’s karma because he or she will sooner or later get in trouble and bring the worst out of people. If your ex gets involved with a highly reactive individual, your ex will get punished for it.
You, on the other hand, probably want to improve as you got hit by the breakup blues. You want to learn about the reasons behind the breakup and understand the breakup dynamics.
This automatically puts you on the path to self-discovery and self-improvement.
Before your breakup, you didn’t care much about any of this breakup stuff. You probably didn’t even know it existed. You had your own interests and hobbies you enjoyed, and didn’t think about what to do if you broke up.
The fact that you’re reading this post means you’re open-minded and ready to learn new things. You don’t need to memorize things word for word to improve. All you have to do is take in the information, and you’ll slowly rewire your brain and improve in ways you need to.
Your ex could do the same, but your ex isn’t reading or learning anything. Your ex will probably become interested in self-improvement much later, when your ex gets hit by karma and has no choice but to improve. It could take your ex years to fall in love with someone and get his or her heart crushed. That means your ex could fail to evolve for years.
That’s a lot of time and a lot of failures, aka karma.
Will karma get my ex?
Karma will undoubtedly catch up with your ex. It’s only a matter of time before the roles are reversed and your ex pays the price for his or her wrongs.
Continuous bad actions always catch up to you and smite you when you least expect them to. This normally happens when you’re in your most vulnerable state and don’t see karma coming.
Just to be clear, the most vulnerable state doesn’t always mean that you are depressed or unlucky. Often, you become most vulnerable when you’re at your happiest and least expecting karma to strike.
So bear in mind that karma hits cheating ex-girlfriends, narcissists, liars, thieves, and anyone who harms others. It plays no favorites. When you do a disservice to others and live a selfish life, negative consequences always come back to you. It’s the law. What you give is what you get.
If your ex treated you poorly and left you for someone else, he or she will have to pay for it one way or another. It might take time, but eventually, your ex will cross paths with the wrong person and feel his or her wrath.
And even if your ex hides in the basement and doesn’t interact with anyone, your ex will still get hit by karma, just in other ways. Your ex will avoid interactions and miss out on life.
Drug dealers, criminals, and dangerous people are aware of their wrongdoings. They know they destroyed their karma long ago, so they must now live with fear, guilt, shame, self-doubt, and the constant need to hide.
Your ex might not be affected to that extent, but the same principles still apply.
Your ex:
Committed karmic injustice
Feels empowered and pleased with him/herself
Understands that he/she hurt you badly
Experiences guilt, shame, or self-doubt
Damaged his or her own karma
Always remember that your ex could one day get hit by karma and you won’t even know it. Your ex could just deal with it alone or check up on you to see how you’re doing and then disappear again. What your ex does when karma catches up to him or her is hard to say.
But it’s safe to say that your ex’s life won’t be as great as it may currently seem. Most dumpers feel empowered after the breakup and enjoy their new life. It takes them a few months to stop feeling relieved and become emotionally vulnerable.
If you focus on healing and forgiving your ex, you might not even care when you discover that your ex’s life has worsened rather than improved. You might be too busy enjoying your life and staying away from negativity.
That said, here’s why karma will get your ex.
My ex hurt me badly
I understand that your ex hurt you badly once or multiple times and shattered your world. He or she likely acted coldly toward you during and after the breakup and refused to give you closure. Your ex even affected your self-esteem and, coincidentally, ruined your life goals with his or her selfish actions.
Because your ex has hurt you horribly, you now want him or her to experience hell and feel how you feel. I get that. You think that if you could just punish your ex, your ex would understand how much the relationship meant to you and how hurt you are.
It’s truly unfortunate that your ex is happy and doesn’t care much about hurting you right now. But despite that, you shouldn’t worry about what your ex thinks and cares about. Dumpers are in a completely different world after the breakup. They’re focusing on things they want to do, and as a result, forget about their ex.
It’s hard to understand how someone you love or loved can hurt you so deeply, but breakups can get very ugly. They bring out the worst in people and hurt both dumpees and dumpers in different ways.
You’re likely asking yourself, “Why doesn’t my ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend care? Why am I the only one hurting?
The truth is that your ex was in pain before the breakup. It wasn’t the kind of pain you’re going through right now, but he or she felt unheard and/or angry. For that reason, your ex is now tired of the relationship and needs some alone time.
The most difficult part of the breakup is not losing the person you care about. It’s seeing that your former boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t care about you in the slightest. The most awful feeling is when you know that your ex left you behind and moved on – possibly with someone else. You don’t want to be forgotten and replaced with someone new.
The new person might occupy your position, but remember that he or she will never be you. There’s only one you in this world. Let that be a reminder that you’re valuable and worthy of love.
Can you wish bad karma on someone?
Don’t try to rush karma. Instead, give karma enough time to deliver the never-failing and painful blow. Your ex will get hit by karma. I can guarantee you that. Unfortunately or fortunately, depending on your preference, you may not care about it when it happens.
Karma does not care, nor does it listen to anyone. The more you want something bad to happen to someone you know, the more negativity you will attract into your own life.
Wishing karma on your ex is dangerous because you can become obsessed with seeking justice. And when you become obsessed and dependent on your ex’s misfortune for your happiness, life gets really, really dark, sad, and miserable.
You stop working on yourself and try to bring your ex down just to feel better.
That’s not a productive way to live. You should focus on making your life better rather than your ex’s life worse. Do that by signing up for therapy, working out, socializing, and strengthening your financial situation.
But I want my ex to suffer as much as I did!
If you’re hoping your ex gets hit by karma, you’re putting your own good karma at risk. You’re deliberately stooping to your ex’s level and expecting the laws of the universe to deliver the punishing blow.
Remember that your ex’s suffering won’t bring you justice, nor will it make you feel better forever.
The most you will get out of it is a quick adrenaline rush and an evil grin on your face. In terms of long-term happiness and success, it will offer nothing of value. Instead, it will leave you feeling empty, distracted from your growth, and further away from genuine fulfillment.
So trust me when I say that if something really, really bad happens to your ex, you’ll realize you don’t want your ex to suffer at all. Not even if your ex slept with your best friend and betrayed you more than anyone ever could.
This is true even if your ex absolutely diminished your self-worth and scarred you deeply.
You just won’t find joy in seeing your ex suffer once he or she finally gets hit by karma. Besides, wishing bad karma on your ex is bad for your conscience and healing process.
It holds you back from moving on and leaving the past where it belongs – in the past. You don’t need more negativity in your life, right? I reckon that the breakup was traumatic enough and that you’d rather attract positive things into your life.
Things that actually help you excel and be happy in life.
Seeing your ex suffer as a result of bad karma would only add more weight to your already-sinking boat. You don’t need to go out of your way to wish bad karma on your ex. If your ex hurt you badly, karma is on its way as we speak. It might have a few other stops to make first, but it will eventually come knocking on your ex’s door.
The scary part about karma is that it doesn’t always knock. Oftentimes, it comes barging through the door unannounced, slamming people in the face.
No signs, no warning, only payback.
Forgive the ex who hurt you
It takes great strength and courage to forgive those who hurt you, but you need to do what’s right, not what feels right. You must go against your nature (if your heart is telling you to punish your ex) and get rid of your vengeful thoughts.
Forgiving an ex that hurt you badly won’t be easy and will likely take time. But rest assured that the reward will be worth it in the end. It will free you from constant thoughts about your ex and give you a chance to live for yourself.
Always forgive your enemies—nothing annoys them so much.
Oscar Wilde
Keep in mind that it doesn’t make you a bad person for wanting karma to get your ex. You’re obviously hurt and need reassurance. But it does, however, make you a great person for forgiving your ex for hurting you and growing from the negative experience.
Are you hoping that karma will get your ex? Let me know whether you want your ex to suffer for dumping you and hurting you. Post your thoughts and feelings in the comments section below the article.
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My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.
147 thoughts on “Thirsty For Revenge? Karma Will Get Your Ex. It ALWAYS Does!”
Jaytee
I have been in no contact for 20 days after we broke up in December 2021.
Zan has helped me greatly during this time.
My Ex owes me a lot of money & I’ve asked her 5-6 times to repay me now that the relationship is over. She’s stalled and stalled me. I did not want to break no contact as per Zan’s advice so I asked a lawyer friend to send her an email to her workplace (she is also a lawyer) asking for the debt to be repaid. Funny that as soon as that message landed she has contacted him to say she will pay me back in instalments.
She’s been playing on my emotions and hope we’d sort out everything. She had put me off for long enough.
I received a message earlier from her directly saying she was upset that I hadn’t forewarned her about court proceedings & that she thought we were ok as had been pleasant to each other since the split, she thought as we had loved each other it wouldn’t get nasty or awkward. She then stated she had been meaning to tell me she had a box of my stuff to give me and wanted to meet to give it to me and have a coffee. Now she realises I wouldn’t want that.
I haven’t responded. I don’t intend to. She’s a manipulative liar who cheated on me more than once. I’m a firm believer in karma!
I’ll look forward to my vacation that she’ll be paying me back for!
She’d been hesitant about paying you back, so you had no choice but to contact your lawyer friend and asked him to mediate. I think it was the right thing to do so that you can get your money back and move on once and for all. She had hoped you would stay on good terms, but since she betrayed you and wasn’t willing to pay you back, that would be difficult. Parting ways may be better for now because she won’t change any time soon.
I think your life is going to get a lot better if it hasn’t already, Jaytee.
Well I was with my ex for 8 years. I warned him about this woman. My neighbour (who is her aunty) warned her off my ex fiance. He’s 32 I’m 35. We had a drunk argument he took it as that, said he didn’t see a future 3 days later and on day 4 he called her up asking her out. They left it 3 weeks before making it Facebook official. It’s been 2 months of hell for me and part of me hopes he’ll change his mind because its quite clear he’s monkey branched but what’s not clear is if its a rebound? He only knows her through the pub, and I’m blocked and ghosted on everything. It’s like i don’t exist. Karma seems to have a long list! She’s 50 by the way and divorced and a grandma so ouch.
It’s evident he’d been connecting with this person and probably even emotionally cheating with her behind your back. Despite all the warnings from people, he went for her because he had made her into a backup plan. That’s a good example of why backup plans are bad.
He’s not in love with you anymore, so it’s not a rebound. But he could still fail with her and come back. For now, you should stay off Facebook (stop checking up on them) so you can stop obsessing about them and get yourself back.
No Karma yet. She’s just living a merry life doing whatever she pleases. I wonder if her life is so awesome why block me ? I don’t bother her in anyway. Even though she works only 8 minutes away in the same town I live in. I hope I don’t run into her and her boyfriend.
Anyway she cheated on me then left me almost 3 yrs ago. In the first year she said she was coming back 3x. She always changed her mind. One time she called me crying to come and get her. I did and thought she was done running and would stay. She crushed my heart by leaving the next day. She ruined my life and the pain is is still in my heart. Karma where are you. Someone like her is so cold hearted and selfish hopefully sometime in her life she’ll learn that you can’t treat someone like that and be careless about it. So I try to move on a little everyday and who knows if someday that crying voice will call again for my help.
Bill, never go back to that. She’s toxic. Karma will find her. That level of dysfunction invites it. It might take some time. But it will happen. Find someone who’s deserving of you. She’s not.
Your probably right. Love is blind until you get punched in the eye like she did to me. Thanks for your reply. She won’t see Karma coming till it hits her in the eye just like me. It’s only a matter of time.
Blocking is a sign of anger and a lack of self-control. Most people do it because they can’t handle the injustice/negative emotions flowing through their bodies.
If your ex is so unhappy and wanted to come back to you so many times, she’s already gotten hit by karma, Bill. You’re waiting for something big and painful to happen to her, but you’re forgetting that her daily life is a struggle.
I never wish karma on anyone..im mature enough to know it does and will happen when the universe says its time … Proof is recently my ex came by one day and told me straight out it happened to her and that she was verry very sorry”brief version “ for what she did and that i didn’t deserve what happened. I wont get into details as is a long story. But i feel ten times better months later of healing and feeling myself again ..i have excepted and once again i am mature enough to forgive forget and understand no ones perfect and we all
Make mistakes. Going forward not sure what our future holds and what will happen. But i will say Zan your work has helped myself feel alot better and have enjoyed everything u have written with your “ magnetofsucces”🙏 cheers
Karma gets people when they least expect it. Your ex got hit because she thought she could keep treating others the way she did, so she got punished for it. I hope you handled it maturely when she apologized.
Thanks for reading the blog, Dallas. I appreciate your kind words.
“Drug dealers, criminals, and various dangerous people are well aware of their actions. They know they have completely ruined their karma a long time ago, so they must now live in fear and hide in the shadows.” That’s not because they believe in karma, and if they did believe it they’d expect it to strike law enforcement and similar enemies down, because they genuinely believe they are forced by external circumstances, or doing the right thing. In their mind, it’s just that the police disagree with them, that the whole world is against them etc etc. And, of course, in some cases they really do have no choice, so having them be hit by karma (assuming that’s a thing for the sake of argument) would be…complicated when it comes to fairness. Getting back to that in a minute.
“Your ex doesn’t get affected to that degree, of course, but the same principles apply:
He or she commits karmic injustice
Feels good for feeling empowered
Realizes what he or she has done
Feels guilty
Temporarily or permanently ruins his or her karma
I say temporarily because everyone can redeem his or her karma. This includes your ex.
Although chances are small—especially right after the breakup, your ex must first get punished for what he or she has done. People don’t really learn otherwise and your ex won’t either.
Not for as long as he or she is happy and lives life unpunished for his or her actions.” Slight problem there: this assumes there’s a outside entity that judges people – and not just humanity as a whole, or even groups, but this presupposed entity bothers to judge individuals. Not counting the animals (how would anything judge predators and prey?), that’s, what, 17 billion individuals, all of which requiring a tailor-made punishment? Even if, for the sake of argument, we assume such a eldritch being exists, why would they care who everyone dumped and how they lived afterwards? And of course such a eldritch being doling out punishments who can watch and judge 17 billion people’s actions at the same time and devise adequate punishment would not have our human morality, especially not if they don’t just do it in the present but also in the future and the past. So…that’s all very Lovecraftian. But I do like how you encourage people not to seek revenge. And in a sense you’re right in that if they he hurt people again and again (and they wouldn’t feel empowered btw, it’d just be routine, the way things go or are supposed to go) that eventually, word leaks out. But I don’t like the bit about forgiving and forgetting. I think forgiving is great, don’t get me wrong, it’s probably a lot better than hoping for revenge and it’s likely very healing. But if you forget, you’re just gonna make the same mistake again and again and again. And I think it’s fine to remember what someone did and not hold it against them.
I’d known this guy for a little over two years at work. We’d became real close and considered each other good friends. He wasn’t the best looking guy but his warm personality and kind heart really drew me towards him. In other words I felt safe and comfortable with him. I was fond of him but I hadn’t thought of pursing him romantically, I was fine with being his friend. His friendship was really important to me. I didn’t have many friends before I started working at our job, so I cherished all the friends I’d made. He always teased me, but a few months or so back I could tell a change in his behavior towards me, he was flirting with Me. At first it was subtle and then it became very obvious to not only me but the people around me. I gave some push back for a while, and then with the encouragement of others who thought we’d be perfect together, I finally decided to go for it. My thoughts were why not he’s kind, he says he cares about me, and we get along great. We had our rocky start of admiting we both liked one another, he even told me he was afraid he might hurt me. I should’ve listened then, but I figured because of past relationships he was just protecting his own heart, and little naive me who is 25 and never dated anyone because of self esteem issues decided I’d take on all of it be his rock, and allow him to be vulnerable. In my mind we cared enough about one another. I allowed myself to open up to him and talk to him about things I’d never talked to a man about before, but for me it was ok because I trusted him. I was just waiting for him to open up to me, and he never did. The date we went on was great and he made me think we were on the same page. I even had my first kiss that day. Instead he lead me on, he made plans and I’d always have to remind him about it or it’d never happen. He made me question if be truly liked me, but when we were in the presence of one another mostly at work , he was all over me. I myself was on my last leg when it came to our situationship, I couldn’t even call it a relationship we were suppose to be dating and building towards that because we both agreed we wanted something serious. I asked him if he could come over and he never responded to it. I was talking to another close friend at work about it and how I wondered if I was wasting my time. I didn’t want to have to keep begging for someone’s time and attention. She thought she was being helpful and she talked to him about it even though I hadn’t asked her to. He messaged me while still at work and said he was sorry for the late reply ( almost a day later!) I wasn’t quite sure how to respond in the moment So I didn’t respond right away, and then a few hours later I asked him why it took so long and that it felt like he’d been ignoring me. He again said he was sorry and that he’d forgotten to respond. I felt iffy about it, but I told him it was OK an that I was sorry I misundstood. I thought everything was OK and back on track and as I was leaving from work that morning he messaged me that we should remain friends and a relationship wasn’t something he thinks he’s interested in. It totally threw me for a loop. I tried to call him and he didnt answer, but I texted him and he instantly responded.
I asked him what I’d done wrong was it just that he didn’t want to be with me? He said it wasnt specially me and he didn’t want to hurt me any further and keep stifling those thoughts. I asked if he’d talk on the phone and he didn’t respond, then 8 hours pass and he messages saying he’d fallen asleep. I didn’t respond in that moment because my emotions were all over the place. I knew i wouldn’t have said anything nice.
I missed work that day because I was so hurt. I felt like I’d been tossed aside. How could someone who said I meant so much to them and they cared so much about me just up and dump me? He never checked on me, never asked my friends if I was ok. At work he wouldn’t say a word to me unless he had to, that hurt as well. I was the one who eventually asked to talk to him again. I felt like if I did and I got things off my chest I’d feel better and our awkward atmosphere would go away. That maybe we could salvage our friendship. We met in the parking lot at work and we talked in his car. I asked him to explain everything to me and he said he didn’t really know what to say. He was so low energy so nonchalant. Before me I didn’t see the sweet guy I’d trusted. It felt cold and impersonal. He said there wasn’t anyone else and he choose no one, and that was his choice. But that was a lie, so many people had come forward and told me that he’d been flirting with other girls. I felt like a fool. I got out of his car because his words hurt me and pissed me off. He didn’t come after me and that hurt too. I got in my car and drove to other side of the building. I gave my mom a call and i screamed. How could I give my time and attention to someone like that? How did I allow myself to be open and vulnerable to him? I stayed on the phone and went into the breakroom. He came in and acted as if nothing had happened, which made me snap at him. I told him how his attitude pissed me off, and other things. I didn’t like being angry, I’ve always liked to be happy and bubbly. I like to be at peace and in control, but in that moment I just couldn’t. He said I had the right to be angry and we’d talk later if I wanted and then he just left out. Once again he was cold. All throughout the shift we avoided one another, and finally after I’d cooled, I told hi I’d talk again with him. But I warned him not to piss me off. We sat in my car this time and he seemed a little less robotic. He talked more, he apologized, but even then I couldn’t truly feel it. It’s not like I wanted him to beg or gravel, but I just wanted to be able to feel it in my heart and I couldn’t. He still felt distant and couldn’t give any real explanation as to why he’d even brotherd to pursue me if he wasn’t looking for something serious. Or why he’d lied about what he really wanted. He knew the type of girl I was and that I wouldn’t be ok with just a fling.. He finally confessed he was still not over his ex. But itd been a long time since they’d been together. I knew about her hurting him. I’d heard from another friend, I was just waiting for him to share it on his own time. I was willing to be his rock and reassure him on whatever he feared. I wasn’t worried much about my feelings because I thought I had to protect his. But I guess
that was just me being stupid. He said he didn’t expect for her to come back, and I told him he needed to work on it. His last words were that he was sorry and that he hoped we could be cordial coworkers. I didn’t answer him. In my mind, I’d like to forgive and move on but at the same time I can’t. I’d like for him to realize just how much I cared, just how much I was willing to give, just how pure my intentions were towards him, and just how badly it all hurt me. I know i myself couldn’t heal him, but I was willing to go on that journey with him, if he would have let me. Now I’m just going through the motions and wondering when he’ll get his karma and when he’ll realize? I know eventually I’ll let go, and it won’t matter anymore to me. But it still sucks that I not only lost a romantic interest but a friend as well or atleast someone I thought was a friend.
I am so happy I found this article. Every now and again I will look for articles that will encourage me to stop investing thoughts at my brutal ex.
I was awarded a full scholarship to do my masters in the UK last year. Had been dating the ex for 5 years and living together for 4. Had known each other for years before she asked me out. I had heard that at her university she had been quite the sexual queen, but I did not want to base a relationship on gossip. So I gave it a try. WORST DECISION OF MY LIFE.
When she moved in with me she was unemployed-got her a job through my connections. She then started her own media company and POACHED a client from the previous employer. She lied saying the client wanted to leave anyway. She also used a lot of my connections to position herself as this amazing person who is great with social media content (which she plagiarises online).
Back to my Masters. So I left my country in September 2021 and was supposed to return this year end Septemebr. I had to leave the UK in April, A WEEK BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY, because she called me telling me:
She thinks I am a great guy and friend but terrible partner
She has thought about my birthday and she does not care about it (bare in my her birthdays were always amazing-she would not even buy me a gift or cake on mine)
She has no emotional bandwidth for me and she is tired of me.
This person would deprive me of sex for two years at a time and tell me it will happen when it happens. When I was in the UK she still expected me to send my share of bills (even though i was renting in the UK and had minimal stipend). She said she earned 500£ a month from the company she poached -only to find out she actually earns double that and it was enough for her to live back home.
She left the house the day before i landed and left the keys with the neighbours. Took the only car we had. Stole my camera and other things.
I spent my birthday in pain and with massive anxiety. On my birthday she sent me an email: HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I KNOW YOU ARE GOING TO SMASH YOUR 40’s!
She blocked me everywhere, cancelled wifi, cancelled all her financial responsibilities.
Fortunately I have a great therapist and great friends.
So I was able to get the support i needed to complete my Masters with Distinction.
I was broken but now I dont care much about them. I have a suspicion that she was living multiple lives because she ;lies with a straight face.
You got involved with a very self-centered, possibly narcissistic person. She obviously didn’t care about you as much as you did about her—and only wanted what’s best for her. This is why she told you that you’re a terrible partner and that she doesn’t care about your birthday. That must have shocked you beyond belief. It takes some serious immaturity and arrogance to say something like that. I’m not sure what damaged her so much, but whatever it was, it probably started early on in her childhood.
Your life is only going to get better from now on. It’ll take time to get her out of your system, but when she’s out for good, you’ll see that she was holding you back in every possible way.
You mustn’t believe people when they promise you things at the start of the relationship. Most guys will tell you things you want to hear so you can relax. Their real personality shows itself much later (usually months into the relationship). So forget about all the nice things he said to you back then. People’s feelings can change when they encounter problems, stressors, or doubts.
Stay strong and learn what you can from this ordeal. And of course, work on your trust issues.
Precisely the same here. But karma’s already begun its work. She’s getting the life she deserves. They leave with an arrogance, and then life brings them back to earth – either sooner or later.
As always, sage advice. My wife, the love of my life, was very cruel to me after she left, after I’d treated her like royalty for six years. She never even said that she was unhappy in the marriage before leaving. I had no idea. She went on to other relationships, and then for financial reasons, was forced to move to a city in a different state where her father and sisters live, and which she hates. I’d like to get to a point where I’m indifferent, but that’s going to take a Long time. Other than that, my life is pretty solid: career, etc. I dream of getting to where she has no effect on me, because I’m enjoying life so much on my own. I can’t envision that happening though. It’s been over two years and it hasn’t happened yet. Not even close
Don’t blame yourself for your ex’s behavior. The way she treated you has nothing to do with your worth as a person. It merely shows that she felt smothered and that she really wanted to date other people.
You’re going to become indifferent soon, Doug. Long-term relationships take a while longer to get over, but you’re getting there!
Yes, what you sow you shall reap. It happens when you least expect it. Karma is justice for the dumpee. Forgive them for their selfish ways. They are oblivious to the pain they caused because they make you the villain to justify their actions.
This pretty much summed up what happened to me seven years ago. And even to this day I wonder if karma is real (hence coming across this article). It took me years to get to the indifference stage. From wanting him suffer what I had suffered to now more interested in the concept of karma, it came a long way. I think time did the job for me in the end. Now I’m just curious to know if karma ever got back to him and if so, how much more severe…
In 2017…a girl who I dated broke up with me..and we chose to stay friends (bad idea dont befriend an ex) everything was quite toxic to be honest. Then a few months later she told me immediately after the breakup a mutual friend hooked up with her behind my back….I was interacting with them both. AMD they’ve just been secretive…in 2020, she texted me on Facebook saying “in so sorry for what I did and I want you to know that karma got me bro..I hope that makes you happy” I didnt see that coming! I just forgave and moved in with my life…it did make me think sometimes people will cause you pain and they’ll never understand until it happens to them
Great and insightful article. Very applicable to my own situation.
As far as Karma is concerned, what I wouldn’t give to be there on the day it creeps up behind my ex gf and bites her right in the ass! But I probably won’t be. Be lucky to even be made aware of it. But oh well.
Approximately 3 months ago my gf and I had our final fight and that was that. It was a bad night and in some ways we were both at fault, but there was a lot of built up resentment and festered anger on my part. For the way she had been treating me: cold and distant, little to no intimacy, inconsistent stories etc.
We didn’t speak for 2 weeks. When we finally did, we had our closure talk. Which was commendable. But it was the things she said. ‘I don’t think I was ever into you’ , etc etc. ok, but that sure didn’t stop her from accepting everything I would give her. And do for her. Just two weeks prior, I gave her 1000 bucks to help her out. She never offered to pay for a night out. When she didn’t feel like talking I was left on the back burner, but if I didn’t call her on any particular night she would ponder why. Could go on and on with tit for tat, but I treated this girl very well, placed her on a pedestal. If you weren’t into me, you could’ve done something about that a long time ago!
And yes I know, I should’ve walked myself. I became a sucker for her affection breadcrumbs when they did come. Her history is shaky, 3 failed marriages under her belt and when I first met her she was cohabitating with Ex #2, a convicted felon. He committed suicide 6 weeks into our relationship. I stuck by her and supported her throughout all that. I just wanted to be a fair and giving human being. After all, we all make bad mistakes and decisions in life. Terrible mistake.
The last night she was acting like I was a major chore to be around. She was in a real toxic and dismissive mood and I finally had enough.
No time to go into it all here now, but she is a user, abuser, and quite possibly a narcissist. Very into herself and self centered. She immediately monkey branched into a another relationship. She has done this before, my gut was always right.
And I say it again, what I wouldn’t give to be there on the day karma sneaks up behind her. Would give a LOT.
Your situation sounds like mine. My ex had a history of failed relationships, after her divorce it was like she was looking for anything that would work. She had a string of bad ones before me, some she left, some left her. She never loved me but just wanted to see if it would work. A year and a half later after I should have left her at least 3 times before that, here we are. I kept trying though. She wouldn’t change her communication, refused to work on things, and still treated me hot & cold, was nasty, said horrible things to me, and then would turn around the next minute and be all loving. It got to the point where I’d have to guess how she was going to be that day when we woke up in the morning, and literally anything I might say would set her off and she’d shut the proverbial door. She was toxic, mean, unkind, and didn’t care about anyone but herself. She blamed me for a lot of things that would never even happen or that I would never even think of doing. She was a manipulative gaslighter and I’m glad she’s gone. She’ll get her karma, yes she will. While I spent the whole first month after she dumped me in tears, and the last week of these holidays (after 3 weeks of thinking I was fine), I’m finally done. I refuse to carry the weight of her mistreatment of me into the new year. I am moving on–finding myself and my joy again, learning how to love myself, taking care of ME for once instead of worrying if HER needs are met, getting back into my favorite hobbies, being more active, doing things that are fun, meeting new people, building up existing friendships…you name it. She even said point blank, “I’m not going to change.” (“I’m”, meaning herself). I found out she badmouthed me to her friends and tried to blame everything on me. That’s OK though, because the universe knows better. That happened to me once before and the person is still stuck right where they were before they met me. I am starting to love who I am and hell, I even took off 30 lbs in the last 2 months–yes, 30! To me, making yourself the best version of yourself is the best–ABSOLUTE BEST–karma there is!!
I been in a marriage for 17 years …He cheated a couple of time,never value my words or respected my feelings…the last girl he cheated me with is from his country #Ecuador. I got tired of all the things he had done…I ask for a divorce from the beginning he was taking his time, now he is rushing me …He going to get .married with her to bring her …I was rebellious yesterday I admit..so I wrote to her she will get a feel of me when she comes to NYC… Im wrong and I know… is the fact he wants to be a change man to a family he didn’t created…what to us and his actual kids…
my still in depression , every onw and then i feel the urge to take revenge on him , but when i feel so i end up coming to articles like above… it calms me down.. thanks dear author for this article .. may god bless u
I already did an impulsive action. I reported her corrupt actions (money corruption in the government) to the anti corruption agency. And there is no turning back on what I did. I regret it 50%.
I used to worry about what would happen to people and now I don’t. I’m so happy about the life I’m pursuing. After 11 months of absolute Hell due to Person A and 3.5 years of absolute torture due to Person B, I’m finally ready to move on in every area of my life. It’s really a matter of: is the kind of person you want in your life as a friend or as a life partner the sort of person who would engage in the kind of behaviour necessitating negative karma in the first place? And the answer to that question is no. The right guy wouldn’t be with a worthless old hag pianist who regurgitates and memorises instead of invents in the first place. The right guy wouldn’t burn a bridge unnecessarily. The right guy wouldn’t spend months stalking and harassing someone. The right guy would be caring, compassionate, empathetic, empathic, diligent, focused, nice, handsome, sweet, and genuinely amazing and extraordinary. The right guy would be smart enough to get into HBS for his MBA and Oxford/HYP for his undergrad, fluent in French, capable of achieving massive things in business with a record to match. I think the sad reality is that sometimes we don’t want to do better–it’s easier to settle. Well, I’m done settling.
Well I just recently walked out of a broken relationship. I was in love with this guy, not knowing that there was someone else in the picture to the point where he got married to this lady instead of telling the truth.
One night he came to visit me and few mins he left, he accidentally send photos which was actually their engagement. My heart drops and ny world was turned upside down. He keeps on saying he’s still in love with me but hard for me because his family is wanting him to be with this lady. 2 weeks later he said sorry and regret what he did to me but that doesn’t justify his action. His answer was I know Karma is coming back to be for hurting you. I dont really know or believe Karma though.
So hard for me to let go coz both of our feelings are still there. We both worked together. So hard to avoid him. Now coming to an agreement that we are going to be good friends and he will always be there for me and so am I to him. Every time we bumped into each other the sparks are there and all we want is just grab each other and do what people do in relationships. I know it’s silly but I’m broken and still in love same time.. please someone help and tell me what should I do..
If he is in a relationship then you need to walk away. Firstly because he’s unfaithful and would you want to be in a relationship asking yourself is there someone else? Secondly whilst your still ‘friends’ you will never get over him. Perhaps the karma was a good karma telling you to RUN!! Non of us know what the future holds but just know that you’ll get better and a more deserving man for you. Cut all ties with this man and show him what a mistake he has made. Let him sit there wondering about you rather than him being with you and wondering about someone else. Good luck for the future. X
It’s interesting to find out about Karma and I only heard of this word in the social media, this year. I wasn’t quite sure what it’s means and what it does. If I knew long time ago I would have let’s go and move on without wanted to take revenge, although I have not even had a chance to take revenge on the asshole whose he planned it on me without me knowing. He had few girlfriend in different location and I found out once from photos he took with her at his college. I didn’t liked him at first but his smooth talks made me like attached to him. So I gave him a chance to date, after that he went to find another girl and deny it. Wtf he a coward!
From then i always had wanted to break up with him but he refused and beg me to trusted him. He always go to my bedroom and kneels down in front of me but did not say a word nor apologize to me.
He laid his ugly head on my laps to make me trusted him , always lied every time I caught him going out with her, a fat pig laughing and then denied. What a bloody couples balls. It broke my heart. She was a child friend and he was a related asshole. I told him we were not allowed to date but he said we can. I didn’t know what to do but I thought it was ok. When we were dating he was fooling me and lying all time, he also cheated my money for his crappy second hand car petrol and where he cannot even drive properly because he didn’t pass the test.
Always having his crappy car problem that made us late for College and this shit getting mad sometimes at me, even not my faults. I was having sleeplessness every nights because of his fuking seeing her and she phone him nearly every night made me felt bad. My heart were having problems and my chest hurt.
I was a shy loving girl and enjoyed life with my family before this shit came into my life and I have changed since then. My life has been turned upside down by this bloody monster whose hurt me so badly, made me cry all time. I tried committed sucided few times and ended up in Hospital once for overdose. Even I survived the ordeal he didn’t apologize. And the asshole would not break up with me. Doing the same trick again and again for many times kneeling in front of me only in my bedroom. He never dare to talks about the problem to my family nor to his elder brother, always fear that I might tell some secret to everyone so he always watching me to make sure i keep my mouth shut. It was not her because everyone knows that fat pig too.
It’s about he hit me and strangled me once time in the car. At first we were happy eating peanuts I bought from the college canteen and while he was driving I pop peanuts into his mouth and I was eating too. A moment later I said I saw her today (said her name), he just snapped and parked his shit car inside someone front car space where down the road was going back to our local. He then fuking jump me and strangled my neck. It was shocking and I had to hit him ,hit his glasses so he can’t see without them and grab his bloody hands off my neck. Everything happened so fast, less than a minute he then stop. And continue to drove home. The prison just down the road. I should have got out of the car and yell. I was dumb. When arrived home town he parked his crappy car in same place and put his head down my laps again fear I might tell my family. I knows the shit fear to be blamed or even get arrest..
When college ends I make the right choice and kicked him out of our house. Looking back he planned to use me and rob my virginity, that he been using other virgins too.
He got away with it so long. Why didn’t Karma get him? His parents knows he is a bad dog.
He was born in the year of Dog! Truth.
He got back to his ex and became a Police. They didn’t know he had crimes in UK because he’s now in HK.
I have moved on already but still cannot forgive him nor forget.
I didn’t know Karma exist and when is happening to get him?
I refused to speak to his father whose once looked after me when stayed at their house.
His bloody old mom was a greed old cunt cheated our money and so on.
Our parents brought very expensive Gold bracelets for her Sons wedding 5 of them each, and yet this fat cow mom of his gave our brother’s new wife a rusty fake Gold Bracelet. She thought no one find out because they shut their gob, we found out by going to a gold shop to test it.
And the asshole ex stolen my late aunt gold bracelet from her bedroom.
I wondered why karma didn’t flushed the asshole ex down to the sea?
My bf of 5 months we had a heavenly relationship. Everything was so perfect . He was very generous with me his time, his emotions his gifts. I saw nothing coming. Turned out that before he knew me promised another girl marriage who was also a family member living in another country. When he knew me he was already betrothed ! To make matters worse he said he is going in on a business holiday went and married her and then came back and decided to confront me with the truth ! Just like that all if a sudden and asked if we can stay friends and that he was forced into marrying her and that he didn’t want to tell me as not to lose me and that I was the best relationship he had and that he is already regretting it ! seriously !! I cut all ties with him after cursing him and always ask myself will karma get him for causing me this excrociating pain? I am still working on healing and recovering
Talk about stab in the back. He knew all along that he was planning to do this. He wanted his cake and eat it too. He mislead you, made you false promises. Hang in there, we will get our karma someday. And you will be happier and more furtunate that he’ll every be. You know why? Your intentions were pure. That’s all that matters in life.
This article is very accurate. Today has been a rollercoaster of emotions.
With a very brief couple examples, my ex of 3 years left me in March, and then started ghosting me the beginning of April (presumably because she had a new interest). The day of her date with this new person she got ghosted. Pretty coincidental huh? Well then she ignored my birthday in June, which is insane that she didn’t at least reach out. Well that DAY our college (I just graduated so it doesn’t affect me) sent out a revision on the start date which had been started earlier by several weeks which means she’ll have to go back alone. Her roommates graduated and moved out. Her sorority can no longer host groups, and the real kicker? The school is requiring in class participation, so her lazy ass can’t be at home comfortable. She has to move back.
The good karma that’s reached me? I finally got my dream job today after working tirelessly for months through the breakup, moving states, family trouble, and the outbreak. I cried my eyes out today, and I while I don’t consciously hope anything bad for my ex, her life is going to be hell of a lot worse than mine from here on out. I hope she unblocks me on social medias one day and just bawls her eyes out because she gave up a man who can achieve anything when he puts his mind to it.
Stay strong people, it’s hard but just be a good to yourself and karma will do the rest.
My bf of 4 yrs and fiance had been cheating on me with his co worker for at least 1,5 yrs.
I confronted both of them, they kepy denying it. And kept cheating on me. I had no proof. They called me crazy and suspicious.
Until I cracked his Iphone and read their whatsapp messages and finally had evidence. They were making fun of me for months, talking behind my back, planning together when it’s best for them to leave me, And ‘just to hang in there a bit longer’ till the mistress was divorced and moved house. They were making future plans together, they were pregnant. Had had a few miscarriages too and were planning to do IVF if this pregnancy would also result in a miscarriage. He was having a double life for almost 2 years and building a family with someone else. No guilt, no shame, no concious, no remorse.
I read every dirty detail, every dirty picture and video they shared. It was discusting. He doesn’t realize the pain he caused. When I confronted him, there Was not a shred of emotion.
It’s been almost 1 yesr now and it’s still like yesterday. Every single day I am waiting for karma and for God to hit back. But as your article says, it will probably happen when I don’t care any more. And that hurt even more. I want it to happen NOW. NOW, when I am feeling the pain, when my heart is bleeding, not 10 yrs later. He has hurt me like no one else has. I loved him, I trusted him, but he turned out to be my worst enemy. I hope that all the worst things life has to offer, will happen to him.
that is so intense ! bless you! I feel for you. Trust me Karma will get back to them truly you wouldn’t care at that point but you will still feel voila ! karma is a bitch
I can’t imagine going thru myself what you went thru. You are a better person. This pain will be a great motivation to turn you into even a better self, and attracting far better option that you will truly deserve. In a way, that a a good karma visiting you when the time come.
I really feel for you, sorry to hear you went through all that. What my ex did to me is a less intense version of yours but similar in many ways…
He was emotionally cheating for 2 months while saying that nothing was going on but the truth was that he was making sure they could have a relationshi (aka I was the saftey net). He started a long distance relationship with her just before he left me and 2 months after the break up he cheated on her with me. A year after they are married, expecting a baby and living in different countries, funny relationship as they havent even spend more that 90 days together. I am grateful that he broke me because reflecting upon this, he was toxic and would have cause me even more pain. Annoyingly, he has wounded me for life and just hope I get to trust again.
Apparently she is the oppisite of me and the relationship is the opposite of what we had, in his words, she can be a bitch and the relationship is turbulent. He chose that so now he can fully enjoy his decision. She give the impression that she only carws about appearances and showing off. They had a massive argument after his proposal because it wasnt good enough for her…
Anyway, back to karma, at the beginning of the year they found a tumor on his brain and unfortunately he has stage 4 cancer so he will be dying in a few years. I wished him suffering for a long time but obviously not such horrible thing but I am glad that I am not the one who has to look after him and see him die. The news made me very sad but on the other hand I kind of find easier to move on knowing that happy ending wont happen to them. Since he told me his dignosis I have been thinking I am a bad person because of the mix feelings Im experiencing. Karma will get back to your ex and it is really a bitch because in my case it has hit both of them in the worst possible way.
I just tell you that one way or another the universe has a plan for you ex, and after the way he treated you is probably not going to be good. Hang in there and stay strong. Trust me, with time you will see that what happened to you was a good thing.
“at the beginning of the year they found a tumor on his brain and unfortunately he has stage 4 cancer so he will be dying in a few years. I wished him suffering for a long time but obviously not such horrible thing“ I can’t believe you’re actually happy someone got cancer and the only problem you have with it is that you want him to suffer longer
I have been in no contact for 20 days after we broke up in December 2021.
Zan has helped me greatly during this time.
My Ex owes me a lot of money & I’ve asked her 5-6 times to repay me now that the relationship is over. She’s stalled and stalled me. I did not want to break no contact as per Zan’s advice so I asked a lawyer friend to send her an email to her workplace (she is also a lawyer) asking for the debt to be repaid. Funny that as soon as that message landed she has contacted him to say she will pay me back in instalments.
She’s been playing on my emotions and hope we’d sort out everything. She had put me off for long enough.
I received a message earlier from her directly saying she was upset that I hadn’t forewarned her about court proceedings & that she thought we were ok as had been pleasant to each other since the split, she thought as we had loved each other it wouldn’t get nasty or awkward. She then stated she had been meaning to tell me she had a box of my stuff to give me and wanted to meet to give it to me and have a coffee. Now she realises I wouldn’t want that.
I haven’t responded. I don’t intend to. She’s a manipulative liar who cheated on me more than once. I’m a firm believer in karma!
I’ll look forward to my vacation that she’ll be paying me back for!
Hi Jaytee.
She’d been hesitant about paying you back, so you had no choice but to contact your lawyer friend and asked him to mediate. I think it was the right thing to do so that you can get your money back and move on once and for all. She had hoped you would stay on good terms, but since she betrayed you and wasn’t willing to pay you back, that would be difficult. Parting ways may be better for now because she won’t change any time soon.
I think your life is going to get a lot better if it hasn’t already, Jaytee.
Kind regards,
Zan
Well I was with my ex for 8 years. I warned him about this woman. My neighbour (who is her aunty) warned her off my ex fiance. He’s 32 I’m 35. We had a drunk argument he took it as that, said he didn’t see a future 3 days later and on day 4 he called her up asking her out. They left it 3 weeks before making it Facebook official. It’s been 2 months of hell for me and part of me hopes he’ll change his mind because its quite clear he’s monkey branched but what’s not clear is if its a rebound? He only knows her through the pub, and I’m blocked and ghosted on everything. It’s like i don’t exist. Karma seems to have a long list! She’s 50 by the way and divorced and a grandma so ouch.
Hi Roslyn.
It’s evident he’d been connecting with this person and probably even emotionally cheating with her behind your back. Despite all the warnings from people, he went for her because he had made her into a backup plan. That’s a good example of why backup plans are bad.
He’s not in love with you anymore, so it’s not a rebound. But he could still fail with her and come back. For now, you should stay off Facebook (stop checking up on them) so you can stop obsessing about them and get yourself back.
Hang in there, Roslyn.
Zan
No Karma yet. She’s just living a merry life doing whatever she pleases. I wonder if her life is so awesome why block me ? I don’t bother her in anyway. Even though she works only 8 minutes away in the same town I live in. I hope I don’t run into her and her boyfriend.
Anyway she cheated on me then left me almost 3 yrs ago. In the first year she said she was coming back 3x. She always changed her mind. One time she called me crying to come and get her. I did and thought she was done running and would stay. She crushed my heart by leaving the next day. She ruined my life and the pain is is still in my heart. Karma where are you. Someone like her is so cold hearted and selfish hopefully sometime in her life she’ll learn that you can’t treat someone like that and be careless about it. So I try to move on a little everyday and who knows if someday that crying voice will call again for my help.
Bill, never go back to that. She’s toxic. Karma will find her. That level of dysfunction invites it. It might take some time. But it will happen. Find someone who’s deserving of you. She’s not.
Your probably right. Love is blind until you get punched in the eye like she did to me. Thanks for your reply. She won’t see Karma coming till it hits her in the eye just like me. It’s only a matter of time.
Hi Bill.
Blocking is a sign of anger and a lack of self-control. Most people do it because they can’t handle the injustice/negative emotions flowing through their bodies.
If your ex is so unhappy and wanted to come back to you so many times, she’s already gotten hit by karma, Bill. You’re waiting for something big and painful to happen to her, but you’re forgetting that her daily life is a struggle.
Kind regards,
Zan
Hi, is there any particular reason my messages don’t show up?
Hi Lurker.
They are showing. Sometimes they just take a minute or two to go through.
Best,
Zan
I never wish karma on anyone..im mature enough to know it does and will happen when the universe says its time … Proof is recently my ex came by one day and told me straight out it happened to her and that she was verry very sorry”brief version “ for what she did and that i didn’t deserve what happened. I wont get into details as is a long story. But i feel ten times better months later of healing and feeling myself again ..i have excepted and once again i am mature enough to forgive forget and understand no ones perfect and we all
Make mistakes. Going forward not sure what our future holds and what will happen. But i will say Zan your work has helped myself feel alot better and have enjoyed everything u have written with your “ magnetofsucces”🙏 cheers
Hi Dallas.
Karma gets people when they least expect it. Your ex got hit because she thought she could keep treating others the way she did, so she got punished for it. I hope you handled it maturely when she apologized.
Thanks for reading the blog, Dallas. I appreciate your kind words.
Zan
“Drug dealers, criminals, and various dangerous people are well aware of their actions. They know they have completely ruined their karma a long time ago, so they must now live in fear and hide in the shadows.” That’s not because they believe in karma, and if they did believe it they’d expect it to strike law enforcement and similar enemies down, because they genuinely believe they are forced by external circumstances, or doing the right thing. In their mind, it’s just that the police disagree with them, that the whole world is against them etc etc. And, of course, in some cases they really do have no choice, so having them be hit by karma (assuming that’s a thing for the sake of argument) would be…complicated when it comes to fairness. Getting back to that in a minute.
“Your ex doesn’t get affected to that degree, of course, but the same principles apply:
He or she commits karmic injustice
Feels good for feeling empowered
Realizes what he or she has done
Feels guilty
Temporarily or permanently ruins his or her karma
I say temporarily because everyone can redeem his or her karma. This includes your ex.
Although chances are small—especially right after the breakup, your ex must first get punished for what he or she has done. People don’t really learn otherwise and your ex won’t either.
Not for as long as he or she is happy and lives life unpunished for his or her actions.” Slight problem there: this assumes there’s a outside entity that judges people – and not just humanity as a whole, or even groups, but this presupposed entity bothers to judge individuals. Not counting the animals (how would anything judge predators and prey?), that’s, what, 17 billion individuals, all of which requiring a tailor-made punishment? Even if, for the sake of argument, we assume such a eldritch being exists, why would they care who everyone dumped and how they lived afterwards? And of course such a eldritch being doling out punishments who can watch and judge 17 billion people’s actions at the same time and devise adequate punishment would not have our human morality, especially not if they don’t just do it in the present but also in the future and the past. So…that’s all very Lovecraftian. But I do like how you encourage people not to seek revenge. And in a sense you’re right in that if they he hurt people again and again (and they wouldn’t feel empowered btw, it’d just be routine, the way things go or are supposed to go) that eventually, word leaks out. But I don’t like the bit about forgiving and forgetting. I think forgiving is great, don’t get me wrong, it’s probably a lot better than hoping for revenge and it’s likely very healing. But if you forget, you’re just gonna make the same mistake again and again and again. And I think it’s fine to remember what someone did and not hold it against them.
I’d known this guy for a little over two years at work. We’d became real close and considered each other good friends. He wasn’t the best looking guy but his warm personality and kind heart really drew me towards him. In other words I felt safe and comfortable with him. I was fond of him but I hadn’t thought of pursing him romantically, I was fine with being his friend. His friendship was really important to me. I didn’t have many friends before I started working at our job, so I cherished all the friends I’d made. He always teased me, but a few months or so back I could tell a change in his behavior towards me, he was flirting with Me. At first it was subtle and then it became very obvious to not only me but the people around me. I gave some push back for a while, and then with the encouragement of others who thought we’d be perfect together, I finally decided to go for it. My thoughts were why not he’s kind, he says he cares about me, and we get along great. We had our rocky start of admiting we both liked one another, he even told me he was afraid he might hurt me. I should’ve listened then, but I figured because of past relationships he was just protecting his own heart, and little naive me who is 25 and never dated anyone because of self esteem issues decided I’d take on all of it be his rock, and allow him to be vulnerable. In my mind we cared enough about one another. I allowed myself to open up to him and talk to him about things I’d never talked to a man about before, but for me it was ok because I trusted him. I was just waiting for him to open up to me, and he never did. The date we went on was great and he made me think we were on the same page. I even had my first kiss that day. Instead he lead me on, he made plans and I’d always have to remind him about it or it’d never happen. He made me question if be truly liked me, but when we were in the presence of one another mostly at work , he was all over me. I myself was on my last leg when it came to our situationship, I couldn’t even call it a relationship we were suppose to be dating and building towards that because we both agreed we wanted something serious. I asked him if he could come over and he never responded to it. I was talking to another close friend at work about it and how I wondered if I was wasting my time. I didn’t want to have to keep begging for someone’s time and attention. She thought she was being helpful and she talked to him about it even though I hadn’t asked her to. He messaged me while still at work and said he was sorry for the late reply ( almost a day later!) I wasn’t quite sure how to respond in the moment So I didn’t respond right away, and then a few hours later I asked him why it took so long and that it felt like he’d been ignoring me. He again said he was sorry and that he’d forgotten to respond. I felt iffy about it, but I told him it was OK an that I was sorry I misundstood. I thought everything was OK and back on track and as I was leaving from work that morning he messaged me that we should remain friends and a relationship wasn’t something he thinks he’s interested in. It totally threw me for a loop. I tried to call him and he didnt answer, but I texted him and he instantly responded.
I asked him what I’d done wrong was it just that he didn’t want to be with me? He said it wasnt specially me and he didn’t want to hurt me any further and keep stifling those thoughts. I asked if he’d talk on the phone and he didn’t respond, then 8 hours pass and he messages saying he’d fallen asleep. I didn’t respond in that moment because my emotions were all over the place. I knew i wouldn’t have said anything nice.
I missed work that day because I was so hurt. I felt like I’d been tossed aside. How could someone who said I meant so much to them and they cared so much about me just up and dump me? He never checked on me, never asked my friends if I was ok. At work he wouldn’t say a word to me unless he had to, that hurt as well. I was the one who eventually asked to talk to him again. I felt like if I did and I got things off my chest I’d feel better and our awkward atmosphere would go away. That maybe we could salvage our friendship. We met in the parking lot at work and we talked in his car. I asked him to explain everything to me and he said he didn’t really know what to say. He was so low energy so nonchalant. Before me I didn’t see the sweet guy I’d trusted. It felt cold and impersonal. He said there wasn’t anyone else and he choose no one, and that was his choice. But that was a lie, so many people had come forward and told me that he’d been flirting with other girls. I felt like a fool. I got out of his car because his words hurt me and pissed me off. He didn’t come after me and that hurt too. I got in my car and drove to other side of the building. I gave my mom a call and i screamed. How could I give my time and attention to someone like that? How did I allow myself to be open and vulnerable to him? I stayed on the phone and went into the breakroom. He came in and acted as if nothing had happened, which made me snap at him. I told him how his attitude pissed me off, and other things. I didn’t like being angry, I’ve always liked to be happy and bubbly. I like to be at peace and in control, but in that moment I just couldn’t. He said I had the right to be angry and we’d talk later if I wanted and then he just left out. Once again he was cold. All throughout the shift we avoided one another, and finally after I’d cooled, I told hi I’d talk again with him. But I warned him not to piss me off. We sat in my car this time and he seemed a little less robotic. He talked more, he apologized, but even then I couldn’t truly feel it. It’s not like I wanted him to beg or gravel, but I just wanted to be able to feel it in my heart and I couldn’t. He still felt distant and couldn’t give any real explanation as to why he’d even brotherd to pursue me if he wasn’t looking for something serious. Or why he’d lied about what he really wanted. He knew the type of girl I was and that I wouldn’t be ok with just a fling.. He finally confessed he was still not over his ex. But itd been a long time since they’d been together. I knew about her hurting him. I’d heard from another friend, I was just waiting for him to share it on his own time. I was willing to be his rock and reassure him on whatever he feared. I wasn’t worried much about my feelings because I thought I had to protect his. But I guess
that was just me being stupid. He said he didn’t expect for her to come back, and I told him he needed to work on it. His last words were that he was sorry and that he hoped we could be cordial coworkers. I didn’t answer him. In my mind, I’d like to forgive and move on but at the same time I can’t. I’d like for him to realize just how much I cared, just how much I was willing to give, just how pure my intentions were towards him, and just how badly it all hurt me. I know i myself couldn’t heal him, but I was willing to go on that journey with him, if he would have let me. Now I’m just going through the motions and wondering when he’ll get his karma and when he’ll realize? I know eventually I’ll let go, and it won’t matter anymore to me. But it still sucks that I not only lost a romantic interest but a friend as well or atleast someone I thought was a friend.
I am so happy I found this article. Every now and again I will look for articles that will encourage me to stop investing thoughts at my brutal ex.
I was awarded a full scholarship to do my masters in the UK last year. Had been dating the ex for 5 years and living together for 4. Had known each other for years before she asked me out. I had heard that at her university she had been quite the sexual queen, but I did not want to base a relationship on gossip. So I gave it a try. WORST DECISION OF MY LIFE.
When she moved in with me she was unemployed-got her a job through my connections. She then started her own media company and POACHED a client from the previous employer. She lied saying the client wanted to leave anyway. She also used a lot of my connections to position herself as this amazing person who is great with social media content (which she plagiarises online).
Back to my Masters. So I left my country in September 2021 and was supposed to return this year end Septemebr. I had to leave the UK in April, A WEEK BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY, because she called me telling me:
She thinks I am a great guy and friend but terrible partner
She has thought about my birthday and she does not care about it (bare in my her birthdays were always amazing-she would not even buy me a gift or cake on mine)
She has no emotional bandwidth for me and she is tired of me.
This person would deprive me of sex for two years at a time and tell me it will happen when it happens. When I was in the UK she still expected me to send my share of bills (even though i was renting in the UK and had minimal stipend). She said she earned 500£ a month from the company she poached -only to find out she actually earns double that and it was enough for her to live back home.
She left the house the day before i landed and left the keys with the neighbours. Took the only car we had. Stole my camera and other things.
I spent my birthday in pain and with massive anxiety. On my birthday she sent me an email: HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I KNOW YOU ARE GOING TO SMASH YOUR 40’s!
She blocked me everywhere, cancelled wifi, cancelled all her financial responsibilities.
Fortunately I have a great therapist and great friends.
So I was able to get the support i needed to complete my Masters with Distinction.
I was broken but now I dont care much about them. I have a suspicion that she was living multiple lives because she ;lies with a straight face.
Hi focused.
You got involved with a very self-centered, possibly narcissistic person. She obviously didn’t care about you as much as you did about her—and only wanted what’s best for her. This is why she told you that you’re a terrible partner and that she doesn’t care about your birthday. That must have shocked you beyond belief. It takes some serious immaturity and arrogance to say something like that. I’m not sure what damaged her so much, but whatever it was, it probably started early on in her childhood.
Your life is only going to get better from now on. It’ll take time to get her out of your system, but when she’s out for good, you’ll see that she was holding you back in every possible way.
Hang in there!
Zan
Hi wander n wander.
You mustn’t believe people when they promise you things at the start of the relationship. Most guys will tell you things you want to hear so you can relax. Their real personality shows itself much later (usually months into the relationship). So forget about all the nice things he said to you back then. People’s feelings can change when they encounter problems, stressors, or doubts.
Stay strong and learn what you can from this ordeal. And of course, work on your trust issues.
Best regards,
Zan
Precisely the same here. But karma’s already begun its work. She’s getting the life she deserves. They leave with an arrogance, and then life brings them back to earth – either sooner or later.
Hang in there, Doug.
Focus on improving your life and it won’t matter how much your ex suffers. Her pain won’t measure your success.
Best,
Zan
As always, sage advice. My wife, the love of my life, was very cruel to me after she left, after I’d treated her like royalty for six years. She never even said that she was unhappy in the marriage before leaving. I had no idea. She went on to other relationships, and then for financial reasons, was forced to move to a city in a different state where her father and sisters live, and which she hates. I’d like to get to a point where I’m indifferent, but that’s going to take a Long time. Other than that, my life is pretty solid: career, etc. I dream of getting to where she has no effect on me, because I’m enjoying life so much on my own. I can’t envision that happening though. It’s been over two years and it hasn’t happened yet. Not even close
Hi Doug.
Don’t blame yourself for your ex’s behavior. The way she treated you has nothing to do with your worth as a person. It merely shows that she felt smothered and that she really wanted to date other people.
You’re going to become indifferent soon, Doug. Long-term relationships take a while longer to get over, but you’re getting there!
Best regards,
Zan
After reading all about karma from you, God renewed my heart towards my Ex.l can now forgive her for all that she did to me.
Thank you so much for helping me change my thoughts about karma.
Yes, what you sow you shall reap. It happens when you least expect it. Karma is justice for the dumpee. Forgive them for their selfish ways. They are oblivious to the pain they caused because they make you the villain to justify their actions.
“they make you the villain to justify their actions” This is So true. You basically described my soon to be ex-wife
She also said in an angry voice to me ” Oh your the victim”. Just one more accusation to make them feel justified for destroying your marriage.
This pretty much summed up what happened to me seven years ago. And even to this day I wonder if karma is real (hence coming across this article). It took me years to get to the indifference stage. From wanting him suffer what I had suffered to now more interested in the concept of karma, it came a long way. I think time did the job for me in the end. Now I’m just curious to know if karma ever got back to him and if so, how much more severe…
In 2017…a girl who I dated broke up with me..and we chose to stay friends (bad idea dont befriend an ex) everything was quite toxic to be honest. Then a few months later she told me immediately after the breakup a mutual friend hooked up with her behind my back….I was interacting with them both. AMD they’ve just been secretive…in 2020, she texted me on Facebook saying “in so sorry for what I did and I want you to know that karma got me bro..I hope that makes you happy” I didnt see that coming! I just forgave and moved in with my life…it did make me think sometimes people will cause you pain and they’ll never understand until it happens to them
How did karma get her?
Great and insightful article. Very applicable to my own situation.
As far as Karma is concerned, what I wouldn’t give to be there on the day it creeps up behind my ex gf and bites her right in the ass! But I probably won’t be. Be lucky to even be made aware of it. But oh well.
Approximately 3 months ago my gf and I had our final fight and that was that. It was a bad night and in some ways we were both at fault, but there was a lot of built up resentment and festered anger on my part. For the way she had been treating me: cold and distant, little to no intimacy, inconsistent stories etc.
We didn’t speak for 2 weeks. When we finally did, we had our closure talk. Which was commendable. But it was the things she said. ‘I don’t think I was ever into you’ , etc etc. ok, but that sure didn’t stop her from accepting everything I would give her. And do for her. Just two weeks prior, I gave her 1000 bucks to help her out. She never offered to pay for a night out. When she didn’t feel like talking I was left on the back burner, but if I didn’t call her on any particular night she would ponder why. Could go on and on with tit for tat, but I treated this girl very well, placed her on a pedestal. If you weren’t into me, you could’ve done something about that a long time ago!
And yes I know, I should’ve walked myself. I became a sucker for her affection breadcrumbs when they did come. Her history is shaky, 3 failed marriages under her belt and when I first met her she was cohabitating with Ex #2, a convicted felon. He committed suicide 6 weeks into our relationship. I stuck by her and supported her throughout all that. I just wanted to be a fair and giving human being. After all, we all make bad mistakes and decisions in life. Terrible mistake.
The last night she was acting like I was a major chore to be around. She was in a real toxic and dismissive mood and I finally had enough.
No time to go into it all here now, but she is a user, abuser, and quite possibly a narcissist. Very into herself and self centered. She immediately monkey branched into a another relationship. She has done this before, my gut was always right.
And I say it again, what I wouldn’t give to be there on the day karma sneaks up behind her. Would give a LOT.
Your situation sounds like mine. My ex had a history of failed relationships, after her divorce it was like she was looking for anything that would work. She had a string of bad ones before me, some she left, some left her. She never loved me but just wanted to see if it would work. A year and a half later after I should have left her at least 3 times before that, here we are. I kept trying though. She wouldn’t change her communication, refused to work on things, and still treated me hot & cold, was nasty, said horrible things to me, and then would turn around the next minute and be all loving. It got to the point where I’d have to guess how she was going to be that day when we woke up in the morning, and literally anything I might say would set her off and she’d shut the proverbial door. She was toxic, mean, unkind, and didn’t care about anyone but herself. She blamed me for a lot of things that would never even happen or that I would never even think of doing. She was a manipulative gaslighter and I’m glad she’s gone. She’ll get her karma, yes she will. While I spent the whole first month after she dumped me in tears, and the last week of these holidays (after 3 weeks of thinking I was fine), I’m finally done. I refuse to carry the weight of her mistreatment of me into the new year. I am moving on–finding myself and my joy again, learning how to love myself, taking care of ME for once instead of worrying if HER needs are met, getting back into my favorite hobbies, being more active, doing things that are fun, meeting new people, building up existing friendships…you name it. She even said point blank, “I’m not going to change.” (“I’m”, meaning herself). I found out she badmouthed me to her friends and tried to blame everything on me. That’s OK though, because the universe knows better. That happened to me once before and the person is still stuck right where they were before they met me. I am starting to love who I am and hell, I even took off 30 lbs in the last 2 months–yes, 30! To me, making yourself the best version of yourself is the best–ABSOLUTE BEST–karma there is!!
Good on you mate. Now I am available 🤣🤣🤣🤣… All the best
I been in a marriage for 17 years …He cheated a couple of time,never value my words or respected my feelings…the last girl he cheated me with is from his country #Ecuador. I got tired of all the things he had done…I ask for a divorce from the beginning he was taking his time, now he is rushing me …He going to get .married with her to bring her …I was rebellious yesterday I admit..so I wrote to her she will get a feel of me when she comes to NYC… Im wrong and I know… is the fact he wants to be a change man to a family he didn’t created…what to us and his actual kids…
my still in depression , every onw and then i feel the urge to take revenge on him , but when i feel so i end up coming to articles like above… it calms me down.. thanks dear author for this article .. may god bless u
I already did an impulsive action. I reported her corrupt actions (money corruption in the government) to the anti corruption agency. And there is no turning back on what I did. I regret it 50%.
I used to worry about what would happen to people and now I don’t. I’m so happy about the life I’m pursuing. After 11 months of absolute Hell due to Person A and 3.5 years of absolute torture due to Person B, I’m finally ready to move on in every area of my life. It’s really a matter of: is the kind of person you want in your life as a friend or as a life partner the sort of person who would engage in the kind of behaviour necessitating negative karma in the first place? And the answer to that question is no. The right guy wouldn’t be with a worthless old hag pianist who regurgitates and memorises instead of invents in the first place. The right guy wouldn’t burn a bridge unnecessarily. The right guy wouldn’t spend months stalking and harassing someone. The right guy would be caring, compassionate, empathetic, empathic, diligent, focused, nice, handsome, sweet, and genuinely amazing and extraordinary. The right guy would be smart enough to get into HBS for his MBA and Oxford/HYP for his undergrad, fluent in French, capable of achieving massive things in business with a record to match. I think the sad reality is that sometimes we don’t want to do better–it’s easier to settle. Well, I’m done settling.
Well I just recently walked out of a broken relationship. I was in love with this guy, not knowing that there was someone else in the picture to the point where he got married to this lady instead of telling the truth.
One night he came to visit me and few mins he left, he accidentally send photos which was actually their engagement. My heart drops and ny world was turned upside down. He keeps on saying he’s still in love with me but hard for me because his family is wanting him to be with this lady. 2 weeks later he said sorry and regret what he did to me but that doesn’t justify his action. His answer was I know Karma is coming back to be for hurting you. I dont really know or believe Karma though.
So hard for me to let go coz both of our feelings are still there. We both worked together. So hard to avoid him. Now coming to an agreement that we are going to be good friends and he will always be there for me and so am I to him. Every time we bumped into each other the sparks are there and all we want is just grab each other and do what people do in relationships. I know it’s silly but I’m broken and still in love same time.. please someone help and tell me what should I do..
If he is in a relationship then you need to walk away. Firstly because he’s unfaithful and would you want to be in a relationship asking yourself is there someone else? Secondly whilst your still ‘friends’ you will never get over him. Perhaps the karma was a good karma telling you to RUN!! Non of us know what the future holds but just know that you’ll get better and a more deserving man for you. Cut all ties with this man and show him what a mistake he has made. Let him sit there wondering about you rather than him being with you and wondering about someone else. Good luck for the future. X
It’s interesting to find out about Karma and I only heard of this word in the social media, this year. I wasn’t quite sure what it’s means and what it does. If I knew long time ago I would have let’s go and move on without wanted to take revenge, although I have not even had a chance to take revenge on the asshole whose he planned it on me without me knowing. He had few girlfriend in different location and I found out once from photos he took with her at his college. I didn’t liked him at first but his smooth talks made me like attached to him. So I gave him a chance to date, after that he went to find another girl and deny it. Wtf he a coward!
From then i always had wanted to break up with him but he refused and beg me to trusted him. He always go to my bedroom and kneels down in front of me but did not say a word nor apologize to me.
He laid his ugly head on my laps to make me trusted him , always lied every time I caught him going out with her, a fat pig laughing and then denied. What a bloody couples balls. It broke my heart. She was a child friend and he was a related asshole. I told him we were not allowed to date but he said we can. I didn’t know what to do but I thought it was ok. When we were dating he was fooling me and lying all time, he also cheated my money for his crappy second hand car petrol and where he cannot even drive properly because he didn’t pass the test.
Always having his crappy car problem that made us late for College and this shit getting mad sometimes at me, even not my faults. I was having sleeplessness every nights because of his fuking seeing her and she phone him nearly every night made me felt bad. My heart were having problems and my chest hurt.
I was a shy loving girl and enjoyed life with my family before this shit came into my life and I have changed since then. My life has been turned upside down by this bloody monster whose hurt me so badly, made me cry all time. I tried committed sucided few times and ended up in Hospital once for overdose. Even I survived the ordeal he didn’t apologize. And the asshole would not break up with me. Doing the same trick again and again for many times kneeling in front of me only in my bedroom. He never dare to talks about the problem to my family nor to his elder brother, always fear that I might tell some secret to everyone so he always watching me to make sure i keep my mouth shut. It was not her because everyone knows that fat pig too.
It’s about he hit me and strangled me once time in the car. At first we were happy eating peanuts I bought from the college canteen and while he was driving I pop peanuts into his mouth and I was eating too. A moment later I said I saw her today (said her name), he just snapped and parked his shit car inside someone front car space where down the road was going back to our local. He then fuking jump me and strangled my neck. It was shocking and I had to hit him ,hit his glasses so he can’t see without them and grab his bloody hands off my neck. Everything happened so fast, less than a minute he then stop. And continue to drove home. The prison just down the road. I should have got out of the car and yell. I was dumb. When arrived home town he parked his crappy car in same place and put his head down my laps again fear I might tell my family. I knows the shit fear to be blamed or even get arrest..
When college ends I make the right choice and kicked him out of our house. Looking back he planned to use me and rob my virginity, that he been using other virgins too.
He got away with it so long. Why didn’t Karma get him? His parents knows he is a bad dog.
He was born in the year of Dog! Truth.
He got back to his ex and became a Police. They didn’t know he had crimes in UK because he’s now in HK.
I have moved on already but still cannot forgive him nor forget.
I didn’t know Karma exist and when is happening to get him?
I refused to speak to his father whose once looked after me when stayed at their house.
His bloody old mom was a greed old cunt cheated our money and so on.
Our parents brought very expensive Gold bracelets for her Sons wedding 5 of them each, and yet this fat cow mom of his gave our brother’s new wife a rusty fake Gold Bracelet. She thought no one find out because they shut their gob, we found out by going to a gold shop to test it.
And the asshole ex stolen my late aunt gold bracelet from her bedroom.
I wondered why karma didn’t flushed the asshole ex down to the sea?
My bf of 5 months we had a heavenly relationship. Everything was so perfect . He was very generous with me his time, his emotions his gifts. I saw nothing coming. Turned out that before he knew me promised another girl marriage who was also a family member living in another country. When he knew me he was already betrothed ! To make matters worse he said he is going in on a business holiday went and married her and then came back and decided to confront me with the truth ! Just like that all if a sudden and asked if we can stay friends and that he was forced into marrying her and that he didn’t want to tell me as not to lose me and that I was the best relationship he had and that he is already regretting it ! seriously !! I cut all ties with him after cursing him and always ask myself will karma get him for causing me this excrociating pain? I am still working on healing and recovering
Talk about stab in the back. He knew all along that he was planning to do this. He wanted his cake and eat it too. He mislead you, made you false promises. Hang in there, we will get our karma someday. And you will be happier and more furtunate that he’ll every be. You know why? Your intentions were pure. That’s all that matters in life.
This article is very accurate. Today has been a rollercoaster of emotions.
With a very brief couple examples, my ex of 3 years left me in March, and then started ghosting me the beginning of April (presumably because she had a new interest). The day of her date with this new person she got ghosted. Pretty coincidental huh? Well then she ignored my birthday in June, which is insane that she didn’t at least reach out. Well that DAY our college (I just graduated so it doesn’t affect me) sent out a revision on the start date which had been started earlier by several weeks which means she’ll have to go back alone. Her roommates graduated and moved out. Her sorority can no longer host groups, and the real kicker? The school is requiring in class participation, so her lazy ass can’t be at home comfortable. She has to move back.
The good karma that’s reached me? I finally got my dream job today after working tirelessly for months through the breakup, moving states, family trouble, and the outbreak. I cried my eyes out today, and I while I don’t consciously hope anything bad for my ex, her life is going to be hell of a lot worse than mine from here on out. I hope she unblocks me on social medias one day and just bawls her eyes out because she gave up a man who can achieve anything when he puts his mind to it.
Stay strong people, it’s hard but just be a good to yourself and karma will do the rest.
My bf of 4 yrs and fiance had been cheating on me with his co worker for at least 1,5 yrs.
I confronted both of them, they kepy denying it. And kept cheating on me. I had no proof. They called me crazy and suspicious.
Until I cracked his Iphone and read their whatsapp messages and finally had evidence. They were making fun of me for months, talking behind my back, planning together when it’s best for them to leave me, And ‘just to hang in there a bit longer’ till the mistress was divorced and moved house. They were making future plans together, they were pregnant. Had had a few miscarriages too and were planning to do IVF if this pregnancy would also result in a miscarriage. He was having a double life for almost 2 years and building a family with someone else. No guilt, no shame, no concious, no remorse.
I read every dirty detail, every dirty picture and video they shared. It was discusting. He doesn’t realize the pain he caused. When I confronted him, there Was not a shred of emotion.
It’s been almost 1 yesr now and it’s still like yesterday. Every single day I am waiting for karma and for God to hit back. But as your article says, it will probably happen when I don’t care any more. And that hurt even more. I want it to happen NOW. NOW, when I am feeling the pain, when my heart is bleeding, not 10 yrs later. He has hurt me like no one else has. I loved him, I trusted him, but he turned out to be my worst enemy. I hope that all the worst things life has to offer, will happen to him.
that is so intense ! bless you! I feel for you. Trust me Karma will get back to them truly you wouldn’t care at that point but you will still feel voila ! karma is a bitch
I can’t imagine going thru myself what you went thru. You are a better person. This pain will be a great motivation to turn you into even a better self, and attracting far better option that you will truly deserve. In a way, that a a good karma visiting you when the time come.
I really feel for you, sorry to hear you went through all that. What my ex did to me is a less intense version of yours but similar in many ways…
He was emotionally cheating for 2 months while saying that nothing was going on but the truth was that he was making sure they could have a relationshi (aka I was the saftey net). He started a long distance relationship with her just before he left me and 2 months after the break up he cheated on her with me. A year after they are married, expecting a baby and living in different countries, funny relationship as they havent even spend more that 90 days together. I am grateful that he broke me because reflecting upon this, he was toxic and would have cause me even more pain. Annoyingly, he has wounded me for life and just hope I get to trust again.
Apparently she is the oppisite of me and the relationship is the opposite of what we had, in his words, she can be a bitch and the relationship is turbulent. He chose that so now he can fully enjoy his decision. She give the impression that she only carws about appearances and showing off. They had a massive argument after his proposal because it wasnt good enough for her…
Anyway, back to karma, at the beginning of the year they found a tumor on his brain and unfortunately he has stage 4 cancer so he will be dying in a few years. I wished him suffering for a long time but obviously not such horrible thing but I am glad that I am not the one who has to look after him and see him die. The news made me very sad but on the other hand I kind of find easier to move on knowing that happy ending wont happen to them. Since he told me his dignosis I have been thinking I am a bad person because of the mix feelings Im experiencing. Karma will get back to your ex and it is really a bitch because in my case it has hit both of them in the worst possible way.
I just tell you that one way or another the universe has a plan for you ex, and after the way he treated you is probably not going to be good. Hang in there and stay strong. Trust me, with time you will see that what happened to you was a good thing.
Thank you for sharing your story and your kind words. I got very emotional. Your story has helped me to stay hopeful.
“at the beginning of the year they found a tumor on his brain and unfortunately he has stage 4 cancer so he will be dying in a few years. I wished him suffering for a long time but obviously not such horrible thing“ I can’t believe you’re actually happy someone got cancer and the only problem you have with it is that you want him to suffer longer
I can’t believe you’re happy someone got cancer and that the only problem you have with it is that you want them to suffer longer.