Will She Miss Me If She Blocked Me?

If your ex or the girl you were seeing blocked you, you’re probably wondering if she’ll miss you after a while. You’re curious to know if she’ll experience difficulties staying away from you and letting you go. This is hard for me or anyone else to say because it depends on how she thinks, perceives you, and spends her free time.

If she spends it constantly engaging in hobbies and activities, talking to others, dating people, and keeping busy, she may not have a good reason to miss you. She might be too preoccupied with her post-breakup/rejection life to wonder about you and regret losing you. Right after the breakup or rejection, it’s nearly impossible for the dumper to miss the dumpee.

The dumper may feel bad, but that doesn’t guarantee overwhelming nostalgia and a reach-out. Oftentimes, the dumper keeps his or her guilt or even a bit of nostalgia and curiosity to herself. She refuses to break the silence just to unblock and talk to the dumpee.

When she does unblock, she understands that she went too far and that her ex deserves better treatment.

Again, the dumper may not reach out after such a realization. She could just unblock the dumpee and leave it at that.

So if your ex-girlfriend blocked you, keep in mind that her unblocking depends on many things, all of which are out of your control. The most important determinant is her reason for blocking you. If you just begged for another chance and annoyed her for a bit, she’ll likely unblock you after she’s calmed down. She won’t stay angry forever just because you wanted her affection and love.

However, if you threatened her or her loved ones’ safety, then she may not forgive and unblock. Consider the possibility that she may keep her guard up and have no reason to unblock and miss you. When she feels unsafe and/or can’t stop blaming you for hurting her, she’ll probably continue to remind herself why it was necessary to block you and keep you out of her life.

Besides your relationship, breakup, and post-breakup behavior, her character and way of coping with anger and other powerful emotions also play a big role in her missing you and wanting to unblock and talk. If she deals with anger before it turns into long-term resentment, she probably forgives people more often than not and lets them get close to her.

She understands that holding grudges is bad for everyone and that she shouldn’t make any enemies.

If she usually forgives people and/or takes responsibility for her mistakes, she might miss you and unblock you when she processes the breakup and decides to bury the hatchet. A forgiving, humble, responsible, and kind ex with decent morals has a history of letting go of negative emotions and knows that blocking isn’t the answer unless it’s done for self-protection.

Your ex’s social life and loneliness are also important factors when it comes to her missing you. If her friends are busy and/or she has no one to talk to, she may miss you when she’s alone and feels lonely. She could miss you on days that are important to her such as her birthday, holidays, deathversaries, and special occasions.

Some exes also believe that they should immediately block their ex and be done with him. They don’t feel safe or comfortable with the idea that their ex could reach out whenever he wants and make their life difficult. They know that an unsolicited reach out could put immense pressure on them and force them to tend to their ex’s wants and needs rather than theirs.

That’s why they keep their ex blocked even if their ex was a decent person. They just don’t want to spend any more time and energy on their ex.

Therefore, her nostalgia is quite conditional. She probably won’t miss you just because you were a nice person and partner. Don’t get me wrong. Your personality and character are important, but they’re just one of the conditions for her nostalgia. A much bigger condition for her sentimentality and unblocking is her post-breakup experience.

If she’s happy, relieved, and in love with another person, she probably won’t miss you – at least for a while. She’ll focus on her new life and try to get the most out of it. She could miss you later when her life slows down and makes her experience problems. Problems can be eye-opening for dumpers as they can force them to see that their ex wasn’t as bad as they made him or her out to be.

Problems can tell them life was better, easier, or different when they were with their ex and make them curious about their ex. Curiosity then urges them to unblock their ex and perhaps even reach out. The worse their life gets and the worse they feel, the bigger the chance that they’ll reflect and miss the dumpee.

That’s why it’s important to leave the dumper alone and let her encounter issues. If issues affect her emotionally or if she lacks the tools to deal with them effectively, she might think about you, improve her perception of you, and miss you even if you said or did mean things that made her block you.

She could get over the past when the present is too difficult for her to overcome.

In this post, we talk about whether she could miss you if she blocked you.

Will she miss me if she blocked me?

Your ex-girlfriend could miss you despite blocking you if something or someone reminds her that she’s worse off now than she was when she was with you. Pain, unhappiness, and unmet wants and needs could trigger her sentimentality and tell her that she overreacted and shouldn’t have blocked you.

Before she can miss you though, she must process her pain and resentment and understand that you weren’t all that bad. She must remember the times you added value to her life and appreciate them enough to change her perception of you. She will probably need two things to miss you.

1. Time to enjoy life on her terms.
2. A negative experience that triggers reflection.

These two conditions combined could make her stop blaming you for her mistakes and feelings and trigger nostalgia. Just remember that she might not show any signs of missing you. She might just unblock and/or check up on you online. Basically, she could miss you without your awareness. Especially if she misses you as just a person.

That would imply that she misses having someone to talk to rather than plan relationship things with.

If you want her to miss you romantically, she must realize your romantic worth. Romantic worth comprises qualities like emotional connection, trust, compatibility, and the positive memories you shared as a couple. It’s about how valued and irreplaceable you made her feel in the relationship.

Your ex must essentially consider you her best romantic option and feel that you understand her the most. She can understand this when she fails to move on and create a happy life without you. That’s when she’ll unblock you and reach out to let you know she wants to get back with you.

Don’t waste your time trying to change her opinion before she’s reflected. She won’t listen to your friends or fall for your social media posts. The girl or woman needs to experience life without you and learn that she’s not as happy as she used to be. Unhappiness must make her reflect on the past and allow her to think about you. If she thinks about you and needs help dealing with her issues, she could redevelop respect and love and want you back.

So if you want to know if she will miss you when she blocked you, bear in mind that it’s hard to say how, when, or if she’ll miss you. Her missing doesn’t just depend on what you were like to her and how good the relationship was but also on what problems she runs into, how she deals with them, and if she’s capable of letting go of the past and missing you.

Some dumpers are super guarded. They have trust issues, fear of commitment or fear of the unknown, avoidant attachment styles, and other unprocessed issues that prevent them from missing their ex and getting close to him. They’d rather hold their ex accountable for everything than lower their guard and be vulnerable.

Such dumpers tend not to miss their ex, nor give their ex the credit he deserves. Instead of redeveloping respect and being honest about their feelings, they keep their distance and focus on things that matter to them. This can be anything that distracts them from the past and gives their life joy and meaning.

I know you feel rejected (especially after she blocked you), but try not to rely on her for validation and self-love. Remember that her missing you has very little to do with who you are. Since she’s your ex, it’s mostly about who she is and what’s going on in her life. She will miss you the most when life gives her lemons and forces her to reflect on her decisions and feelings.

When that happens, she could unblock you, ask your friends about you, stalk your social media, post old pictures, or contact you. You need to wait patiently and let her come to you when she’s ready. Don’t try to make her miss you with jealousy games. If she learns that you’re flaunting your new dating prospect, she’ll probably get annoyed and keep you blocked.

With that said, here are some things that could make her miss you even though she blocked you.

Don’t forget that she could miss you romantically or non-romantically. If you still have feelings and want her back, you don’t want her to miss you as just a friend (and be her friend). You want her to miss you as a romantic partner. This means you want her to reciprocate your feelings and build a romantic relationship with you.

If she wants you in her life as just a friend when you want more than that, you should let her know you’re not interested in being friends and go no contact (or back to no contact). You mustn’t listen to her telling you how badly she misses the friendship. That would be a big slap in the face.

The dangers of learning that your ex misses you

If you learn that she misses you, you’ll immediately mistake her missing for love and get your hopes up. You’ll think that she might come back around if you play nice and show her you can be her friend. In truth, friendship won’t encourage her to come back. It will give you false hope and mess up your healing.

It will make you so anxious that you’ll become or stay obsessed with your ex and keep trying to impress her and make her fall in love.

As you probably know, exes don’t come back when dumpees settle for friendship and treat them nicely. They come back when they run out of (romantic) options and learn (often through pain and suffering) that they won’t be happy unless they recommit to their ex and obtain his or her validation.

And the same goes for your ex. She won’t redevelop feelings by friendzoning you. She’ll just string you along, make you think that reconciliation is possible, and delay your recovery. A friendship with your ex will turn you into someone she relies on for her emotional (non-romantic) wants and needs. It won’t give you the love, commitment, and reassurance you need from her to feel good.

So avoid talking to your ex and pretending you’re friends. Exes have different expectations and can’t be friends (at least not right away). If they try to be friends and act like nothing happened, they appear selfish and hurt each other.

Dumpees typically ask for too much attention or affection whereas dumpers ask for space or friendship. Their expectations trigger emotions they’re trying not to feel and bring out the worst in each other.

When your ex tells you she misses you, you’ll feel empowered with hope and validation. You’ll assume that she’s redeveloping feelings and missing the romantic times. You’ll think she’s starting to regret leaving you and that you must try to impress her and make her trust you again.

Unfortunately, that’s not what nostalgic exes want. Typically, they want to see what you’re up to and if you’ve forgiven them. If you have, they may want to keep you around for relationship perks and convenience.

Sometimes they also want their ex back. That happens when they’re super nostalgic and need their ex to validate them.

So keep in mind that your life won’t change for the better if you learn that your ex misses you non-romantically. It will get more difficult because you’ll be forced to interact with your ex and think about her reasons for missing you.

It’s best not to know whether she misses you. That way, you’ll keep getting over her and increasing your confidence and self-esteem.

Now that you’re blocked, remember that her actions speak for themselves. They show that she doesn’t regret blocking and leaving yet and that she’s still processing the breakup in her own way. You need to keep your distance and work on yourself until she misses you enough to unblock and reach out.

Then, you can figure out if talking to her is worth the risk.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.