5 Ways To Show Your Ex You Don’t Care Anymore

If you want to show your ex you don’t care anymore, there’s a very easy way for you to do that. All you have to do is distance yourself from your ex and your lack of presence will speak for itself. It will tell your ex that you’re focusing on yourself and that your ex’s life no longer concerns you.

The reason why distancing yourself both physically and emotionally depicts high self-esteem and a lack of care for your ex is that it makes your ex see your strength. It shows you’re strong enough not to speak to your ex and that you’ve got better things going on in your life.

Even if you’re hurt and miserable and you forcefully distance yourself from your ex, your ex won’t know what you think and feel. Your ex won’t know what’s going on in your life and may even wonder why you haven’t reached out and behaved the way you did in the past.

So if you want to know how to show your ex that you don’t care anymore, start by terminating your communication with your ex and acting like you don’t care. Go no contact and prove that you no longer feel a craving nor a desire to speak with your ex.

Stopping communication is essential as it will shut your ex out of your life and prevent your ex from keeping an eye on you. Your ex could, of course, ask your friends about you and check your social media, but that won’t give your ex the information he or she is looking for.

Unless your ex hears or sees that you’re miserable after the breakup, it won’t be enough for your ex to think that you have difficulty moving on.

This is why the next most important thing you should do is keep your mutual friends out of it. If you’re heartbroken, don’t tell others how angry, sad, or depressed you are. Your friends will likely tell your ex about it—and that won’t show that you’ve stopped caring about your ex.

On the contrary, it will prove that you lack control over your emotions and that you’re still dependent on your ex.

As long as your ex makes you feel good or bad emotions, it’s evident that you still care. Your ex can control how you feel and therefore, makes you care whether you want to or not.

Furthermore, don’t post depressing things on social media. Don’t post anything related to breakups or your breakup at all. Expressing disapproval of your ex’s behavior or anything related to breakups will show that you’re still thinking about the breakup and the person who caused it.

The topic of today’s article is how to show your ex you don’t care anymore. We’ll share some tips on how to heal and at the same time, show your ex you don’t care anymore.

How to show your ex you don’t care anymore?

Before we talk about the things you need to do, you need to know that if you’ve made a lot of post-breakup mistakes such as calling your ex and begging and pleading that it will take some time to prove you’ve detached and stopped caring.

It will take time even if you didn’t make such mistakes because your ex will still need some time to distance himself or herself from the cause of the problem. Your ex will need to discern that you’re no longer interested in him/her by seeing that your emotions are in line with your actions.

So first things first, don’t expect overnight results. Demonstrating that you’re indifferent about your ex will take time.

How much time it will take I can’t say, but from now on, it’s not just about you and what you do to prove you don’t care. It’s also about what your ex does and feels.

For example, if your ex is in the relieved stage of a breakup for the dumper, your ex won’t be able to see, nor care that you’ve stopped caring about him or her. Your ex will just appreciate the space you’ve given him/her and be glad that things have turned out this way.

But if your ex is in the nostalgic or the neutral stage, then your ex could be much more emotionally ready and observant of the situation that he or she is in.

It’s important to understand which stage your ex is in so that you understand whether your ex can even notice your lack of care. You don’t want to go above and beyond to prove your detachment just to learn that your ex is unreceptive to you and doesn’t care about you.

For your ex to see and care that you don’t care, your ex has to let go of his or her negative post-breakup emotions such as anger and contempt and hit an emotional reset. That’s when your ex will process the breakup and see you in a much better light.

So if you’re contemplating how to make your ex see that you don’t care anymore, remember that an angry, vindictive ex with a victim mentality won’t worry about whether you care or not. He or she will have too much resentment to see or care about what you think, feel, and do.

Here are 5 things your ex will need to see that you don’t care anymore.

Now that you know what it takes for an ex to realize you no longer care, let’s talk about how to show your ex you don’t care anymore.

1)Leave your ex alone

If you want to show your ex you don’t care anymore, adhere to the rules of no contact. Don’t reach out to your ex and demand answers. Don’t tag your ex on social media and pretend to be friends either.

Staying in touch with your ex will reveal that you have expectations of your ex and that you want him or her to meet them. So instead of clinging to your ex for validation and security, leave your ex alone in every way possible.

Go indefinite no contact if you haven’t yet and your ex will slowly realize that you don’t care about him or her anymore.

As we’ve discussed, it could take your ex time to process the breakup and realize you’re not going to chase. But don’t be afraid. Time is on your side as it depicts strength and consistency and proves that you love yourself more than your ex.

So stick with no contact long enough for reality to hit your ex. When it does, your ex could reach out to you and send you breadcrumbs. It’d be wise to prepare yourself for breadcrumbs in advance so you know how to handle them and respond to them.

2)Don’t talk about your ex

One of the biggest mistakes dumpees make is that they share their problems with their ex’s friends and family. They express how disappointed they are by their ex’s decisions and behavior and prove that they feel sad or miserable.

This is how they encourage their ex’s loved ones to convey information to their ex and minimize the chances of leaving a good impression on their ex.

So if you want to show your ex you don’t care anymore, don’t talk to people who know your ex and care about him or her. Remember that people love drama and gossip and that they’ll tell your ex what you’ve told them. They may be on your side, but they’ll still tell your ex what they’ve discussed with you and give your ex their opinion.

That’s why it’s best to avoid talking about your ex altogether. Talk about your ex only if they ask you questions or if your ex left stuff at your house.

If you’re forced to speak about your ex, make sure to sound neutral about it. Don’t trash-talk your ex, but don’t sound nostalgic or overly excited either. Emotions show you’re unhappy with the way things ended, so try not to sound too emotional.

3)Enjoy your life and take care of yourself

The best way to prove you don’t care about your ex is to be happy. How happy you are shows your ex everything your ex needs to know. It says how glad you are now that your ex is out of your life and how confident and independent you are.

That’s why you don’t have to do anything to prove you don’t care about your ex. You just have to be happy with the way things turned out and enjoy every moment of your life.

So prove that you don’t care about your ex by caring about yourself. Improve your shortcomings, find a job you like, and keep smiling. Your ex will see or hear that you’re doing well—and that will indirectly convince your ex that you’re focusing on yourself and not on him or her.

4)Be ambitious and live with purpose

It’s a general misbelief that the happiest people are those who have the most money or fame. The happiest people are those who are working on something they’re excited about. On something that gives meaning to their lives and continuously rewards them for their hard work.

Many surveys suggest that such people live the longest. They have something to get up for every morning, something to contribute to this world, so they keep their minds sharp and their bodies healthy.

If you want to live long and look healthy to your ex and those you associate with, you’ll have to take care of yourself both mentally and physically. You’ll have to rest when you need to, but also work passionately and live with purpose. This is how you’ll be able to show your ex that you’re self-sufficient and that you like your life just the way it is.

There’s a lot you can do to be ambitious and show your ex you don’t care about him or her anymore.

You can:

• find a job you like or start a business
• make some new friends
• discover your talents and learn new skills
• try some sports
• be social and get out of your comfort zone
• exercise daily
• update your wardrobe and get in shape
• break your old patterns and routines
• start traveling, reading, and studying more
• go back to college and get a degree
• volunteer and rescue pets in need
• and show your ex that you’re focusing on the present rather than the past

If you appeared needy during and after the relationship, your ex has likely associated unhealthy characteristics with your persona. To disassociate them, you’ll have to do the opposite of what made your ex associate them with you and make your ex doubt his or her perception of you.

The more you enjoy your life, the sooner your ex will see that you don’t care about him or her anymore.

5)Get serious with someone new

If you’re trying to tell your ex that you don’t care anymore, you most likely care a lot and aren’t ready to date anyone yet. You probably still have feelings for your ex and wish to prove that you don’t.

If that’s the case, you should ignore this point as dating someone new when you’re still dependent on your ex could backfire.

It could make you rebound with the new person and force you to miss your ex even more. My advice is to date someone new only if you’re over your ex and ready to fully commit to someone else.

With the disclaimer out of the way, dating a new person is a great way to show your ex that you don’t care anymore as it proves that your heart no longer belongs to your ex. It belongs to the person you think about and care about the most.

So if there’s someone you like, rest assured that your love for that person will say you’re no longer fixated on your ex. It will say that you’re not looking back and that you don’t want your ex back anymore.

The more serious you get with the new person, the more you’ll prove your point. This means that if you get engaged or married, move in together, have kids, or do something that shows you’re making plans for the relationship, you’ll show that you care about your new partner now and that you’re no longer thinking about your ex.

All in all, the best way to show your ex you don’t care is to stop caring about showing your ex you don’t care. When you’ve let go of your ex completely and found your peace and happiness, that’s when you’ll be free from your ex. You’ll be detached and have nothing to prove to someone who’s no longer in your life.

I hope you’ve learned how to show your ex you don’t care anymore. If you did or if you have any suggestions, feel free to post them below.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.