How To Make Your Ex Miss You Without Talking To Him?

What happens to your ex mentally and emotionally after the breakup is outside of your control. You can’t forcefully make your ex miss you after he’s decided to let you go.

You especially can’t do that if your ex resents you, blames you for the breakup, and thinks you deserve to suffer.

Your ex (like most dumpers) isn’t ready for your words and actions to influence him and make him think and feel differently about you.

He’s ready only to enjoy the space provided by the breakup and not worry about you for a while.

Space makes him feel good whereas direct attempts to change his mind about the breakup pressure and guilt-trip him. They tell him you don’t respect his feelings and choices and that you only want what’s best for you.

Such convictions further damage his perception of you and make him want to be alone even more.

So first things first, keep in mind that you can’t directly make your ex want to be with you again. If dumpees could control their ex’s thoughts and feelings, they’d reach out to their ex, talk about the good times, and make their ex feel nostalgic.

They’d manipulate their ex into thinking he’s let go of an amazing person and that he’ll never find someone as good as them ever again.

Sadly, the dumper has to think that way on his own (without the dumpee’s help). He has to find a good reason to believe his ex was a decent partner and that he’ll lose his ex forever if he doesn’t act quickly. Time, fear, and anxiety must encourage or force him to improve his perceptions of his ex and let go of bitterness and contempt.

Time is often enough for dumpers to process the breakup and stop feeling pressured by their ex. But time alone is only enough to let go of some negative emotions. It’s not enough for romantic nostalgia and love to redevelop.

For dumpers to miss the relationship and want their ex back, something unpredictable and difficult must happen. Something that hurts them and restarts their cravings for validation, security, and love. This can be anything self-esteem-breaking and happiness-doubting. 

The more dumpers get hurt, the higher the chances that they’ll reflect on their choices and happiness and compare their current unhappiness to the happiness they had with their ex.

Comparisons are essential when it comes to missing an ex.

One can miss an ex only by remembering the past and realizing that he or she currently doesn’t have an opportunity to feel the way he or she did in the past.

And the same is true for your ex. Your ex needs to enjoy space, process the breakup, and realize that a big part of his life is missing. When he realizes that, he could miss you as a person or a partner. He’ll miss you as a person if he lacks a good friend to confide in and miss you as a partner if he has trouble loving himself and/or finding someone to love him.

Love requires him to respect you and find you unique and important whereas friendship requires loneliness, (regular) nostalgia, and a desire to speak with a familiar person.

If your ex tells you he misses you, you should avoid thinking your ex wants you back and remember that he can miss you as a partner or a person. You need to figure out how your ex misses you as doing so will keep your hopes low and protect your heart.

A good way to do that is to observe his actions over a few days. His actions will tell you everything you need to know about his feelings or lack of feelings. They’ll tell you if you can invest in your ex or if it’s safer to keep your distance.

An ex who wants you back will tell you or show you love immediately whereas an ex who wants to be your friend or occasional friend will disappear after reaching out, ask for friendship/forgiveness, or talk about random things that have nothing to do with the relationship.

If you’re not ready to be friends with someone who left you, don’t be friends with him. Say you’re not ready for that and that you don’t want to keep the lines of communication open. This will ensure that your ex stays away and that you heal in the quickest time possible.

So if you want to make your ex miss you, do it indirectly without talking to him. Let your ex have the space he’s asked for by breaking up with you. This will allow your ex to think and feel what he wants, put your ex in charge of his life, and prevent your ex from associating more negative beliefs and feelings with you.

Space and time are the only things that will let your ex process the breakup and cool off to the point where he’s able to get hurt and reflect on his decisions.

In today’s article, we discuss how to make your ex miss you without talking to him.

How to make your ex miss you without talking to him?

Before we discuss how to make your ex miss you without talking to him, let’s first talk about how to make your ex despise you and not miss you.

If you send your ex letters and gifts and post hateful or nostalgic things on social media, your ex will see that you’re still obsessing over him and that you haven’t processed the breakup and done any work on yourself. Your behavior will prove that it’s unsafe to talk to you and make you look extremely unattractive.

Consequently, it will reduce the chance of your ex missing you and wanting to be with you.

Always remember that your ex (male or female) doesn’t want to receive gifts and reminders. Your ex broke up with you to be free, independent, and happy.

If you post like crazy on social media or force your way into his life, there’s a big chance that he’ll get overwhelmed by your presence and behavior and get further away from you.

So forget about making your ex miss you by posting like mad on social media. Your ex won’t miss you if you overload your ex with information and reminders and give your ex no room to miss you. You’ll be all over his feed, so he’ll probably get annoyed.

It doesn’t matter if you post only happy pictures and your improvements. Overposting will make your ex uncomfortable and could even make him angry if you try to evoke feelings of jealousy.

If you’re thinking about making your ex miss you by dating other people, you should forget it. Only insecure and foolish people fall for jealousy tricks. Most detached dumpers don’t. They get annoyed and often remove or block their ex for rubbing someone else in their face.

Jealousy games don’t work because your ex can’t feel jealous (much). Your ex would need romantic feelings to get affected in the right way and come running back.

And, unfortunately, your ex doesn’t have romantic feelings right now. He has unhealthy feelings caused by unhappiness and the breakup that need to be worked through.

Also, avoid talking about your ex to mutual friends. They’ll tell your ex what you said and how you’re doing, which will strongly affect his respect and interest. Your way of dealing with the breakup will be revealed to your ex and make your ex think and feel a certain way about you.

So try to remain neutral and show that you’re moving on.

You don’t want your ex to think you’re desperate. You want him to think you’re doing fine and that you’re enjoying life again.

This is the message you must send to someone who doesn’t want to be with you anymore. This message will depict strength and show you don’t need anyone but yourself to feel complete.

To show that you’re moving on, post on social media only once in a while. Make sure it’s not relationship or breakup-related and that you’re focusing on yourself rather than your ex and other romantic prospects.

It won’t be easy to make your ex miss you. But if you want to give it a go, stay away from your ex entirely. Go no contact with your ex and let your actions speak for themselves.

If you show you have no interest in your ex’s post-breakup life, your ex will likely get curious about you after a while and decide to check up on you.

Most dumpers check their ex’s profile once in a while and talk about their ex to their mutual friends. Many dumpers even reach out themselves. They feel guilty or curious, so they contact their ex to see how their ex is coping with the breakup.

You want to make sure to both look and feel great so that your ex stops feeling bad and starts respecting you.

How you portray yourself is extremely important. If you portray yourself as someone who can’t move on and thrive without the dumper, your ex won’t feel attracted to you and won’t need you when things go awry.

Your ex will instead rely on someone else for acceptance and self-love and forget about you immediately.

Therefore, the best way to make your ex miss you is to stop missing your ex. By showing you’re moving forward and doing well, your ex could become curious and nostalgic about you when he encounters problems.

And your ex could encounter problems when his expectations collapse like a house of cards and show him he’s incapable of living a happy under current circumstances.

High/unmet expectations can make your ex realize that he overestimated his worth and underestimated yours. They can hit your ex hard and cause your ex to reflect on his behavior and happiness.

So if you want to learn how to make your ex miss you without talking to him, bear in mind that silence is your strongest weapon. Silence communicates in your stead and makes your ex see you’re not worried about what your ex thinks and feels.

You’re more worried or need to be more worried about your own thoughts and emotions.

As a dumpee, you don’t need to do much to make your ex miss you. You just need to stay away from your ex long enough for your ex to get in trouble and miss you. There’s no guarantee your ex will miss you, of course. But if he does, it will likely be when something or someone hurts your ex, destroys your ex’s self-esteem, and forcefully changes his perception of you.

That’s when your ex will probably reach out and indirectly reveal that he’s struggling to move on and be happy.

That being said, here are my tips on how to make your ex miss you without talking to him.

Accept that your ex might not miss you

Not all exes process the breakup the healthy way and realize they overreacted or acted mean. Some exes convince themselves they’re the victims and stay bitter or even vengeful for a very long time.

They don’t see or care that they hurt their ex and think they have the right to be happy no matter what.

Such exes tend not to miss their ex or come back. They see their ex as someone they needed to get rid of to be happy.

If you were with someone who blames you for everything and sees nothing wrong with his behavior, you should probably accept that the breakup was for the best and that your ex may never see things differently and miss you.

Your ex will likely keep thinking the breakup was all your fault and that you got what you deserved.

Whether your ex was nice or not, it’s in your best interest to stay away from your ex and forget about making your ex miss you. Your ex’s thoughts and feelings are out of your control. You need to let the universe take care of your ex while you focus on taking care of yourself.

You’ll find your inner peace when you accept that you’re powerless when it comes to your ex and that life gets better when you start loving yourself and focusing on things that are in your power to control.

Did you learn how to make your ex miss you without talking to him? What do you think can make a detached ex think about you, miss you, and contact you? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.