What’s The Best Way To Get Back At Your Ex?

If you’re angry with your ex and you want to get back at your ex for treating you poorly, there’s a really easy and effective way for you to do that.

All you have to do is walk away from your ex and mind your own business—and you’ll punish your ex as much as you can.

You may not get instant revenge like you’re hoping to get, but you’ll definitely make your ex suffer months or years down the road when your ex mistreats, disappoints, and angers others.

This is because walking away from your underdeveloped ex peacefully won’t inspire your ex to learn from his or her mistakes.

On the contrary, it will let your ex stay as he or she is behavior-wise and let karma take cake care of your ex.

I know that you feel responsible for teaching your ex a lesson that he or she will never forget and that you don’t want to sit around for someone else to take care of the job for you, but if you really want to get back at your ex, you have to be patient.

You have to let your ex enjoy his or her life to the fullest and neglect the importance of personal growth so that the people your ex mistreats in the future teach your ex valuable lessons.

Lessons to be kind, patient, and understanding of others.

The people your ex brings a bad reaction out of are the people that will take the law into their own hands and get back at your ex for you!

So let your ex “get away with it” for now and do your best not to wreak havoc on your ex.

This way, you’ll develop yourself into a highly respectable moral person and stop trying to hurt your ex just to feel better.

In this post, we’ll talk about the best ex-revenge tactic on the planet. It’s called leaving it up to fate and making sure that you remain a good person.

How to get back at your ex?

How you react or reacted to your ex’s unfair treatment depends/depended on how you perceived and reacted to injustice up until your ex left.

If all your life you’ve been operating on an eye for an eye mentality and you always reacted impulsively to those who treated you unfairly, you’ll likely have a hard time not hurting your ex back.

You’ll want to stay in control of the pain you unjustly received, so you’ll hurt your ex back just to get even.

But if you’ve already learned to accept people’s unfair treatment and gained control over unwanted thoughts and feelings, then chances are that you’ll have a much easier time pulling back your punches.

You’ll know that hurting your ex might feel good but that it isn’t something that will help you grow as a person.

Every person is different of course.

But if you feel the need to hurt your ex after he or she has hurt you, don’t think that you’re a bad person for wanting your ex to get what he or she deserves. You’re not necessarily emotionally underdeveloped, weak, or vengeful.

You’re just a human being who experienced extreme unfairness by someone you were (and still are) attached to.

In this case, it’s okay to feel victimized and to want revenge. It’s okay to want the best for yourself and for those who hurt you to take responsibility.

But whatever you do, don’t take revenge on your ex. Don’t do it because it won’t make you feel good for long.

It might feel great for a brief moment because that’s what revenge does (it empowers you and makes you feel in control), but when you realize what you’ve done, your sense of power and control will likely turn into guilt, regret, and shame.

So whenever you feel the need to take revenge on your ex, remember that the best way to get back at your ex is to be better than your ex. It’s the only respectable way that will prove to you, your ex, and others that you’re a person of high value.

Get back at your ex by succeeding in life

Many exes hate seeing their ex enjoy life without them. They would rather not know that the person they left ended up becoming a big success.

That would make them feel envious, jealous, or inferior.

So if you want to know what the best way to get back at your ex is, become better at just about everything.

Improve your:

• social life
• career
• knowledge
• physique
• fashion
• hobbies
• relationships and relationship knowledge
• mentality
• attitude
• moral values
• maturity
• personal strength
• confidence
• self-esteem
• ambition
• and everything that needs improving

Always remember that the best revenge on an ex and anyone who ever doubted you is massive success.

Many people think of success as financial success, but the truth is that success can be anything you love working on.

It can be anything that’s on your mind from the moment you wake up to the moment you fall asleep.

For me, its this blog. I love writing and helping people, so it gives me the fulfillment I’m looking for.

What about you? What is something you can’t or rather, don’t want to live without?

If you don’t know what it is, it’s time you do some soul-searching and find it. You’ll know you’ve found the thing you’re meant to do when you realize you like it, that you’re good at it, and that it gives meaning to your soul.

Of course, you don’t need to be the best at it, but you must nonetheless want to improve it and have some kind of goal in mind.

In a personal success book Lead The Field, Earl Nightingale, a motivational speaker brought some clarity on this matter. He said, “People with goals succeed because they know where they’re going.”

According to Earl, only 5% of people have vision and direction.

A whopping 95% have no idea why they’re here and where they’re going.

They have no idea what their life mission or contribution to the world is, so they conform.

They wake up in the morning, go to work, come home, procrastinate for a while, and go to sleep. Rinse and repeat every day.

Although I can’t tell you how to live your life, I’d like to say that if you’re living your life merely for the sake of living it, you may want to look for something that inspires you.

Some kind of hobby, goal, or activity that fulfills you, challenges you, and pushes you out of your comfort zone.

So if you want to get back at your ex for hurting you, believe me that focusing on yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself as well as your ex.

You might not see what I mean right now if you’re in great pain and/or if want your ex back, but when you’ve become successful (passionate about something), you won’t have enough time to plot revenge against your ex.

You’ll have much more productive things to daydream about. Things that make a positive change in your life.

Get back at your ex by going no contact

One of the best ways to get back at your ex is to go no contact and let your ex be happy without you.

This is how you can give your ex the freedom to live his or her life without regret, and at the same time, allow your underdeveloped ex to make the same mistakes in the future.

There truly is no better way to take revenge on your ex than to make sure your underdeveloped ex stays happy. Trust me on this. Happiness rarely makes people evolve.

It usually just forces them to adhere to their beliefs and as a result, prevents them from making big personal changes/improvements.

So if you’re serious about getting back at your ex, back away from your ex the moment your ex breaks up with you. Go indefinite no contact and hold on to the rules of no contact like they’re all you’ve got.

A time will come when your ex reaps the fruits of his or her labor and gets in a pickle. Chances are, that you’ll hear from your ex when that happens.

So get ahead of your ex and learn how to respond to breadcrumbs.

Here’s a recap on how to get back at your ex.

Your ex will get hit by karma

If you want to get back at your ex long-term, you’ll need to start controlling your strong impulses for immediate revenge.

Doing so will help you develop emotional self-control, teach you how to let go of unfairness, and maybe even boost your moral values and self-esteem.

You can’t really go wrong with investing your post-breakup time in your lackings and getting your life under control. Learning and maturing up is something every person should do on a daily basis, so start doing that right away.

As for your ex, if he or she is underdeveloped as a person, mark my words that your ex will at some point in time get hit by karma and reap what he or she sowed.

This is because karma plays no favorites.

It merely goes after those who see nothing wrong with their behavior and refuse to grow within.

And yes, wrongdoers may be able to get away with some of their inappropriate words or actions once or twice, but sooner than later, their streak of luck always comes to an end.

It hits a roadblock because they cross paths with someone who gets offended and explodes at them.

Luckily, that exploding person doesn’t need to be you. You’re smarter than that, so you don’t need to self-sabotage your personal growth.

Why would you when someone with a short fuse will gladly get back at your ex for you?

Some stranger that gets involved with your ex will experience similar if not exact same issues with your ex. So don’t get jealous if you find your ex on tinder or if you see your ex dating someone new right away.

Pity your ex instead because your ex will need all the help in the world.

The reason why karma always gets undeveloped exes is that such exes feel victimized, empowered, and in control. They think that someone else is responsible for the way they feel, so they never reflect and grow.

They just carry on, thinking that their behavior is appropriate.

That’s why you should take me seriously when I say that there’s no punishment more severe than not teaching your ex the importance of self-reflection.

I wanted to get back at my ex too

When I was going through my first breakup, I was young and didn’t know much about self-control, so naturally, I wanted to get back at my ex.

I wanted her to regret playing games with me and apologize or at least appear sympathetic for the pain I was going through.

On my worst days, I thought about different ways of hurting her and on my good days, I thought about staying true to my morals and remain in control of my emotions.

It probably took me a few weeks to get out of the anger stage of a breakup for the dumpee and become more rational. But when I finally got out, everything started to fall in place.

I realized that my ex actually did me a huge favor. She didn’t just force me to reflect and helped me to make a few positive changes.

If that were the case, I wouldn’t be as thankful to her as I am today.

I know this will sound masochistic, but the reason I’m glad she treated me so poorly is that she gave me months of pain which consequently allowed me to rebuild myself from the ground up.

She unknowingly made me into the best version of myself, so how could I ever hate and take revenge on someone who helped me become the person I am today?

When I realized that my breakup happened for a reason and that pain was the biggest motivator I could ever receive, I soon stopped feeling the necessity to get even my ex.

I knew that it would be a big mistake and that it would:

• hurt me and my ex
• hinder my personal growth
• and make me into a vengeful person

I honestly don’t know how I’d live with it.

What do you think the best way to get back at your ex is? Have you taken revenge on an ex before? I’d like to hear your thoughts and experiences, so comment below.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.