Is Moving Away After A Breakup A Good Idea?

Moving away after a breakup is often a good idea. Physical distance can help you detox from a broken relationship and encourage you to focus on yourself without worrying about running into your ex.

It can make you talk to new people, explore new places, and distract you, which can, in turn, make you less nostalgic and anxious.

Many dumpees hesitate to move away after a breakup because they fret they won’t be able to see or reattract their ex. They completely forget that their ex needs space and that their being in the same place as their ex won’t change their ex’s mind about the breakup.

If anything, it will make their dumper ex more apprehensive about seeing them in public and being forced to greet or ignore them.

Dumpees often think they need to be in the same city or town to make things work with their ex. They think that long-distance would stop their ex from wanting to get back together and work on the relationship.

Although long-distance can be a problem for some couples, it tends not to be an issue for ex-couples. When exes regret leaving, they’re prepared to do anything to be with their ex. Distance doesn’t present an issue for them because they’re unhappy and scared—and want their ex back for validation purposes. 

They’re willing to travel the distance as long as they get the attention, love, and security they need from their ex.

So if you’re thinking “Is moving away after a breakup a good idea,” know that it is. It’s a great idea whether you want your ex back or not. New adventures will take your life in a new direction, keep you distracted from your ex, and make you look more appealing to your ex.

They won’t reattract your ex on their own, but they will show that you have the strength and will to do what’s best for you and leave your ex behind.

After a breakup, focusing on self-improvement and reaching goals is more attractive than remaining stagnant. It makes your ex respect you for trying new things and leaving your old life behind.

Don’t forget that your ex already knows your interests, hobbies, and behaviors. He or she knows what to expect from you after the breakup. That makes you predictable and uninteresting, which is why it’s better to spice things up. 

Prove you’re not afraid to move away after a breakup and seek better opportunities elsewhere.

If you moved to your ex’s place solely for your ex, temporarily or permanently leaving the place can’t possibly hurt you or your chances of reconciliation. It can only aid your healing and make you look stronger and more desirable.

So don’t hesitate to move away after a breakup. Consider it a positive experience and a good idea overall. The farther away you are from your ex, the less you and your ex will worry about randomly running into each other and feeling scared and uncomfortable.

Space will help you avoid breakup mistakes and encourage detachment and growth. 

It’s okay to ask yourself if moving away after a breakup is a good idea. It’s okay to know how moving away from your ex will change your life and affect your ex. By understanding the consequences of your actions, you’ll be able to prepare yourself for the life ahead and avoid any surprises. 

My advice is to take any reasonable opportunity you get. If you get an opportunity to move away for work or better living conditions, it’d be a waste not to take it. It’d be wrong not to take it just because you still want to be with your ex.

Feelings shouldn’t stop you from learning new things about yourself and excelling in life.

They should tell you you’re still attached and that you need to do something about it. Something that makes you emotionally independent and in control of your life.

Fortunately, moving away can do that for you. It can show you that life goes on without your ex and that you’ll be okay with or without your ex. You’ll be okay as soon as you detach and fall back in love with yourself.

Besides, your ex isn’t waiting for you and thinking about whether to move on or not. Your ex is doing what he or she needs to do to be happy right now. Your ex is more interested in the present and future than he or she is in the past.

That’s why you can be certain your ex will take most opportunities he or she gets.

Your ex won’t think twice about how his or her decisions and actions will affect the chances of making things work with you.

So don’t wait for your ex either. Worry about yourself and the things that help you move forward and leave the past in the past. 

If you focus on yourself and the people who remain loyal to you, you’ll make much more progress and be much happier than if you remain paralyzed at the thought of moving away from your ex. 

In today’s post, we discuss the benefits of moving away after a breakup. We explain how it can positively impact both you and your ex and why you shouldn’t be afraid of changes.

Is moving away after a breakup a good idea?

Long-distance breakups or breakups that become long-distance are a blessing in disguise. They allow dumpees to focus on their new lives and motivate them to think less about their ex. Every day they spend away from their ex, they detach a little bit and learn to rely on themselves.

Although it can be difficult to decide to move away after a breakup, they soon realize they feel better than when they stayed near their ex and knew they could be forced to interact with their ex in public or a friend group. 

If you’re not sure whether moving away after a breakup is a good idea, rest assured that it’s the best idea. Those who have an opportunity to move away should definitely take it. They should give it a try at least for a few months and try to keep busy and social.

A good/new social life can be one of the best ways for dumpees to get an ex out of the system. It can force dumpees to focus on the present instead of the past and enable them to process the breakup quicker.

Hence, moving away and engaging in old and new activities is an effective breakup cure.

I encourage you to keep your physical and emotional distance from your ex and do what you need to distract yourself and improve your self-esteem. Don’t think that distance will make reconciliation trickier.

If your ex regrets breaking up with you, your ex will do anything to be with you. Your ex will literally cross oceans for you. 

Your ex won’t care what city, country, or continent you live in because your love and unmet needs will compel him or her to reconnect with you at all costs. Distance won’t matter when your ex hits the regret stage of a breakup and needs your help to stop hurting and feel loved.

So if you’re reluctant to move away after a breakup because you want to get back together, keep in mind that distance won’t reduce your chances of reconciliation. If you leave your ex alone (do no contact), it will increase them because you’ll live with passion and purpose and show your ex you’re accepting the breakup and moving on.

Moving away after the breakup will help you forget about your ex in the quickest time possible. You may not want that, but it’s what you need when you obsess about your ex to the point where you find it difficult to make decisions that help you get over the breakup.

Remember that the breakup happened because your ex wasn’t happy and didn’t want to continue the relationship and that your physical presence won’t suddenly make your ex happy and trigger his or her nostalgia and regret.

Your ex can only miss you when you stay away from your ex and live a fulfilling life without him or her. That’s when your ex can see your worth, feel envious of your successes and improvements, and contact you to get back into a relationship or receive relationship benefits from you.

Don’t think you need to be close and available to your ex to make your ex regret leaving. Dumpers only appreciate exes who aren’t available to them. They think positively of such exes as they know they have to work for their time and attention.

On the other hand, dumpees who are willing to drop everything for their exes and come to their rescue whenever they have a problem tend to bore, exhaust, annoy, overwhelm, or repulse their exes. They help them get what they need on a silver platter without much effort or any commitment.

Such exes don’t attract dumpers because they don’t make them work for attention, trust, and commitment.

If your goal is to get back together with your ex, bear in mind that keeping your distance and being mysterious will increase your chances of reconciliation, not make them worse. Anything that shows you’re moving forward and enjoying life will show that your self-esteem is okay/recovering and that you don’t have any romantic expectations left of your ex.

Self-confidence will lower your ex’s guard and tempt your ex to check up on you and talk to you.

With that said, here’s why moving away after a breakup is a good idea

Should I tell my ex I’m moving away?

If you decide to move away (which you should if you get an opportunity to do so), you shouldn’t tell your ex anything. You shouldn’t ask to meet up one last time or send a final goodbye text.

Your ex isn’t nostalgic and thinking about how nice it’d be to talk in person one last time before you move away. Your ex is space-deprived and wants things to stay as they are. Currently, he or she feels comfortable and enjoys his or her peace and quiet.

This might change one day, but if the breakup just happened or if you haven’t heard a peep from your ex, your ex would rather talk to people he or she considers to be equal. Your ex would prefer not to engage in conversation with a dumpee who triggers reminders from the past and unwanted emotions.

The reason you’re considering reaching out has nothing to do with your ex. You’re contemplating breaking no contact because you’re afraid of letting go and want to give it one more try before you move physically away from your ex.

You want to make sure your ex is aware of your decision and that he or she has a chance to stop you from uprooting your life.

It shouldn’t be like that. Your decision as a dumpee shouldn’t be influenced by your ex (a person who left you and doesn’t care about you). It should be determined by you alone.

If you find a better job, school, support system, or environment somewhere else, move there as soon as you can. The sooner you get away from your ex and engage in hobbies and activities that help you disassociate from your ex, the sooner you can expect to feel better and stop caring about what your ex will think and feel about your relocation.

Your ex will one day learn that you’re no longer around. It will happen through your friends, family, social media, or you directly. When that happens, you won’t care what your ex thinks about you moving places because you’ll be happy without your ex.

You’ll care about what your ex thinks only if your ex contacts you before you had a chance to create an independent/fulfilling life without your ex.

So is moving away after a breakup a good idea?

Absolutely! Moving away isn’t required for getting over a breakup, but it will help you recover emotionally much quicker than living close to your ex. It will encourage you to disconnect from your ex and connect with other people.

You shouldn’t keep waiting for your ex to come back forever. Once you regain your strength, you should fully let go even if you think you have nothing to lose by reaching out.

You may not feel anxious anymore, but that doesn’t mean you won’t feel rejected if your ex refuses to communicate and come back. It’s much more likely that you’ll suffer immensely.

So stay away from your ex whether you feel in control of your emotions or not. Avoid emotional setbacks and do your best to move on from your ex.

Do you think that moving away after a breakup is a good idea? Are you waiting for your ex to come back? Share your thoughts and feelings in the comments below.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.