I Ghosted Her And Want Her Back

If you ghosted your girlfriend, wife, fiancée, or the person you were seeing and you want her back, you first need to understand what you’ve done.

You need to understand the gravity of your poor actions and comprehend that you’ve left her in one of the worst ways imaginable.

The only worse way you could have broken up with a human being is if you cheated on her on top of that.

That would have been the ultimate punch to the stomach and the worst form of disrespect.

So if that’s what you did, you probably won’t be able to redeem yourself. Your ex most likely won’t be able to forgive you and trust you after such an offense.

She’ll refuse to offer you her heart the second time as you stomped on it when she trusted you the most.

It’s just the way trust works.

It takes love and nurturing to build it up and one mistake to destroy it completely.

That’s why your ex now thinks that you’re a bad person and that your moral values are too low for her taste.

And they probably are.

The truth is that you’ve done something so disrespectful that your mentality is a far cry from what it needs to be to have a healthy relationship.

Your way of thinking is still underdeveloped and needs a lot of work before it will reach your ex-girlfriend’s level.

This article will guide you on how to get your ex back if you ghosted her. It will teach you how to lay your cards on the table and provide you with some ways to apologize for ghosting your girlfriend.

I ghosted her and want her back

If you ghosted your ex-girlfriend, you showed her that you’re a coward who lacks courage and moral values to be an honest human being.

You also showed her that you don’t care about her feelings and commitment and told her that you shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone until you’ve resolved your flaws.

You did this by showing her a reflection of your selfish character and by informing her of your capabilities.

With just one egoistic action, you’ve helped your ex complete the full image of your characteristics and values and made moving on easier for her.

You basically made her think poorly of you and allowed her to find someone who will treat her better.

And fortunately for her, it shouldn’t be too difficult because ghosting a person is incredibly nasty.

That’s why I have a piece of advice for you.

If you ghosted her and want her back, I strongly advise you to work on yourself before you attempt to reconcile with the person whose heart you butchered.

Admit your mistakes first and get professional help if you need to.

Just don’t try to get back with the girl before you’d learned how to respect people.

Ghosting is cruel

Although ghosting after a date or two is common, it’s not okay to disappear on someone who’s developed feelings for you.

That person has grown to respect your good side and was giving it her best to invest in the relationship.

She was doing this because she’d developed certain expectations of you and believed in you.

She thought your relationship was going to last.

So when you abruptly pulled the rug out from underneath her, you hurt her really, really badly.

Not only did you deny her the closure that she deserves, but you also kept her wondering what she did to deserve it.

By ghosting her, you, in essence, made her feel naive for trusting you and contributed to the development of new trust issues.

So think really hard if you truly want her back after you’d ghosted her. Think about whether your reasons for reconciliation are legit.

If they aren’t, it’s better that you leave this person alone to regain her self-esteem and recover from the mess you’d put her in her.

Ghosting is cowardly

If you ghosted your ex and you have no clue why you did what you did, it’s time that you examine your behavior.

Sign up for counseling and dig into your past to get to the bottom of your actions.

You’ll soon realize that if you work really, really hard on understanding your behavior that you may be able to correct it.

But it will probably take a lot of time and conscious effort on your end before you’re able to do so.

It might take you weeks or months before you’re finally ready.

But as long as you genuinely want to change for the better, you will eventually improve as a person.

And that’s when you’ll know you’re ready to contact your ex and apologize to her in the most sincere way you could ever express yourself in.

I regret ghosting her

If you ghosted her and want her back, you need to create a genuine apology that could make your ex see the good in you.

This apology has to contain three respectful parts.

1. Apologizing for ghosting her.
2. Stating your immature reasons for ghosting her.
3. Leaving the ball in her court.

After you’d apologized in the best way possible, you mustn’t contact your ex again.

It’s your ex’s turn to get back to you on her own terms, so you need to wait patiently.

Don’t beg and plead, prove your loyalty, call and text, or play mind games.

Don’t argue, throw tantrums, play jealousy games, pretend everything is back to normal, or do anything she doesn’t want you to do either.

All you should do is unblock her (if you ghosted and blocked her) and not make things any worse than they already are.

You essentially need to do a full 180° turn and let your authentic actions speak for you.

They spoke for you when you ghosted your ex-girlfriend so you can only hope that they make a good impression this time.

Apologizing for ghosting

You can apologize for ghosting your ex by owning up to your mistakes.

No relationship should ever start or restart with lies and deceit, so strive to start with a clean slate.

Message your ex with a sincere ghosting response and wait for her to reply to you.

Just don’t pester her and urge her to reply.

Here are a few things to keep in mind when you ghost your ex and want her back.

Here are 2 examples of what to text after ghosting:

• Hi Sophia. I just wanted to apologize for ghosting you. What I did was unethical and I don’t expect you to forgive me for my selfishness. Right now I just want you to know that I’m really sorry for hurting you and that I started to work on my behavior. I’m no longer going to be self-centered. If you ever want to talk to me, drop me a message and maybe we can catch up.
• Hi Sonia. I know you probably don’t want to hear from me right now. I’m writing to you to apologize for ghosting you and blocking you out of the blue. What I did was incredibly disrespectful to you as a person who cared about me. That’s why I want you to know that I’d spent the last 2 weeks with a therapist working on my bad behavioral patterns. I hope that you can see me in a better light one day and contact me if you ever feel that you can trust me again.

If you’re going to apologize for ghosting your girlfriend, you need to be transparent about it.

You need to tell your ex that you don’t expect her to forgive you—and to message/call you if she ever feels that she can trust you again.

And that’s it.

You don’t need to cry or appear completely different from your usual self. You’ll only appear pretentious if you do.

Instead, just be authentic, apologetic, and get straight to the point.

Apologizing for ghosting after a short relationship

If your relationship with the person you ghosted was short, chances are that she’s going to get over you very quickly.

She will probably forget about your false promises and view you in a negative light before you even think about crawling back into her life.

And that’s how it should be as you don’t deserve another chance when you ghost a person.

Especially if you ghosted her during the first 6 months before you even got to know her fully.

(Sorry, dear ghosts.)

The thing with ghosting though is that most dumpers don’t regret their decision right away.

They first need to get back in the dating field and date a few people for a while before they rebound and think inwardly.

It sucks, but they just don’t change their minds about their dumpees merely by enjoying their lives.

Only when something bad happens to them is when they finally realize that the grass is greener only where you water it.

Apologizing for ghosting after a long relationship

If your girlfriend is someone you’d spent many years with and it’s been a month since you ghosted her, then your chances of reconciliation are much higher.

Your ex is probably still incredibly hurt by your inconsiderate actions and will, as a result, most likely accept you back to patch her wound.

She might be willing to forget about your wicked deed. and take you back because of separation anxiety alone.

It really depends on how quickly she detaches from you and the kind of coping mechanism she possesses.

The type of girl that will accept you back after you ghosted her

The more hurt, inexperienced, and the lower the girl’s self-esteem is, the higher the odds that she will accept you back after ghosting.

This is true because it will take her longer to rebuild her confidence, recover from your abuse, and stand up for herself.

But that doesn’t mean that you should abuse your situation further.

You shouldn’t carry on with the same thinking patterns just because the girl you ghosted wants you back for all the wrong reasons you can think of.

For you, her, and for the sake of others, you need to change the way you think and behave—so that you never ghost another person ever again.

What if you ghosted her and she doesn’t want you back?

If you apologized after you ghosted your girlfriend and she doesn’t want you back, then there’s nothing left for you to do.

Your ex-girlfriend doesn’t like you, love you, respect you, or want anything to do with you anymore.

She probably developed contempt for you when you were avoiding her like the plague—so she can’t be around you right now.

She just wants to cut off all contact with you and close a very painful chapter of her life.

You did break up in one of the worst ways possible after all.

And that’s why you, unfortunately, don’t get another chance with your ex.

Did you ghost your ex-girlfriend and want her back? Was this article too harsh to read? Post your comment and let me know.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.