Ex Has A New Girlfriend After A Month!

If your ex has a new girlfriend after a month of being single, it couldn’t be any more clear that your ex is trying to move on with his life. He’s trying to distract himself from the unpleasant experiences and feelings from the past so he can live in the present moment.

Mind you that if he’s the dumper, he’s not dating because he wants to get rid of his romantic feelings for you. His feelings for you are already gone because he detached days, weeks, or even months prior to leaving you.

When exactly he detached depends on the length and the quality of the relationship as well as the guy’s relationship mentality and willpower.

That’s why we can say it’s much more likely that your ex is dating so soon simply because he can. He came across an opportunity to get involved with another woman, so he took it, thinking he deserves to be happy and that it’s better to feel loved and cared for than to be single and alone.

A guy like this is, of course, in a rush to be in a relationship. He isn’t taking the time to reflect on his relationship and improve the things he badly needs to improve. He’s just moving from one relationship to the next (monkey-branching) and hoping that the next relationship will be different.

Usually, the next relationship isn’t a whole lot different. Sure, the new woman is different personality-wise than the previous girlfriend (you), but as far as his shortcomings go, they don’t go anywhere. They lie in wait for him to get through the infatuation phase and then start showing up again.

And that’s because he needs a few months to lower his guard and start showing who he really is.

So even though your ex has a new girlfriend just after a month, try not to worry that your ex’s new relationship will be perfect. If your ex had flaws when he was with you, rest assured that he’ll have flaws when he’s with his new girlfriend. This is because he’ll follow the same thinking and behavioral patterns and continue to blame you for the breakup.

Not only that, the girl or woman he’s with will also have her bad points that will bring certain challenges to the relationship. She could make your ex angry or impatient and cause him to react in unhealthy ways.

I can’t predict how their relationship will unfold and say that they’ll break up for sure. But whatever you do, don’t think that he’ll have it easy just because he’s dating someone else already. The first few months might look straight out of a movie, but give them some time to get used to each other and stop feeling the love sparks.

That’s when they’ll start facing disagreements and all sorts of issues they didn’t expect to face.

It’s best that you don’t check up on them and look for signs of incompatibility because you won’t find any no matter how hard you look. The pictures and statuses you’ll see on their social profiles will only depict the best of their lives.

There’ll be much more going on behind the scenes that they won’t let you in on.

Today’s post is dedicated to people whose boyfriend has a new girlfriend after a month of breaking up. We’re going to discuss why your ex got a new girlfriend a month or two after the breakup and what you should do whether you want your ex back or not.

Why did my ex get a new girlfriend so soon?

First things first, we need to go into more detail about the reasons why your ex is dating again so soon. We need to mention that people who rush into the next relationship typically don’t want to be alone. They prefer to have someone by their side because they consider the single life to be boring, unfulfilling, or unproductive.

Such people take every romantic opportunity they get because they believe being alone is a weakness. Either that or they find it extremely difficult to remain single and avoid temptations when they arise.

If your ex got a new girlfriend a month after the breakup, it’s also possible that you only found out about the new relationship much later. He may have started dating his girlfriend much sooner – let’s say a week after the breakup. That would imply that there’s a big possibility that he emotionally or physically cheated on you with her and left you to be with her.

Guys tend to do that because they develop a connection with a woman and sense that she wants to be in a relationship as much as they do. They, however, tend not to leave their partner for someone else (especially a long-term one) when the relationship is working and moving toward a certain goal. Not unless they get the grass is greener syndrome, slowly detach, and then attach to someone new.

I’m telling you this so you know that people (especially guys) don’t leave good women for no reason. They leave them because they take them for granted. And the reason they take them for granted quite often is that another woman confuses them and makes them think they can feel stronger emotions with her.

I know that a month is enough time for people to find someone else to date, but if you can’t figure out why your ex left you out of the blue without an explanation, then perhaps this is the answer you’ve been looking for.

Another possible explanation why your ex got a new girlfriend just a month after the breakup is that your ex wanted all the love and happiness the world had to offer. He may have felt so unhappy in the relationship with you for such a long time that he put all his eggs in one basket with this new woman. That would indicate that he wanted to move on to someone new who could offer him what you couldn’t or wouldn’t.

If that’s the case, your ex started dating someone new so quickly because he was tired of getting hurt and just wanted someone/anyone to make him feel valued and appreciated. Call it desperation if you want, but he wanted to heal from his relationship with you by distracting himself and focusing on things that reassured and empowered him.

Guys who were in unhealthy relationships or even those who merely perceived their relationships to be unhealthy tend to do that. They consider themselves to be victims, so they do anything to distance themselves from the perpetrators of their suffering and get closer to people who can help them feel better.

They don’t understand that they’re responsible for the way they feel and that unless their ex was downright abusive that they also had something to do with the demise of their relationship.

So if you’re wondering why your ex started dating another woman just a month after ending his relationship with you, know that it felt like the right thing to do. He’d been unhappy for quite some time, so he wanted the new person not just to distract him and take his pain away, but to also show him what it feels like to be loved.

Whether the feeling of love will last is up to them. But if your ex has a lot to work on (especially on his behavior and attachment style – the way he gives and perceives love), don’t assume that their relationship will be a cakewalk. The guy will most likely not fix his deep-rooted issues because the breakup won’t allow him to.

Instead of encouraging him to work on his issues as it does for dumpees, it will tell him you’re to blame and that the new person will be better suited for him. Now, I won’t lie and say that she won’t be because I know nothing about you and her, but I can tell you that changing romantic partners doesn’t make shortcomings disappear.

It sometimes makes them easier to work with, but it also creates new ones.

Here are 6 reasons why your ex moved on so quickly and has a new girlfriend after a month of breaking up with you.

How could my ex fall in love with someone else so quickly?

This is the part dumpees have a hard time understanding. They think that because their ex has promised them the world that their ex will stay hooked on them for months and months. They don’t consider the fact that their ex is the dumper and that he has already mainly or fully detached (moved on).

He has no more expectations of the dumpee, hence why he can move forward at an astronomical speed. He can start dating someone new literally the next day if he wants to. Nothing’s holding him back.

Of course, if he’s a moral person, he may feel guilty about that and question his own decisions. But he won’t necessarily rebound with the new woman just because he started seeing her so quickly.

He could rebound with her if the new woman is highly incompatible with him and hurts him. That could make him compare her to his previous relationship and force him to come running back like greased lightning.

So keep in mind that your ex won’t automatically rebound with someone (fail romantically) only because he rushed to be with her right away.

As far as I know, people rebound when they:

1. Still have feelings for their ex-partner and try to reconnect with someone else to get over their ex.
2. Date someone else, realize she’s not suitable for them, and get hurt. That’s when they become regretful and start thinking about their ex more and more.

More often than not, it’s not dumpers that rebound, but dumpees. They’re still hung up on their ex, so they fail to form an emotional connection with another person and suffer because of it.

Dumpers, on the other hand, tend not to think about their ex obsessively when they’re with someone new. They do that only if they had no choice but to leave their ex because their ex hit them or slept with another woman, for example.

This means that dumpers who gradually detach typically don’t rebound. They have “normal” relationships with the people they get romantically involved with.

People often ask me, “Is my ex in a rebound relationship? Is he thinking about me and comparing me to the new person? Is he on his way back?”

They want to know how likely it is that their ex’s new relationship will fail, so I do what I do best (or not so best, really).

I tell them, “The chances of your ex’s new relationship failing are no higher than what the chances were when you were with your ex. “For them to be higher, your ex would have to make an unpremeditated decision to leave the relationship while he still has some romantic feelings for you.”

So to put it simply, the dumper failing romantically with someone new in almost all cases has nothing to do with whether he was in a relationship a month ago or a year ago. It depends on his and his partner’s relationship skills, maturity, compatibility (values, goals, mutual understanding…), and the determination to stay faithful and committed.

Ex has a new girlfriend but still loves me

If your ex has a new girlfriend but says he still loves you or if for some reason you think he still does, don’t deceive yourself. Your ex may care about you as a person, but he definitely doesn’t love you. Love is a powerful feeling of connection, understanding, and shared values and goals—and your ex doesn’t have that.

All he has is familiarity and care for knowing you for as long as he does.

Your ex would love you if he wanted to be with you. That would show that the two of you are heading in the same direction as a couple and that neither of you wants to let go of the other person.

When you care about someone romantically, you’re also afraid of losing him. You can be the biggest alpha male or female on the planet, but love still makes your knees tremble at the thought of losing your significant other. It makes you feel that your partner is irreplaceable even though deep inside you, you know you could find love again if you really wanted to.

The thing is that you don’t want to, though. You’re perfectly happy with the person you’re with. That’s what love is.

So is your ex happy with you? Does he think you’re irreplaceable?

If he’s taking a chance with random people he knows very little about, you’re probably not very special to him. You’re merely someone he’s afraid of telling the truth to because he fears he may hurt you and/or bring a strong unwanted reaction out of you.

So do yourself a favor and give up on an ex who has a girlfriend. Forget about competing for his recognition because you’ll never win if you choose to fight for it head-on.

If your ex loves you or starts loving you later, he’ll return to you when he realizes the new woman doesn’t measure up to your standards and that love was stronger when he was with you. But until that happens, you need to focus on yourself so you can recover emotionally and fall back in love with yourself.

That’s the best thing you can do whether you want your ex back or not.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.