The Power Of Walking Away From A Man

Walking away from a man doesn’t just make a man realize what he lost and what you bring to the table. The power of walking away also hurts a man because it triggers his separation anxiety, fears, and most of all, his ego.

It hits the guy where he’s the most vulnerable and forces him to reflect and appreciate that which he previously wasn’t self-aware and grateful enough to appreciate. He wasn’t able to appreciate it because he didn’t think that the relationship could end. He’s been with you long enough to believe that the relationship is indestructible, so he stopped putting his best foot forward and took you and the relationship for granted.

In simpler terms, the guy’s gotten used to the relationship so much that he isn’t thinking about ways to make it better anymore. Now, he’s on autopilot, behaving in ways that feel right to him. And it just so happens that serving his own wants and needs feels right and interests him more than investing in you and the relationship.

Before you walk away from your boyfriend with the intention to punish him and open his eyes to the cruel reality of your absence, you need to know that walking away should be your last resort. It should be the very last thing you do because the moment you walk away from your boyfriend, your relationship will never be the same again.

Not only will you gain power and control over your boyfriend’s life, but you’ll also play a very dangerous game with him. A game that intends to hurt, shock, and manipulate him into growing up and acting the way you think he should act.

Think about that for a minute. Do you really want to abuse the power of walking away from a man? If you were in his shoes, would you want him to show you that you’re not good enough by hurting you and causing you mental anguish?

Although pain is undoubtedly people’s best incentive for growth, I think that breaking someone’s heart just so he gets his act together is not what you and your boyfriend signed up for when you became a couple. You both agreed to work together and help each other out with love and care.

And hurting each other just doesn’t count as care. It counts as playing with each other’s feelings and forcing each other to change even though one of you isn’t willing or ready to change.

So before you abuse the power of walking away from a man, ask yourself some important questions. Do you truly love this man? Do you want him to be happy and feel at peace?

If the answer is a strong yes, walking away from him might not be the best solution. Once you leave him, he could get angry the way rejected people do and start to resent you. He could also get in a rebound relationship and reject you when you reach out and ask to get back together.

Or even worse, you might get back together and things might seem great for a while. But after he’s healed and collected his thoughts, he might realize that the relationship lacks trust and respect and that the relationship just isn’t the same anymore. That’s when your boyfriend could quickly detach from you and move on from you.

I’ve seen this happen numerous times, so think things through.

Consider the pros of abandoning the relationship as well as the consequences you may have to face if things don’t go according to plan.

Right now, you’re not entirely satisfied with the relationship and may think you don’t have much to lose, but if your boyfriend or rather, ex-boyfriend rejects you when you come back for him, chances are that you’ll switch positions with your boyfriend.

Your boyfriend could gain control over the breakup and you could feel as hurt and abandoned as you want him to feel today. So tread with caution.

The topic of this article is the power of walking away from a man. We’ll talk about what the power of walking away feels like for you and your boyfriend. We’ll also mention when walking away from a person to get him to care is a good idea and when it’s not.

The power of walking away from a man

First of all, you need to understand that the power of walking away from a man applies only to men who love you, respect you, and need you. It doesn’t work on men who are detached from you, stopped caring about you, and have doubts about being with you.

Such men are not going to chase after you when you break up with them. They are going to pull further away and feel even less inspired to work on themselves and the relationship. The reason for that is that they aren’t in an emotional state capable of getting hurt the way you expect them to get hurt. Instead of getting hurt, the breakup will probably initiate their self-defense mechanism and make them even more irritated with you.

It will make them blame you for rejecting them and cause them to lose their remaining admiration for you.

So if you’re thinking of using the power of walking away from a man on a person who’s unreceptive, impulsive, angry, cold, vengeful, or self-destructive, you need to know that there’s a decent chance your plan could backfire. It could turn your boyfriend into the dumper and you into the dumpee—which could then cause you to suffer way more than your boyfriend.

How much pain will enter your system depends on your love for yourself and your partner. If you love your partner a lot and plan to leave him just to make him care about you more, you will most likely get hurt a lot because your ex-boyfriend won’t give you the caring “please don’t leave me” response that you’re looking for.

On the contrary, he’ll probably see the breakup as an opportunity to get away from you and use his determination to stay broken up and detached.

So again, consider walking away from a person you love only if you’ve tried (and I mean really tried) to make him take you seriously and grow with you. If you did that but your boyfriend still didn’t show any signs of improvement, then perhaps leaving him is for the best because otherwise, he’ll drag you down with him and waste your time and emotions.

Leaving him might give him the motivation to invest in himself, but if you plan on leaving, you need to do it for yourself. You need to do it because you deserve to be happy—and not because you want him to improve himself and be the person you want him to be.

Below, you can see how the power of walking away from a man affects a man. But bear in mind that it affects him only if he cares about you and wants to be with you.

How to tell if walking away from a man is going to work on him?

The lower your partner’s self-esteem and confidence and that the bigger his love, commitment, and willpower, the more likely it is that the power of walking away from him is going to work. The chances are higher because a person who has a bond with you and wants to be with you won’t like the anxiety and fears that come with the breakup.

Conversely, he’ll most likely hate the feeling of pain and uncertainty so much that he’ll analyze his behavior over and over again and strive to improve himself as a person.

Dumpees do that because they hate losing a person they care about. They especially hate losing someone who makes them sad, anxious, depressed, or suicidal because a person like that controls their emotional health and well-being.

She decides how her dumpee feels, thinks, and often even acts. Her affection or the lack thereof is what controls the dumpee’s happiness because the dumpee is starving for attention, recognition, and hope that the relationship will return to normal.

The more a dumpee wants his ex back, the more personal changes the dumpee usually makes. As we said before, pain is the strongest motive for self-improvement. But it’s also the cruelest, most painful one.

So if you’re wondering how to tell if the power of walking away from a man is going to work, know that that there’s no guarantee that it will work. Nobody can promise you results because every person responds to rejections differently.

But walking away does tend to work on certain kinds of people. It often works on those who:

• need their partner to feel fulfilled
• rely on their partner for emotional, physical, or financial support
• feel attached to their partner or are attached but don’t know it
• lack confidence in their abilities
• think poorly of themselves
• want to be with their partner but lack relationship skills, self-awareness, and maturity

Such dumpees have good emotional reasons to change and are much more likely to improve significantly than people who don’t care if their relationship ends. They are in a lot of pain, so they think about their poor decisions, actions, words, and shortcomings and commit to improving themselves.

As a result, they often outgrow their ex-partner and don’t want their ex back after they’ve recovered.

Is it true that walking away creates respect and attraction?

Walking away from someone who’s attached to you and needs you to cope with anxiety definitely creates respect and attraction. But you have to realize just what kind of attraction it creates.

It doesn’t create the kind of attraction your partner felt when he first fell in love with you. It creates the worst case of codependency known to man. We’re talking about the kind of codependency that psychologically injures your partner and makes him dependent on your love and attention.

This kind of attraction can’t really be called attraction as it’s much more than that. It’s fear, anger, regret, anxiety, withdrawal, and physical and emotional pain all mashed together.

For dumpees, it’s a real nightmare as it makes it hard for them to eat and sleep and function as independent human beings.

So yes, abandoning a relationship creates a strong gravitational pull and a lot of respect and attraction. But that respect is built on anxiety, regrets, and a lack of self-respect rather than love and passion. You may want to keep that in mind if you’re thinking of relying on the power of walking away from a man just to prove that you need him less than he needs you.

As a dumper, you’ll prove your point very quickly. Your partner will see your worth right away.

So is it absolutely necessary to show him how disrespected you felt throughout the relationship? Have you tried therapy, couples’ counseling, listening to his side of the story, talking to him in a non-judgmental manner, asking him to open up, and talking to his best friends and family about him?

Or do you just get angry or disappointed every time your partner doesn’t respond the way you want him to?

In my opinion, you should consider leaving this person only if he isn’t capable or willing to change after trying all the above things and more. If you tried several different methods for months and your partner is still stubborn, closed-minded, unreceptive, angry, impulsive, and has no idea how to treat a lady, then, by all means, walk away from this man.

It might just give him the boot in the butt he needs to start treating you fairly.

But even if it motivates him to self-invest, bear in mind that his motivation could last only while he’s hurt and feels apprehensive about another breakup. If you get back with him too quickly, he could quickly return to his regular self and behave the same way as before.

What does walking away from a man do for you?

The power of walking away from a man will likely do empowering things for you. If you intend to leave your partner forever, it will help you distance yourself from your partner both physically and emotionally and allow you to prioritize yourself.

The separation will flood your brain with comfort and peace and make you feel extremely light. You’ll feel as if weight was lifted off your shoulders and think that you can finally breathe without worrying about whether you’re doing the right thing.

The breakup will essentially free you from all commitments, responsibilities, doubts, fears, anxiety, and pressure and give you the strength to focus on things and people that take your stress away and help you enjoy your life to the fullest.

That’s what breaking up with someone you haven’t been happy with will do for you. It will make you elated and excited to focus on your own life.

How you feel about your partner after the breakup depends on how you perceive him. If you think he’s a really good person, you will most likely feel bad for dumping him. You’ll feel guilty and question your decision.

If you don’t talk at all, you might even occasionally reminisce about the relationship and think about sending him a message. But if you’re certain that your ex wasn’t good for you (maybe even bad or toxic for you), then you probably won’t feel very nostalgic about your ex. You’ll still think about your ex from time to time, but you won’t think of him in a very good light.

You’ll probably feel a bit disgusted and hold on to that disgust for a very long time. This really depends on what your ex does after the breakup and how good you are at dealing with unwanted perceptions and emotions.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.