2 Months No Contact, Does He Miss Me?

If it’s been 2 months since you went no contact with an ex and wonder if your ex is thinking about you and missing you, know that it depends on the nature of the breakup and your ex’s personality and post-breakup experiences.

Don’t expect your ex to miss you just because 60 days have passed since the beginning of no contact. Time alone doesn’t make dumpers miss their ex. It can help them feel less pressured and annoyed, but it doesn’t fix their unhealthy perceptions and resentment.

These deep issues require work. Work that is done deliberately, rather than passively with time.

Dumpers need much more than 2 months of silence to realize they shouldn’t have dumped their ex. They need some kind of negative experience that stops them from enjoying themselves and thinking poorly of their ex.

This can be anything that destroys their ego and self-esteem and makes them afraid for their safety. Usually, a painful romantic rejection or failure does the job. That’s because it makes them question their worth and their ability to be happy now and in the future.

2 months into no contact, the dumper merely goes through the relief and elation stages of a breakup and enters the nostalgia and comparison stage. In this stage, the dumper may start feeling guilty (or guiltier) and decide to check up on the dumpee.

By checking up on the dumpee and talking about irrelevant matters, the dumper receives information, relieves guilt, and prepares himself or herself for a new life ahead.

Not all dumpers reach out or reach out the moment they get into the nostalgia stage. Many dumpers reach out a month or two later after they’ve had a chance to experience their post-breakup life. They reach out (breadcrumb their ex) because they’re curious about their ex and want to know how their ex is handling the breakup.

2 months into no contact, you shouldn’t expect your ex to miss you and want you back. You should remember that your ex is still processing the breakup and focusing on his new life. He’ll miss you only when things go awry. And things usually go awry many months into no contact, not 2 months into it.

When and how nostalgia kicks in is situational and varies for each person. Some regret breaking up with their ex two days later and some need months to get hurt and discover their ex’s worth. Don’t think that time is the biggest factor.

On the breakup scale, 2 months of no contact is nothing. It’s not enough for you to get over your ex and it’s not enough for your ex to fail miserably and come crying back to you. Dumpers who come back that quickly usually have lots of unresolved issues.

They have financial problems, problems dating, fears of being alone, feelings of worthlessness, or some other problem they can’t handle on their own and need their ex’s help with.

Such dumpers, unfortunately, more often than not leave again as they come back entirely for themselves.

Anyway, you shouldn’t hope that your ex comes back after 2 months of no contact because if your ex does come back that quickly, your ex might not return for the right reasons. He might not come back to invest but rather to take. This could prevent your ex from improving himself and making sure he values you and stays with you through thick and thin.

Those who come back within days or weeks of abandoning a relationship have the lowest chance of staying long-term because they hadn’t had much time to think about the breakup and value what they’d lost. Instead of working on their issues and starting a new relationship, such dumpers continue from where they left off.

This means their determination to grow and succeed romantically isn’t as high as those who completely separated from their ex and failed to find happiness.

As a result, they usually face the same problems and break up again.

2 months of time to think are decent, but they might not be enough for the dumper to see that you respect yourself and don’t need him to survive and enjoy life. The guy might need longer to notice the love you have for yourself.

Ideally, he should wait at least a few months before he says he’s sorry and that he wants to give the relationship another chance. You want to be detached or semi-detached (not desperate) so that your ex can respect you, love you, and be afraid of losing you.

I can tell you that most exes who reconcile quickly break up again. They don’t get enough space to see their relationship from a clear perspective, so they fail to improve their shortcomings and become ready for a new relationship.

Today, we discuss whether your ex misses you months into no contact. We talk about different kinds of missing an ex and share some tips with you.

2 months no contact, does he miss me?

2 months into no contact, it would be wise of you to assume that your ex doesn’t miss you. Your ex might miss you as a friend or a person he’d spent a lot of time with, but romantically, your ex just doesn’t crave you. If he missed you romantically, he would have contacted you by now.

Your ex would have reached out, expressed regret, professed feelings, and asked for forgiveness, love, and another chance.

Since your ex hasn’t done that, your ex doesn’t miss you in ways you want him to miss you. Your ex is still okay with the breakup and the independence it provided.

You must understand that someone who loves you would do for you what you would do for him. He would move mountains, cross deserts, and swim oceans just to hold you, kiss you, and feel secure with you.

There’s nothing he wouldn’t do to secure a spot in your heart and be with you.

So try not to cling to hope too much. Unmaintained thoughts about your ex missing you could mess with your brain and make you think that your ex is too shy or prideful to admit that he’s missing you and that you should make things easier for your ex.

Unhealthy/hopeful convictions could force you to reach out to your ex and break no contact. That would, in turn, push your ex further away, hurt you badly, and destroy the progress no contact has allowed you to make. You’d have no choice but to restart no contact and deal with the consequences of reaching out.

So even though you’re reading this article to get some hope from it, bear in mind that too much hope can be bad for you. It can make you do desperate things that not only make reconciliation more difficult but also make it harder for you to love yourself and get through the breakup.

It’s okay to have feelings for your ex. It’d be odd if you didn’t have any after your ex has shattered your heart and destroyed your self-esteem. Just remember that 2 months of no contact may not be enough for your ex to get through all the breakup stages and realize that leaving you was the biggest mistake of his life.

A breakup is more than a misguided decision. It’s a premeditated deed that requires a strong emotional incentive to regret.

This incentive can be triggered by another breakup, health complications, lack of money, or something self-esteem-breaking. Something that forces dumpers to reflect and get off their high horse.

So try not to expect your ex to miss you romantically 2 months into no contact. No contact only gives your ex a break from you and preserves your value as a person. It doesn’t magically increase your value and make your ex want to be with you.

Neither does speaking with your ex, begging, and showing off. Such things only repulse your ex and make your ex glad you’re not together.

The point of no contact is to give your ex time to live without you. I know this is the opposite of what you want, but it’s not about what you want. It’s about your ex’s wants, needs, and expectations. You must make sure your ex has the freedom to enjoy life and even date other people.

Most dumpers don’t hesitate to date. In fact, most dumpers don’t wait at all. They monkey-branch straight into a romantic and/or sexual relationship and get as much as they can out of it. They don’t worry about their conscience because they prioritize their feelings.

Guilt tends to kick in later after the infatuation phase when they get to know their new partner.

If your ex started dating someone else weeks after the breakup, your ex probably met this person when you were still together and cheated on you emotionally and/or physically. Cheating is extremely common these days. It’s one of the most common reasons for breaking up.

Undeveloped people find temptations to be with someone who looks better on the surface difficult to deal with. They don’t have the skills, gratitude, respect, self-respect, morality, and determination to resist them.

That’s why they cave into temptations when they develop strong feelings for their crush.

So does your ex-boyfriend miss you after 2 months of no contact? Does he wish he didn’t dump you?

Probably not. The guy might feel a bit bad for hurting you, but he hasn’t yet realized your worth and become nostalgic or regretful.

Nostalgia and regret kick in when things don’t go according to plan and hurt him. That’s when he appreciates you and misses your personality and affection. Therefore, the guy misses you when he does something wrong and regrets it or when something happens to him rather than when you do something to impress him and “trigger his sentimentality.”

An ex, regardless of gender must realize your worth on his or her own. If you try to convince your ex to come back, your efforts will be in vain because you’ll lack the power to influence your ex.

You mustn’t forget that your ex knows how to get back in touch with you. Your ex can find you even if you moved countries or continents away. The problem is that your ex doesn’t want to look for you because nothing significant changed for your ex.

Your ex still thinks and perceives himself, you, and his surroundings the same way. And that’s just not good enough for him to miss you and want you back.

Romantic kind of missing can’t happen when a guy still thinks you’re at fault or that you’re incompatible. In other words, he can’t miss you as a partner as long as he has no desire to reconnect emotionally and start a new bond.

With that said, here’s what typically happens 2 months into no contact.

How to tell if he misses the friendship?

You must differentiate between romantic nostalgia and non-romantic (regular) nostalgia. Romantic nostalgia means that your partner wants you to invest in him emotionally and validate his feelings. Your ex wants you to focus on the relationship again and be an equal partner.

Regular nostalgia, however, means that your ex misses the perks you provided throughout the relationship. Oftentimes, these parks include friendship, emotional/financial support, reassurance, and how you make your ex feel when you have no romantic expectations.

If your ex misses you as just a friend, your ex will specifically ask for friendship and/or through conversation, prove again and again that he or she is only interested in talking about superficial matters. Your ex will ignore everything that has to do with breaking up and getting back together.

That’s why the easiest way to tell that your ex misses the friendship aspect of the relationship is to observe how your ex communicates with you. Random post-breakup communication isn’t a sign of your ex warming up to you but a sign that your ex feels guilty and/or wants to be your friend.

You may have a hard time differentiating between guilt and friendship and understanding how your ex feels and what your ex wants, but the good thing about it is that you don’t need to know. All you need to know is that your ex doesn’t want you back and that no contact is your best and only option.

When an ex misses you as a friend, you shouldn’t waste your time and hope that your ex comes back around. Things rarely grow from friendship to relationship because the dumper already knows the dumpee and doesn’t want to change his mind.

He prefers to view his ex in a certain way and by doing so, hold on to power and refuse to self-invest.

You can tell your ex misses you as a friend when your ex:

• contacts you multiple times (dumpers come back very quickly – usually within days of reaching out)
• contacts you to ask for favors or to give favors
• appears to be afraid of losing you
• wants to know what you’re up to and if you’re dating anyone
• says he wants to be friends or friends with benefits
• says he misses you and doesn’t do anything to get back together
• makes excuses not to see you
• lets you do all the initiating
• and get upset if you don’t want to be friends

An ex who wants friendship loves your company, what you can do for him, and how you make him feel. He doesn’t feel the chemistry and has no fear or desire to secure a spot in a relationship with you before someone else takes his spot.

That’s all the proof you need that your ex doesn’t want you back romantically.

To see if he misses you as a friend, you just need to talk to him. Have a normal conversation with him and watch what he says. He’ll probably inquire about your new life and tell you about his. The conversation will likely last a while, and things could seem pretty normal.

You could feel as if you’re back together.

But don’t get your hopes up too quickly. At the end of the conversation, he’ll probably tell you he enjoyed talking with you and that you should do it again sometime. This will be his indirect request to forget the past and stay friends.

You must remember that a regretful ex will be in pain and in a hurry to reconcile whereas a guilty or nostalgic one will reach out for himself and ditch you afterward. He’ll stick around only for as long as it’s convenient for him.

If you keep him in your life, you’ll stay hungry for his recognition and eventually get tired of it and realize that he doesn’t miss you romantically.

Sadly, many dumpers tell their ex that they miss her. Some even say they love their ex and that they’ll never find someone as great as their ex. Unfortunately, such dumpers don’t really love, or miss their ex. They just make it look like they do because they like their ex as a person and lack the guts to tell their ex the truth (that they’re done with the relationship for good).

You need to know that if your ex isn’t getting back with you that your ex is dealing with guilt, shame, or non-romantic nostalgia and that your ex has nothing of value to offer to you. Not while you’re hurting and feeling lost.

Your ex can be your friend and tell you he misses you only when you’re both over each other. And you can probably do that until you meet new people.

So whether it’s been 2 months or 5 months since you went no contact, stay in no contact and keep healing. Let your ex live his life while you live yours.

If your ex starts missing you as a friend or a partner, your ex will tell you or show you that he does because your ex will want you in his life.

How do you feel 2 months into no contact? Are you wondering if your ex misses you? What are you worried about the most? Comment below the post.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Learn more about me or get in touch today.