What To Do When Your Husband Gets Another Woman Pregnant?

When your husband cheats on you and gets another woman, typically, the best thing to do is to separate from your husband and let him face the consequences of impregnating another woman.

You can let him face the consequences of his actions by breaking up with him, asking for space, distancing yourself from him, and allowing him to think about his actions.

By distancing yourself from him, you can give him the space to see that his life is about to change (or has already changed) and that he’ll have to pay for his recklessness in one way or another.

If you take him back on the spot, know that you’ll be a part of his cheating journey and will need to support him despite him betraying you and acting irresponsibly. You need to make sure that you love this person and that he’s a changed man before you take him back and put your trust back in him.

If you can’t trust him and don’t love him or don’t want to love him, however, then you can simply end things here and now. You can indirectly make him go through a phase of self-blame and detachment during which he’ll probably suffer from rejection and might even try to win you back and be a better person.

Some people learn their lessons when their partners reject them whereas others just feel sorry for themselves and move on to someone else. Whether they change usually depends on how regretful they are and how badly rejection hurts them.

It’s up to you to decide if you want your husband back. But if you decide to give him another chance after he got someone else pregnant, know that you’ll be taking back a cheater who didn’t just betray you but also acted irresponsibly and now needs to be responsible.

You better make sure he wants to take responsibility otherwise he’s going to be irresponsible with you when he needs to take responsibility. He could mistreat you, abandon you when you’re pregnant, cheat on you, or monkey-branch to someone else.

Although you can’t prevent any of that from happening, you can minimize the risks by taking preventive measures today. Preventive measures include doing your best to observe his attitude and readiness to invest in his shortcomings.

So if you’re not sure what to do when your husband gets another woman pregnant, take some time to figure out if he’s taking responsibility for his actions. If he is, he might be willing to learn from his mistakes and be the person he should have been.

But if he isn’t showing any signs of responsibility, then you may as well end things right away as it’s unlikely that he’ll become more virtuous and caring now or in the future.

People normally change when something bad happens to them. If they don’t change after going through a bad/painful experience, they tend to stay as they are forever or at least until another shocking thing happens to them.

Every wasted negative experience reduces their chances of reflecting and improving themselves.

In this post, we discuss what to do when your husband gets another woman pregnant.

What to do when your husband gets another woman pregnant?

If you’re trying to figure out what to do when your husband gets another woman pregnant, you’re probably still attached and/or in love with your husband. You haven’t given up on him completely, so you’re wondering if you should forgive the guy for hurting you and take him back.

This is completely understandable and normal to contemplate as you’ve been with your husband for years and didn’t see the cheating coming. The cheating completely blindsided you, shocked you, and most of all, disorientated you.

It caused you unimaginable pain and suffering and affected your perception of yourself.

Even though your husband knew you’d suffer immensely, the undeniable truth is that he still went through with the cheating. He didn’t think or care about your feelings and the way it would alter your life.

All he cared about was his thirst for sexual gratification.

The cheating might have only happened once, but cheating is still cheating. One time is enough for trust to vanish and be replaced with pain, confusion, and self-doubt.

All in all, cheating says bad things about a person and affects a woman badly. It drives her crazy as she thinks that something’s wrong with her and that she’s not good enough for her husband.

In reality, he’s not good for her as he betrayed her in the worst way imaginable.

People should be mindful of their partner’s well-being and think things through before they do something nasty. If they just act on their emotions, they can be considered emotionally immature and immoral people who put themselves way before others.

So if your husband cheated on you with someone else and got that person pregnant, don’t instantly forgive him for betraying you and hurting you. You must remember that he didn’t care about your health, plans, and emotions and that he was just thinking about himself.

You probably love him, but that doesn’t mean he deserves another chance. This is especially true if he left you for someone else or made you find out on your own that he was cheating.

Regardless of what he did and didn’t do, you need to think twice or thrice before you accept a cheater back.

Consider all the possible outcomes, the anxiety, uncertainty, and trust problems you’ll experience because of his infidelity. This is your chance to boost your self-love, evaluate your relationship with your husband, and decide if the relationship is even healthy and fulfilling for you.

Don’t listen to what others say. Don’t listen to your heart either.

“Just listen to your heart” is the most foolish advice anyone could ever give you as your heart will make an emotional decision that will likely attract more misery.

What you need to do is figure out if your husband is a good person who can change from this ordeal.

You have a difficult decision ahead of you, so try to gather your thoughts and emotions before you terminate the relationship or try to fix it.

Fortunately, you only have two options if your husband gets another woman pregnant.

1. Forgive your husband and move on without him.
2. Accept that he betrayed you, that he’ll be a part of the child’s life, and take him back.

Should I take my husband back if he got another woman pregnant?

If you’re considering being with your husband despite him cheating on you and impregnating another woman, you should first ask yourself whether your husband is trustworthy, regretful, and deserving of another chance.

Your broken heart will probably tell you that he is, but that’s because he’s hurt you badly, humiliated you, eradicated your self-esteem, and artificially increased his value in your eyes.

This doesn’t mean that he’s a high-value man but quite the opposite, really. He’s currently unworthy of your love as he took it for granted and made you fend for yourself.

Taking an ex-boyfriend or ex-husband back is a personal decision, but if you’re giving it some serious thought, know that you’ll most likely face some difficulties on the way. One of the biggest predicaments you will encounter is the fear of getting cheated on for the second time and feeling abandoned.

Now that you know how much it hurts to get betrayed by your significant other, you will find it almost impossible not to wonder if you mean anything to your husband and if he’s learned his lessons. In other words, you’ll have trouble trusting him fully as trust takes time to rebuild.

It’s much easier to trust someone who hasn’t betrayed you and lost sight of your importance.

Secondly, since the guy has cheated on you, he might feel less eager to work on the relationship. This greatly depends on how much you respect yourself and how badly he thinks he messed up and wants to fix things.

If he doesn’t appreciate you, he could get tired of working on the relationship and give up when he stops feeling guilty and gets the grass is greener syndrome again.

So don’t get back with the guy until you’re absolutely sure he’s working on himself and doing everything in his power to impress you and gain your trust back.

Before you reconcile, ask yourself:

• Did he apologize sincerely?
• Does he respect you?
• Is he taking responsibility for his child and being nice to the person he impregnated?
• Is he working on himself and ready to prove his worth to you?
• Is he angry or trying to rush/control the reconciliation?
• Did he confess to cheating or got caught?
• Was he good to you prior to cheating?
• Are you prepared to have trouble trusting him?
• Can you eventually trust him?
• Do you want him because he hurt you or because he’s actually a good person?
• Do you want to support him and be with him despite him expecting a child?

These are just a few questions to ask yourself if you’re wondering what to do when your husband gets another woman pregnant. It’s not just a matter of what your husband is willing to do to win your trust and loyalty back but also whether you’re prepared to forgive him and start a new relationship with him.

Once you’ve regained your trust, you’ll also need to prepare for him to take responsibility for his child. This includes financial responsibility, spending time with his child, and occasional communication with his ex.

Don’t expect his focus to be fully on you. If he’s a responsible guy, he will be there for his child regardless of whether he has any feelings for the woman he impregnated.

My husband got another woman pregnant while we were separated

If your husband got someone else pregnant while you were separated, he probably didn’t cheat on you. He most likely found and impregnated the other woman after the separation.

This doesn’t mean that what he did was okay, but that he was loyal to you while you were together.

You still need to think long and hard about whether you want to take him back. He has a baby on the way, so things have changed a lot since the breakup. On top of all the reasons the relationship failed, the baby will require time, money, and commitment.

Your husband will be a part of his baby’s life, and you’ll be there to support him.

You have to figure out if you’re prepared to live that kind of life.

What if I don’t want my husband back after he cheated and got another woman pregnant?

If you don’t want the guy back after he got some other woman pregnant, there’s not really much you can do.

If you have any unfinished business, such as shared finances and divorce, of course, get things sorted out. The sooner you finish things with your husband the quicker you’ll be able to start healing.

Once you’ve discussed all the necessary things with him, cut all ties with him right away. You don’t need to keep talking to him just because you’re married.

The guy broke the marriage vow and the commitment that comes with it. You can now do whatever you want as long as you don’t hurt your husband. You can even date other people if you want to.

Just make sure you’re ready for new connections before you get back into the dating pool. You don’t want to rebound with someone just because your husband hurt you badly. You want to get over the guy first.

So if you don’t want your ex-husband back after he cheated and got another woman pregnant, talk with him about it. Tell him you don’t want to continue the relationship and that you’d like him not to contact you anymore.

This will make it clear that you respect yourself and that you’re not interested in speaking even as friends.

Do you now know what to do when your husband gets another woman pregnant? Let us know what you did or would do if your partner got someone else pregnant in the comments below.

And if you’d like to discuss it with us privately, click here to subscribe to coaching.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.