1)We are the creators of our own happiness
In relationships, we become so obsessed and reliant on the other person, we always expect him or her to be there for us.
But when that bond is broken and the shared life we’d created ceases to exist, we regain our identity and turn back into who we were prior to getting in the relationship.
We then no longer depend on that person for emotional support and find our own happiness through various activities and social circles.
2)Our mistakes make us better people/partners
After the demise of the relationship, we often contemplate what went wrong and if there’s any chance of reconciliation.
We often blame ourselves and ruminate about the things we could have done differently.
This is a great opportunity to become the best version of yourself as we now have the drive to become better more self-aware.
3)Give as much as you are given
Relationships are never completely balanced when it comes to power and investment.
The person who has invested more energy into making the relationship work normally ends up hurting more in the end (whether he’s the dumper or the dumpee).
It takes longer for an emotionally invested person to completely recover from the post-breakup blues.
4)Life is too short to waste
A failed relationship first makes us feel miserable and depressed. After a while we get back up on our feet, find our mojo, and start doing the things we love.
5)Our exes were holding us back
As the relationship progressed, we started spending less time with friends and family, as well as with ourselves.
The end of a failed relationship can put us back on track and reignite our passion in life.
6)Relationships can be selfish
Every person in a romantic relationship is in one for a reason. This can be for emotional support, validation, happiness, sex, etc.
Never have I heard a person say “Hey I am here to make your life better by doing this and that for you.” Life just doesn’t work that way.
Of course, we want to help our partners in any way possible by doing chores, taking them on dates, spending time with them, etc.
We do it because it makes our lives easier by making us feel good.
7)Nothing lasts forever
Everything on our planet has an expiry date, including our failed relationships. Some things cease to exist sooner than others.
That’s just the “beauty” of life. The trick is to show appreciation for these little things while we still have them.
8)Some things we have no control over
Our words and actions may play a big role in our significant other’s life, but on the other hand, our partner has a mind of his own.
We are not responsible for his actions, so never blame yourself to the point of self-destruction. If something is meant to happen, it will — regardless of our efforts.
9)The honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever
The beginnings are always roses and sunshine until we break through the getting-to-know phase, also known as the honeymoon. Sooner than later we start to notice the other person’s shortcomings and things that bother us.
10)Don’t change for anyone but yourself
Relationships teach us a valuable lesson, and it’s to be who we want to be. This means we should stick with our core beliefs and personality traits so that we can have our own identity.
Compromising in relationships is important, but not to the point of becoming someone you don’t want to become.
Has your failed relationship taught you a lesson? Post what you’ve learned in the comments below.
Should the first word of your last sentence perhaps be “Compromising”?
Hi Anyonymous.
Thank you for letting me know about the typo.
Best regards,
Zan