I Acted Crazy And He Blocked Me

If you acted crazy and he blocked you, you must have pushed the guy beyond his limits. You must have gotten extremely emotional and told him things he didn’t want and deserve to hear. You basically lost your cool and demanded that he listened and helped you deal with your emotions and problems.

By demanding things, you pressured him, irritated him, and made him see that you lacked self-control and respect for him.

Blocking is a means of defending oneself from negative behaviors/associations and emotions they create. It’s the guy’s only way to punish you for hurting him and keep you far away. Communication didn’t work, so the only way to stop you from acting crazy (or crazier) was to block you.

It wasn’t the ideal way to end the conversation, but the guy didn’t see any other option. He felt overwhelmed with emotions and had to do something to calm down and regain control of his life.

Neither of you is completely innocent.

You’re both responsible for the way things played out. The guy shouldn’t have blocked you and you shouldn’t have acted crazy. You should have communicated your thoughts clearly and respectfully, accepted his personality or how things were, or left the guy if you thought he wasn’t capable of making you happy.

Negative behaviors such as yelling, shouting, and screaming don’t make guys want to be better people. They make them worse because they get hurt and angry and feel extremely tempted to fight back.

People return the treatment they receive. If their partner is nice, they’re generally nice (or their best selves).

But if their partner acts crazy, they tend to act crazy themselves. Either they flip out or they feel annoyed and do something to avoid the craziness.

In your case, the guy chose to avoid it. He blocked you and showed you that he wasn’t going to tolerate that kind of behavior. In essence, he rejected your personality and demands and felt so angry that he pushed you away by force and stopped you from taking your frustrations out on him.

If there’s one thing guys hate, it’s strong emotional reactions. They feel overwhelmed by them because they don’t (typically) experience emotions in the ways women do. They don’t understand them, so the moment women get stressed/anxious and express themselves strongly, they consider their behavior a personal attack 

Some guys freeze, but most guys react negatively. Especially those guys who are in an intimate relationship with an emotional/explosive woman. Such guys aren’t afraid to return the pain they feel. They’re okay with returning it because they think they deserve respect and need to put themselves first.

Guys don’t want to be deprived of their “alpha” male role. They want to feel that they have an equal say. And they don’t feel that way when women yell at them and humiliate them (emasculate them). They feel like they’re being scolded and that women are their mothers rather than their partners.

This can be very dangerous for guys who grew up in strict upbringings. A yelling, demanding, nagging woman can trigger their childhood traumas and make them fight for power and control. Such guys may not have had much of a say as kids, but that doesn’t mean they’ll stay quiet and willingly give up control again.

Usually, it’s the opposite. They consider themselves autonomous adults who must stand up for themselves. That’s why they fight with their partners and ignore their emotions and desire for control.

This post is dedicated to people who acted crazy and made a person they liked block them. 

I acted crazy and he blocked me

If you acted crazy and your crush, boyfriend, or ex-boyfriend blocked you, know that guys don’t appreciate impulsive behaviors. Most (mature) guys consider themselves rational and despise behaviors that go against their nature. When it comes to craziness, the opposites don’t attract.

They repel as communication styles are way off. 

Blocking is one of the worst things couples can do. Every time they block each other, they lower their relationship standards and make it easier to block each other next time. That’s very dangerous because if blocking continues, it’s highly likely that their behavior will continue to escalate and stay toxic.

In other words, their relationship will be in jeopardy. It won’t survive unhealthy behaviors like that forever. Eventually, someone will probably meet another person and feel that the new person is a much better fit for him or her.

If you don’t want that to happen, you need to develop a certain level of self-control. You need to establish rules you mustn’t cross. That’s the only way you’ll break your current behavioral patterns and have good relationships with people.

It doesn’t matter what the guy did and why you acted out of control. If you saw red, manipulated, or in any way, shape, or form hurt the guy, you made him think and feel emotions he didn’t want to feel. He now needs to process those emotions and cool off before he can find valid reasons to communicate with you again. 

Don’t think that people must and will accept your erratic behavior. Most people will run away so fast you won’t even see their dust. They’ll think your craziness is tiring and that there are plenty of more sensible fish in the sea.

Self-control is extremely important in friendships, relationships, acquaintanceships, and all kinds of relationships. Without it, your relationships will fail or be very unhealthy. Either way, you won’t be happy because you’ll react to emotions without thinking.

So if you want your relationship/s to work, I encourage you to begin working on yourself immediately. Figure out why you acted crazy and promise yourself and others (not the guy who blocked you) not to act that way ever again. You need to mean it and believe it so you can outgrow yourself and get along with people who think and act differently from you.

You got blocked because you prioritized your feelings and didn’t care about the guy’s feelings.

You can’t do that again. Not with him or anyone else. You must understand that negative words and actions hurt people and cause serious (oftentimes irreparable) damage. 

The person you hurt may be a guy, but he has feelings too. His feelings can get hurt just as much as yours. The only difference is that he probably won’t react that strongly. Especially not if he’s emotionally intelligent. Guys with high EQ pride themselves on having good self-control.

They don’t want to stoop to others’ level and ruin all the work they did on themselves. Guys with normal EQ, however, might. One wrong response and they could adopt others’ behavioral patterns and find themselves arguing in ways that aren’t typical for them.

So if you acted crazy and got blocked as a result, remember that your impulsivity needs to end. You need to replace it with healthier behavioral patterns so that you and the guys you date don’t argue in unhealthy ways.

Never forget that guys can’t stand irrational, naggy, and loud women. They find them controlling and obnoxious—and run away from them. 

With that said, here are 5 reasons why he blocked you when you acted crazy.

It’s understandable and okay if you acted crazy and got blocked. You had to learn a lesson someday and somehow. You had to learn that you couldn’t treat people any way you wanted and that you had to improve your emotional intelligence and self-control. If it weren’t for the guy’s retaliation (blocking), you would have discovered your shortcomings and gathered the strength to resolve them.

You would have remained as you were and faced similar issues in the future.

Think of negative/painful experiences are lessons. They teach us that the world doesn’t revolve around us and that people won’t always do what we want them to do. Some things are out of control, and people are one of them. We must respect them if we want them to respect us.

Respect goes both ways.

You can (or rather must) see this ordeal as a chance to improve. Do that for yourself, the guy who blocked you, and the people you encounter. You shouldn’t just feel sorry for yourself and expect the guy to unblock you and throw you a lifeline.

There are some things you need to get better at first. If you don’t learn from this, you could get blocked again in the future and be forced to suffer all over again.

So don’t try to change the person who blocked you. Start by changing yourself. You can encourage him to change certain things about himself (such as blocking) only when or if he unblocks you and sees you’ve learned your lessons. 

But right now, this isn’t the time for that. It’s time to embark on your solo journey to self-improvement. You must accept that you’re blocked and that some things are out of your power to control. 

The guy’s perception of you and his emotions and feelings are good examples of things you lack power over. They prove he’s in charge of how he thinks and what he feels and that things must remain that way or he’ll feel even more uncomfortable/angry than he already does.

Should I apologize for acting crazy?

I know you regret your actions and are willing to apologize and do literally anything to win his trust back, but this isn’t your time to act. The guy has blocked you and doesn’t want to converse and be reminded of you. He wants to be left to his devices and distract himself from drama.

If you bring drama to him (find ways to reach out), you’ll make him see you’re even crazier than he thought. You’ll show him you have no respect for him and yourself and that you’re desperate for connection and/or love.

That will make him feel overprioritized and annoyed. In other words, it will trap him and scare him off.

So if you acted crazy and got blocked, don’t force your way into the guy’s life. He blocked you for a reason – to keep you away, not to see that you still care about him. Blocking shows a lack of respect and patience. Don’t make the guy lose even more respect and patience for you. He can’t handle more negativity at the moment.

As long as you’re blocked, he’s okay with it as it’s helping him avoid unwanted conversations and emotions. It’s giving him control over his life and making him glad he pushed you away.

Don’t think that apologizing will somehow trigger his soft spot and make him regret blocking you. You may have said or done bad things, but so did he. He blocked you, and that’s a pretty big offense. It’s not your job to apologize to someone who doesn’t want you in his life anymore.

Your only responsibility is to give him space and focus on yourself. He’ll come to you if he wants to.

Many people who get blocked feel an immense need to apologize for acting crazy and hurting their crush, partner, or ex. They’re hurting, so they want to get on their blocker’s good side and fix the relationship. They don’t realize that the blocker doesn’t want their apology. He doesn’t want to fix things either.

He just wants to be left alone and self-prioritize.

So while you’re working on improving self-control and other shortcomings, don’t text or call the guy. Don’t bother him anymore or he’ll get a restraining order against you as well. That will probably be the end of your friendship, relationship, or situationship and the beginning of more rejection pain for you.

You don’t need to say anything to a guy who blocks you. It may be your fault for acting crazy, but he was the one who pushed you away and decided not to resolve things. That means he lost interest and doesn’t want to regain it. You don’t have any other option but to respect his decision and give him the space he wants.

Let go of control!

The hardest thing about rejections is that you need to accept them and let go of compulsions to control the situation. You need to fight the temptations to reach out, avoid stalking your ex, and do your best to obsess over the unfortunate situation as little as possible. 

Separation anxiety can be extremely difficult after the breakup. It’s often so difficult, dumpees make several breakup mistakes and make their ex want to unblock them even less.

Some dumpees send their ex flowers, some ask their ex’s friends to talk to their ex, and some visit their ex at work or home and try to reason with their ex. Such dumpees haven’t yet learned to let go of control. They still think they’re entitled to their ex’s attention, love, and everything they had when they were with their ex.

That’s the main reason why they think they must fight for their ex’s love and attention. It’s why they pressure their ex more than ever and see a side of their ex they never saw before. Needless to say, this side isn’t the prettiest as it consists of behaviors they didn’t know existed.

If you don’t want to get your heart crushed again, you need to learn to let go of control. I can’t stress enough how important this is. You didn’t get it right the first time, so you need to make amends now. Put yourself in your ex’s shoes and ask yourself how you’d feel if your ex accused you of various things and felt entitled to your attention and affection.

You probably wouldn’t be happy. You’d think your ex is crazy and that you need to get away from your ex as fast as possible. 

Your ex thinks the same way. You didn’t give your ex what he expected and needed, so your ex branded you as a crazy ex and distanced himself from you. Your ex did what he needed to be able to process negative post-breakup emotions and feel free.

You can’t blame your ex for needing space. But you can hold your ex accountable for not explaining things to you. If your ex blocked you without a warning, your ex had a lot of resentment in him and didn’t feel like communicating things to you. He expected you to know how he felt and how to act.

It may be better not to seek closure directly from your ex. Find it by distancing yourself from your ex and reflecting on the relationship. You have everything you need to understand why the breakup happened and what your ex expects you to do. You just need to observe the situation and exercise self-control.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.