How To Stop Loving A Married Woman?

Are you in love with a married woman and want to stop loving her? If you are, you have to do something to snap out of it. You have to get some space from her, stop calling her, stop interacting with her on social media, and find someone who’s ready and willing to date you.

When you find that person, she’ll be able to distract you from the married woman and give you what the married woman couldn’t – love, attention, and commitment.

The best way to stop loving a married woman, therefore, is to stop what you’re doing and to divert your attention to something or someone else. That way, you’ll slowly but surely detach from the married woman and attach to someone you can actually build something with.

Of course, losing feelings for someone you love isn’t easy and takes time. But no matter how difficult it is, you’ve got to stay away from a married woman for your and her sake. Heck, you’ve got to respect her husband as well. He probably has no idea that you’re in love with his wife and wouldn’t want you to stick around if he knew.

You wouldn’t like it too if you were in his shoes. You’d most likely want your wife to stop talking to her admirer and focus only on you.

In this world of infidelity, you wouldn’t want your wife to talk to a guy who has feelings for her. Deep inside, you’d be apprehensive about it because you’d know that people often become infatuated with someone they know nothing about.

They become prone to temptations and often give in to them because they consider their feelings to be love. In reality, though, they’re just experiencing short-lived feelings of a strong attraction and a desire to be loved.

So if you’re in love with a married woman and want to know how to stop loving her, don’t think that your feelings for her will go away on their own. They likely won’t disappear unless you change the way you interact with this person and find something or someone else to obsess about.

In this post, we’ll discuss how to stop loving a married woman. Make sure to apply the information in this article to get over her as quickly as possible.

Take the moral route

For those of you who have a good understanding of right and wrong, one of the best ways to stop loving a married woman is to become aware of the damage you can cause, have caused, or still are causing to her marriage. If you know that you can destroy her relationship with her husband and also the relationship she has with her husband’s family, you can feel guilty about acting on your primal instincts and back off.

A moral compass is something you can use to resist the temptations to chase after a married person and direct your attention to something else. But to do that, you must truly be a moral person otherwise you just won’t care.

Instead of giving her relationship space, you’ll just ignore your moral warnings and end up causing trouble for her. This is the biggest reason why people confuse those who are in a relationship. They don’t think about the consequences of their actions, so they flirt until they and their crush develop a bond and grow attached.

That’s when they convince themselves that they deserve to be happy even if one of them is already in a relationship.

If this is happening to you, you must develop moral values (or focus on them if you already have them).

They’re the best tool at your disposal as nothing will make you stop communicating with a married woman and kill your feelings for her quicker than a conviction that you’re doing the wrong thing.

To convince yourself you shouldn’t get involved with a married woman, tell yourself:

• This person is married (and has kids)
• She has plans with her husband
• I shouldn’t be talking to her
• I could wreck her home and ruin the way people see her
• There are plenty of more available women for me out there
• I don’t want the burden of destroying a family on my conscience
• I respect her and myself too much to hurt her and those around her

Some people justify their immoral behavior by saying things like, “She wasn’t happy in her marriage otherwise she wouldn’t have left her husband for me.” This isn’t entirely true. There are many reasons why people cheat.

But the most common reasons are that they:

• Lack morals, willpower, and the ability to resist temptations
• Refuse to work on their relationship when new opportunities arise
• Develop GIGS, get confused, and take their spouses for granted
• Forget their promises and commitments
• Enjoy flirting and grow cold toward their partners
• Expect the new person to always be how he or she first portrays himself or herself as
• feel that their partner doesn’t give them enough love and attention
• think that someone else will give them what their relationship lacks and what they need to be happy
• enjoy the honeymoon stage and the thrill of being liked too much to stop the affair

If you care about this person, show her that by doing what’s best for her, rather than you. Don’t ruin her relationship just because you find her attractive.

Even if her relationship is falling apart, you don’t have the right to be her backup plan and make her give up quicker

Stop communicating with her

This is such an obvious tip, but so many guys ignore it. They have a connection with the woman they like, so they refuse to get rid of that bond and keep talking to her instead.

By doing that, they keep getting closer and closer to the woman and develop even more feelings for her. Ultimately, they get so attached that keeping their feelings to themselves hurts them. And that’s when they either confess their feelings or make a move on the woman they love.

If you don’t want to stay in love with a married woman, damage her relationship, and hurt yourself, stop communicating with her at once. Stop the friendship because it’s not helping anyone. It’s only making things more complicated in the long run and more painful for you.

I know that stopping communication is not what you want, but it’s something you have to do. You need to do it to emotionally distance yourself from her and stop feeling so attracted to her.

If you want, you can tell her that you’ll be getting some space from her because you’ve developed feelings for her—and that you don’t want to meddle with her marriage. It’s up to you to decide whether you want to be honest or not.

But the most important thing right now is that you get some space from her as soon as possible and focus on anyone or anything other than her. This will allow you to start getting over her whereas staying friends with her will keep you hungry for her love and validation.

So take my advice seriously and stop talking to this person. You might not like it at first, but soon, you’ll realize that destroying the bond you had with her was the right thing to do.

Start talking to other women

You’ll be able to stop loving a married woman when you get to know some other women. It might not happen right away because bonds take time to undo, but you’ll without a doubt, eventually detach from the person you love and crave some other woman’s affection.

All you’ll have to do is meet some new women and open your heart to new romantic opportunities.

At first, try not to get too emotionally close to them. You won’t be able to feel close to them even if you try because your heart will still belong to this married person. I recommend that you get to know them first and keep your expectations low. If you go into this with the expectation to feel in love with them the day you met them, I can tell you right now that you’re going to fail.

You’re also going to suffer because none of the women you meet will be good enough. They won’t be good enough because you’ll expect the new women to be like the person you crave.

So before you return to the dating world, remember to take things slow. Simply talk to women and find out more about them. You can date them and bond with them later if you want to, but give it some time to detach from the person you love first.

If you do this right, you’ll see that there are many great women out there who can offer you way more than a married woman can.

Learn why you got attracted to a married woman in the first place

Understanding what attracted you to this person could help you a lot. It could make you realize not just the woman’s good points, but also your lackings.

Try to focus more on your flaws and cravings though so you can understand where your need for validation comes from. If it comes from a place of low self-esteem and very few dating options, the woman you crave may not even be the best woman for you.

She may just be one of the few women you like, which makes her that much more valuable in your eyes.

If that’s the case, you need to figure out how to accept yourself and boost your self-esteem. One of the best ways to do that is to identify your thoughts and emotions and expand your social circle. That will allow you to understand why you feel so pulled toward this woman and help you get over her quicker.

If self-esteem isn’t an issue, then it might be your thinking patterns. For some reason, you’d let yourself develop feelings for her when you knew she was already married. There has to be an explanation for that.

People say we don’t choose who we fall in love with, but I don’t think that’s entirely true. Most people just don’t realize what’s going on with their thoughts and cravings because those things happen below their threshold of awareness. Or if they do pick up on them, they don’t know how to counter them or lack the will to do so.

That’s why they just let themselves crave things that aren’t good for them and say that some force outside of their control pushed them toward those things.

If you want to stop loving a married woman, dissect your thinking patterns. Figure out why you allowed yourself to entertain those thoughts and emotions and what you can do now to stop those patterns for good.

A professional may be able to help you get to the bottom of things and encourage you to grow.

Give yourself time to grieve

Heartbreaks take time to process. Don’t expect to get over yours in just a few days. It will likely take you at least a few weeks before you can stop obsessing over the woman in question.

Keep in mind that just because it takes time and effort to stop loving someone, it doesn’t mean that it’s the wrong thing to do.

There’s a saying, if you love someone, set them free. Give the woman you love what she needs to be happy and stay out of her way.

If she loves you and decides that her relationship isn’t working out (without your interference), she may leave her relationship and talk to you afterward. This could lead to the development of feelings and possibly even love.

But whatever you do, don’t try to force this person to break up with her husband. Manipulating her won’t just be wrong, but it will also make you look really, really bad. So much so that your friends and family will brand will you as a homewrecker and trust you less.

If you want to be with a married woman, you have to wait for her marriage to end. And after it’s ended, you have to wait for her to come to you.

That’s the only way you’ll have a clean conscience and not have to worry about whether she’ll leave you for another man just the way she left her husband.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.