How To Make Your Ex-boyfriend Jealous When He Has A Girlfriend?

To make your ex-boyfriend jealous when he has a girlfriend, you shouldn’t play jealousy games and do things that make your ex feel inferior. Doing that won’t make your ex jealous. It will probably just anger your ex or make him see how weak and insecure you really are.

You have to keep in mind that a guy who has a new girlfriend won’t get jealous by your attempts to incite jealousy. In his mind, he wanted things to play out the way they did, so don’t expect him to get hurt and give you the kind of response you’re looking for.

You especially shouldn’t expect him to get jealous if his relationship is new because that would mean that he’s in love with his girlfriend and that he doesn’t care about who you date and how happy you appear.

So what will make your ex-boyfriend jealous?

The answer to this question depends on:

• what stage his relationship is in
• how good their relationship is
• how good his confidence and self-esteem are
• what your ex thinks of you
• what his expectations of you are
• how attached your ex is to you
• and most importantly, how happy he is in his relationship and in general

These things will determine whether you can even make your ex-boyfriend jealous. So before we even talk about what to do to make your ex-boyfriend jealous when he has a girlfriend, figure out if it’s even possible to make him jealous.

Be reasonable about this and remember that jealousy is an emotion of insecurity, fear, and a desire to possess something someone else has.

For your ex to want to be jealous, therefore, he must, first of all, not have what you have or not be satisfied with them. That’s the only way he can get jealous and display some kind of unease and a lack of control and happiness.

Once you’ve determined that your ex-boyfriend isn’t happy, secure, and happy, you should then understand that the reason you want to make your ex jealous is because you yourself are jealous.

You’re not happy with the way things are, so you wish to project that unhappiness onto your ex and see him attempt to possess something from you in return.

You need to understand this so you know that your need for a jealous response (which is essentially revenge) comes from a place of insecurity rather than strength.

You want your ex to feel the way you feel which means that if you try to make your ex jealous on purpose, your ex will likely know about it. He’ll see that you’re craving for a jealous reaction and that you’re unhappy with your life.

If you ask me, hurting your ex to feel better about yourself is not the right way to go about it. Fighting jealousy with jealousy is not just a weak move, but also the biggest waste of time. Instead of staying fixated on your ex, you should do something productive. Something that would improve your life and make your ex envious in the process.

Yes, building something strong and meaningful could take time, but the only reason you want to make your ex jealous is that jealousy can be triggered instantly.

So if you want to make your ex jealous and possibly even make him regret dumping you, forget about jealousy tricks and things that would attempt to hurt your ex directly. There’s a better, healthier, although slower way that will cause your ex to covet what you have and maybe even make him wonder if dumping you was a good idea.

In this post, we’ll discuss how to make your ex-boyfriend jealous when he has a girlfriend. Just remember that we won’t talk about how to play dirty because that would be a weak thing to do, but rather how to transform your life and show your ex and everyone around you that the breakup has made you grow into a better person.

Don’t try to make your ex jealous (it shows strength and character)

If you’re in pain because your ex is dating someone else already, don’t think about making your ex jealous just to uplift yourself. Acting on instinct because you feel abandoned and worthless won’t increase your self-esteem and help you get over the breakup.

It will just temporarily boost your ego, which means that next time you find yourself in a similar situation, you’ll still get jealous and react in the exact same way.

That’s why the best way to handle jealousy isn’t with jealousy. It’s with an understanding that you feel threatened and that you should do something to stop feeling that way.

Your instincts right now are telling you to play fire with fire, but that’s not a healthy solution to your anxiety. You don’t want people to know you as that jealous ex who wanted to hurt her ex-boyfriend and make him jealous.

You want to be known as the ex who wasn’t perfect but still handled the breakup maturely and confidently.

So instead of showing your ex that you feel forgotten and replaced by his girlfriend, do nothing. Act if she doesn’t exist and focus on yourself. Doing that won’t instantly make you feel better, but it will take your mind off your ex and his new partner and let your ex think whatever he wants to think.

Your ex might not think very fondly of you because very few dumpers do, but at least you won’t embarrass yourself by trying to make him jealous when he’s overjoyed with his girlfriend and incapable of getting jealous.

While you’re still pondering about whether you should make your ex jealous, remember that if you try to make your ex jealous and fail that you’ll validate your ex’s relationship and devalidate yourself. In other words, you’ll make your ex feel good about himself and yourself feel worse, which could trigger a painful setback and make you regret trying to make your ex jealous.

Think about the consequences first because there’s a big chance that your plan will fail and that failed expectations will hurt you and haunt you for days to come.

With that said, here are 6 reasons why you shouldn’t try to make your ex jealous by pretending to be happy with someone else.

Strengthen your weaknesses

The best way to incite jealousy and make your ex regret dumping you is to make use of the breakup. Something clearly went wrong in the relationship with your ex, so instead of blaming your ex for it and trying to make him feel miserable for being happy, think about how you can improve yourself and be more desirable.

There’s got to be something you can work on – something you’re not good at. You just need to reflect on your past mistakes long enough to discover their causes.

Perhaps you could start by recognizing what made you want to make your ex jealous? Is it his happiness or your lack of happiness and low self-esteem?

Give it some thought so you can identify your triggers and feel more secure within yourself.

Once you’ve done that, it’s time to improve other parts of your life as well. I don’t know what your lackings are, but here are some things you might want to consider improving:

• relationship knowledge
• self-awareness and self-control
• self-esteem and confidence
• emotional and physical health
• social life
• gratitude
• selflessness
• purpose in life
• relationships with family and friends
• work and ambitions
• utilizing free time

There are obviously many more things you can get better at, but the point is that such things will make your ex wonder what made you change so much whereas playing jealousy games with your ex will make your ex pity you or dislike you.

The choice is yours to make. But since you have a choice (many people don’t because they react impulsively before they think), it’d be a shame to waste it by plotting revenge on your ex. You could instead just turn your fear and anger into strength and improve so much your ex wouldn’t even recognize you.

I think it’s okay to want validation from an ex who hurt you. But it’s definitely not okay to try to get it through manipulation. You’ll look much stronger and happier if you focus on yourself and indirectly cause your ex to feel jealous or envious.

As you know, the best revenge in life is living well. The opposite of that is proving you’re happy and hurting people to bring them down to your level of misery.

Change your looks

Looks are often associated with change. So once you’ve started to change inside, make sure to also change on the outside. Upgrade your wardrobe, change your hairstyle, wear different jewelry, get a tattoo (if that’s your thing), and do whatever it takes to leave your old image behind.

This is probably the easiest way to make your ex wonder why you’re suddenly changing. And because your ex won’t be able to figure it out, he’ll assume that you’re changing for another guy or that another guy inspired you to change with him.

Either way, it will make your ex curious about you because your ex will know that people don’t change for no reason. They tend to change visually and behaviorally when someone inspires them to change. And that someone could be your new boyfriend.

Of course, don’t do this just to make your ex-boyfriend jealous. Do it for yourself because changing your looks could increase your confidence and self-esteem.

Let your friends make your ex jealous for you

Instead of trying to make your ex-boyfriend jealous by talking to him, know that there’s an easier way for you to make your ex jealous. You just have to tell your mutual friends you’ve never been happier in your life before and that you’re super glad you were able to achieve so much in such a short period.

Whatever you do, though, don’t mention that your ex has anything to do with your newfound happiness. That will make you look bitter. Just say that you’ve got a lot of time to focus on the things that really matter to you now and that you wish you could have done that sooner.

Your friends will then tell your ex about it, which could make your ex jealous. Especially if your ex has poor self-esteem because in that case, your ex will doubt his worth and fear that you’ve become stronger, smarter, more successful, and happier without him.

My advice is to talk about your biggest plans and achievements and the things that give meaning to your life.

You can also mention that you’re seeing other people but that they aren’t your main priority now that you’ve discovered how amazing it is to enjoy your own company.

Date other people

As I mentioned before, you won’t be able to make your ex jealous when he has a girlfriend simply by dating other people. Your ex just won’t care that you’re having the time of your life with other people when he’s also happily dating.

The only way your ex could get jealous of you is if he still has feelings for you or if his girlfriend isn’t a great match for him.

That could make him envy your happiness and inspire him to obtain your affection and validation.

If you’re not over your ex though, don’t date anyone. Not only would getting involved with someone new be unfair to the new guy, but it’d also be bad for your healing and personal development. If you date someone new too quickly, you’ll skip the self-improvement phase and likely make the same mistakes in your next relationship.

So date someone only if you’ve improved, got over your ex, and feel ready to date again.

Post on social media

Social media can be a great tool for making your ex jealous as the things you post online can be mesmerizing. They can look better than they actually are and affect your ex in a myriad of ways.

Just make sure not to post too much. If you go all out, you could annoy your ex and get removed, unfollowed, or blocked. The key to using social media to your advantage is to post only the best of your life.

Don’t post anything braggy because your ex will see right through it and lose respect for you.

Some of the things you can post about are:

• graduations
• promotions
• friends
• vacations
• volunteering
• and anything non-intrusive that proves you’ve grown without trying to prove you’ve grown

What if you were in a long-distance relationship with your ex and there’s no way for him to know what you’re up to?

If there’s no way for your ex to see or know what you’re up to, then you won’t be able to make your ex jealous. Your ex will probably just keep moving on and mind his own business.

This will go on until your ex hits a snag and finds a way to message you. That’s when you can finally tell your ex everything you’ve been up to in his absence and show him that you haven’t put your time on hold for him. This will, in turn, make him question his worth to you and trigger his insecurities.

That’s the only way to make an ex jealous when there’s no way for information to get back to him.

So whether your ex lives in the same house as you or in another country, live your life well and with passion. Do it with such enthusiasm that when your ex gets back in touch with you that he gets surprised by all the changes you’ve made on yourself.

If your ex’s life isn’t that great, trust me that your happiness will make him jealous and that he’ll want to be a part of your life. He’ll need to be with you to feel happy and secure.

So give your ex enough time to encounter issues in his relationship with his partner because that’s when he’ll become susceptible to jealousy and all the negative emotions created by failure.

Are you still wondering how to make your ex-boyfriend jealous when he has a girlfriend? Do you still want to hurt him and bring a bad reaction out of him? Comment below.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.