Ex Went On Vacation After The Breakup

Many dumpers go on vacation after the breakup. They’re tired from their emotionally-draining relationship and feel elated when they’re away from their ex, so they grab a friend, family member, or new partner and try to have a good time.

They don’t care if their ex knows they’re enjoying themselves and posting their happiness on social media. Dumpers believe they deserve a long vacation and that they should be allowed to be themselves after everything they went through with their ex.

That’s why they don’t feel bad about going on vacation after the breakup. In their mind, the vacation was long-overdue and had to be taken without their ex and no matter the circumstance.

Some dumpers try to hide where they’re going and with whom, whereas the most victimized dumpers openly express it. They don’t feel much shame for going on vacation even though their ex is suffering and is still in the process of figuring out what went wrong.

They only wish to look after themselves and those they still respect and care for. Other people empower them whereas their ex suffocates them and makes them unhappy.

So if your ex went on vacation after the breakup, bear in mind that your ex felt suffocated by you and was unhappy around you. Your ex thought he or she needed some space from you and that it’d be better to be in an environment where there were no or very few reminders of you.

A lack of relationship reminders allows your ex to be independent and prioritize his or her wants and needs.

That’s what that breakup is all about. It helps your ex get the space he or she needs to recover.

The more time your ex spends away from you and the longer your ex can self-prioritize, the quicker your ex can process the negative aspects of the relationship and become curious about you.

I’m not saying your ex will become nostalgic and want you back if you just leave your ex alone for a while. If your relationship was abusive and imbalanced, your ex probably won’t miss you much if at all. But space will nonetheless have a positive effect as it will let your ex breathe and allow you to retain your value.

It will let your ex respect you more than if you were to call your ex obsessively 10 times a day and accuse your ex of cheating and being heartless.

You must remember that your ex didn’t go on vacation to show you how easy it was to replace you and have fun without you. Your ex went on vacation mainly just to self-prioritize and have fun. Vacation seemed like a good idea because your ex wanted to focus on himself or herself and not think about you for a while.

It may not seem right to you because you’re in a world of pain and want your ex not to be excessively happy without you, but it wouldn’t be fair to expect your ex to feel and act like you. Your ex didn’t get rejected and abandoned, so your ex doesn’t have to deal with separation anxiety and other post-breakup inconveniences.

Your ex is the dumper, which means your ex feels relieved and is ready to start a new chapter of his or her life. The new chapter includes dating, going out, drinking, partying, going on vacations, and doing anything that empowers your ex and makes him or her happy.

Detachment gives your ex hope again and prepares your ex for a life without you.

I wish I could have been less straightforward, but it’s true. I don’t want you to think your ex is waiting at home and wasting his or her feelings of relief. Usually, only depressed dumpers sit at home, cry, and feel sorry for themselves. And they do that because they lost the will to fight and change things.

Anyway, if your ex went on vacation after a breakup, know that your ex is probably emotionally healthy and feels the desire to act on post-breakup emotions such as relief and elation. Your ex wants to make the most out of the breakup, feel free, and have fun again.

You probably find it hard not to take your ex’s actions and behavior personally since your ex is enjoying himself or herself while you’re going through the most difficult time of your life. It must be painful to see a person you love doing fun and exciting without you.

But that’s why it’s so important to unfollow your ex on social media and stop yourself from discovering what your ex is up to. You must know nothing about your ex’s post-breakup life so you can redirect your focus back to yourself.

Ignorance is bliss after the breakup. Make sure to embrace it.

In this article, we explain why your ex went on vacation after the breakup and how you can recover from it.

Why did your ex go on vacation after the breakup?

Some dumpers go on Tinder after the breakup. They sign up for dating apps and try to get the most out of their romantic/sexual life. Such dumpers are eager to meet someone else and start a new relationship with him or her.

Your ex may not have gone on Tinder, but your ex did go on vacation. Vacation helped your ex distract himself or herself and focus on something or someone else.

It’s worth mentioning that dumpers seldom go on vacation alone. Frequently, they go with their new partners/dating prospects as they’re infatuated with them and want to feel adored by them.

They tend not to tell their exes about it or post their new partner anywhere so as not to get caught monkey-branching/cheating and being judged by others. For a few months, they usually hide their new relationship and pretend they’re living a boring/ethical life.

This helps them keep their ex away from them and reduces their guilt and shame.

I can’t say how many dumpers go on vacation with someone they like, but from what I see, it’s not uncommon. Many dumpers who go on vacation shortly after the breakup have someone already lined up. This means they talked to that person and developed a strong connection while they were still with their ex.

In other words, they emotionally and/or physically cheated on their ex and started a new relationship right after the breakup.

Monkey-branching is very common. People tend to leave their ex for someone else very often. They just don’t tell their ex that because they’re afraid of confrontation.

Of course, I can’t lump all dumpers together. Some dumpers go on vacation alone or with their friends. They have no intention of starting a new relationship with someone else. But despite not having any urges to get involved with someone else the moment the breakup occurs, they tend not to say no to new opportunities.

They don’t see a reason to because their relationship with their ex has ended and they’re ready for a new connection.

If your ex went on vacation alone after the breakup, your ex probably wants some peace and quiet. He or she wants to disassociate from you and engage in hobbies and activities alone. Such an ex wants to self-prioritize and figure out what he or she wants.

On the other hand, an ex who goes on vacation with friends tends to do that to drink and party, and perhaps even meet someone else.

Although there’s nothing wrong with drinking and partying, it’s inappropriate when a dumper does it right after the breakup. Dumpers need to understand they’re empowered by relief and other post-breakup effects.

If they understand that, they can slow down a bit and watch what they say and do.

Their ex is watching them, so if they keep that in mind, they can stop themselves from doing stupid things that hurt their ex.

Sadly, not all dumpers are that aware. Many dumpers think it’s their time to have fun and that they’re finally free to do what they want with whomever they want. Dumpers like that fail to see how they contributed to the breakup and why they need to help their ex rather than make things worse for him or her.

That being said, here are 6 reasons why your ex went on holiday after breaking up with you.

Always remember that your ex went on vacation post-breakup because your ex wasn’t affected negatively by the breakup. At least not in ways that would have prevented your ex from smiling, laughing, self-focusing, and getting to know other people.

Your dumper ex was perfectly capable of moving forward with his or her life and acting as if the breakup never happened.

Don’t take that to heart, though. The great majority of dumpers are fully detached and eager to be single or with someone else. Some dumpers feel guilty at times, but that’s about it. Guilt isn’t enough for them to put their life on hold and wait for their ex to finish grieving.

I know it’s not fair that they get to go on vacation and enjoy their life after making their ex miserable, but that’s how breakups are. Dumpees get rejected and suffer whereas dumpers get to have fun for a while.

When they get attached to someone and dumped by him or her, that’s when it’s their turn to suffer. You probably won’t care about it when that happens, though. You’ll have created a self-sufficient life without your ex and won’t need your ex to validate your feelings anymore.

So if your ex went on vacation, try not to let it bother you too much. It doesn’t matter where your ex goes and what your ex does because your ex’s life is your ex’s and won’t change anything for you. Whether your ex travels across the world or watches Netflix all day, your ex is going to go through the breakup stages for the dumper.

Yes, your ex should be more compassionate towards you, but if your ex isn’t, let that serve as a reminder that your ex isn’t the right person for you rather than that your ex is trying to punish you. What your ex does and who your ex does it with has nothing to do with you anymore.

It merely shows how your ex responds to breakups, difficult emotions, temptations, and new opportunities.

How did you find out your ex went on vacation after a breakup?

If you saw your ex on vacation on social media or heard about it through friends, family, or coworkers, you must do everything in your power to block information regarding your ex out of your life. As a dumpee, you owe it to yourself to protect yourself from finding out that your ex is moving on and not looking back.

That means you must unfollow or delete your ex, disable your social accounts, and tell people not to update you on your ex. The sooner you do that, the fewer emotional setbacks you’ll have and the quicker you’ll recover.

I know how tempting it can be to check up on your ex and find out what your ex is thinking, feeling, and doing. I went through a breakup myself. There were times when I couldn’t or rather didn’t want to resist the temptation to stalk my ex online.

I didn’t resist the urge to stalk my ex, so I put myself through unnecessary pain and suffering. I made myself anxious and nostalgic and sunk deeper into depression.

If I could go back in time, this is something I would do better at.

I would:

• go for a run
• talk to people
• focus on work
• journal my thoughts and feelings
• engage in hobbies
• and convince myself that my ex has the right to party or go on vacations if she wants to

I would also have cut my ex out of my life quicker. Instead of thinking that she’ll have a change of heart, I would have worked on letting go of false hope and looked for flaws in my ex.

Flaws would have reminded me that my ex wasn’t perfect and that I didn’t have to blame myself and stay attached to my ex. Many dumpees are hesitant about letting go of their ex because they’re afraid of falling out of love and losing hope.

Such dumpees need to remember that things can’t get any worse than they are and that by letting go of their ex, they’ll improve their emotional well-being rather than worsen it. Dumpees need to be brave and have some blind faith.

Blind faith lets them ignore their fears and helps them persevere.

So if your ex went on vacation after a breakup and it’s affecting you, tell yourself that your ex is detached and ready to enjoy life without you. Your ex could have been more sympathetic and understanding of the pain he or she is causing you, but since your ex isn’t that kind of person, it’s best that you stop interacting with your ex, checking up on your ex, and learning new things about your ex.

It’s time for you to rely on yourself for healing and let your ex do what he or she wants to do. There is no point in expecting your ex to take things slow and pretend that moving on is difficult for him or her.

Your ex isn’t you, so your ex has already moved on. Your ex wouldn’t have gone on vacation if your ex had trouble letting go of you and rebuilding his or her life.

You, on the other hand, need some time to process the separation and get your strength back. When you feel stronger, you’ll no longer care what your ex is doing and who he or she is dating. You’ll have plenty of better things to worry about.

Until then, be kind to yourself and focus on things and people who love you.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.