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When your ex sees you moving on, your ex probably won’t react in any significant way. Your dumper ex will be okay with you taking care of yourself and enjoying your life as seeing you moving on will reassure your ex that you’re doing fine and that he or she no longer needs to feel … Read more
The journey of self-discovery that follows a breakup can lead to significant personal changes. It can force dumpees to suffer and grow and make dumpers so relieved that they do things they previously didn’t do and said they wouldn’t do. Some dumpers treat their exes poorly during the breakup and destroy their exes’ self-esteem whereas … Read more
Showing up at your ex’s house unannounced is probably one of the worst things you can do as a dumpee. Not only do you shock your ex, but you also force your ex to communicate with you and feel bad for hurting you. You do five things at once: guilt-trip your ex, smother your ex, … Read more
Many couples transition from a physical relationship to a long-distance one and break up shortly after the transition or even before that. They do this because their commitment to each other is lacking and dependent on how much they can benefit from each other rather than how much they can give. They don’t see the … Read more
Big age-gap couples often downplay each other’s age. They say things like, “He’s older, so he’s more experienced” or she’s younger, but she’s very mature for her age. They don’t take into account that they’re both in different stages of life and that if something goes wrong, the younger person might want to explore a … Read more
People are desperate to find someone new after the breakup for various reasons. Dumpees are desperate because they’re hurt and want to feel validated and secure whereas dumpers are detached and eager to meet new people. They want to forget about their ex and experience everything life has to offer. For many dumpers, “everything” includes … Read more
If you humiliated yourself after the breakup, you probably begged and pleaded with your ex, showed up at your ex’s door/work, proposed to your ex, sent your ex gifts, got your ex’s family and friends involved, got caught pretending to be in love with someone else, or did something your ex found desperate and repulsive. … Read more
It’s very common for breakups to mess us up mentally and emotionally. Breakups have devastating effects on us as they cause a blow to our self-esteem, confidence, and direction in life. They completely blindside us and tell us to forget our hopes and dreams and start from scratch. But because we’re not ready to accept … Read more
If you sent a closure text to your ex but got no response, your ex doesn’t see the pain you’re going through or doesn’t care about it. Either way, your ex feels victimized, smothered, and uncomfortable and would rather focus on himself or herself than engage in conversation with you. The thought of speaking with … Read more
Sadly, most dumpees encounter breadcrumbs from an ex at least once after the breakup. They receive confusing messages that initially empower them with hope and make them anxious. But when they look into the messages and see that those messages have nothing to do with them, they usually regain their power, lose their patience, and … Read more