I Broke Up With Him And He Said Ok

If you broke up with your boyfriend and your boyfriend dispassionately said “okay,” you shouldn’t be too surprised by his response.

Your boyfriend probably sensed that the relationship was approaching its final hours and prepared himself for the tragedy ahead. Either that or he’d been through a breakup before and had already learned how to handle romantic rejections like a pro.

No matter what your ex-boyfriend’s reason for instantly accepting the breakup is, his response shouldn’t matter to you at all. Remember that you’ve decided to break up with him because you fell out of love with him and wanted to be single or with someone else.

You wanted something else, so don’t fixate on his ability to accept the breakup. Don’t worry about whether he’s been seeing other women behind your back either.

As far as you know, you broke up with him for the things he did or didn’t do prior to the breakup, and not the things after. So don’t look for answers now that the relationship is over.

It’s too late for that because you already got your closure when you convinced yourself that he wasn’t the right man for you.

Your ex, on the other hand, may or may not have gotten his. I can’t speak for him, but I can say that he had every right to accept the breakup on the spot.

A simple “ok” may not have been the nicest response or the response you were looking for, but it’s still a much more respectful reply than if he were to beg and plead with you to take him back.

Begging and talking to you would probably have annoyed you and made you feel trapped. So give your ex-boyfriend some credit and admit to yourself that his composure is worthy of respect.

Don’t get offended by his answer because the fact that he chose to walk away doesn’t mean that he didn’t respect you, love you, or care about you as a person. All it means is that he knew he didn’t have much of a choice but to accept your decision and walk away.

This is something all men and women should do after the breakup. They should accept the breakup right away, ask questions if they need to, and initiate no contact so they can heal.

Luckily, your ex didn’t need to ask questions. He felt comfortable in his own skin, so he replied nonchalantly and started moving on immediately.

So if you broke up with your boyfriend and he said “okay, fine, I understand,” or anything along those lines, don’t contact him and ask him to tell you why he accepted the breakup so quickly.

Instead, be happy that he gave you what you asked for and leave him alone so that you can both move on peacefully.

In this post, we’ll talk about various reasons why your boyfriend immediately accepted the breakup.

Why did he say “okay” when I broke up with him?

First of all, it takes emotional strength to say “okay” to a person who breaks up with you. Breakups take people by surprise, so not everyone can agree with the breakup on the spot.

Most people are in denial and find it difficult to cope with rejection.

Your ex-boyfriend, on the other hand, wasn’t one of those people. He had pride and self-respect and knew that opposing you would make him look weak and desperate, so he avoided throwing himself at your feet.

This doesn’t mean that your ex didn’t care about you though. For him not to care, he’d have to feel extremely repulsed, smothered, and angered by your presence. He’d have to show signs of emotional unavailability and have active plans that didn’t involve you.

So don’t think that your ex didn’t care at all.

If he didn’t care, he probably wouldn’t have stayed with you and waited for you to break up with him. Only people who lack strength and courage wait for their partner to break up with them.

And even they don’t just reply with “ok” and walk away as if the relationship never existed.

Guys who are happy about breaking up talk about their breakup. The very least they do is discuss with their ex-partner whether they’re going to stay in touch or not.

I’m telling you this so that you understand the difference between a person who’s happy to break up and a person who’s not.

With that said, bear in mind that there’s a chance your ex said “ok” to the breakup because of something external. Something out of the relationship that distracted him and made him happy.

Here are 9 reasons why your ex-boyfriend said “okay” when you broke up with him.

If you broke up with a guy and he said ok, you probably already know that he’s not very scared of the breakup. He probably feels a bit worried because he’s still attached to you and doesn’t know what the future holds, but other than that, he knows he’ll be okay.

He was okay before (after his previous breakups) and he knows he’ll be okay this time too.

He didn’t react when I broke up with him

Guys are much better at hiding their emotions than girls. Especially guys who have pride because such guys hate exposing their weaknesses.

They hate crying, apologizing, explaining themselves, and even asking for forgiveness as they wish to keep their vulnerabilities to themselves and their emotions in check.

Prideful guys hide their feelings because they think they must act like men and show no signs of dependency whatsoever.

To them, remaining in control of their emotions matters the most. That’s why they often look stoic and refuse to react to a girl who no longer loves them.

In their minds, reacting equals weakness, so they don’t do it. They’re driven by pride and/or ego and would rather accept the breakup right away than show they need their partner to be happy.

So if you’re wondering why your boyfriend didn’t react when you broke up with him, bear in mind that he was afraid of judgment. He didn’t want you, your friends, his friends, and his family to know he’s emotionally dependent on you because that would hurt his male ego, decrease his significance in his eyes, and make it difficult for him to hold himself in high regard.

He didn’t chase me either

Girls think that guys love chasing, but trust me that this couldn’t be further from the truth. Guys who respect themselves find chasing absolutely disgraceful and disrespectful.

They hate it so much they quickly get tired of fighting for a girl’s attention and give up on her completely. They lose respect for her, emotionally check out, and focus on attracting a different fish in the sea.

I can tell you that no guy I ever talked to enjoyed putting himself through self-torture for a girl who abused the push-pull technique, played mind games with him, emasculated him, and made him feel like a fool.

Most guys just don’t let girls do that to them because they have respect for themselves. They know that running after someone who’s not giving them the attention they deserve is a waste of time and energy.

Only insecure guys chase after a girl they like because they’re anxious and think that the girl is of higher value than them.

In reality, she only portrays herself that way but doesn’t actually have the charms, relationship skills, or moral values to attract a guy without hurting him and making him dependent on her.

So get the notion that guys love to chase out of your head. Just how it’s not in girls’ nature to put up with domestic abuse, neither is it in guys’ nature to chase after someone who plays hard to get.

What guys love is a woman who respects herself and others. Such a woman is by definition a high-quality woman in their eyes as she brings tranquility to their lives.

On the other hand, a woman who toys with their feelings and strings men along is the opposite of quality and tranquility. She brings destruction and is of inferior quality as she’s very difficult to trust and settle down with.

She’s too manipulative and self-seeking.

What to do if I broke up with a guy and he said “okay”?

If your ex-boyfriend agreed to go separate ways without reasoning with you, there isn’t much you should do. Tell your ex that you’ll give him time to process the breakup and encourage him to reach out to you if he’s ever having a difficult time with the breakup.

This will convey to him that you truly care about his well-being and that you aren’t going to stay in his life and try to be friends right away.

Although it’s possible for you to be friends, bear in mind that friendship with an ex after the breakup is more often than not impossible for the dumpee. There’s too much tension between the two parties as they both have completely different needs.

While the dumper normally feels the need to self-prioritize, the dumpee feels hurt and desires the connection his or her ex has destroyed.

That’s why it’s probably for the best that you get some space from your ex and let the time do its magic.

Once you’ve both dealt with your own sets of challenges, you might be able to be friends. But until then, wait for the two of you to get used to the post-breakup life and mind your own business.

What to do if I didn’t mean to break up with him but he agreed anyway?

If you wanted to scare (or rather, manipulate) your boyfriend by attacking his mental and emotional processes, you clearly chose the wrong approach. Threatening someone with a breakup is not only immature but it’s also one of the most damaging things you can do to your partner.

This is because each threat or breakup drives a wedge between you and your partner and brings you one step closer to getting used to breaking up.

And when breaking up becomes a pattern, that’s when you’ll take each other for granted, disconnect at the fundamental level, and risk breaking up for good.

So unless you’re 100% certain you want to leave your partner, don’t break up with him. Don’t keep breaking up because sooner than later, someone’s going to get tired of constant separations and meet someone else.

Many (young) couples who lack relationship knowledge keep breaking up and getting back together because they act on their emotions rather than thoughts.

And most of those couples eventually break up for good.

So grow up quickly and change your attitude and behavioral patterns or one of your arguments or temporary breakups will become a permanent breakup.

As for what you should do when you “accidentally” break up with your boyfriend, you own up. You apologize sincerely, say why it was wrong to do what you did, and promise to never, ever again make the same mistake.

Once you’ve said that, all you can do is hope that your ex-boyfriend forgives you and takes you back.

If he takes you back, take my warning seriously and reflect on your behavior. You have a lot of growing to do.

And if he doesn’t, know that he’s run out of love and patience and doesn’t want to risk going through the same unhealthy patterns again. In that case, you’ve become the dumpee and might want to use the indefinite no contact rule to give your ex space.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.