7 Signs She Broke Up With You For Someone Else

One of the most common types of breakups is the one in which the dumper leaves for someone else. Sometimes, the dumpee knows his ex’s new dating candidate has replaced him, but other times, he has no clue. He’s left stranded with limited information and has to look for signs that his ex left him for someone else.

Fortunately for dumpees, monkey-branching exes often leave leave traces of their infidelity. Their eagerness to quickly move on with their life reveals that they’d planned their departure from the relationship for some time and that they wouldn’t have left or left as quickly as they did had they not met a new exciting individual.

The new person made their current relationship seem unexciting and stagnant and encouraged them to act on temptations to feel validated. By getting close to them, he or she was able to solve their problems, fulfill them emotionally, and motivate them to distance themselves from their partner.

Maybe they tried to resist the temptation to cheat and leave for a while. But because they ignored their morals and avoided taking firm action, they stayed in communication with the new person and formed a deep bond. Their bond told them the new person was important to them and made it more challenging for them to do the right thing, which was to cut the new person off and focus on their partner.

Monkey-branching, aka leaving the current partner for someone else is quite common in today’s society. Many men and women leave when they connect with someone who understands and completes them. They leave that person for someone else because they develop the belief that they deserve to be happy and that they’ve been waiting for someone who makes them feel valued and needed.

Little do they know that the new person has flaws too. It’s just too early to notice them because the relationship is still in its early stages. Once they get more comfortable and face relationship issues, they’re bound to show their true colors. This tends to happen months into the relationship but can happen sooner for those who meet a lot of people and don’t have much patience.

So if you’re looking for signs your ex left you for someone else, bear in mind that asking your ex to tell you the truth is not an option. It’s highly unlikely that your ex will admit to cheating on you. She (like most people) will probably lie about it and/or believe that the relationship has ended long before she initiated the breakup.

She’ll likely justify the breakup in ways that assuage her guilt and make excuses.

Instead of relying on her for explanations of why she left, look for signs she broke up with you for someone else. You may learn that you had nothing to do with the breakup and that she’s mostly to blame for her inability to deal with temptations.

It will help you blame yourself less and love yourself more if you see her for what she’s done and who she is.

This is the purpose of this article. We’ll talk about 7 signs your ex-girlfriend cheated emotionally, physically, or both and broke up with you for someone else.

1)She left you for the person she met or bonded with just before the breakup

This is the most obvious sign you can get. When an ex leaves you for the person she met or connected with just before the breakup, it’s clear that he inspired her to leave you. It may not have been his intention to break you apart (at least not at first), but since they got closer and closer every day, his urges outgrew his morals and patience.

He felt the desire to get to know your partner on an intimate level, so he did his best to reel her in and be with her. The same goes for your ex. She knew what she was doing, but because she lacked the morals and willpower to distance herself from him and get closer to you, she crossed the friendship boundary and fell in love.

She developed feelings and planned her way out of the relationship.

New people are much more interesting than their partner solely because they’re new. They appear to be flawless and capable of fulfilling all their emotional needs. That’s why people fall for the newness trap of a new potential relationship and leave their stable relationship.

If your ex started hanging out with this person shortly after the breakup, it’s clear that they were up to no good even before the official breakup. They did something behind your back that made your ex-girlfriend feel validated, needed, and secure. Whatever they did, your ex associated those positive feelings with him instead of you, so she felt eager to replace you with him.

She felt safe because she knew she could jump from one relationship to the next without losing anything. That’s what monkey-branching is all about. It’s about replacing one romantic partner and the feelings that come with him with another one. When a person branches, she distances herself from the person who no longer makes her happy and gets close to someone who fulfills her.

She allows herself to immediately feel empowered by an individual she knows nothing about. All she knows is that he makes her feel good and that she needs to do what’s best for her in the present moment.

So if your ex talked to someone she was really close to and you see her ending up with that person after the breakup, consider their relationship much more than a coincidence. They may try to look innocent, but the reality is that they’d been bonding without your awareness. It’s obvious that they were going to end up together sooner rather than later.

Your ex just needed to find a way to leave you first.

2)She started dating/became official right away

If your ex started dating right away, chances are she lined up someone else and left you for him. She most likely chose him over you when feelings built up and made her excited for a new romantic opportunity. It’s also possible that she signed up for a dating app and met someone new right away, but think about that for a bit.

If you were with this person for months or years, what are the odds that she wanted to be in a new relationship right away? Although dumpers are ready for a new relationship, they typically don’t actively seek one. They feel exhausted and want to focus on themselves for a while. By self-prioritizing, they can feel free and in control of their life.

So if your ex started seeing someone else right away (literally days after the breakup), remember that your ex most likely knew this person even before the breakup. Your ex either connected with him or had a crush on him while you were still together. The fact that your ex started seeing him so quickly shows that she felt positive/something about him for a while.

She wouldn’t have started dating him so soon if they were just friends. This is especially true if they entered into a committed romantic relationship together. An actual relationship would indicate that they feel connected and know each other well enough to want to be together.

That’s why as a breakup coach, I take dumpers’ dating/commitment very seriously. I consider it one of the best signs that dumpers broke up with the dumpee for someone else. When dumpers are in a hurry to date/commit, they often do so because they receive an opportunity to date/be with someone else.

They feel validated and want to try their luck with that person.

3)Your ex proposed/married quickly

A quick proposal or marriage is another sign that your ex-girlfriend broke up with you for someone else. When she gets through the new relationship stages quickly, she’s either rebounding or picking up where things left off before your breakup.

If she’s rebounding, her relationship won’t last long. It will probably end within a few months. She won’t stay with her new partner when she realizes she’s not ready for a new romantic connection.

It’s much more likely though that she’s in a normal relationship that she partially developed before she abandoned you. She likely got to know the new person and reduced the time it would normally take them to establish a healthy foundation and take their relationship to the next level.

Proposal and marriage are a serious relationship milestone. A couple who commits isn’t necessarily a match made in heaven, but they do feel connected and interested in reaching the next level.

To someone who was recently dumped, it can show that his ex got to know the new person before she initiated the breakup. By getting to know him for weeks or months, she skipped the get-to-know-each-other phase and reduced the amount of time needed to propose and get married.

That’s why a proposal or marriage from an ex months after the breakup often indicates that your ex left you for the new person.

4)She hid things from you and wasn’t around as much as before

If she acted secretly, such as hiding her texts, taking calls out of your earshot, changing her passwords, or lying about her whereabouts, she was likely spending time with someone she didn’t want you to know about. She must have been building a connection with someone who made her feel newer and stronger emotions.

Secretive behavior indicates that she received happiness elsewhere and that she was okay with it as long as you had no idea what she was up to. So think back and try to remember if she hid conversations or people in general. If she seemed not to trust you or confide in you as much as she used to, she was probably busy establishing a new connection with someone else.

She couldn’t focus on two people at the same time, so she put you on the back burner, lied, and prioritized someone else. Another person made her feel understood and validated. So much so that she considered him a better romantic prospect.

So if your ex spent a lot of time around other people, especially people you’d never seen before, consider it a sign that she broke up with you for someone else. She may have liked another person’s attention so much that she decided to leave you for him.

Dumpers do that when they join a new social circle and lose the connection with their partner.

5)She compared you to someone else

If toward the end of the relationship, especially when you argued, she compared you to someone else, she probably wanted you to be more like the guy she liked or imagined. She started to get irritated by your bad behaviors and traits and wanted to feel more understood.

Because she couldn’t change you and feel how she wanted to feel, she slowly gravitated toward the person who made her feel better. If this person didn’t yet exist, she probably remained open-minded to meeting/talking to someone who could reach her expectations.

Eventually, that person came along and made her feel empowered. He showed her that she didn’t have to be unhappy.

That’s why comparing your partner to someone who doesn’t have the same problems and shortcomings is not a good way to resolve relationship issues. Most of the time, it just triggers insecurities and causes additional fights. You must remember that other people have different problems they need to work on.

If your ex asked you why you couldn’t be more like someone else, keep in mind that she expressed dissatisfaction and disapproval of your traits or behavior and that she may have prepared herself to be with someone who fulfilled her wants and needs.

6)Posting new pictures on social media

If your ex is posting pictures with one particular person, you can also consider it a sign that she broke up with you for someone else. Usually, dumpers try to hide the new person to avoid hurting their ex and being judged, but other times (usually when the relationship ends badly), they don’t care about their ex’s feelings and immediately monkey-branch to someone else and post him or her online.

They demonstrate to their ex and others that they’ve met someone new and that they like spending time with that person. They like it so much that they’re infatuated and in a hurry to brag about him online. They don’t do this to make their ex jealous (that’s what dumpees do) but to reveal they’re happy and gain their partner’s approval.

If you have a feeling your ex left you for someone else, her social media may confirm your suspicion. It may reveal that she’s obsessed with someone else and that he’s been around for a while. Don’t stalk her socials because it will make you feel anxious and hurt, but do keep in mind that she’s likely seeing someone else if she frequently posts about him.

This is especially likely if he came into the picture toward the end of the relationship or after the breakup. That would mean that he swept your ex off her feet and made her lose sight of her relationship with you.

7)He felt guilty weeks or months after the breakup

Dumpers initially tend not to feel very guilty. If they do feel guilty, it’s when they get out of the relief/infatuation phase of the breakup/new relationship. That’s when they start to understand that they left a good person and that they shouldn’t have left him for someone else.

They should have left him before they started a new romantic connection.

If they did that, they wouldn’t have thought of themselves as impulsive cheaters, branches, and liars. To fix their image and perception of themselves and alleviate their guilty conscience, they often contact their ex through texts or calls. They tell their ex how sorry they are for leaving and that they want to help.

Most of the time, they don’t admit to monkey-branching. Instead, they check up on their ex and try to forgive themselves. Once they’ve done that, they can finally move on with a clear conscience and eventually reveal their new partner and happiness online.

So if your ex felt guilty weeks or months after breaking up with you, consider the possibility that she cheated and branched to someone else. She may have monkey-branched and now feels bad for making you suffer.

You should forgive your ex so you can start/resume no contact and move on as quickly as possible.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.