If you’re in no contact, you’re probably looking for signs your ex is thinking about you. You’re dying to see that your ex has a hard time coping with nostalgia and pain and that he’s thinking about you as much as you’re thinking about him. A big part if not the main part of the reason you started no contact in the first place was to give your ex time to think about the breakup and miss your presence and personality.
You hoped that no contact would knock some sense into your ex and bring your ex back.
Although it hasn’t brought your ex back just yet, you may have noticed no contact is starting to work. It’s helping your ex process the breakup and see things more rationally. Depending on the mistakes you’ve made and how long it’s been since you started no contact, your ex has made certain improvements in terms of how he thinks and feels about you.
The longer you’ve left your ex alone, the bigger the chance that your ex has dealt or at least partially dealt with the negative emotions that triggered the breakup and realized he wasn’t a perfect partner either.
That doesn’t mean you should break no contact and text or call your ex, but that no contact is affecting your ex and that your ex might discover your worth.
Do keep in mind that most dumpers think about their ex from time to time. It’s not as often as dumpees think about them, but that’s because dumpers aren’t in pain, regretting their actions, and hoping for a different outcome. Dumpers are doing well mentally and emotionally and feel satisfied with their decision to leave.
When they think about their ex during no contact, they don’t necessarily feel nostalgic. Most of the time, they just wonder how their ex is doing, what their ex is feeling, and if their ex has moved on and found someone else. Some of them even feel guilty and tempted to reach out and assuage their guilty conscience.
Such dumpers think about their ex and worry about his or her health and well-being. They’re worried that their actions may have caused their ex confusion and immense suffering.
Before we talk about signs your ex thinks about you during no contact, keep in mind that thoughts and regrets are two different things. Your ex may think about you for hours every day, but not necessarily want to get back together and work on the relationship. It could just mean that your ex just misses you and has unprocessed breakup emotions he may or may not need your help with.
When he needs you, your ex will likely reach out and breadcrumb you. This means your ex will talk about things that interest him and don’t help you in the slightest.
In this article, we talk about 5 signs your ex is thinking about you during no contact.
1)Your ex likes/comments on old pictures or publishes pictures of you
Don’t confuse this for your ex looking at your stories, liking your posts, and keeping pictures of you. When an ex keeps pictures from the past, it usually means that the dumper doesn’t want to take any drastic actions. He feels comfortable with leaving things as they are and will likely delete the pictures of you when the situation cools off.
This could be weeks or months after the breakup when your ex stops feeling responsible for hurting you.
It’s a different story when an ex actually makes an effort to look at old pictures of you. Looking at old pictures, posting them, or commenting on them shows he not only thinks about you but also feels nostalgic. Your ex may be ready for friendship, limited friendship, or at least occasional conversations. Such conversations won’t bring your ex back, but they will give you hope and increase your dependence on your ex.
Keep in mind that your ex definitely thinks about you (quite a lot) when your ex comments on your old (not new) pictures. Interactions with old pictures show that your ex feels sentimental and thinks about his pre-breakup life with you. Your ex probably wants to learn more about you and figure out a way to stop feeling curious and nostalgic.
2)Your ex asks his mutual friends about you
Another good sign that your ex is thinking about you during no contact is when your ex asks his mutual friends for updates on you. A desire to learn more about you shows that your ex has been wondering about you but couldn’t find the information he was looking for. He probably stalked you on social media or in other online places, but since your ex couldn’t find any useful information, your ex asked people you associate with.
People such as your family and friends.
They know more about you than your ex, so your ex is happy to learn new things from them. Curiosity is a sign that your ex thinks about you but doesn’t feel the need to reach out and talk to you. Talking to you may still scare your ex, especially if you did a lot of begging and pleading and made your ex’s life difficult.
That doesn’t stop your ex from inquiring about you and learning new things about you. When an ex is curious or nostalgic, he’ll stalk you online and look for different ways to satisfy his curiosity and feelings. He may even ask his mutual friends about you. Asking about you doesn’t pose a threat to your ex. It’s not like your ex could learn something he doesn’t want to learn.
Your ex is emotionally detached, so even if he learns that you’re seeing someone else, he won’t get hurt. Surprised perhaps, but not hurt and forced to redevelop feelings. That can happen only when your ex hits a snag, gets hurt, reflects, and rediscovers your romantic value. Once your ex understands what he’s missing out on, your ex can fall back in love, provided he thinks you’re his best romantic option.
3)Your ex drunk dials or pretends to call by accident
Alcohol amplifies some dumpers’ nostalgia. They get so emotional they pick up a phone and text or call their ex. Their actions show they miss their ex’s personality, but not necessarily the relationship and the feelings they felt when they were with their ex.
When exes reach out because of alcohol, they act on how they feel in the moment. Momentary feelings entice them to contact their ex—and have nothing to do with love and regret. They have everything to do with alcohol boosting their nostalgia and desire for closeness. The simple explanation is that some dumpers become sentimental or more sentimental when they drink.
Some even start to feel sad, unattractive, or lonely. When they feel blue, they think about their ex and feel grateful for what their ex did for them. That’s when they contact their ex and see how their ex thinks and feels. If their ex is doing well, they talk for a bit. And if they think their ex still wants to be with them, they feel pressured and tempted to stop talking.
Sometimes, dumpers also pretend to call by accident. Occasionally, they really call by accident, but other times, they pretend it was a butt-dial and say they didn’t mean to reach out. When they merely pretend they have no intention of talking, they often end up reaching out to their ex and asking all sorts of questions.
So if your ex drunk-dialed you or pretended to call by accident, bear in mind that your ex may be thinking about you or even missing you. Your ex hasn’t talked to you in a while, so your ex might be hoping that a conversation with you will provide him with satisfying information.
4)Your ex adds or messages you from unknown numbers and social profiles
Random people wouldn’t be adding and texting you from random accounts or numbers. They especially wouldn’t be doing that only now that you’ve broken up. Those who are interested in you would reveal their identity and try to establish a bond with you.
So if you know that the person adding you or texting you is your ex, it’s clear that you’re on your ex’s mind a lot. The power of silence after the breakup is making your ex wonder what or who is keeping you busy and whether you’re happy and emotionally independent.
Dumpers who interact with their ex anonymously can’t resist the effects of no contact. Many of them want some form of contact with their ex until they learn more about their ex or deal with their issues and boost their egos. That’s when they tend to stop interacting with their ex and stop relying on their ex for various feelings and problems.
5)Your ex isn’t doing well without you
This may be a harder sign to come across when you’re in no contact, but unhappiness and pain are some of the best signs that your ex is thinking about you during no contact. Problems in general indicate that things aren’t going according to plan for your ex and that your ex is starting to understand that the breakup wasn’t going to solve all of his problems.
It may have made your ex feel free and independent for a while, but it didn’t provide everlasting peace and happiness.
A breakup can’t do that. Your ex has to actually work on staying happy and in control of his life. He has to put energy and time into things that require work. That’s how it is for everyone. If your ex expects things to get better and stay better just by getting rid of you, your ex thinks highly of himself and lacks an understanding of how life works.
He’ll learn his lessons the hard way – through failure and pain.
So if your ex isn’t doing well without you, know that your ex’s mind probably compares the past to the present. He thinks about the times when you got along and wonders if your life is any better than his. He thinks about you because he’s looking for solutions to his problems and wants to feel happy.
Unhappiness is also one of the biggest motivators for dumpers to come back. If they can’t be happy, they often keep thinking about their ex until they see their ex as their savior and fall back in love with their ex. They redevelop feelings because they learn to respect and value their ex for the person he or she is.
If you want your ex back, remember that when your ex is unhappy, your ex is much more likely to think about you and the people who made him feel safe and happy. The bigger your ex’s problems, the bigger the chance that your ex will think about you and want you back. You’ll know your ex wants you back when your ex reaches out, gives you back the power he took from you, and verbally or non-verbally expresses regret and desire to reconcile.
Don’t worry if your ex hasn’t shown any of the 5 signs in this article. These signs are just a way for you to know your ex is thinking about you a lot. Your ex is thinking about you even if your ex doesn’t show any of these signs. It’s impossible for him not to think about you because you were with him for a while and had a close bond.
He’d have to live a perfect life and have no time to think to not think about you at all.
And that’s it. These are the 5 signs your ex is thinking about you during no contact. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below. We’ll get back to you shortly.
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