When A Woman Leaves A Man

The unfortunate truth is that when a woman leaves a man, she’s usually done for good. She doesn’t want to hear any apologies and excuses and talk about the relationship anymore. The time for talking is over as she’s lost feelings and possibly respect for her ex.

She’s emotionally drained, so she doesn’t even want to think about staying with someone she feels suffocated by.

All she wants is to be left to her own devices so she can process the negative breakup after-effects and enjoy the relief created by the breakup. If she doesn’t get the space she needs to do what she wants, she could lose her patience and sympathy for her ex and react very strongly.

A strong reaction would be any impulsive response that tells her ex she’s not interested in talking and getting back together. That response would likely hurt her hopeful ex and make it even harder for him to accept the breakup and get back on his feet.

You see, when a woman leaves a man, there is very little (if any love left) in her heart. She’s detached a week (or more) before the breakup, so she has no intention of reattaching and returning to the relationship.

This is because she’s happier when she thinks about being alone than she is when she imagines staying committed to her ex-partner and working on a relationship that seems directionless and meaningless.

Not too long ago, the relationship probably seemed okay and had a purpose.

But now that her opinion of the relationship has changed, she can no longer overcome problems and difficulties plaguing the relationship. She can’t do it because her negative perception of the relationship is self-created through self-neglect and neglect of the relationship.

It’s easier to give up on the relationship than it is to work on it because by giving up, she can blame her ex, herself (if she’s depressed), or the lack of compatibility between her and her ex-partner. Blaming something or someone gives her an excuse to shrug and think to herself, “I did what I could. I have to put myself first from now on.”

So that’s what she does. She redirects her thoughts and distracts her mind for as long as she feels relieved.

But to change her mind about the breakup, she would need to do the opposite, which is to convince herself she didn’t do enough and that she should have paid more attention to her partner.

Although there’s always a chance that she’ll change her mind about the breakup in the future, this likely won’t happen right after the breakup. She’ll probably need a lot of time to go through a very unpleasant and painful experience to realize that she lost someone who accepted her and loved her.

Dumpers who change their minds soon after breaking up normally do so because they feel bad for hurting their ex. They don’t like being the bad guys, so they take their ex back and almost always abandon her again when they stop feeling guilty or whatever temporary emotion they felt after the breakup.

They just don’t have the motivation to stay with their partner when they feel uncomfortable, unwanted, unhappy, or disrespected.

So bear in mind that when a woman leaves a man, it’s best not to guilt trip her or encourage her to give the relationship another try. She has a mind of her own and needs to make her own decisions about who she loves and doesn’t love.

If she decides she doesn’t love you, you can’t force her to. You can’t do it whether you love that person, say sweet things, and ask her friends and family to talk her into coming back. She’s the one who left, so she needs to be the one to discover your worth and return of her own accord.

The best way to let her realize what she lost is to cut her off the second she breaks up with you and gives you closure. Even if she doesn’t give you closure, you still need to stop communicating and interacting with her on social media so that she can see you’re gone.

That alone won’t bring her back, but it will give her a chance to think about what she did and what’s best for her once she encounters problems she didn’t think she’d encounter.

So if you’re trying to understand what to do when a woman leaves a man for herself, know that you mustn’t interfere with her new life. She’d been dying to taste freedom for ages and wanted to see if you were the source of her unhappiness and problems.

Contacting her will merely confirm that you were the cause of her misery as it will pressure her and make her feel extremely uncomfortable.

Depending on her personality and how persistent you are, she might even block you and say or do something that ruins your healing and perception of yourself.

Always keep in mind that when a woman leaves a man, she needs and expects her ex to respect himself and avoid bringing up reconciliation and anything related to the relationship and breakup. She needs him to accept the breakup and let her enjoy her new life, even if this means dating someone else.

In this article, we debate what the best thing to do is when a woman leaves a man she loves or doesn’t love.

When a woman leaves a man she loves

When a woman leaves a man, she usually has no feelings left for him. Love is gone otherwise she wouldn’t have initiated a breakup and asked for space and time. She would have expressed her concerns and tried to make the relationship work.

That’s why it’s normally women who get cheated on or women who don’t get enough attention, respect, and love who leave the person they love.

Such women have feelings for their men but feel that they have no choice but to protect themselves from neglect or abuse. Thanks to their self-esteem and willpower, they’re forced to initiate a breakup even though they still feel connected to their partner and love him emotionally.

By “emotionally,” I mean that they have feelings for their partner but don’t rationally love their partner.

Love requires healthy thoughts and emotions. If either of them isn’t there, the relationship tends not to continue for long. It continues only when couples settle for a relationship.

But sadly, that doesn’t mean that they’re happy.

You might know someone who is or was in a loveless marriage for years or longer. That person stayed for the sake of familiarity and comfort because the relationship was beneficial to him or her. The relationship allowed that person to continue to feel secure and avoid certain problems.

It’s usually new love interests that break such couples up as they make them feel wanted and loved again.

Anyway, most people (men or women) don’t stay in relationships when they’re unhappy. Most people abandon them because they don’t feel emotionally stimulated or rationally on the same page. They feel that something’s missing or shouldn’t be there and that they deserve someone who can love them for who they are.

So keep in mind that when a woman leaves a man she loves, she does it because the man doesn’t love her or love her the way she wants to be loved. Some big issue is affecting the quality of her life and preventing her from reaching her expectations.

That’s why she’s set on leaving despite feeling somewhat connected to her partner.

Sadly though, lots of people confuse connection, guilt, attraction, and sexual attraction for love. They think love is just the emotional aspect of the relationship when in reality, it’s much more than that.

Love gives couples the purpose to stay together, have a family (if they want that), pursue mutual goals, and experience life together. Love is not about the future. It’s about accepting each other fully and living in the present moment.

This doesn’t mean they don’t have any problems. They just don’t think of problems or differences as dealbreakers.

When a woman leaves a man she doesn’t love

Sadly, most women leave a man they don’t love.

They first develop unhealthy thoughts and perceptions and doubt their partner. Then, they lose attraction to him and refuse/fail to bond and look for ways to overcome their negative thinking. And finally, they feel so trapped and uncomfortable in the relationship that they leave their partner and make him think it’s all his fault they left.

When a woman leaves a man, it’s honestly not that much different than when a man leaves a woman. The only difference is that women tend to be more emotional than men. People say that women suffer immediately after the breakup whereas men suffer later, but this has nothing to do with gender.

It depends on how attached a person is to his or her partner.

Regardless of gender, a person abandons a relationship because he or she feels tired of it and thinks that breaking up will energize him/her. And that’s what the breakup usually does. It makes the dumper feel relieved and ecstatic and enables him or her to self-prioritize.

You’d think that a woman always falls out of love because something’s wrong with her partner or the relationship, but that’s usually not the case.

The most common things that cause a woman to fall out of love are:

• a lack of self-awareness, relationship skills, gratitude, bonding, commitment, and care for the relationship
• thinking that relationships should be easier and self-maintained
• endless arguments and disagreements
• victim mentality
• personal stagnation
• stress and depression
• self-centeredness
• temptations to cheat or be with someone different and more interesting or exciting

A woman could also leave a man because she’s inexperienced and/or doesn’t know how to maintain and grow her bond. She could focus on herself way more than on her relationship and by so doing, lose sight of that which is important to her.

Some people try to justify their breakup by saying they grew apart. They don’t ask themselves why they grew apart and what they could have done differently to stay on the same page with their partner.

To understand their reasons for leaving, they need to drill down to the root cause of their problems/reasons for leaving. They can do that by using the five whys technique, which works like this.

I left my partner. Why?

Because I wasn’t happy. Why?

I felt criticized and disrespected. Why?

Because my ex would get stressed and angry. Why?

He/she didn’t like what I was saying/doing. Why?

Because my ex thinks differently. Why?

Because he/she had a different upbringing and went through different life experiences.

You can ask “why” as many times as you need to as long as you get to the root cause of the problem or decision. Most dumpers, unfortunately, don’t do that. They don’t see things from their ex’s perceptive and realize that their ex had his or her reasons for acting the way he or she did.

So master the five whys technique and you won’t consider yourself a victim whenever someone does something you don’t like. Conversely, you’ll learn that people just do what’s best for them and that they aren’t selfish or selfless.

They’re just being human.

Here’s what it means when a woman leaves a man.

What to do when a woman leaves a man?

If you know someone who got dumped or you’re the one who got dumped, you need to understand that women don’t like being chased after the breakup. They may like men’s attention prior to being in a relationship and during the relationship, but after that, they find it extremely repulsive.

They feel that their chaser ex is in denial and that he doesn’t care about how they feel. As a result, they treat their ex the way their ex allows them to treat him. If he begs and pleads and does desperate things, they see that their ex lacks self-respect and that they can get away with disrespect.

Dumpers don’t want to hurt their ex on purpose (at least most of them don’t). But if they see that their ex only cares about himself, they can feel disrespected and decide to shoo their ex away in a swift and forthright manner.

The problem is that some guys think they need to set their pride away and prove their love and commitment to their ex. They think they must showcase change and get on their ex’s good side. But the truth is they have nothing to prove to their ex.

Their ex has already given up on them, so they’re just making things worse. They’re showing their ex that their ex’s opinion doesn’t matter to them and that they’re only interested in what they want.

This usually smothers their ex immensely and forces their ex to lose all respect for them.

So when a woman leaves a man, don’t think it’s a man’s turn to chase a woman. The only thing a man needs to do is respect his ex’s decision and preserve his worth. He can do that by following a strict regimen of the indefinite no contact rule and sticking to the rules of no contact.

These rules are essential as they allow the dumpee to detach and the dumper to focus on his or her wants and needs.

What do you think a man should do when a woman leaves him? Should he apologize, stay in touch, and woo his ex or should he leave her alone and try to get over the breakup? Let us know your thoughts below the post.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.