When A Guy Says He Wants You Sexually

When a guy says he wants you sexually, it couldn’t be more obvious that he finds you physically attractive. He’s in love with your physical appearance and likes the way you make him feel sexually.

This means that in his eyes, you’ve passed his sexual requirements and qualified as a woman who’s capable of fulfilling his sexual desires. You’ve become someone he can benefit from without needing to give you much in return.

When a guy admits that he finds you sexually attractive and bluntly says that he wants to have sex with you, it’s highly likely that sex is something that occupies his mind a lot.

He most likely thinks about doing it with you (as well as with other women) because a guy who talks about having sex puts a high priority on sexual gratifications.

His behavior shows that he seeks sexual fulfillment and that he’s willing to do anything to obtain it.

So if you’re in a dilemma about giving a guy who says he wants you sexually a shot, you first need to know something important. You need to know that a guy ruled by sexual urges isn’t interested in courtship and the way he can contribute to your life.

Not if he’s willing to jump straight to the most intimate activity a couple can participate in.

In all honesty, a guy who’s after sex from the get-go doesn’t even consider sex intimate. He considers it a tool he can use to extort pleasure for himself.

If you think about this for a while, you’ll realize two things:

1. That the guy is way ahead of himself and wants what couples want. The only difference is that he wants it without commitment.
2. That courtship plays an important role in bonding and that it’s meant for romantic partners to grow love and respect for each other before they seal the deal with sex and publicly announce their status.

So again, if you like this guy a lot and you’re hoping that the guy’s romantic feelings magically appear the moment you engage in sex, know that you’re in for a big disappointment.

The truth is that if the guy doesn’t feel much for you prior to engaging in sex, he likely won’t feel much for you after sex either.

All he’ll feel is the sexual fulfillment that you as a woman of sexual value can provide to him.

Today, well talk about what it means when a guy says he wants you sexually. We’ll also talk about various signs that a guy wants you only for sex and mention how to find out whether he’s interested in you emotionally or just sexually.

When a guy says he wants you sexually

Emotionally ready, patient, and courteous guys don’t rush straight to the highest form of romance and have sex with the person they barely know. They prefer to take their time to get to know the girl they’re talking to and compliment her with non-sexual comments instead.

They say things like, “I like your smile,” or “I love how nice you are to everyone you talk to. You’re a really good person.”

Such compliments prove that their intentions are legit and that their words come from a place of the heart, not crotch. Of course, there are guys out there who shower girls with sweet words on purpose to get the girls to trust them quicker.

But fortunately, such guys stop buttering up their prey and disappear when they realize that they can’t get what they want quickly enough.

And that’s because most sexually-driven guys lose their patience, give up on taking their time to get to know the girl they want to bed, and cut straight to the chase.

They reveal that sex is what they’re after and in one way or another, prove that they don’t like to “waste” their time on discovering girls’ hobbies and interests.

All they’re interested in is indulging themselves in sexual gratifications by skipping through important stages of dating and jumping straight into sex.

So if a guy says that he wants you sexually and you don’t trust him enough, nor feel enough for him yet—it’d be very wise of you to take a few steps back and think about his intentions.

It’d especially be wise of you to protect yourself from possible heartbreak by refusing to get involved with someone who’s not emotionally ready to invest in you and the relationship.

Chances are that you’ve been through a breakup before and that you already know how much it hurts to get rejected, cheated on, or ghosted when you’re deeply in love.

If you don’t know yet and you haven’t dated anyone seriously yet, then you’ll probably find out when the sexually active guy starts to lose interest in you and begins to look for sexual contentment elsewhere.

That’s when you’ll realize that you naively ignored all the red flags.

Signs that he only wants to have sex with you

We already know that one of the signs that a guy wants to have sex with you is when he tells you that he wants to have sex with you. It doesn’t get clearer than that.

But if the guy hasn’t said that to you and you’re not entirely convinced about his intentions yet, then you might need to do some more digging. Here are 9 more signs that a guy isn’t interested in anything other than sex.

1)Conversations always turn sexual

When a regular conversation with a guy always turns sexual, you can be certain that a guy’s a big fan of sex. He enjoys talking about it because it excites him—so it’s more than possible that he wants you (or anyone for that matter) to gratify his sexual needs.

His eagerness to converse about sex proves that he’s starving for sex and that sex is more important to him than falling in love and being of service to his romantic partner.

2)He compliments your looks and not your personality

The second sign that a guy is only after sex is when he compliments the physical parts of your body that stimulate his sexuality.

But apart from mentioning your exclusive woman parts, a sexual guy could also be less direct about his desires and compliment your:

• posture
• body
• shoulders
• eyes
• lips
• curves
• and even voice

He could compliment anything that fuels his sexual hunger.

3)He invites you to his place

Men who want to learn more about you as a person won’t immediately invite you to their place and make things really awkward for you. On the contrary, they’ll invite you out to movies, have you meet their friends, and make sure that you feel comfortable around them before they start to plan one-on-one time with you.

If they respect you as well as themselves, they’ll do their best to gain your trust first and then gradually and naturally take things further.

Guys who do that know that there’s no need to rush straight to sex because doing so makes them look bad.

It makes them appear impatient with themselves as well as with others.

4)He calls you only in the evenings

When a guy calls you in the evenings and tries to make plans with you at his place, there’s a big possibility that he’s inviting you over for a booty call.

He probably wants to make sure that it’s just the two of you and hopes that a few drinks help you lower your defenses.

Conversely, a guy who’s only after sex could also invite himself to your place. He could say that he’s been drinking and that he needs a place to stay.

He’d do so to make you feel sorry for him and trick you into trusting him with your home.

5)He calls you when he runs out of options

Guys who are only after sex often have many girls on the side. They string them along, try to have sex with them, and if they can’t, orbit them and observe them.

They basically disappear out of your sight when they pursue other girls and reappear like magicians whenever those girls reject them.

When that happens, they run straight back to their other options and come up with some kind of excuses as to why they took so long to get back to them.

Normally, they say that they were busy, ill, or that they lost their number.

6)He’s overly sweet, but fails to act on his promises

There are many guys out there who thoughtlessly throw compliments around. Such guys are very good at talking and making promises, but when it comes to acting upon them and proving their loyalties, they often fall short.

They just don’t want to put in the effort because it exhausts them, so they try to win girls’ trust in the quickest way possible – by telling them things they want to hear.

Although young, inexperienced girls oftentimes fall for such sly guys, mature, experienced women usually don’t.

They know that a guy who praises girls too much doesn’t mean what he says because he doesn’t come off as sincere. He appears pretentious and too good to be true.

7)He has a no strings attached mentality

A guy who wants you only sexually isn’t a guy who’s ready to emotionally invest in you. He’s emotionally unavailable because of some unpleasant experience that changed his healthy mentality to a no strings attached mentality.

Due to the way he thinks, a guy like this doesn’t want anything other than sex and likely won’t for some time. Probably until he’s processed his unpleasant experience/s and discerns that it’s time to love and be loved again.

8)He gets angry if you refuse sex

Another sign that he’s impatient and wants sex badly is if you rejected him before and he reacted with anger.

This shows that he’s been wanting to have sex with you for a while, but couldn’t get it and got disappointed.

9)He doesn’t emotionally invest in you

The last sign that a guy is interested only is sex is when a guy keeps his distance from you. When he appears unreceptive to your words and actions and reveals that he’s interested only in late-night activities, you can tell that he’s only after sex.

One way a guy could tell you that he’s not relationship material is by saying that he’s lonely, bored, or sad (make it all about him) and tell you that he could use your advice, care, love, or company.

What to do when a guy says he wants you sexually?

A guy who is only after sex likely won’t change his ways any time soon.

That’s why you shouldn’t try to become his psychologist girlfriend and hope that he develops feelings for you sometime down the road.

The truth is that he likely won’t change his mindset as long as he’s with you because he won’t see a reason to change. He’ll remain perfectly happy.

If he ever changes that way, it’s when he realizes that sexual fulfillment isn’t the same as emotional and that jumping from one person to another doesn’t make him internally happy.

That’s when he’ll mature up and change his priorities in life.

So if you’re wondering what to do when you come across a guy who’s only after sex and refuses to commit to you, the answer to your question is “leave.”

Leave him behind because you don’t know, nor want to know if he’ll ever fall in love with you.

It’s highly likely that he’ll just continue to have sex with you and other girls—and keep you on the back burner for a very long time.

I hope you enjoyed reading this article. What do you thnk about guys who say that they want you sexually? Have you been in a situation like this before? Leave your comment below this post.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.