Is It Weird To Date Someone With The Same Name As Your Ex?

Whether it’s weird to date someone with the same name as your ex depends on the following things.

1. How you define weirdness.
2. How long ago you and your ex broke up.
3. Who broke up with who.
4. And how peacefully you broke up or rather, how you think of each other and feel towards each other now that you’re no longer a couple.

If one of you has unprocessed feelings such as anxiety, pain, hatred, or a lot of love for the other, then you likely feel a bit uncomfortable.

Whenever you hear or say your partner’s name, you quickly remember the past with your ex because you associate the sound of your ex’s name with your new partner.

This happens subliminally without your awareness—and is completely normal.

What’s not normal though is if you have strong (good or bad) feelings for your ex because in that case, you could start to think about your ex a lot and miss or despise your ex. You could cause damage to your relationship.

So is it weird to date someone with the same name as your ex? It probably is for a little while. At least until you get over the past and learn to disassociate your ex from your new boyfriend or girlfriend.

This disassociation happens with time. For some people, it happens very quickly. But for others, it takes quite a bit of time and practice.

It requires them to keep saying their new partner’s name because the more they say it, the more they get used to it and the less they think of their ex.

So If someone you like has the same name as your ex and you feel a bit strange about it, try not to worry about it too much.

The longer you stay with this person, the more likely it is that you’ll forget about your ex and associate the name only with your partner.

In this post, we’ll go into more detail about dating someone with the same name as your ex and share some tips on how to love the new person without reminders of the past.

Is it weird to date someone with the same name as your ex?

When it comes to dating someone with the same name as your ex, there’s no need to worry about the name too much.

Everyone has a name—and it just so happens that you found a person with the same name as your ex.

It’s rare, yes, but not impossibly rare. The chances of finding a person with the same name as your ex increase with dating experiences, age, and time.

If you date a new person every month, for example, it’s almost impossible not to eventually stumble across someone with the same name as your ex.

This doesn’t happen due to some supernatural force that wants to teach you a lesson. It happens by pure coincidence. You keep looking and looking until you eventually find it.

But even if you didn’t date many people after your ex, things like this do happen from time to time. It just happened to you when you least expected it to.

I think that dating a man or woman with the same name as your ex is not much if any weirder than dating a person with the same name as your family member. Both make you feel uncomfortable at first and take some getting used to. But after a while, it tends to stop bothering you.

So what do you do now? How do you forget that your new partner has the same name as your ex? Well, there’s a lot to talk about, so let’s do that in the next chapter.

How to date a person with the same name as your ex?

There are a few things you have to do when you’re dating a person with the same name as your ex

First of all, you have to be understanding of the situation you’re in. You have to know that the new person is an entirely new person and that he or she has nothing to do with your ex.

The only thing this person has in common with your ex is the name. That’s why you mustn’t look for similarities between the two people.

If you look for them, you will probably associate unprocessed feelings from the relationship with your ex with the new person and rebound with him or her.

To make the relationship work, you must consider your new dating partner to be someone with different sets of skills, behaviors, understandings, and personality.

This will allow you to start a new relationship with this person and love your partner for the person he or she is.

I know this sounds so simple anyone with common sense would get it right the first time, but the truth is, not everyone does. Sometimes people have trouble moving on from their previous relationships and get hurt whenever they come across a person who reminds them of their ex.

Such people tend to get emotional and compare the new person to their ex, which in turn, makes them crave their ex rather than their new partner.

Dumpers, on the other hand, sometimes feel awkward and repulsed when they hear their ex’s name. They relive the anger and resentment they created for their ex when they broke up with their ex and project their raw emotions onto their new partner.

These are extreme situations, but this does happen from time to time. When people have baggage from the past, they can re-experience negative feelings within themselves and also force them on their new partner.

So make sure not to group your ex with the new person. You must leave your unhealthy feelings for your ex in the past (if you have any) and treat the new person as a new person.

Only then will you be able to get comfortable with saying your partner’s name out loud and grow the relationship with him or her.

That’s the first thing you must do. The second task on the list is to focus on the person you’re with and not your ex.

If you stay in contact with your ex, you could focus on your ex too much and have two people with the same names confuse you.

You could call your ex by his or her name one moment and then your partner the next and feel strange because of it.

Talking to your ex and your new partner at the same time could not only confuse you but also your new partner and those around you. That’s why it’s best not to talk to and about your ex at all.

But if for some reason you must, refer to your ex as “my ex, ex-wife/husband” rather than the name your partner has.

This will make your partner feel unique and valued.

Another tip I have for you is not to get angry at the name itself. If your ex betrayed you really badly, the name had nothing to do with it.

Hearing the name probably makes you feel uncomfortable because you’ve attached a lot of negative thoughts and emotions to it.

But if you want to get along with your new partner and other people who have the same name as your ex, you have to disconnect the atrocities your ex committed from the name and like the name. Your partner thinks fondly of your name, so you should probably do the same.

It won’t be easy at first, but if you like the person you’re seeing, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to let go of the past and forget that your dating partner’s name also belongs to your ex.

So if you like the person who has the same name as your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, don’t write him or her off just because of the name. You may feel uncomfortable at first, but you don’t have to stay uncomfortable forever.

If you act mature about it and possess the skills to forgive your ex, you can be in a relationship with this person even if your ex did horrible things to you.

With that said, here are 6 things you can do when you’re seeing a person with the same name as your ex

Don’t forget to tell your partner about it

If your ex has the same name as the person you’re seeing, your partner deserves to know about it. Your partner should be informed so that things don’t get even weirder when he or she finds out one day.

Just say that one of the people you dated for x number of months or years had the same name as him/her and that you’d like to be upfront about it. Your partner may not like this, but your partner will nonetheless respect you for being so upfront and trust you more as a result.

No one likes to hear that their partner dated someone with the same name before. It hurts their esteem. But fortunately, this isn’t a deal-breaker for people. Most people can accept it very quickly as long as you accept it and don’t make it look awkward.

If you show that you’re bothered by it, your partner will sense it and lose confidence in his or her abilities. So instead of refusing to tell your partner or denying it when asked about it, tell your partner you dated someone with the same name right away.

Say that you were romantically involved with someone with the same name before but that it doesn’t bother you because the relationship with that person has ended and you’re now looking forward to new beginnings. Unless the person you’re seeing is extremely immature, you shouldn’t have any problems with this.

The man or woman should understand that you’re being honest and doing your best not to hurt his or her feelings later.

But what if your partner gets hurt and breaks up with you?

If that happens, then there’s nothing you can do about it. It’s better to end the relationship early on than to delay it and get even closer to your partner just to break up over the same or similar issues later.

Do you think it’s weird to date someone with the same name as your ex? I’m curious to hear your thoughts and would love to continue this conversation with you in the comments section below.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.