I Dream About My Ex Every Night

Please understand that it’s very normal if you dream about your ex every night.

It’s also normal if you can’t stop thinking about your ex from the moment you wake up to the moment you fall asleep.

Exes tend to have that obsessive effect on us as they hurt us and starve us for love and validation.

From a biological point of view, they deprive us of happy hormones and make us feel as if we’re dying.

It’s just the way our brains process breakups and the immense anxiety they create.

We’re wired this way and there’s not much we can do about it.

We can, however, deal with our anxiety in an effective way by seeking professional help and learn more about breakups.

By going no contact, we can in, essence, reduce the pain our exes make us feel and consequently, lessen the number of times we dream about our ex.

But it requires some willpower.

If you gather it and use the tips in this article, you’ll be able to strip the importance of your ex and the dreams associated with your ex.

When you do that, you’ll also increase your well-being in the process.

In this article, we’ll talk about what it means if you dream about your ex every night and why dreaming about your ex affects you so much.

We’ll also discuss the tips on getting your ex off your mind after a dream.

I dream about my ex every night

If you got dumped and you dream about your ex every night, it’s no coincidence.

You can’t stop dreaming about your ex because you recently got hurt, so your brain is now struggling to recover.

It’s staying active at night, working overtime, and looking for solutions to ease your pain.

So in a way, your brain is working extra hard to process the breakup and the stress you went through.

It’s doing this by projecting your biggest fears and insecurities onto your subconscious mind in the form of dreams and hopes.

I suppose it’s just one of those things we have little control over.

Just how breakups make us obsess over our ex-partner, dreams tend to have a similar effect.

The only difference is that they ruin our peace and quiet when we’re resting.

So if this is happening to you, know that it’s completely normal to dream about your ex and that there’s nothing for you to worry about.

Ex-partner dreams occur regularly for little to no reason at all. They sometimes appear even years later when we’re completely over our ex.

But more often than not, there’s a logical explanation for their appearance.

That explanation is stress.

The crazy thing about stress though is that it doesn’t even have to be related to our exes.

Any kind of mental struggle can make our brains think back in time and show us that which wounded us the most.

Get rid of your stressors

If you want to get rid of your dreams and nightmares of your ex, you first need to eliminate the main cause of the issue.

In your case, the issue is likely the breakup, so you need to get over your ex and find happiness in life again.

You can start by following the indefinite no contact rule, getting incredibly busy, and doing the things you love.

And if you’ve done that already and you still experience regular dreams about your ex, then you may need to resort to plan B.

This plan entails not dealing with your dreams at all as worrying about them only fuels them.

It gives them the energy boost they need to exist.

So avoid empowering your ex-dreams with depressing thoughts or they could stay on your mind for much longer than they otherwise would.

Simply accept them as a part of your healing process instead and divert your attention to something more meaningful.

Think about something positive that doesn’t involve your ex and you’ll soon reduce the number of your ex-dreams.

You may not be able to cut them out of your life completely, of course, but you’ll drastically lessen them nonetheless.

And that’s a good start.

Especially if dreams are starting to affect you badly.

Stop hurting yourself

If you just got out of your relationship and you’re intentionally doing something that hurts you, you need to stop.

You can’t expect to stop dreaming about your ex if you’re constantly self-inflicting pain by begging and pleading and committing various post-breakup mistakes that damage your well-being.

It’s practically impossible to demand attention from an ex, get rejected, and feel perfectly fine about it.

You’d have to be completely over your ex or a robot not to get affected.

So put an end to attention-seeking deeds and focus on yourself. You won’t dream about your ex every night if you prioritize that which truly matters — you.

How to stop dreaming about your ex?

The best way for you to stop dreaming about your ex every night, every week, or as often as you do is to develop emotional self-control.

You can do this by overcoming your fears and insecurities and by diverting your attention away from your ex.

Although this may sound simple and straightforward, it, in fact, isn’t.

Chances are that you’re fresh out of the relationship and that you’re struggling to stay in control of your thoughts and emotions.

If that’s the case, you’ll first have to strengthen your emotional, mental, and physical states.

One way for you to improve your overall well-being is to dedicate your thoughts to tasks that demand your absolute attention.

This can be anything from work, hobbies, socializing, and anything that requires your mind to stay engaged.

By getting busy, you’ll have a lot less time to think about your ex and the things your ex is doing.

You’ll still think about him or her, of course, but every second you spend minding your own business, you unknowingly spend overcoming your obsession.

So think of the things that you enjoy giving your attention to as your cure for getting over your ex.

Another way to stop dreaming about your ex every night is to force positive emotions into your system.

Getting sufficient amounts of physical activity is a good way to do it as it rewards your brain with happy hormones.

So make sure to get plenty of daily exercises so that you can receive its calming effects.

You’ll soon realize that when you work out, you push your built-up anxiety out of your system.

And consequently, when you’re no longer anxious, you also stop thinking and dreaming about your ex every night.

You’ll probably still encounter a dream every now and then, but it won’t affect you in a negative way.

You’ll simply acknowledge it and soon let it go.

Here’s what you can do to stop dreaming about your ex every night.

What if you keep dreaming about your ex even months later?

If dreams about your ex won’t stop, it might be for the best that you consult a dream specialist.

He or she will be able to assist you better and might be able to pinpoint the exact reason why you’re constantly dreaming about your ex.

This expert will be able to help you with your sleeping problem.

And if he or she can’t, he or she will appoint you to a mental health expert that will prescribe medication for better sleep.

So don’t be afraid to seek professional help as there’s no shame in looking for it when you need it.

As a matter of fact, it takes strength and courage to embrace your vulnerability and share it with someone else.

Dreaming about an ex every single night is stressful

Dreams of an ex-partner can be really stressful and painful at times.

They can appear so real that they negatively affect your day and prevent you from moving on.

If they aren’t stopped, they can eventually start having a toll on your mental health and cause you to fear them.

And that’s exactly what dreams need to exist.

They adore all kinds of traumas, phobias, concerns, PTSD, obsessions, anxieties, and everything self-empowering.

So if you truly want to stop dreaming about your ex every single night, you might want to put an end to what’s keeping them alive.

Your negative perceptions.

Do dreams about your ex have a spiritual meaning?

As a reader and a free person, you’re free to think what you want.

I know that a lot of dumpees think that if they dream about their ex that their ex misses them and wants them back.

They also think that they’re connected to the universe and that they have the power to attract their ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend.

But if you’re open to a more rational opinion, I’d like to say that dreams about your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend wanting you back have nothing to do with the fact that he or she wants you back.

Gut feelings that an ex will come back and dreams about an ex and his or her family and friends are all self-created.

They are manifested by one’s wants and needs—and they occur when one consciously or subconsciously thinks and craves them.

That’s why dreams of an ex merely indicate that you want your ex back for validation and empowerment purposes—and that you’re dreaming of that which haunts you.

It’s your anxious brain playing tricks on you, so don’t fall for them.

Does your ex dream about you too?

From a psychological perspective, your ex most likely doesn’t dream about you.

Your ex wasn’t abandoned and hurt by the breakup, so your ex isn’t feeling the anxiety that produces the dreams.

Your ex is feeling detached and relieved, so the chances of him or her dreaming about you are slim.

Even if your ex feels guilty for hurting you, for example, your ex likely doesn’t feel anxious enough to dream about you.

He or she probably thinks about you every now and then as you were a big part of his or her life.

But, unfortunately, your ex doesn’t think about you in the way that you do.

While you think about your ex in a nostalgic, hope-instilling way, your ex most likely doesn’t.

Your ex probably thinks about you in a confident way that lets him or her stay in control of his or her emotions.

That’s why your ex can stay away from you very easily without any effort.

Do you dream about your ex every night? How often do you dream? Share your thoughts with us by commenting below.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.