He Has A Girlfriend But Still Wants To Sleep With Me

If a guy has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with you, he wants to be sexual with you because he isn’t quite satisfied with his relationship. He hasn’t yet built a strong connection with his girlfriend (or had built it and lost it) and now wants to feel sexually connected with someone else.

It’s possible that his girlfriend isn’t fulfilling all his sexual desires, so he decided to get the most out of his life by turning to you (and possibly other women). It’d be wise of you not to give in to pressure and do what this guy wants. Remind yourself that he has a girlfriend and that she wouldn’t approve of his behavior.

She would probably get hurt and angry and dump the guy. Especially if she respects herself and their relationship is new (not strong enough to survive infidelity).

The truth is that guys who are ready for a serious romantic relationship don’t cheat on their girlfriends. They instead admit that they lost attraction to their girlfriends and that they would like to break up so that they can both be happy and eventually find someone new.

Only immature guys who lack self-awareness, relationship skills, willpower, and morals cheat on their girlfriends. And they often do it in a way that makes them look like victims and their girlfriends the culprits who pushed them to cheat.

So if a guy with a girlfriend pursues you and wants to sleep with you even though he already has a person to sleep with, don’t be the person who sides with him and sleeps with him. Cheating is inexcusable regardless of how dead the relationship is and who’s responsible for its demise.

Remember that if you sleep with this person that you’ll become his accomplice and not much better than him. You’ll both uncaringly destroy his relationship and hurt the person he committed to.

Today, we’ll talk about why a guy with a girlfriend wants to sleep with you. We’ll also talk about what kind of person cheats and what the chances of having a successful relationship with him are.

He has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with me

If a guy has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with you, consider him a major red flag. On one hand, he knows he’s still committed to his partner and that he mustn’t cheat, but on the other, he doesn’t care about that because he values his needs way over his girlfriend’s.

In his head, it’s okay to sleep with you and hurt his girlfriend as long as he’s happy and gets what he wants. Think about that for a minute. What kind of person goes behind his girlfriend’s back, cheats on her, and strings her along?

As a personal development coach, I can tell you that not a very developed one.

A person who does this has very little (if any) respect for his partner, let alone himself—and is as a result, many months away from developing sympathy, integrity, and respect for others. He never had to develop these traits because he always got away with dishonesty.

He probably knows how to love bomb women and make them think he’s into them, but the truth is that he only makes them think that. In reality, he’s too self-absorbed to care about other people’s feelings. His confessions and persuasions serve him and only him.

You should be careful not to fall for a cheater’s trap or you could soon start to wonder where his love and affection went.

People who cheat so casually don’t understand that love isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. Real love shows itself when couples encounter challenges, emotional difficulties, (or in this person’s case, temptations to cheat). This means that the guy hasn’t learned to control his temptations and that he doesn’t have the willpower to overcome them.

He instead acts like he’s in the center of the universe—and that he can woo other girls even though he’s still committed to the person he claims to love.

I know that these are some very harsh words and that some of you reading this cheated on your partners/ex-partners in the past, but I want to point out that cheating says bad things about a person. It says that a person isn’t capable of controlling himself, that he lacks empathy, and most of all, that he shouldn’t be in a relationship.

Not until he or she has taken the time to reflect and made an oath to never ever cheat again.

I do think that cheaters can change for the better. I’ve seen this happen several times. But before they can change, they must first find a really, really good reason to change. A reason that causes them to regret their behavior and makes them feel ashamed.

A guy who still wants to cheat on his girlfriend to gratify his urges doesn’t feel ashamed at all. He can’t because in his mind, he’s focused on cheating first and changing as a person last. For him to change, he must change right now. Not tomorrow or after cheating. It’s right now or he’ll have to wait for another opportunity to grow within.

That opportunity might come when he suffers from a loss of self-esteem or when a girl he dates exposes him to his friends and family and hurts him. Most cheaters only learn their lessons the hard way – through pain.

Why does he want to sleep with me when he has a girlfriend?

We’ve already mentioned that this person wants to sleep with you because he’s looking for something he doesn’t get from his girlfriend. We’ve also mentioned that he lacks the maturity and morals, necessary for maintaining his relationship.

But what we haven’t mentioned is that the guy may not even want anything to do with you. It’s possible he just wants to use you for sex. Once he’s used you, he may start avoiding you because he’ll have gotten what he was after. I suppose what a guy does after getting to the last stage with you depends on the overall quality of his relationship and the responsibilities he has to his partner.

For example, if he has children or a mortgage, he may want to stay in a relationship with his partner and only occasionally sleep around. There are guys who do that because they’re afraid of the consequences that come from separating from their partners.

There are also men out there who cheat and develop feelings for the new person. This is actually very common as some guys fall in love again and think that the new person is much better than the woman they’ve been with for months or years.

They simply take their girlfriend for granted and focus on the person who makes them feel excited again.

That being said, here are 6 reasons why he wants to sleep with you when he has a girlfriend.

The dangers of sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend

If a guy with a girlfriend wants to sleep with you, there’s a big chance that he’s the reason why his relationship is falling apart. It’s almost never just one person’s fault that a relationship is struggling or ending, but in this particular case, we can say that the guy is more than 50% responsible.

Unless his girlfriend is also sleeping around, he’s the only person who’s deliberately killing the relationship with infidelity and making it seem like it’s no big deal.

The truth is that cheating is a very big deal. He isn’t just ending a relationship (every person has the right to end it). He’s ending it by betraying a person in the worst way possible. This means that he’s most likely going to make his girlfriend very anxious and might even cause her to have trust issues.

Infidelity breakups are one of the most painful experiences people in this world go through. They’re so painful, dumpees blame themselves for the actions of their ex-partner and oftentimes fall into depression.

I want you to be aware of this so that you know what the guy is doing. He knows that his actions are going to hurt his girlfriend but he doesn’t care about it very much. I apologize for putting it this way, but he only cares about “conquering you” and getting the sexual satisfaction that you can provide for him.

I can’t say if he intends to leave his girlfriend for you because he’s the only person who knows that, but I can tell you that you don’t want to be the person who helps him destroy his relationship. You don’t want to break up a couple and have a good time with him when his ex (his current girlfriend) grieves over the loss of her relationship.

What you want is to give them space and let them figure out their differences on their own.

So if you feel tempted to sleep with a guy who has a girlfriend, remember that if you sleep with him that you won’t help their relationship. All you’ll do is support his cheating and make it easier for him to leave his partner and/or continue cheating.

What to do when he has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with you?

If a guy with a girlfriend wants to sleep with you, the only question on your mind should be “How do I run away from this person as quickly and safely as possible?”

That’s all you should worry about because by getting sexually involved with this person, you could develop feelings for him and want more from him. Don’t get me wrong, the guy might want more from you too, but do you really want to take that risk?

Are you convinced that he won’t cheat on you and hide it from you if he meets another attractive woman? Do you think he values you that much?

Maybe he does and he’s ready to turn over a new leaf. But even if that’s the case, you would likely live in fear, knowing there’s a chance that history could repeat itself. Something tells me you’re looking for a long-term relationship and not just a short-term relationship with no guarantee that it will last.

So far, all the proof you have is that he finds you sexually attractive.

The rest proves that:

• he’s a shameless cheater with poor morals
• he’s good with words, but not so good at keeping them

My advice is not to get involved with a guy who shows romantic or sexual interest in you when he still has a girlfriend. His intentions are most likely not genuine.

Consider giving this guy a try or doing whatever you want with him only when he breaks up with his girlfriend (or she with him) and gives it some time before he shows interest in you.

Does a guy with a girlfriend want to sleep with you? What do you think the right course of action is? Post your comment below.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Learn more about me or get in touch today.