Signs From The Universe About My Ex Coming Back ?✨

When I was going through my breakup, I was desperately looking for signs from the universe about my ex. I wanted to know my ex thinks about me and misses me and that she’ll come back to me.

Deep inside, I felt spiritually connected to my ex like never before, so I kept searching for signs from the universe about her and saw meaning in everything that happened to me.

Almost everything I saw, heard, and even felt reminded me of my ex—and my anxious brain made me believe that it’s a sign from the universe.

Little did I know at the time that my feelings for my ex were deceiving me. They weren’t signs from the universe, but rather signs that I was brokenhearted beyond my understanding.

I was struggling to find inner peace and balance in life, so instead of doing my best to accept the breakup, I adhered to the force beyond the laws of nature and used it to explain my feelings.

It probably took me about 3 months of gaining and losing hope before I finally had enough and put an end to suppositions. I stopped analyzing my ex’s behavior, blaming myself for the breakup, and most importantly, I stopped looking for superstitious explanations.

I realized that my ex wasn’t thinking about me and my well-being. She was dating other men and appeared to be having a good time with them. That’s why I decided to stop looking for signs from the universe about my ex coming back and made a commitment to reject false hope.

I did this by brushing away all hopeful thoughts about my ex and did my best to stay in control of my emotions.

Of course, my hope for reconciliation didn’t completely disappear the day I decided to stop looking for psychic signs about my ex. But it did get a lot better over the course of a few weeks.

The less false hope I allowed into my system, the fewer setbacks I encountered, and the better I felt.

So If you’re desperately looking for signs from the universe about your ex, my advice is to stop looking for them. Hope may temporarily keep you sane and give you the strength to get by, but it will also hinder your healing and make it incredibly difficult for you to enjoy life.

Instead of looking for signs from the universe and gut feelings that your ex will come back, learn more about relationships. Learn why your ex behaved the way he or she did and spend your time and energy detaching and improving yourself.

The quicker you pull the focus back onto yourself, the quicker you’ll find true happiness.

This post is for dumpees who are very hurt and think that looking for signs from the universe is going to make them feel better. In actual fact, it’s just going to hurt them and make them regret feeding their obsessions.

Especially if they find information about their ex that they shouldn’t find.

Signs from the universe about my ex

Whether you’re looking for information on your ex or hope for reconciliation, you need to stop. Analyzing your ex won’t bring your ex back nor make the reconciliation any easier on you. It will most likely just remind you that your ex is no longer in your life and trigger anxiety.

The anxiety that you’re trying to bring under control.

If you give it some thought, you’ll realize that you’re looking for signs from the universe about your ex because you’re not completely over your ex yet. You still crave your ex’s attention, love, and recognition and wish that your ex would make you whole again.

Unfortunately, though, you’re going at it the wrong way. Your ex can’t make you whole because your ex is not you. He or she is a separate entity that doesn’t want to stay connected with you.

Your ex wants to live without you and come back for you only if something goes seriously wrong.

That’s what reconciliations essentially are. They’re backup plans in case something goes horribly wrong with the primary plan.

Whatever you do, don’t intentionally stay dependent on your ex by dissecting everything that happens to you and your ex-partner. Don’t look for signs from the universe and think that it’s something you need to be happy.

What you need is exactly the opposite of what your gut feeling tells you to do.

You need to:

• think about yourself more
• brush inexplicable feelings away when they arise (refuse to empower them)
• lower the expectations of your ex coming back to you
• make plans with other people
• and invest in your emotional and physical well-being

Your ex has hurt you badly, so it’s okay if you can’t stop thinking about your ex. Most dumpees have difficulty focusing on themselves right after the breakup.

But if it’s been weeks or months since the breakup and you’re still looking for signs from the universe about your ex, you probably don’t even know that you’re feeding your obsession.

You’re trying to stay connected to your ex when you should be doing your best to disconnect.

I’m telling you this so that you don’t make the same mistake I did. Just like you, I was very hurt after the breakup, so I browsed the internet in search of hope.

I looked everywhere for a sliver of hope just so I wouldn’t have to accept reality and disconnect from my ex completely. Staying in denial felt way too good.

That’s why the thing I regret the most today is that I spent way too much time looking for hope. Although it felt reassuring to read that my ex will regret breaking up with me and come back, hope made me obsessed with my ex and prevented me from letting go.

I did a lot of personal development reading too as I knew I had a lot of work to do on myself. But I wish I’d used my time better and focused on myself more. If I did, I could have identified more shortcomings, made more friends, grew more ambitious, and most importantly, got out of depression sooner.

I only realized I wasted my time with signs from the universe and things that obsessed me with my ex after I’ve detached naturally with time. But I suppose I didn’t know any better at the time because of all the conflicting information I read on the internet.

So if you’re looking for psychic signs that your ex misses you and thinks about you, know that it’s your anxiety and obsession making you look for these signs. Do your best to resist these temptations and I guarantee that you’ll make huge emotional progress.

You may not notice your progress right away because detachment takes time, but stick with it long enough and you’ll get over your ex and find happiness again.

Gut feelings my ex is the one

We’ve all been there. We all fantasized about being with our ex, dreamed about our ex, and suffered like never before because of our ex.

But does that mean our ex is the person we should be with? Does our anxiety, longing, fear, and regret really prove that our ex is the one for us?

In my opinion, most exes don’t fit into the soulmate category. Most of them are far from our ideal partner because they aren’t ready for a lifetime commitment. The fact that they left us implies that they aren’t on the same page with us and that they have different plans in mind.

It doesn’t matter who said what or who neglected who. When couples break up, they do so because their relationship wasn’t getting what it needed to thrive.

Someone was giving more than the other, so the relationship became imbalanced and like a house of cards, collapsed in on itself.

You need to know that most dumpees are in excruciating pain and feel a strong desire to win their ex’s love back. They’re prepared to do anything just to get one more chance with their ex.

But what anxious dumpees don’t know is that their ex doesn’t want them to fight for love.

Their ex doesn’t believe in the soulmate concept (at least not with them), which is why the odds of an ex being a soulmate are quite low. They’re not 0% because there are exes who get back together and stay happy.

But then again, this doesn’t happen as often as the internet says it does.

It tends to happen only when dumpers:

• make impulsive decisions to leave
• rebound with someone much worse
• or rationally discern that the problem was with them

From what I see, dumpees who get hurt the most by the breakup tend to crave their ex the most. They depend on their ex for self-love and as a result, suffer stronger separation anxiety than people with secure attachment styles.

This is something dumpees often don’t understand. They don’t know that love is about as rational as it is emotional and that pain doesn’t translate into love.

More often than not, pain is proportional to self-love.

A person once told me, “My ex and I haven’t been happy with each other for a long time. We slept in different bedrooms and barely spoke to each other, but I still want my ex back because she left me for another guy.“

What this person meant is that he didn’t love his ex, but because he was alone, he still wanted his ex back so that he wouldn’t feel replaced and abandoned.

This is something that befalls many dumpees. Many dumpees don’t know that the main reason they want their ex back is pain. They think it’s love, but pain is a much stronger emotional incentive than love.

So next time you think that your ex is your soulmate, know that you think that way because you’re dealing with excruciating separation anxiety. You want the pain to stop—and the quickest way for that to happen is to reunite with your ex.

What about ex-couples who were together for a very long time? Were they not soulmates?

Please note that a soulmate isn’t necessarily a person who stays in a relationship until the very end. A soulmate can also be a person who stays committed for decades (or a few years) and then leaves for any given reason.

Such a person is called a soulmate or “the one”. But when the relationship ends, that quickly changes. He or she turns into an ex-partner and stays an ex for as long as his or her feelings are gone.

I too thought that my ex was my soulmate/the love of my life when she broke up with me. I believed she was the best for me even though she cheated on me and emotionally abused me throughout the relationship.

The reason this person was a soulmate in my eyes was that I didn’t love myself enough. I loved her more than myself and got attached to her in a very unhealthy way.

Maybe you have your self-esteem in check and love yourself as much as you should. And maybe your ex treated you fairly throughout the relationship and gave you everything you wanted—but you didn’t.

I don’t know what your relationship was like, but if you think you took your ex for granted and refused to invest back, your ex broke up with you out of anger and self-protection.

This doesn’t, however, mean that you should try to redeem yourself and prove that you can make your ex happy. Your ex may genuinely be a good person, but you have to understand that your relationship ran its course.

It came to an end because you weren’t working out as a couple during the time frame you had.

So whether your ex was nice or not so nice, don’t look for signs from the universe about your ex. Try to let go of a failed relationship instead so that you can give your ex the space he or she needs to breathe.

Doing so will also give your anxiety a break. I suggest you get busy.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.