How To Tell What A Guy Wants From You?

You can tell what a guy wants from you by observing the way he communicates and acts toward you.

Generally speaking, if his attitude and behavior toward you are good and appear selfless, you probably have nothing to worry about. He’s probably interested in you and is trying to get to know you a little better.

He likes you as a person or perhaps even as his partner—and that’s perfectly fine.

But if he’s overly nice to you and continues to excessively expresses his desire for attention, you may want to take a more careful approach.

The guy raises a red flag because he’s either extremely insecure and possessive or he’s after sex and the things you can provide for him.

Keep in mind that impatience and countless compliments are very bad signs. They signify that he may not be interested in dating you, but rather in what you can do for him as a woman.

To tell what a guy wants from you, you must, therefore, observe him over a long period of time. Keep him at a distance and see how he responds when he doesn’t get what he wants.

In that way, the guy will sooner than later verbally or non-verbally express his feelings to you.

If his feelings appear romantic, you’ll know he’s looking for romance. And if they’re sexual, you’ll know what he’s after too.

It’s also possible that the guy might not want anything in particular from you. He could genuinely be looking for companionship—and that’s something you don’t want to misjudge.

If you’re wondering how to tell what a guy wants from you and you want to make sure you can trust the guy, this is the post for you.

Test the guy

There is no quick way to tell what a guy wants from you. You can only speculate what his intentions could be based on his long-term behavior.

For example, if during the course of two weeks, he makes plans with you, takes you to the movies and restaurants, and introduces you to his friends and family, he’s likely interested in being in a relationship with you.

He wouldn’t invest long-term in you if he didn’t see romantic potential in you and want something more from you.

But if a guy isn’t introducing you to anyone and invites you out drinking or straight to his home, he may have different plans for you.

His actions show that he may not be interested in getting to know your personality, but rather in what you have to offer. His priorities seem to be on quick emotional and sexual gratifications that you can help him with.

Whenever you doubt the guy’s intentions, I suggest that you put him through a series of tests.

Test him for:

• Patience
• Understanding
• Care
• Respect and self-respect
• Moral values and ethics
• Perseverance

If you do this for a couple of weeks, you should gather enough evidence to tell what the guy wants from you. You’ll know whether he wants friendship, a relationship, sex, or absolutely nothing at all.

Just make sure you dedicate some time to observing him. If you don’t test him over a long period of time, you likely won’t know what his intentions are. You’ll have an idea of what he could be after, but you likely won’t know what it is.

Make sure to monitor the guy’s actions—as his actions won’t lie to you. They will tell you exactly what the guy thinks about you and how he feels toward you.

Ask him for favors

Another way to tell what a guy wants from you is to ask him for a lot of favors.

In this way, you’ll quickly realize whether the guy is only interested in himself and his wants and needs or if he’s actually interested in you as well.

If he’s interested in you as a person and you’re important to him, he’ll deliberately show you that he’s interested in your life because he’ll want to leave a good impression.

And if he’s interested in leaving a good long-lasting impression, you can be certain that his intentions are harmless and that he intends to stay in your life at least for a while.

Some of the favors you can ask from a guy you’re apprehensive about are:

• Can you help me fix a problem on my computer?
• Do you want to hang out with me and my friends?
• Would you help me choose new shoes?
• Can you pick a book from the library for me?

If the guy is interested in you and sees you have a problem, he’ll make sure not only to find the problem for you, but he’ll also do his best to fix it. And that’s because guys are fixers by nature and like to be commended for a job well done.

We like to be thanked and appreciated—and feel that we’re needed by the opposite gender.

If this guy also wants to be needed by you, he’ll make sure he plays his role as a man efficiently and do his best to impress you. He’ll go above and beyond to get that bit of recognition from you because it will give him a strong sense of belonging.

The point of this exercise isn’t to turn him into your slave and see how far he’ll go for you. It’s to discern whether he’s interested in helping you around and contributing to your life.

If you get the feeling that he’s trying his best to complete the tasks you ask of him, he likely admires you very much and wants you to be his girlfriend.

Ask him lots of regular questions

Asking the guy you doubt normal questions about him and his life could prove to be beneficial.

You could learn a lot about the guy’s intentions by examining his passion, interests, hobbies, and the kind of people he usually engages in conversation with.

The reason why simple conversations are so important is that his answers represent his entire life. They depict his past and recent behavior, attitude, choices and priorities in life, personal values, and much, much more.

All you have to do is ask him lots of questions that allow him to open up and talk about his past.

Ask him questions such as:

• What do you want to do in life?
• Have you been with many people before? How many and why did you break up?
• Does family matter to you? Do you have good relationships with your family members?
• How do you normally handle conflicts?
• Can you name three things you’re really looking forward to?

Although these questions may appear nosy and very interview-like, they serve a very important purpose. They exist to extract important information from the guy you’re trying to figure out.

Just make sure you ask them nonchalantly, preferably one a day.

So whenever you wonder, “How to tell what a guy wants from you,” don’t be afraid to use the advice from this chapter. Take an eager interest in the guy’s life and he will in one way or another tell you what he wants from you.

He’ll either verbally express himself to you or his silence, lack of words, and untrustworthy body language will give him away.

Make sure you pay close attention to how he reacts to your questions. The tone he talks in and the way he reacts to your inquiry matter way more than the words themselves.

And that’s because he can be good at talking and convincing girls to trust him, but he definitely isn’t that good at tricking his body.

How to tell if a guy wants a relationship or just a hookup

There are some determined guys out there who date girls for sex and entertainment alone. To make sure you don’t fall prey to such promiscuous guys, use this simple trick on them.

Tell them you don’t understand how some guys can be so heartless that they date girls for fun and games—just to discard them later. Say that you dislike such guys and that thanks to them, you no longer trust guys that easily.

Mention to them that you now take things really, really slowly with guys and that you’re willing to wait for months just to make sure that the person you’re dating has good intentions.

Once you’ve said that, the wrong kinds of guys will run away from you faster than greased lightning. They’ll be gone before you’ve even finished the sentence because they wouldn’t want to lose time on someone who isn’t going to give them what they want.

Such guys are fortunately very low on patience and will not stick around for many months. They know they can get what they want from girls who are willing to give it to them much quicker.

So make sure you test the guy who seems to want you just for sex by telling him that you’re not interested in sex. I know you may find this difficult to say in person, but ultimately, it’s better to be safe than sorry.

You don’t want to invest in a guy now just for him to leave you the moment he gets what he wants.

You’re going to feel used and could even lose faith in men.

Signs he wants to sleep with you

If a guy wants to sleep with you, he’s going to do whatever it takes to get in bed with you.

He’s going to invite you out for drinks and to his home—and even invite himself to your home if you’re out together and it’s late. He could be very sneaky with his intentions.

But no matter how much he tries to hide his plans, he’s still going to give you hints and signs that he wants to sleep with you.

Here are 5 signs you should look out for:

• Constantly complimenting your looks (saying you’re beautiful, hot, sexy, etc)
• Giving you perversive, flirtatious looks and comments
• Staying physically close to you
• Inviting you out or nearly begging you to come to his home
• Seeing him use many dating apps (also a sign he sleeps with lots of girls and likely want to sleep with you too)

When a guy displays signs that he wants to sleep with you, it may be in your best interest that you follow the guidelines in this article and make certain that the guy has good intentions.

If you don’t take precautions and sleep with him before you get to know him, you may regret it later. Especially if you realize that he’s not the kind of person he was portraying himself to be.

Have you ever met someone whose intentions were unknown to you? Do you now know how to tell what a guy wants from you? Comment below this post.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.