Ex Blocked Me After No Contact

If your ex blocked you after no contact, your ex probably did that because you reached out or because you made your ex feel uncomfortable when he or she reached out. Either way, you probably said or did something you shouldn’t have, so your ex felt that he or she had no choice but to block you.

By blocking you, your ex pushed you far away and prevented negative thoughts and emotions from disturbing his or her post-breakup life. It wasn’t a very nice thing to do, but your ex didn’t want to keep conversing with you after no contact.

Not the way the conversation was going and making your ex feel. Your ex hadn’t made enough emotional progress and/or improved his perception of you enough to consider the conversation harmless and want friendship. Your ex was still processing the breakup and wasn’t ready for deep/emotional/relationship/breakup conversations.

So if your ex blocked you after no contact and you’re wondering why your ex did that, put yourself in your ex’s shoes for a minute and imagine how you’d feel if your ex-partner behaved the way you did. Would you feel overwhelmed, disrespected, bothered, or think that talking to an ex while you’re in a new relationship is unfair to your new partner?

Even if your ex isn’t dating anyone and you didn’t come on too strong, do you think it was too soon for your ex to talk to someone he or she developed negative associations for?

There’s a reason your ex blocked you. And unless you smothered your ex by wanting too much too soon, blocking likely had something to do with your ex’s need for space.

Your ex wasn’t on the same emotional level as you as he or she felt that you had high expectations of him or her. Because your ex wasn’t able to reach those expectations, your ex got tired and/or annoyed and blocked you to heal from the pain your presence or actions have caused your ex.

It’s impossible for me to say what went wrong without analyzing your conversation/s, but if your ex blocked you, rest assured that blocking has more to say about your ex than it does about you. Dumpers who block exes are usually frustrated and angry with their exes and make highly emotional decisions to block their exes.

They don’t consider their exes’ feelings because they themselves are hurting and want to stop hurting. Of course, their pain doesn’t come even close to the pain dumpees go through after the breakup because their pain is completely different from dumpees’ pain.

While dumpers feel pressured, angry, and disrespected, dumpees feel unwanted, unimportant, and scared. They’re uncertain about whether their ex will come back, so they keep their hopes up and try to gain control over their feelings.

Dumpers have power and control, so they can instantly stop their pain. But to do that, they need to distance themselves from their exes as fast as possible. Most dumpers do that by immediately ceasing all communication or saying they need some time to themselves whereas other dumpers ghost, ignore, or block their exes.

How they respond to pain (suffocating emotions) depends on their maturity, self-control, and moral values.

So if your ex blocked you after no contact, try not to blame yourself too much for your ex’s behavior. Instead of putting yourself down, acknowledge that your ex probably lacks patience and understanding of what you’re going through and that your ex thinks blocking exes who are going through a difficult time is acceptable.

This post is for dumpees whose ex blocked them during or after no contact.

Ex blocked me after no contact

When your ex blocks you, your ex’s actions show that he or she isn’t ready or willing to talk to you and that you must stay away from your ex until your ex has had enough space and no longer thinks of you as a threat to his or her well-being.

Blocking indicates that your ex can’t handle talking with you and that your ex would rather avoid interacting with you for the time being. It probably won’t be forever because most dumpers unblock their exes weeks or months later after they’ve calmed down and realized they overreacted.

But until your ex has cooled off, you mustn’t message, call, or annoy your ex on social media or directly on his or her phone. Your ex doesn’t want you to abandon your pride and chase like a leopard. Your ex wants you to understand what he or she needs to be happy so that you can give that to your ex right away.

Don’t even apologize and say you’ll be leaving your ex alone from now on. Your ex doesn’t want nor need to hear it. Simply leave your ex alone by going no contact. Your actions will prove that you respect yourself and know what your ex needs from you to be happy.

It can feel extremely tempting to contact your ex through friends or email and find out why your ex blocked you, but ask yourself this. Do you really need your ex to tell you that he or she doesn’t feel comfortable around you? If you ask me, you can’t benefit from hearing your ex tell you that you’re being this or that and that you need to stop reaching out.

Hearing or seeing your ex react that way would just hurt you and make it harder for you to love yourself.

So instead of contacting your ex and bringing another bad reaction out of your ex, go back to no contact and stay in it for good. Let your ex do what he or she wants because you can’t control how your ex thinks and feels about you. If you try to control your ex’s perception of you, you’ll only make things worse because you’ll force your ex to communicate with you on your terms.

And that’s now how your ex wants to communicate. Your ex wants to talk to you when your ex is ready for it.

As long as your ex isn’t ready for that, you mustn’t force it. You must leave your ex to his or her devices so that your ex can process the breakup and stop thinking poorly of you. There’s no guarantee that your ex will come to his or her senses and want to be with you because your ex needs to go through a lot to discover your worth, but if you focus on yourself, your ex will at least respect you as a human being.

With that said, here are 5 things you need to understand when your ex blocks you after no contact.

The best thing you can do when your ex blocks you after no contact is to act as if you or your ex never broke no contact. Simply resume no contact and continue to detach and move on. Don’t let your ex’s actions determine yours. If your ex blocked you, that doesn’t mean you must block your ex back or find a way to tell your ex how disappointed you are with him or her.

Although you probably are disappointed, you’re no longer together, so your ex doesn’t care about it. He or she won’t care as long as your ex is putting his or her needs before you.

Ex blocked me during no contact

If your ex blocked you during no contact (not after), there must be another reason for the blocking. It’s possible that your ex got annoyed by the things you posted on social media or that your ex thought it was time to remove you, block you, and stop being reminded of you.

Many dumpers block their exes months into no contact even if their exes don’t do anything to annoy them. They just decide it’s time to block their exes and stop worrying about them. They think they deserve to be happy and that if they want to be happy that they must cut off the past.

Some dumpers also block dumpees when they meet someone new. They don’t want their exes to find out about it and/or get hurt, so they remove their exes and add the new person. When they add the new person, they can start posting pictures and updates of him/her on social media and focus entirely on their new relationship.

So if your ex blocked you during no contact and you’re trying to figure out why, I suggest that you give up on looking for explanations. Unless you confront your ex about it (which you shouldn’t), you won’t know the exact reason why your ex blocked you.

You’ll just keep thinking it’s your fault and that you should have done things differently.

The truth though is that it may not have anything to do with you. Your ex may be responsible for blocking you because he or she got annoyed/uncomfortable and thought it was time to cut you off and focus on someone else.

Your ex may have blocked you during no contact because:

• your ex didn’t like the things you said online or how your ex perceived you
• your ex wanted to leave the past behind and move on with his or her new partner
• your ex’s new partner asked/told your ex to block you
• your ex got his/her ego hurt

It’s unlikely that your ex’s ego took a blow, but if it did, don’t worry about it too much. A dumper who likes you and wants to be with you will unblock you very quickly. He or she won’t keep you blocked when he or she craves your validation and support.

Usually, young and/or immature dumpers block their exes to get a reaction out of their dumpees. They want to feel validated and in control. But luckily, most dumpers don’t expect anything out of blocking. They resort to blocking to push problems away and worry about their own lives.

Take control of your life

Don’t worry about your ex and what he or she does. That’s something you have very little if any control over. You’ll never make your ex act the way you want him or her to act because your ex is no longer your partner (committed to you). Your ex is set on staying broken up and intends to stay broken up unless something or someone changes his or her mind.

Until that happens, you must take the focus off your ex and put it on yourself. You are all you can control right now. If you’re self-aware and control your actions and behavior, chances are you’ll give your ex fewer reasons to block you (or keep you blocked in this case).

I’m not saying your ex won’t do bad things because that’s your ex’s choice, but you’ll get less involved in your ex’s life and do less hurtful or self-deprecating things that rub your ex up the wrong way.

So whether your ex blocked you because of something you did or for no reason at all, show that your ex’s blocking doesn’t bother you enough to reach out and ask for explanations. Show that your life is no longer about your ex and that you can handle anything your ex or life throws at you.

That will prove that you’re strong and worthy of respect and that the breakup is your ex’s loss rather than yours.

Sometimes dumpees get so hurt by the blocking that they reach out and demand explanations. They want to know why their ex blocked them and accuse their ex of cheating or similar things. Such dumpees end up hurting their dumper and receive unsympathetic responses in return.

Sometimes those responses directly belittle dumpees and other times, dumpees just get ignored or blocked.

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Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.