What to Say And Do When You Get Dumped?

Sometimes we know our romantic relationship is coming to an end and other times we don’t. In cases where we do see it coming, we can prepare for the worst.

Here are some of the things you need to say to your ex when he or she wants to break up with you.

Know that no matter what you say it won’t make them change their mind, instead, it will make them feel guilty for putting you through this. So, what to do when you get dumped?

1)Accept the breakup

There is nothing more displeasing than a person in denial. You don’t have to want it, you don’t have to love it. Show your self-worth and respect towards the other person by accepting their decision. By doing so you make it easier for both parties.

Less contempt, blame games, hurt feelings. You deserve to love someone who loves you back so I need you to portray that to your ex.

Also, get rid of any reminders of your ex. This includes pictures, gifts, and items, remove them from social media, and everything that brings back nostalgic memories.

You don’t have to completely destroy all of your ex’s existence. Put them in a box, lock it up, give the key to one of your friends and store it in your basement.

You can say something like “I accept the breakup. It’s not something I want, and I’m here to work things out. We haven’t been working out recently due to (insert your excuse) and (more excuses). I now realize I haven’t been my best (this is your one and only apology if you messed up) and I haven’t been happy either.

The breakup needed to happen so we can focus on ourselves and grow as people.

Trust me, say those words without crying or showing sensitivity and you will convey the message that her absence does not affect your awesome life.

2)Walk

After you have said the above-mentioned words, it’s time to take the walk of badassness. Face the other way and walk out without looking back.

Her initial thoughts will be “Wow that was so easy.” She will then message her friends saying “Hey guys I just dumped my boyfriend. He didn’t even resist, he just walked out… Wait… does that mean he doesn’t care about me? Is there another girl in the picture? Has he been cheating on me?“

Bam!! Guess who really got dumped? Let me give you a hint. It’s not you. People can’t stand being rejected and undermined so she begins to question her own self-worth and what she brought to the table.

If you’ve done these two steps correctly, you are now the ultimate beast. She will compare you to her exes she had previously dumped.

They all kept chasing her and feeding her ego, but not you, nuh-uh. You are so incredibly alpha/ungettable that she actually did you a favor.

3)Date and party like an animal

Now that you have unleashed the beast within you, it’s time to get out there and show your ex she was erased from your memory before you even stepped out of her apartment. Start seeing other women/men and make sure she finds out about it.

If you want your ex back when you’ve been dumped, don’t just send her photos, do it subtly. You don’t want to come off as inconsiderate or reckless.

Now that you have shown her how great your life has been without her she will most likely start feeling jealous. She will attempt to seek your attention by looking like this dog in the picture below.

Note to you. Don’t give in. She wants to see if she can tie you up, attach you to the back of a truck and drag you across the desert. She wants to see if she has any influence over you by testing the waters.

Know that she is throwing breadcrumbs at you, not really wanting to get back together (at least not yet).

Getting your ex back when you’ve been dumped requires a lot of patience and understanding of human behavior. Never rush back in, when you aren’t certain she wants to get back together and that things will be different this time.

On the day of the breakup, you have specifically told her to let you know if she changes her mind. Until she comes running back saying how it was the worst decision of her life, you don’t even look her way. Be nice, reply but don’t wait for her in any way. Your life is too precious to give it to a “low value” person.

Yes, I called her low value because you are now high value. All your life needed, was freedom and your ex out of the equation. Now you can thrive at last (or at least you want her to think that way).

4)Send her family a thank you card

Now that she is starving for your attention, it’s time to send her family a “thank you” card. You want them to know you really loved their company as well as the support they provided. Let them know that break up was probably a good thing in the long run (reverse psychology right there).

If your ex hasn’t yet realized, you are very serious about the breakup, she will now begin to panic. She will say “Cr*p, he has moved on way quicker than I have” (a lot of couples race to see who moves on first).

Now you hold the power in this “post break up war.” Your value has gone above the roof and beyond. Her signals are going to start looking more like this.

She craves your attention and is trying to entice you. You simply don’t respond to her provocations because she’s become your “side hoe.”

5)Improve your life

Identify what aspects of your life need improving and do so. If you want your ex back when you got dumped, become so god-like you will radiate with light. That means to become more productive, increase your confidence and get out of your comfort zone.

If there’s anything your ex will regret, it’s you succeeding in life. Do your best and she will come running back faster than lightning.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.