Dumpers block their exes on social media platforms either partially or entirely. When they block partially, they leave a channel or channels of communication open for emergency purposes. They think their exes won’t reach out on those platforms and that they’ll be able to get what they need to move forward.
Partial blocking means the same thing as complete blocking. It shows that dumpers feel overwhelmed and extremely uncomfortable by their exes’ behavior or the thought of their exes reaching out.
They associate a lot of negativity with their exes and can’t emotionally handle a reach-out, so they eliminate their exes’ capability to communicate.
This is how they can focus entirely on themselves and the things that don’t smother and hurt them.
Complete blocking, on the other hand, is the extreme version of blocking. Typically, the angriest and most resentful dumpers block their exes everywhere. Most of the time, they do it on impulse to cut their exes off completely and prevent their exes from reasoning with them and making them feel emotions they don’t want to feel.
Some dumpers also block their exes from everything because they believe they shouldn’t stay in touch with exes after the breakup and that the only thing to do is to block their exes fully. Such dumpers are convinced that full blocking is needed and morally acceptable and that they need to block for everyone’s sake.
So if your ex blocked you from everything and you’re not sure why your ex would do that after everything you went through, know that it’s either got something to do with your ex’s beliefs or the way your ex feels.
It’s much more likely that negative emotions are the reason your ex blocked you from everything (even on platforms you don’t communicate).
Your ex is probably emotion-driven. He lets emotions take control of his decisions and actions and makes you wonder if you really deserved to get blocked completely (or at all).
I can tell you that unless you became violent and threatened your ex or his loved ones, you didn’t deserve to get blocked. You deserved to be treated with respect and kindness.
You may have begged and pleaded for another chance, but most dumpees do at least a little bit of begging. They’re in shock, so they say and do things that make them look weak and desperate.
That doesn’t mean they should be blocked, though. They should instead be talked to and supported emotionally.
If dumpers lack emotional intelligence and can’t support their ex, the least they should do is not make things worse. They should avoid ignoring, blocking, posting happy pictures, dating other people, and doing things that make their ex anxious and depressed.
They should keep in mind that their ex is observing them from a distance and that their behavior affects their ex’s self-esteem and recovery process.
Therefore, complete or partial blocking should be avoided unless the dumpee forces the dumper to block or asks him or her to block. Some dumpees think they’ll feel better if they don’t see what their ex is up to and if they can’t contact their ex and show their ex how they think and feel.
And they’re probably right. Not knowing what their ex is up to can indeed help them avoid emotional setbacks. It can keep them in the dark about their ex’s new life and encourage them to keep moving on.
Fortunately, there are other ways to achieve the same results.
Dumpees can continue to heal by unfollowing or deleting their ex and implementing no contact. This puts them in control of their life rather than depending on their ex’s blocking to stay away.
If the guy you like blocked you from everything, he made things harder for you because he forced you to stay away from him. He made you lose control of the breakup and rejected you twice.
You’ll have to slowly accept that he’s in charge of the breakup and that he doesn’t want to communicate due to emotional overwhelm.
If he doesn’t unblock you in a few days when he’s supposed to cool off, he probably won’t unblock you anytime soon. This is especially true if he blocked you out of nowhere rather than because you did something wrong.
Guys tend to block their ex when their ex:
- reaches out and says or does things that make them uncomfortable
- shares their secrets and spreads rumors
- posts depressing stories or too many posts online (reminds them about the breakup)
- demands money, belongings, time, affection…
- physically hurts or threatens them
- shows up unannounced
- contacts their friends and family
- accuses them of infidelity or lack of care and compassion
Of course, many dumpers also block their exes for no particular reason. They block because they think it’s time to cut their ex off completely (leave the past behind) or because keeping their ex unblocked could encourage their ex to reach out and ruin their dating experience.
It could make their new partner uncomfortable and angry and put a strain on the new relationship.
Today, we discuss why your ex or the guy you were seeing blocked you from everything. We explain why dumpers block fully—even on platforms where their ex doesn’t contact them, threaten them, or make them feel uncomfortable.
Why did he block me from everything and not just partially?
If a guy blocked you from everything, he did that entirely for himself. He blocked you to keep you away from him and, by doing so, ensured his safety and well-being.
He probably could have asked you not to reach out.
But because he lacked communication skills and patience and perceived you as a threat, he chose the least mature way to handle the situation. He made an emotional decision to block you and forced you to stay away.
Dumpers who force their exes to stay away think they have the right to block the people they dated. They can’t benefit from them anymore, so they’re okay with treating them poorly. They’re in control of the breakup and don’t care how their ex feels.
All they care about is feeling good.
That’s why we can say with certainty that dumpers who partially or entirely block their ex prioritize their feelings over their ex’s pain. They don’t see anything wrong with blocking and ignoring as long as it lets them stay in control of the breakup and the feelings that ensue.
Such dumpers lack the ability to empathize with their ex, so they blame their ex for their problems and unhealthy feelings. The most immature and vengeful ones even want their ex to suffer. Due to irritation and pain, they take their frustrations out on their ex and expect their ex to deal with it.
They don’t consider themselves responsible for their ex’s problems and the way their ex feels. They think compassion ends when they end the relationship and feel excited to move on to better things.
Hence, most dumpers who block don’t care what happens to their ex. They’re indifferent or feel victimized and want their ex not to rely on them for closure and self-love. They think of their ex as a source of annoyance, so they distance themselves from their ex and block their ex.
The exact reason your ex blocked you from everything is impossible for me to know without analyzing your situation. But if you kept reaching out and annoying your ex, your reach-outs likely aggravated your ex so much that your ex blocked you on impulse.
Your behavior or presence suffocated your ex and in his mind left him with no choice but to block you from his life as quickly as possible.
The best way to understand your ex’s blocking is to put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself what would make you block an ex who was you or acted like you. What would make you want to block yourself and be done with you?
If you didn’t say or do anything to put your ex in an uncomfortable situation, it probably didn’t have anything to do with you but rather with your ex’s perception of you or beliefs about what the dumper should do after the breakup.
Your ex may think that exes should block each other after the breakup and move on with their lives. Perhaps your ex adopted this belief after one of his previous breakups. I can’t determine the exact point in time when your ex might have picked up this belief, but it probably happened before you came along.
This is likely to be the case if your relationship didn’t last very long.
If it lasted long, then your ex must have become angry and bitter and didn’t want to spend any more time and emotions on a non-existent relationship. Your ex wanted to cut the past off and start a new chapter of his life.
This is a cowardly/immature way of dealing with emotions. Strong and mature people don’t run away from difficult situations and problems. They face them head-on and do what’s necessary of them to keep their conscience clear.
By knowing they did everything they could to help the person they abandoned and hurt, they can peacefully move forward with their life and perhaps even be friends with their ex one day.
Dumpers who block, ignore, and hurt their ex, on the other hand, tend to completely destroy the trust and respect their ex has for them. They prove they don’t deserve their ex’s forgiveness and friendship and that fixing the broken relationship would be foolish after all the pain they’ve caused.
Initially, dumpees don’t care too much about their ex’s actions. They’re willing to forgive their ex as long as they get another chance with their ex and feel validated and secure.
But when they get back on their feet, improve their self-esteem, and realize what their ex did was unforgivable, they change their opinion of their ex and lose romantic feelings.
That’s when they finally leave their ex behind and enjoy their single life.
So if you keep wondering why your ex had to block you from everything – on all social platforms, emails, and messaging services, bear in mind that blocking made your ex feel relieved and gave your ex a sense of control.
Whether your ex got dumped or did the dumping himself, it empowered your ex and let him control his thoughts, feelings, and actions.
The blocking made sure you’d stay away from him and let him live life on his terms. He no longer has to pay attention to how you feel and what you need from him now that he blocked you everywhere.
He can just do the things he wants and likes. Knowing that he’s in charge of his life excites him and allows him to connect with others.
With that said, here’s why he blocked you from everything, not just on some apps.
If he blocked you from using Netflix, Spotify, YouTube, Amazon, or other online accounts that he created and paid for, he did that because he wanted to regain full ownership of his accounts. He didn’t see the point in continuing to share his accounts with you after the breakup.
I think he made the right decision. Exes shouldn’t continue to use each other’s accounts – especially without permission. They should avoid giving each other reasons to breadcrumb each other.
What if my dumpee blocked me?
If your dumpee ex blocked you, he did that so he wouldn’t impulsively message you, because he was angry or upset, or because he heard or read that he needed to block you if he wanted to reattract you.
Initially, most dumpees block their ex because they’re obsessed with their ex and can’t stop checking up on him. They’re disappointed in their ex for throwing the relationship away and hurting them.
Some dumpees even want to punish their ex for wasting their time.
Later (months into the breakup), dumpees block because they process the worst parts of the breakup and stop seeing their ex as their savior. They see their ex as someone who could have taken the relationship seriously and avoided breaking up.
Dumpees need many months to get over the breakup. They feel disrespected and think they’ll move on quicker if they stop themselves from checking up on their ex/reaching out and allowing their ex to reach out.
Some dumpees heal quicker that way whereas others (those who want their ex back) often wonder if blocking is moral and the right thing to do. Such dumpees tend to unblock their ex after a while.
If the person you dumped blocked you everywhere, don’t bother telling him to unblock you. You shouldn’t tell him anything unless you regret leaving and want him back.
So what to do when he blocks you everywhere?
First things first, don’t search for alternative ways to get in touch with him. Don’t create fake accounts or ask his friends to tell him what you’ve realized and how you feel. If he blocked you (partially or fully), he currently doesn’t want to hear from you.
He wants to be left alone and feel only positive emotions. Hence, your reach-out would make him feel scared or uncomfortable and make him even less interested in speaking and being friends.
So don’t tell him you disagree with his decisions, that blocking is disrespectful, and that you need him to unblock you. As his ex, he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to do. He considers you an ex who lost influence in his life.
If you try to influence him by force, you’ll give him more reasons to block you and keep you blocked, which will, in turn, make you feel worse than you already do.
If he unblocks you, it will be when he’s ready and thinks you’ve accepted the breakup and his choices. He might not reach out the same day he unblocks you, but he could contact you when he feels lonely, bored, curious, or anxious.
You need to stay away from him until he unblocks you and reaches out because that’s when you’ll know he’s processed things and wants to talk.
Therefore, you shouldn’t do anything when he blocks you from everything. You should act as if you didn’t notice it and stay in no contact. He mustn’t see that you’ve been obsessively checking his profiles and waiting for a chance to reach out.
If he receives a text or call from you soon after unblocking you, he’ll know you got your hopes up and that you want to change the outcome of the breakup. That will seriously worsen his perception of you and make him block you or want to block you.
Your job is to wait for him to initiate conversation and reconciliation. Focus on detaching and he’ll do the necessary work if he wants to.
Did he block you from everything and hurt you badly? What do you think made him do that? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
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I am glad that it worked out for you and your reasoning is logical. My ex has blocked me on everything, but I haven’t checked to see if she unblocked me. If she wants to get in touch, she will. I do believe her actions were immatureg and rash,
I was dumped and about one month later I blocked my ex on everything. Around this time I realized there really wasn’t any hope of reconciliation. Blocking helped me greatly with no contact and emotional healing. I believe blocking offended my ex but she already had such a negative opinion of me I don’t think it altered things greatly. Seven months later she remains blocked and I don’t plan on ever unblocking her. No contact and blocking helped me greatly with emotional detachment and moving on. Some people consider blocking to be immature. Maybe it is under some circumstances. But blocking was certainly helpful for me.
Hi Bert,
You had to do what was best for your process to heal and move forward when you already knew your relationship was officially over and knowing the wait for reconciliation was null. Especially if she lied and was with someone else, not saying I know this because I don’t know what happen between you two.
I am aware that a lot, a ton, of articles online constantly say how it is so immature to block an ex, but I think everyone has different ways to process the loss of a relationship, and I think it can be more painful when it is a long-term too. It is legitimately more realistic and understandable to block any ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend who is being mentally abusive, and more worse, if they were physically abusive too, but not saying all are both per say. Not saying your ex-girlfriend was this, but you won’t see me judge harshly about anyone who blocks an ex on smartphones, social media accounts, and other online accounts. You knew what would work best for you to heal, improve yourself, and find happiness overtime. That helps to move forward in life, not because you spite your ex or trying to get back at her because you blocked them, but you had to take good care of yourself first which is not bad nor the wrong decision. It may had been painful and difficult but I don’t think it is wrong to help yourself to find a way to heal, as long it is a healthy method.
I had experienced harassments, and threats before by my cellphone and on my online accounts by my first ex. On Facebook he was worse once he took it too far, including his friend. My ex did not took it well when I ended it, and I expected him to be disappointed when we talked, but he surprised me how spiteful he became in an instant. I could only block on cellphone after a week and dissolve my online accounts because it got that bad and I did not want to fight with him anymore. It did cause so much unnecessary drama, and so much suffering. I know everyone copes and handles a breakup differently. I hope most dumpees and dumpers don’t go to such destructive path, or self-destructive, nor rubbed it in their faces when one is doing better then the other (they think). I get it that it can be it can be tempting to do something awful when one is hurting (only felt this for my first ex and I was very young too) but it is not worth to stoop to a level of vengeful cycles. It’s better to handle one’s pain in a healthy matter, healthy defenses too if necessary, regardless the betrayal and not be so bitter towards the opposite gender and be resentful just cause trust is gone. It is understandable and we are human, but it does no one any good to be super bitter and narrow minded at the end.
There are still good women and good men out there. One between a few bad relationship experiences does not reflect others. It may help to be very aware of what you don’t want again in the next serious relationship if this is your desire down the road. So, nothing wrong to block an ex if this helps your recovery for mental and physical reasonings. If this helped you best, then you must do what works best for you. Not everyone out in the internet has it 100% accurate as to why it is immature to block unless I guess people like to point fingers because frankly it is just so easy to do these days. It takes self-awareness to know one’s human errors, and try to self-reflect and overtime improve themselves from those mistakes. One has to desire to do this though, cannot make an ex change themselves. We understand some people can be immature about a block with smartphones and social media, but I think there can be many reasonings to cause anyone to block an ex. Either it helps to move forward in life so one can heal as you said. And sure, it can be because someone might be angry, resentful, fearful, avoidant because scared of confrontation, maybe with a new partner, or just ignoring because they can since there is no obligations once it is over for someone. I think some forget that it can be just painful to be reminded of what you both once had and now it is gone. The relationship has ended, and have to accept it is over between you two. It is OK to block your ex, do not need to always justify for everyone when it is helping you the most.
Hi Bert.
I’m glad blocking helped you move on. It may have angered your ex, but it didn’t make the breakup any more difficult for you.
Best,
Zan