How To Get A Girl To Like You Again?

You can get a girl to like you and trust you again, but only under one condition. The girl has to be receptive to you and think that you’re worth a second chance.

If she doesn’t think that you’re worth a second chance and feels repulsed by you, you can forget about getting her to like you again. She won’t be able to do so (at least not any time soon) because her mind will be set on staying away from you.

She’ll be smothered by your presence and feel angry by your attempts to win her over.

So before you try to get a girl to like you again, give the girl some space and let her think. By giving her the freedom to do as she pleases, you’ll allow her to process her negative feelings for you at her own pace and prevent her from losing even more respect for you.

You’ll give her what she’s asked for and as a result, keep your dignity and self-respect.

Your job as a person who is no longer liked, therefore, isn’t to win the girl over. It’s to make sure that the mistake you’ve made with this girl doesn’t turn into more mistakes.

You can do that simply by leaving the girl be for a little while – just until she processes your mistake and comes back to you. And once she’s back, you can turn over a new leaf and show her the changes you’ve made or started to work on.

But again, before that happens, you cannot, and I repeat, you cannot reason with an unreceptive girl. Keep in mind that if she’s pushing you away, she clearly isn’t in a reasonable state of mind. She feels victimized and wants more time to herself.

If you try to force her to spend time with you, you won’t be able to help her (or yourself). You’ll just end up giving her your personal power and put her in full control of your emotional well-being.

And that’s something you should never do. You shouldn’t do it if the girl in question is your girlfriend, fiancée, wife, friend, or someone you’ve just met. Relationships are built on respect. And yours needs to be too.

If you’re curious to learn about how to get a girl to like you again, read on. This article will tell you everything you need to know about reattracting a girl you like.

How to get a girl to like you again?

If you want a girl to like you again, start by showing her that you can be liked.

Do so by avoiding the following:

• excessive apologizing
• showering her with gifts, promises, and love letters
• ignoring her thoughts an feelings
• showing up unannounced
• prying into her private life
• demanding answers/attention and throwing tantrums
• over-initiating texting and calling
• rushing her to like you/make a decision
• neglecting yourself
• refusing to change

These are some of the typical mistakes guys make when they see a girl pull away.

Instead of giving the girl the space she needs, they go full throttle and do more harm than good. Oftentimes, they even trap the girl and bring a really bad reaction out of her.

In such cases, they end up getting rejected twice or multiple times and feel worse than they did when the girl first showed disinterest.

The truth is that getting a girl to like you again isn’t so much about proving change and improvement (at least not until she’s back or on the way of coming back). It’s about retaining your value and knowing when to back off.

This is crucial information every rejected person needs to learn.

If you don’t respect yourself and keep insisting that the girl should give you another chance, you’ll most likely fail to reattract her (or fail to keep her if she’s come back).

You’ll prove to her that you need her more than she needs you and as a result, make her lose remaining respect and interest.

That’s when you’ll lose your self-esteem and start to long for the girl’s attention or affection.

So before you ever try to get a girl to like you again, remember that she must first meet the following 3 conditions.

1. The girl has to become receptive to you.
2. She has to be mature, open-minded, self-aware, and in control of her thoughts and emotions.
3. She has to respect you and see romantic or friend-like value in you.

Get her to like you again by liking yourself

Some people think that they must do something to prove their love, strength, reliability, change, or commitment, but the unfortunate truth is that it’s often impossible and too late to restore the relationship back to the way it was.

There are too many negative associations stopping those who leave others from revisiting the past.

The only way they can revisit the past and like the person they left is if they:

1. Want to like the person.
2. Realize that they’ve made a mistake and be forced to like a person.

In a nutshell, there are only two options for a girl to like you again. She either has to appreciate you and respect you for who you already are or she has to get hurt and become nostalgic to the point where not being with you hurts her.

More often than not, it’s the latter that does the job as it forces her to see value in you and give you your lost power back.

But before you can regain your power and take charge of the reconciliation, there are a few things you need to take care of first.

You need to:

• stay away from the person who doesn’t like you
• control your thoughts and (especially) emotions
• rebuild your self-esteem
• stay busy with friends, family, hobbies, and activities
• become ambitious
• show that you respect yourself as well as your friend’s, crush’s, or ex’s need for space
• improve your shortcomings and grow as a person

Although the points above may seem simple and easy to follow, they are in fact not.

A guy suffering from separation anxiety usually can’t focus on these points right after the separation because he can’t stop thinking about his ex/the girl who lost interest in him. He’s in too much pain to worry about anything other than the girl who rejected him.

But that’s exactly why it’s so important for him to self-prioritize.

He needs to do it so that he can lower his interest in the girl and bring it closer to the girl’s interest in him. When that happens, the girl can notice a change in his behavior and appreciate the space he’s given her.

She can finally breathe again.

But when/if she experiences loneliness, anxiety, depression, or something bad enough to make her reflect, she can even start to miss the guy. She can think of him as a backup plan, develop love and respect for him, and return to him to feel whole again.

So if you’re hurting because a girl showed you or told you that she doesn’t like you, start by liking yourself. It may not necessarily make the girl you like like you again because emotional attraction requires her to respect you and see value in you, but it will definitely rebuild your self-esteem and make you feel strong again.

It will make you feel desirable (with or without the girl’s validation).

Here’s how you can make a girl like you again.

How to make her like you again when she comes back/becomes receptive?

If a girl comes back to you and you haven’t begged or guilt-tripped her into coming back, she’ll be coming back on her own accord. This means that she’ll see your worth and capabilities and be very receptive to you.

She’ll respect you, remember the fun times, and want to spend more time with you.

At this point, half of your job will be done as you’ll have attracted her by keeping or regaining your self-respect. The other half of the job from this point onward will consist of making sure that the girl continues to see you in a confident light and that she stays attracted to you.

She has to see that you:

• want her but not need her
• respect her but not more than yourself
• like/love her, but only as long as she’s an equal partner in the relationship

It’s of utmost importance that you don’t tell this to a person you like or date. If you do, you’ll hurt her, make her question your commitment, and ultimately, risk losing her attraction to you.

Trust goes two ways. In order for her to trust you, you have to trust her.

And don’t think that you have to treat her poorly to prove that you’re confident and self-sufficient. There’s a much better way to go about it. Simply take care of your emotional health and well-being—and you’ll show her that you respect yourself.

6 ways to make a girl like you again

1)Relax and have fun

The best way to make a girl like you again is to relax and be your natural self around her. Don’t overthink things. Just lighten up the mood and make her see that you’re relaxed and fun to be around.

You don’t need to be a comedian and pretend that you’re someone you’re not, but do joke a little bit or at least try to make her laugh. If you can do that, she’ll quickly drop her guard around you and show an interest in getting to know you again.

She’ll do that because she’ll enjoy your company and consequently, mirror your mood and attitude.

If your attitude is good and you’re not too self-conscious, she’ll see that you’re calm and collected and open up to you. But if you’re closed off and present yourself in a poor light, then she’ll probably sense that you’re anxious, hesitant, or different, and see that you can’t be trusted.

What you say is not that important. It’s much more important that you pay attention to your body language and the way you present yourself.

2)Focus on the present moment

If you want to know how to get a girl to like you again, let me tell you that it’s extremely important that you stay in full control of your emotions and exude emotional maturity.

You can do this by steering clear of the kind of topics that are too early to discuss.

For example, if you bring up the past and keep telling her how much her actions have hurt you, you won’t be displaying strength and moving on from the past. On the contrary, you’ll be digging up the past and empowering the girl with negative emotions which she’ll most likely project toward you.

So instead of bringing up the past and making her feel unwanted emotions (anger, guilt, regret, etc.), focus on the present moment. Tell her about the things you’ve been up to and let her know what you’re looking forward to the most.

Your strength and positivity will keep her intrigued and inspire her to see the good in you.

And also, keep in mind that not talking about the past doesn’t mean that you can’t mention anything that had happened in the past. All it means is that you must weed out the bad times and try not to bring them up until you’re both completely over them and ready to learn from them.

I can’t say how long this could take but give it at least a month or two just to be on the safe side.

3)Don’t flirt until she’s ready

Flirting can help a lot in regards to attraction, but many guys make the mistake to start flirting way too soon. Instead of waiting for the girl to be able to trust them again, they become impatient and initiate flirting before the girl feels ready.

This usually shocks the girl who needs more time to open up, so instead of opening up, she closes off and shuts the guy down out of self-protection.

That’s why if you’re going to flirt, do it only when the mood is right. You can tell the mood is right if the girl talks to you often (multiple times a day for a long time) and if the conversation becomes playful.

If it’s not playful and you’re wondering if you should flirt, it’s probably not a good time to flirt. It’s time to work on building mutual trust and affection—and waiting for the flirting to occur naturally.

Every person is different in this regard, but if you’re trying to fix a relationship wih a person, it’s important that you don’t force the flirting. The girl will tell you or show you when she’s ready for it.

All you’ve got to do is read her body language, texts, and listen to the tone of her voice.

4)Don’t be possessive

The key to getting a girl to like you again is to give her the space and time to miss you.

If you become insecure all of a sudden and call her, you won’t give her even a tiny bit of what she needs to think about you in a positive way. All you’ll do is show her that your emotional maturity and self-control are not satisfactory and that she should stay away from you for her own sake – to not get hurt

Possessive, needy behavior is just not attractive. Girls don’t like it and neither do guys. So if you want to get a girl to like you again, don’t smother her on purpose.

Don’t:

• initiate conversations all the time
• call her and text her too much
• invite her out
• ask her what she feels toward you and who she’s with
• ask her to forgive you
• or do anything that doesn’t make her feel happy

Instead of taking the initiative and forcing the girl to give you what you need, do your best to give her what she needs. By doing so, you’ll give her the freedom to make her own choices and make her want to talk to you more.

5)Ask her lots of questions and show interest in her life

If you’re wondering how to make a girl like you again, ask her lots of questions. Ask her about her school, work, friends, interests, ambitions, stressors, and anything relevant to her life.

You’ll soon notice her eyes sparkle and her enthusiasm return because she’ll become excited to talk about the things she’s passionate about.

That’s how you’ll become a person she enjoys talking to and in return, gain her trust. And that’s good! There’s nothing people love talking about more than themselves. Especially if they have problems or ambitions to get off their chests.

Knowing this vital piece of information, you can ask the girl lots of questions and listen to her ramble on for hours. Just make sure to occasionally share your opinion with her so that you don’t make her feel interrogated.

6)Support her with her decisions

Sometimes, all a girl needs from a guy is for him to show her that he cares about her and that he supports her even if he has nothing to gain from it.

It’s the selflessness that can attract a girl and keep her coming back for more.

So if you want a girl to like you again, lend her an ear and help her make important decisions. Don’t decide for her because she doesn’t want you to take charge of her life, but do tell her what you think is best and why.

She’ll then decide what approach is suitable for her and be thankful for your guidance regardless of whether she goes with your advice. She’ll be glad just for listening to her and allowing her to express herself.

It’s important that you remain patient and don’t rush her (especially with her decisions) because girls appreciate patient guys with emotional maturity and the ability to listen. They find them incredibly attractive.

Did you learn how to get a girl to like you again? Is there anything you’d like to add? Comment below and let us know.

Zan

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.